A man chooses a woman that he is interested in based on character and how she portrays herself. In addition to that, a man’s interest grows more in a woman if there is something irresistible about her. On the other hand, women are somehow frustrated when they are trying to figure out some of the things that a man wants. Before a man approaches a woman, there is something that he has already liked about her this is what give him the urge to pursue her. Also, one mistake that some women make is they try to lower their standards to accommodate a man, not knowing that men like to be challenged by successful women. Therefore, below are some of the qualities that men find irresistible in women.
An All-Natural Looking Woman
A natural woman, with no or minimal makeup is one of the things that make a man find a woman irresistible. However, this does not mean that women who wear makeup are unattractive, as they are also attractive in the eyes of other men. Thorough research conducted on groups of men, have found that women without makeup are more attractive to men. One of the reasons why men feel uncomfortable with women who wear makeup is that some women can overdo their makeup, so without it they look totally different. It can be very disappointing and frustrating for a man see a woman all dressed, with makeup on, only to realize that she looks like a completely different person when she’s dressed down. A woman who embraces her natural state, with zero makeup is seen as confident and this what attracts men to women.
Successful and Self-Sufficient
Society has changed immensely over the years and the traditional approach to relationships is no longer viewed as the norm. Unlike in the past where it was a man’s full responsibility to pay bills many women have taken up to the duty of working hard and paying bills too. Although women may not realize it, men are attracted to independent women who are able to do things on their own. When on a date, a man will ask a woman what she does. If he gets the impression that the woman, he is interested in is not doing anything constructive with her life, then he will slowly start losing interest. One thing that a man will not do is to tell the woman directly that he is no longer interested. He will act cool and play along knowing that this is the last day that he is meeting this woman. Some men find dependent woman to be a burden onto them and that they are going to have to work extra shifts to be able to provide for them. On the other hand, if a man meets a woman who is financially dependent, he will have peace of mind, knowing that his woman can take care of herself, this is an irresistible quality.
Educated
Education is a necessity that everyone should try to achieve. Most men have an idea of the kind of woman they want to spend their life with. This does not mean that the woman must know everything to be able to impress a man. Having basic general knowledge, keeping up with the news and current affairs is important because it helps you keep conversations with man. Being able to add value to conversations that are raised is what makes a woman intriguing to a man.
When meeting for the first time, you probably have no idea what you are going to say to each other. Normally, the man will initiate the conversation but there may be some awkward silences. At this point a woman can use her intellect to reignite the conversation by discussing a topic of interest to keep the conversation and date flowing. Get to know more about the people that you are with by asking them questions and being inquisitive, intelligent woman are always looking to learn something new and grow.
Goal Orientated
One mistake that most women make is that once they fall in love, they lose themselves to a pointy where they forget that they have their own goals to achieve. Remember, whilst you may be in a relationship before you had your own goals and priorities. Goal achievement is very important even when you are in a relationship. Continue working towards achieving your full potential as this makes a man respect a woman more.
Communication
If you want something from someone, you need to communicate with him or her so that they can know what to do. Men find woman who communicate well, especially the women they are interested in, to be irresistible. When he does something that you do not like, communicate with him instead of giving each other the silent treatment. In addition to that, women should be able to tell the difference between nagging and politely raising issues because most confuse the two to mean the same thing.
Good Sense Of Humor
Whatever may seem funny or interesting for you may ignite a completely different feeling for another person. Although being serious makes someone else to take you seriously too, sometimes women need to loosen up and realize that it is okay for them to have fun and tell jokes. On most first dates, boteh parties are trying to keep a good first impression, and this can at times ruin the fun. Don’t be shy to tell jokes and be witty. Loosen up and laugh it out.
Self-Worth
Most women who know their worth tend to end up with men who appreciate them more than anything and anyone. There are various reasons that may make a woman insecure or feel like she is less than. Women who do not settle for less attract the attention of most men as compared to those who just want to settle for anything and anyone they come across. This is one of the major reasons why most women complain that they have been “used” by the men they love. For some men, if they come to figure out that you do not have standards and you do not know your worth, they will do anything to make you feel good, for their benefit, and then leave later on. For instance, if a woman begs a man to be with her, the man will think twice about this. In turn, he will be her shoulder to lean on, but there will be no respect in that relationship. This couple will only be together because of the situation that they have found themselves in, and such kind or relationships never last. Knowing your value unconsciously makes a man respect you and is how to get him to want you.
Positive Attitude
A positive attitude goes a long way in that it helps an individual to relate well with people, avoid conflicts and have lasting relationships. Everyone is going through something in their life, and this is one of the reasons why kindness should be offered to everyone. Men find women with positive attitudes to be irresistible in that they strive to see something good out of every situation. For instance, assuming that a man has been dating a woman, and then suddenly he loses his job, he expects to find comfort in his partner. In addition to that, this is the time that he also wants nothing but peace. Even though he is going through a rough patch, he needs a woman who will keep reassuring him that everything will be fine.
There are days when we will wake up feeling happy and there are other days when we will feel like everything is falling apart. Regardless of whatever happens, try to be a happy person. Recognize the efforts that your man is trying to put into the relationship and appreciate the small things that he does. If you are an unhappy person regardless of what he does, then you will be avoided and ignored. He will not want to be in your company at all because he sensed negative energy around you. If you are happy, he will see it on your face, and he will strive to do anything to make you happy too. Appreciate what he does. However, this does not mean that you must pretend when there is something that is bothering you and making you unhappy. Talk to your man about your feelings and after having such conversations, be happy and watch how he will always want to be in your company.
