If you’re single and out there dating, surely you are familiar with how picky some men can be. Don’t get me wrong - women can have their own preferences too but somehow men just come with more requirements for the perfect girlfriend/wife. Sometimes I find some men have a fairytale image in their mind of what their perfect woman is and all her attractive qualities - either you fit the brief, or you don’t. However, occasionally a man will fall for a woman outside of his ‘usual type’. Wouldn’t you love to meet these women and ask them exactly how they do it and what makes a woman intriguing to a man? We are going to be discussing some of the traits of highly desirable women, the traits that will draw men in. After reading this article, you will know exactly how to intrigue a man, and what men find irresistible deep inside their hearts. With these simple and easy habits, men will instantly notice you at parties, social settings etc. You will simply become irresistible. Are you ready?
Excellent Body Language
Believe it or not, psychologists believe 90 percent of human communication occurs non-verbally. Your body language is one of the things guys notice about you immediately. It can mean he falls in love with you instantly or gets turned off right away. Physical qualities of a woman like curves and weight do not matter that much to guys. If you have excellent body language and exude confidence, you can steal his attention and he’ll be intrigued. Take some deep breaths, stand up tall, and roll your shoulders back. Point your eyes forward and walk into any the room confidently. I promise you, no matter how many other girls are present, guys will notice you because your confident body language will stand out in the crowd. No slouching over here girl! Continuously remind yourself and say out aloud with me ‘I am a confident woman’ after all they say when you speak it into existence it manifests into reality.
Strong Eye Contact
They say the eyes are like the windows into the soul. And that is absolutely true when it comes to men! Some women struggle to maintain positive eye contact when interacting with men. They are unable to hold eye contact for more than 10 seconds. If you can look deep into his eyes, and hold this gaze, he’ll notice something is different about you. It taps into the emotional triggers inside his mind, he’ll be intrigued by you. Strong eye contact is an excellent trait in a woman. Trust me - try this next time you’re having a conversation with a guy you’re interested in or your partner. You may find it difficult to do but once you’re capable of holding strong eye contact with him, you’ll notice conversations will become a lot deeper and meaningful.
Eloquent
This is a big mistake 90 percent of women make: they speak too quickly when engaging in conversations with men, so they end up coming off as nervous. If you slow your voice down and speak with extra strength, clarity, and softness you will steal his attention. This is one of the key traits of what attracts men to women. His attention will be fully captured by you, and he’ll feel a deep connection with you growing inside his heart. Speaking slowly and clearly is one of the most beautiful qualities in a woman. It shows a guy that you’re in touch with your femininity! It will spark curiosity in him, and he will be compelled to find out more about you. I know that speaking like this may feel unnatural at first and can take practice. But believe me, it is one of the key traits of what men find irresistible.
Excellent Listening Skills
Do you get tired of self-obsessed people who can’t listen to others? Some men feel this way about women. If you want to stand out amongst all the other women and make him think of you non-stop, then you should form a deep connection with him quickly. What is a great way to do this? Listen to him attentively. If you give 100 percent of your attention to him when he is speaking, he will feel appreciated and valued by you. I hear too often men complaining about feeling unappreciated and undervalued by the modern day ‘strong independent woman’. Guess what? It is reciprocal … when he feels you’re giving him all your attention; he’ll do the same for you! This will let you speak directly to his heart and form a deep emotional bond with him quickly. It is one of those small things that guys notice. It will make him curious about you and what to know more.
It is inevitable when you are building a relationship or in a relationship, you will have to confide in your man when you face difficult situations or problems and vice versa. For some men these conversations can be difficult. When engaging in difficult conversations be calm and respectful. Be understanding and compassionate, allowing the man to finish making his points and try not to be judgmental or negative. By providing a space for a man to discuss issues openly and freely with you without interruption and judgment is an excellent way to build trust. Learning to listen is an art form that several humans haven’t mastered. As a woman if you have this talent you will be intriguing to any man.
