TEACH YOUR CHILD HOW TO CONTROL THEIR ANGRY FEELINGS
Talking to children about managing their anger and to avoid destruction and violence is difficult. It is difficult to know where to begin and at many times feel awkward especially when your child is reaching their teens. Help your child understand that anger is a natural feeling that we cannot avoid but it is ultimately what we choose to do with our angry feelings that really matter.
Identify your Child's anger triggers
When your child is angry, try to understand why they are angry. These can be because they see their parents or relative fight, being bullied at school, friendship problems, feeling stress, anxiety, or fear of certain situations, struggling with schoolwork or exams, or coping with hormones during puberty.
It is obvious to you when your child is angry. Ask your child what is making them angry and work it out with them. Let your child know that it is not your child that is the problem but that anger in itself is the issue. Do not ignore their angry feelings or your child may increasingly become more destructive.
Pick a casual moment to speak to your child and ask your child what makes them angry. Let them know that angry feelings are naturally strong emotions when your body reacts when something bad happens to them. Identify their trigger.
Help your child understand that anger is a normal feeling
Help your young child understand that when he/she becomes very angry, your body changes. Speak to them about the body’s symptoms to anger such as breathing hard, their heart races, their muscles tense up, their face turns read, they may yell bad language, they will feel their adrenalin pumps through their body, they may want to break things, and hurt people.
Help your child understand about the consequences of violence.
Help them understand about the negative consequences of reacting to their angry feelings without thinking about the consequences of breaking things and hurting people. Ask them what can happen if they get into a fight, insult people, spread rumors about someone they are angry at, break other people’s things, socially retaliate, or physically retaliate.
Engage in a healthy conversation with your child. Ask them about scenarios if adults get into fights or break other people’s things. Tell them that violence only creates more violence.
Teach them these steps to help your child control angry feelings.
STOP. When your child is angry, tell your child to stop and not react violently to the person or situation that made them angry in the first place. Teach your child that when they are angry, they cannot make good decisions when their body’s angry symptoms are elevated.
CALM DOWN. There are many techniques to help your child calm down. These are to close their eyes and count to 10 seconds, play music, get away from the source of their anger, or do other productive things.
THINK. When they feel calm, their body’s angry symptoms have subsided and they are able to engage in their reasonable to come up with various ways to solve their angry feelings. This is the time to formulate a plan to resolve their angry feelings wether to speak to you or someone who they can trust or calmly tell the triggering person to stop upsetting him or her.
Talk to your child about gang violence and terrorist violence. Explain to them that they are people who have never learned to control their angry feeling.
Teach your child how to avoid angry feelings.
Help your child avoid anger by showing them how to treat people with kindness and respect. Have discussion with your child on how treating others how they want to be treated. Help your child build a good and healthy habit of saying kind words like help, please, thank you, and goodbye.
Other healthy social habits to teach your child is to teach them to take turns using things, sharing their toys with their friends, smile and say hi to their friends, and shake hands when they meet people. Have a discussion with your child about the rewards of being kind to others and avoid angry feelings.
IN CASES OF EMERGENCY, PLEASE DIAL 911.
We must stress the importance of calling 911. A 911 dispatcher will send an officer to the address of the emergency; they will also ask questions to assist the officer prior to arrival. The dispatcher may also contact other services that are needed such as medical assistance, fire assistance, or additional police personnel.
Non-emergency dispatch number:
(775)323-2677
Please call this number if you have a non-emergency need to speak to an officer or non-emergency officer assistance.
RSIC TRIBAL POLICE BUSINESS OFFICE
(775)785-8776
This number is to be used to conduct administrative business with the police department, such as leaving messages for police staff, information requests, general questions, or other police business related matters. The police administrative office is open Monday through Friday from 8:00am to 5:00pm.
HUNGRY VALLEY SUB-STATION.
(775)785-1365
This number is to be used to conduct administrative business with the police department, such as leaving messages for police staff, information requests, general questions, or other police business related matters. Officers use the sub-station for briefings, writing reports and telephone calls.
PARA EMERGENCIA, LLAMA 911 PARA LA OFICINA, LLAMA (775)785-8776