Enjoy Alone Time

First of all, let me clear your confusion about being alone and being lonely. Believe me, there is a lot of difference between the two. Let me explain that to you in short.

You are lonely when although you are surrounded by people yet deep down you feel that there is no one to talk to you or to listen to you. You feel dejected to even do things that you once loved doing it. You are confused with your life and don’t know how and where your life is progressing. Simply put, being lonely is a state of mind.

Whereas, when you are alone you want to give time to yourself to explore the inner you, to cultivate your hidden skills, to prepare yourself for the uncertain future, to do the things you always wanted to do, and to be happy & to enjoy life. When you start to enjoy yourself & being alone, you are awakened from inside and from otherworldly expectations that are bombarded on you without even asking you. Simply put, being alone is a choice.

Being alone lets you know the purpose of your life and pushes you constantly to achieve that purpose or goal that you have set in your life. You start to question yourself- “Why am I doing what I am doing?”, “How am I doing what I am doing?”, and “What actually am I doing?”. (WHY -> HOW -> WHAT of life)

E. Open to Unlearn, Re-Learn, or Learn new things, Open to Change, and Open to New Experiences

Being alone helped me to look at things from a broader perspective. It made me realize that things that appear at the first glance may or may not be correct. I started to appreciate human relationships and to understand the different natures of humans. Apart from it (being alone) giving me several fresh ideas that I eventually worked on it and launched, it taught me several things:

1. To be humble, tolerant, & patient

2. To accept things in life even if they do not go as per your liking

3. To understand & appreciate human nature and their ever-changing expectations

4. To respect everyone’s opinion as everyone’s life journey is different and what is right for you may not be right for others or what is wrong for you may not be wrong for others

5. To accept that life is uncertain yet beautiful

6. To enjoy life as it progresses by being happy and working for yourself and for others

7. To be more respectful & giving towards people, animals, & nature

8. To understand & accept that you are different from others as your life journey is different because you started at a different time, like everybody else. Therefore, nobody can be the same, be it in terms of nature, behavior, or life journey

9. To understand the true meaning of success

10. To understand that you see the world not through your eyes but through your mind/thoughts

11. To understand that you are here for a very short period of time and thus your values, your behavior, and your interactions with people matter a lot

12. To have a purpose in life and make a mark on others once you are gone

13. To not please everyone but rather keep on doing things that you value the most and like the most

and many more learnings. Now it is up to you how you want to take any phase of your life. Just remember, there is something to learn in everything. You just have to be open to everything and open to learning.

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Note: This is not a standardized way of enjoying your alone time. This is my way and my experience of dealing with my alone time and my life. This topic is totally subjective and you might find another way to deal with your alone time, the whole purpose of writing this article is to give you an idea or a framework or a go-ahead of dealing with your alone time and know the difference between being lonely and being alone. I hope you, by now, must know the difference.

This should not be taken as a universal way of spending your alone time. This article serves as a purpose of showing you a way of how one could take its life through a structured path while enjoying every bit of it. As every person is different in their own way, thus the way of utilizing their alone time must be different. Therefore, frame your own way and live life to its fullest.