Brilliant Communicators
When a woman thinks logically with the right mix of rationality and emotion, they can easily win the hearts of any man. Intriguing women master the skill of excellent communication skills. They’ll allow a man to speak, listen with compassion, and show genuineness in their responses and interactions. They know how necessary it is to be an excellent communicator and they master how to be one. They know exactly the right words to use to express all their emotions and are never aggressive or too feisty. These are some of the features of the traits that sparks intrigue.
Men like women who are well put together, intelligent, and inquisitive. They like women who can engage in all types of conversation on any topic. These women are well read but remain humble, they are not know-it-alls. It does not mean you have to know everything about sports and politics – but you should have general knowledge on many topics and have a topic you’re very passionate about, understand well and can discuss endlessly.
Elegance
Sometimes it may feel like the women who don’t hold classy values are the women who easily get male attention and are sought after by high value men… wrong! this is an illusion. Here is why:
Men can engage with these kinds of women frivolously but they’re somewhat forgettable. Literally on to the next! Instead, you need to be a classy lady and it is important to hold yourself in high regard. Realize in your heart that you are an amazing, a higher-value woman, and any man will be lucky to have you. The qualities of a classy lady involve elegance, beauty, and sexiness too. But you do not need to be promiscuous or attention-seeking. When you conduct yourself as a classy woman, you don’t need to demand male attention men will begin to chase you. They’ll instantly take notice of you as you walk into a room and become interested in you. He’ll be daydreaming or fantasizing about you long after you part ways … this is what makes a man adore a woman
Women who understand and take pride in their women hood are the ones that know that grace and elegance aren’t qualities you compromise with. It isn’t about their appearance but their aura. What makes them intriguing is that they do not place too much emphasis on their physical shortcomings. They love themselves through and through and whilst working on becoming a better version of themselves; they carry themselves with a high regard and elegance. They dress fine and know how to exude confidence. Desirable women know that grace doesn’t have to come with expensive fashion options instead it comes with self-confidence, modesty and elegance.
Style
I know some men have a dismal sense of fashion and style and have no clue when it comes to following modern fashion trends but believe it or not it does not mean they do not care about the way a woman looks and carries herself. Your style may be a decisive factor when it comes to a man introducing himself to you because each man has his opinion on how his dream woman looks. Some won’t dare to approach a girl with bright hair though others are conversely repelled by clichés. Remember to have your own sense of elegant classy style and you don’t need to feel pressured to adjust to other people’s taste. You will never be able to be equally liked by everybody.
Yes, men are very attentive to the person they’re interested in from nails to footwear, hair color, accessories and the list goes on. These things can make a woman very intriguing to a man. Let’s not forget scent! A sweet, sensual, feminine scent can easily draw a man in and is what men find irresistible. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe a man will try to recognize the designer of your shoes or remember the rules of color combinations between accessories and clothes; they pay attention to how comfortable you feel. When a woman puts on clothes or shoes they are uncomfortable in, it is very noticeable and can make a man lose interest in you or possibly end a date as soon as possible.
An excellent tip... Backless tops and dresses are one of the most elegant and graceful ways of showing some skin whilst keeping things classy. It is a sexy and womanly way of revealing a part of the body modestly.
Adaptability
Depending on the man you are interested in or in a relationship with they may need you to be adaptable. On some occasions you may need to glam up and accompany him to fancy party, high profile/important event and on other occasions you may need to be relaxed and laid back – drinks and pizza on a sports night maybe. Be adaptable and do it with ease, with no complaining. If you think that men fall in love with the challenging uncompromising, uptight women. Think again. Not in today's world! Nowadays men fall for easy-going women who know when to turn their femininity up to the max and when to sit back, chill, relax and have some fun!
Positivity
According to a recent study on men, one of the most unpleasant traits in a woman is a negative outlook on the world. Men notice everything that troubles you in life and the things that negatively affect your mood now and then: work issues, quarrels with parents, frustrated from unfulfilled dreams. If you display these qualities when you meet a man, they will automatically associate you with anguish, and this is not good because a woman needs to be a source of positivity in a man’s life. This’s why they simply get charmed by and intrigued by happy women who can enjoy life. You will not be able to act and keep up appearances because a man will notice you suppressing your feelings inside even when you are trying your best to look like a happy bubbly woman. That is why you need to learn to find simple joys in everyday life.
