Why do we have to READ 6 pages of the website?

Because we want all of you to know exactly what to expect , what the others expect of you, answer all your questions and make you as comfortable as possible when you come to the Retreat for a party.

Who is Samantha?

She is a woman that helped start the group. She even claimed that was not her real name.

She got a few gang-bangs but I have not heard from her for 4 plus years.

Where is the Retreat ?

ZIP CODE 08343

Do you live at the Retreat?

Yes, Reds and Star are married and live at the Retreat.

Does Star and/or Reds play?

As we do play outside of events we do not play at our events or mix business with pleasure. So if you are business, it will probably stay that way.

Do we park in the street? UBER dropoff?

No, all parking is done on property.

Ubers/dropoff is in the REAR near the entrance. Alert parking attendant and he will send you to the back of the property.

Why so many single males?

Because this party is geared to couples that like additional STRAIGHT men for group play.

While tons are on the list, they are not confirmed and we keep the ratio tight.

There are so many single males on the sls list?

Anyone can put themselves on the sls party list. Only profiles marked confirmed on that party list will be attending.

A percentage of confirmed guests won't even show? BOOOO!!! but it happens.

I do my best to update the confirmed list. There is usually is a few extra guests not listed because of confirming after 6pm might not get listed as confirmed.

How many people show up?

PRE CORONA- We usually get about 100-150 confirmed guests on the list but usually between 85-110 guests actually show up. We can fit 120 guests comfortably at the moment with our indoor facilities. Please take your name off the list asap if life happens and you can't make it. Other guests expect to meet you if you are confirmed.

We are limiting guests to a total of 50 at this moment during the corona times for looser distancing and added more seating outside . Outside area is heated but bring warm clothes.

Is there a dress code?

For the ladies there is no requirements. No nudity is allowed outside, in the kitchen or living room.

Guys, keep the goods covered in common areas.

Men, no sweats and no hats. dress nice for the ladies, they notice...

Is there a charge to attend?

donations to the group are as follows.

Private fantasy parties will vary.

NORMAL group parties: 40 single females , 80 couples, 80 single males and 90 wing man couples unless otherwise stated in party description. Wing man couples are a single male and single female that team up and arrive together in the same car. Couples live together, so if you dont spend most nights with your partner, you are a wing man couple. If your single profiles are active you are considered a wing man couple.

All drivers that bring an extra couple, single male or female get a $10 discount off their entry.

Just Let Reds know when you confirm and tell Star or Drinks upon entry.

We keep the donation for costs as low as possible to make an affordable evening for our Lifestyle friends with zero membership fees.

Donations are at the door only. Cash or Credit card tax added

Do you supply food?

We order 8-10 fresh delivered pizzas

Variety of mixers and soda. Please bring your own mixers if you require anything specific.

Tons of water bottles

We also provide many or all of these items depending on the night: grilled hot dogs, pretzel bites tray, fresh made wraps, cheese and cracker tray, veg tray, chips, pretzels, candy , desserts and more!

When are you open?

We are not a business so we are never open. We have group member events once a month or so in different locations but most are here at the Retreat.

Would you like to have more private group event during the week, let us know.

Do you have pics of your house?

Since this is not a business we do not post or allow anyone to take pics of the house.

Video and Pictures can only be taken in playrooms. Do to take pictures at all besides in playrooms with everyone's permission. You will be asked to leave.

Do you serve alcohol?

This is a BYOB PARTY. We will not even pour your drinks. We always have a guest that forgets to bring their own alcohol and then take/ask others for alcohol. Its rude to take any alcohol you did not bring, asking someone puts them on the spot.

You are not coming here to get drunk. You are coming here to meet and play.

Cooler bags are encouraged or your bottle will be on a counter-top.

We have an full sized refrigerator in the lower level with cold water bottles, plus a small refrigerator full outside(warm months).

Nearest place for alcohol from the Retreat is Kenny's liquor(10pm)

or Clayton liquors(open till 11 but after 10 only beer/wine) just minutes away. Second code word for the phrase is "for"


There is no smoking/Vaping in the Retreat. There is a smoking area outside. Understand some couples will not play with smokers so vaping at a swingers event is a far better option and improves your chances of finding play partners. As per NJ state rules NJ medical card holders can smoke outside. Any smoking of ANYTHING inside will get you ejected. Please alert Staff members if anyone breaks this or any rules.

Are there hotels in the area? Yes there are 2 within 10 minutes in Glassboro.

Motel 6 rooms and Courtyard by Marriott.

If you are coming from the north there are a few hotels in the Deptford Area as well as Mullica Hill.

There are others depending on your direction just google hotels 08343 and then adjust the map in your home direction

Do you have lockers for our stuff?

Yes, we have 32 lockers for your items. Please leave valuables locked in your car.

Couples especially, we have a coat closet but you are only 20 yards or less from the door. People constantly leave them here forgetting when they exit. Leaving them in the car is recommended if you can .

Are Showers Available?

Yes, please see any staff member to get a towel and get shower instructions. Please be speedy in the shower!

If at anytime anything is needed in the bathroom with toiletries and such, please let any family member know , we have tons of products and backup.

Do you provide condoms or lube?


No, we do have regular , large and magnum condoms available for a fee. See Star or Drinks at the entry door.

Lube should always be water soluble. Please no silicone based

Do you take overnight Guests?

We have lockable rooms for couples available starting after 130 am for $40. The time is not guaranteed if its occupied but we try to get your room clean and you in it ASAP.

We now offer lower level rooms to crash for couples , single females and single males starting after 2am for $25 please contact Reds for this.

If you need to be in bed early or need quiet time, you might want to try the local hotels or local airBNB.

UBER does drop off and pick up here all night.

Getting drunk drunk and disruptive because you are staying is not acceptable.

Are bi/bic guys allowed even if they promise not to play that way?

I'm sure some get through the cracks but our group does not allow bi, Bic or heteroflexible males at all, no matter how they "play" at an event.

I respect the men that own it.

I don't respect guys that lie about it.

There are other groups that allow bi men so please do not sign up or come to our event if you are Bi, Bic male please.

Second code word for the phrase is "for"

Please report any issues like this to Staff or Reds himself.

I am worried about creepy guys.

we do our best to keep creepers out. Your input always helps and please contact us if you have any issues EVEN if via sls mail. RUDE or PUSHY CREEPERS NOT ALLOWED, let us know!!! If you see anyone breaking normal swinger rules or our House Rules please contact us immediately.

We aren't really into White guys/black guys?

we have events that feature only single males that fit that description. Look for our white and black parties.

Black Party features ALL straight SINGLE MEN WITH BLACK/Brown/ DARK COCK

White Party features ALL straight SINGLE MEN WITH WHITE/LIGHT COCK

Ladies nights are for ALL single straight men.

Couples on your list block single males?

These couples are here to meet single males. Most couples get bugged and constantly bothered by singles males on SLS and other sites. They only choose to associate with them in person and want to meet you here, at Samantha's. This is your chance to meet them!

Guys, I can't stress this enough. I wish someone was throwing these parties when I was single.

Couples, we all know how guys talk a big game, flake, no show or cant get it up. Don't waste your night with zero options. Tell them to meet you at Samantha's..