Physical Appearance and Fitness
This is the first thing that a man notices when he sees or meets a woman. How a person looks on the outside says so much about who they are. Men find physically fit women to be more attractive because of their flexibility and the ability to lead a healthy life. Consequently, women who are well groomed usually have the best spot in a man’s heart. Imagine meeting a man for the first time, smelling nice, beautiful nails and hair and you are well dressed! This is the first impression that most women should strive to leave on everyone that they meet.
Responsible
Naturally, women are born to be responsible people. They are the people who can put a house in order. Regardless of the kind of life that a woman is living, she should always strive to be responsible. For instance, if a woman goes out with her friends on a girl’s night out, and they happen to have some drinks, they should aim to drink responsibly. Responsible drinking shows that you can be trusted with your free time and that no one can ever take advantage of you. Men dislike women who cannot take care of themselves and be responsible for their actions. In a family set up, the children and the husband are always looking up and copying what the mum does.
Vulnerability
Past and recent studies have shown that women are more emotional when compared to men. What women do not know is that they have an emotional brilliance that men find to be attractive. To be specific, the vulnerability of a woman draws a man closer to the woman than they ever thought possible. For you to be vulnerable, it means that you will show him those things that you feel less comfortable with. You will be letting him in to know some of the insecurities that you have. A man who loves a woman will try everything that he can to add value to their life. When you let him in, he will be inspired to believe that he be a part of your life and this what makes a man adore a woman.
Be Receptive
Women should be receptive by nature, and this is one of the qualities that attract a man to a woman. Being receptive is a feminine quality that most women possess. For instance, when a man makes a compliment, be receptive to it even if you feel somehow uncomfortable doing that. That shows him that you care about him and you respect his feelings. If he is in a tight space and needs help, then you should allow him to do things on his own instead of offering to do them for him. One major mistake that most women make is trying to be a mother to their boyfriends or husbands. Instead of scolding him or giving him everything that he needs, allow him to do the man work as this makes him feel more of a man. Therefore, be the attractive and the receptive woman that he wants.
Be a Good Listener
Women who are good listeners attract the attention of many men and make men feel vulnerable with them. It is very uncommon for a man to fully let a woman into his life and the things that are happening around him. However, if you are a good listener, and you listen more than you speak and judge, then your man will find it easier to talk to you. Effective communication skills include active listening, where a person listens more than he or she speaks. When having a conversation with your man, make sure that you let him speak and open up to you. In addition to that, avoid interjecting before he finishes and make this moment all about him and not you. Even if you feel like there is something bothering you that you need to discuss with him, try as much as possible not to bring it up at this moment as it will only make your man feel like he has burdened you with his issues.
Be a Fun person
It is very rare for two people who are in the same relationship to have the same personality. You will find that in every relationship, one person is the opposite of the other person. For instance, if one person is an introvert, the other person will be an extrovert. Women who are dating introverts should strive to be the goddess of fun with their partners. Always be the fun person that he is looking for, as this will make him want to spend more time with you. A happy and fun person tends to have a contagious personality in that you will find that the people around them are also fun and creative. On a good day and on a bad day, create time and go have fun together in places that you both like, and engage in activities that you both have an interest in.
Place Emphasis on His Strength
Men have a big ego that no woman should ever try to bring down. If this is someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, then you should try as much as possible not to hurt their ego, but give them the affirmation that they need. Assuming that you are living with your man, it is normal to want to take care of their various needs such as cooking, doing their laundry and getting everything done in the house. This is okay and shows that you have dedicated yourself to being a submissive woman. However, do not make him feel like you are being his mother. For example, if he is sick, take care of him but keep reminding him how strong he is and how you know that he is going overcome the illness. This is an affirmation that they need. Always place emphasis on and be vocal about your man’s strengths instead of their weaknesses.
Gratitude Is A Must
Gratitude is a like a virtue that everyone should possess. Be someone who appreciates the efforts of another person. If you are dating a man who is financially stable, and they take good care of you more than you expected then you should show your appreciation. The fact you’re your man has money does not mean he is obliged to take care of and pamper you, it is a choice he makes. In addition to that, if you have visited a restaurant together, be kind to the service providers. This is a quality that every man is looking for in any woman. This is because it shows them the kind of relationship that you will have not only with him, but also with his family and friends.
Be Genuine
Pretending to be someone who you are not, will not only make things worse in a relationship, but it will also make a man to lose interest in you. If you are someone who loves listening to music, or hanging out with her friends, keep doing that even when you get into a relationship. Let the man you are dating know you for who you are and decide if he is comfortable dating you or not. If you hide your identity, and he comes to find out about it, then things will no longer be the same between the two of you. Consequently, you will become a stranger to him day by day, he will lose interest in you.
Give Him Space
Most of the time, women mistake attention for love. The truth is that men also want attention from their woman, but you will never hear most of them saying this. If you are still in the process of knowing each other, then try as much as possible to give him a little bit of space. He will realize the peace that he gets when with you and will strive to be better for you.
In summary, there are different qualities in a woman such as being a good listener, being vulnerable, and being open-minded among others, that makes a woman irresistible to a man. A man finds you irresistible if you give him the space that he needs and appreciate all the things he does for you. Therefore, being his peace and happy place will make him want to spend every minute with you and adore you.