I know it can be very easy to fall into a dark place in the mind but by making a conscious effort to be and stay positive you can make sure your relationship stays in the light. No one likes a negative person, so when a man begins to discuss his personal life with you, dreams, ambitions, and goals he would like to accomplish let the conversation flow organically. Don’t respond by immediately discussing your negative personal issues, or the pitfalls and risks you see with his future. Be patient and positive, compassionately addressing the issues that are of anxiety to you. If you insightfully give your opinion, very often a man will draw to the same or similar conclusion that you have realized.
Power and Self-Confidence
Men like to compliment women who know they’re worth and they hate to have to continuously reassure those women who are used to neglecting their beauty. There’s nothing worse than a beautiful woman for a man than the women who continuously questions her own beauty. The confidence in being attractive compensates for any imaginary or real flaws in appearance you have. By realizing it, one can simply become the beautiful woman that men dream about.
Men love women who have their own life with different things happening. No man will want a woman who’s sitting around patiently waiting for him all the time or a woman who wants him to offer 100% of his time to her. Be comfortable in your own company this is what makes a man adore a woman. For men, it is essential that their love interest or partner has her own life with real friends. They get alarmed by the absence of close friends and having several acquaintances that keep changing now and then.
An intriguing woman has awareness over her emotions and is independent at the same time. She does not cling and pull at her man when he looks distant and withdrawn. She will allow him to enjoy his time away from her but at the same time be honest with him and let it be known that she misses him. She is understanding and respects his personal space and does not lash out at her man if she begins to feel distant or neglected. She calmly raises the issue as a topic in conversation and eloquently expresses how she feels.
She isn’t in love with the idea of love, wanting to be in love for the sake of it and to feel complete. She knows she is complete and worthy, with or without romantic connections. In fact, she does not seek a relationship and love continuously. Rather, she enjoys her life. She does not latch on to any and every man that comes along. An intriguing woman is powerful and confident believing that she has the option to be with the man of her dreams and that she will select the right man she needs based on the standards she has set. She does not settle for anything else.
She knows that she does not want a Prince Charming to save or complete her or even make her life happy. Love is abundant and she’s happy. She accepts love when it’s the right one at the right time!
Desirable women do not lose themselves for the happiness of their love interest or partner. They have their own life which goes beyond the relationship. They do not lose their identity, sight of their aims and dreams for love. Desirable women make smart decisions about how much time they’re willing to devote to their relationships and to their goals; effectively managing all their priorities. They allow their relationships to add value to their lives not become their whole lives.
Mystery
If you need to make him think about you all day long, you must not be easily accessible. This means waiting more hours to replying his texts, making him impress you before giving him attention, and not being scared to say no. It can sound counterintuitive at first, but you’ll notice that the more he chases, the more obsessed he becomes with you because you are mysterious. You won’t see desirable women posting selfies or changing their relationship statuses continuously on social media. They do not like to spam people with such trivialities. They would much rather be known or spoken about for their real and meaningful achievements. They believe in earning attention from like-minded people, not snatching it with continuous updates on the happenings in their lives. They earn respect rather than asking for it. They believe in maintaining a mystery about their lives, carefully selecting the individuals they give access to.
Zest for Life
What is the number one thing people are looking for in life? Happiness. In social settings, people will gravitate towards individuals who exude and are spreading positive energy. When a man see you having fun and enjoying yourself, they see you as a high-value, desirable and a beloved woman. They’ll immediately become hooked and feel an urge to find out more about you. When you display a genuine zest for life, men will take notice and they’ll gravitate towards you. It really is that simple!
Desirable women make efforts to become good at their passions and hobbies. You will not find these women continuously procrastinating they seek to get the most out of life. Intriguing women do not waste their lives with mindless addictions, they spend their time taking up hobbies. adding value and working on becoming a better version of themselves every day.
In conclusion, these are some of the key characteristics of what makes a woman intriguing to a man.