#5 for the men


Guys, come dressed to impress the ladies. please no sweats or old t shirts. Do your manscaping. No one wants hairy! Hygiene is number one. Bringing a play bag with sanitary wipes, condoms, hand sanitizer,mints and maybe some toys is a great idea. Just put it in a locker.

No bi, bic or heteroflexible males allowed.

Please don't contact the couples on the list unless they invite it. Having your pics open for them is a start and confirm early for the event. Couples/ladies please alert us if guys are too desperate or creepy.

When you arrive always look for our parking attendant out front, all single males park in the front unless overnight guest.. Everyone enters at the rear of the property.

Once you arrive you enter the back door and you will be checked in by Star or Drinks. Be ready with the screen name and entry fee. Cash or Credit Card

If you must bring your phone in try not to use it. Even if you might be waiting you should still be socializing with the other guys/girls at the party.

I can't stress this enough guys, BYOB -dont come empty handed and think you can grab from someone else. And most of all, you aren't here to drink, you are here to socialize and play. Drunks won't be invited back,

No MEANS NO the first time. Always get permission before touching or entering someone's space.

If doors are shut, never open or knock on them even if unlocked. If they want you in there the door will be open. This rule seems to elude some men.

We also have viewing windows and chains on doorways for people that like to show off. Knocking on doors is AGAINST THE RULES and you will be asked to leave the party. DON'T BEG

Patience is key and if you are told no, just accept it.. Its never personal. This is not a brothel. Your admission doesn't guarantee you anything but food, mixers and nice place to socialize with like minded singles and couples.

This is not a bookstore, we do not allow guys to jerk off watching couples unless the ladies are ok with it.

  • Creepers will not be tolerated. Don't be a creeper or a Shark. Sharks dont stand still. They constantly go room to room, up and down desperately searching for anything.

Pay attention to wristbands on the ladies this will save time and awkwardness on ladies night parties. A Red band on a woman means please dont ask to play, dont forget.

Guys, just dont think you can show up and get laid. You have to engage and pay attention to the husbands and ladies. Some will grab you and some you need to do some actual talking...be ready. DON'T CUT OFF THE HUSBAND! Most the time, he's the gatekeeper.

Approaching a lady you dont know and almost immediately asking for play or asking her to play without her partner present will most certainly get you on the NO list forever with that woman. Lots of guys do this to my wife(STAR) at parties when I walk away. You ruin your chances and piss their partners off.

Star and Reds don't play at parties and chances are wont play with you outside of parties either. So please dont ask. If we ever want to play with you, we will let you will know..Code word #5 is "party"

Some ladies need to meet you two or three times before they want to play. Patience is key.

WE have tons of trash cans...no excuse not to get your used condoms in the trash. Condoms on the floor is disrespectful and unsanitary. Wrapping your anal used condom in a towel is gross.

If you are new to the Retreat you will get a tour from one of our family members. We run tours all night so its not mandatory to be early but nice to get to see the place before we get busy.