Marriage, family, and especially divorce are intensely painful and personal. So I have contemplated long and hard about how to share stuff that I know will help others but not hurt my family.
The reason I know this "stuff" will help others is because of how I benefitted from others who have stumbled along this painful path and who have had the courage to publicly share how they survived...and even prospered.
While, in the end, I had to learn how to represent myself, I'm not sure if I could have remained standing but for the constant support of others who had been down a similar road and shared their journeys via the internet in various ways - mostly YouTube.
Meanwhile, I also received support from many friends and relatives who, despite the terrible accusations against me - even some from my own children - continued to prop me up via their prayers and sometimes quiet financial support.
To those who supported me: God bless you and yours. You will never know how you helped me in my darkest days.
Throughout this terror, and it was a terror (I'll share that story as we go along), friends, very close to my situation, kept shaking their heads in disbelief at what was happening and saying "you have to write a book."
The drama and the trauma of what actually happened is so difficult to comprehend (even today): imagine being accused in court by your adult daughter of fingering her vagina when she was eight years-old - and then having such accusations become public and blasted all over the local media.
And then there were the staggeringly false allegations of domestic violence from my wife, who had removed our four youngest children to almost the exact opposite side of the world under the pretense of a family visit.
In the end, if there is an "end" to these things, I shattered the false accusations and functionally "won." But it took me five terrible years and the loss of my entire family...but one.
Through it all though, thanks to family, friends, and all of Heaven, I remain standing as I journey forward with the one child who never gave up on me - a disabled 19 year old son - who is finally "home."
However, this site, is not a forum for me to wreck my grievances upon or spill my guts over. My intent is to offer hardcore, concrete advice and examples of how YOU, if you are suffering anything like me, can win your case and get your children back.
And beyond that. Sad facts demonstrate that middle-aged men like me are the highest demographic for suicide, most of whom are divorced. So hang on. That's why I'm doing this.