When it comes to making a person want you, it isn’t as complicated as you can think. Learning how to make a man want you is quite easy and simple if you follow these simple tips. You may already be using some flirting techniques or tactics naturally, but they just aren’t working. Read below for more information about how to get him to want you.
1) Chill Out
Quite simply if you are laid back, free and let go, men will like you. Acting carefree comes across as you are happy and content and sometimes not interested. This will make a man feel the need to chase you and take up the challenge. It is what makes a woman intriguing to a man and one of the best ways to how to get him to want you.
2) Laughter
Men love hearing a woman laugh… well, as long as you are laughing with them and not at them. When a man can make a woman laugh it feeds their egos and makes them want to be around you more and more. Therefore, if you make a man think he is funny, he will begin to want you. Shared laughter is a necessary part of any budding relationship. It is an important part of making memories, helping you make a bond that can stand the test of time. Being able to laugh together shows your man that you have things in common. A shared sense of humor is up there on many women’s relationship checklist.
Many long-term relationships will go through difficult or challenging periods at some point. Being able to reminisce on the good memories and laughter shared, give both the woman and man the motivation to bring the relationship back to a positive place. If you think your relationship lacks humor and laughter, what can you do? Do not panic this does not mean you are not right for each other. It can mean that you have not completely got into the swing of things yet. Possibly stuck in anxious first-date mode. Now is the time to move past that and allow yourself to let go a little and laugh.
3) Show Your Intelligence
Many men have their curiosity piqued by smart women. This is especially true for guys who are not the sharpest tool in the toolbox. For some reason, time has shown that men crave being around and are attracted to women who are smart. If you come across as intelligent and well-read, men are more likely to want you, seek to build a romantic connection and eventually start considering a future with you.
4) Make Him Feel Like a Hero
If you want a man to remain interested in you and want you, you should make a him feel like a protector and someone that you genuinely praise and adore. In other terms, you should make your man feel like a hero. However, this can be difficult in this day and age because women do not want someone to rescue them. They do not want a hero in their lives. But here is the ironic truth. Men want to be made to feel like a protector, this characteristic is built into their DNA. Men have a thirst for your admiration, and some believe that they should step up to the plate for the woman in their lives by providing for and protecting her. This is deeply rooted in male biology. If you struggle to make your man feel this way, he may feel like less of a man and he may lose interest in you in no time.
5) Element of Surprise
I know some women think that ‘keeping him on his toes’ will make a man want you but there are many other tactics women can use, for example spontaneity and the element of surprise. Obviously, sexy surprises are welcome, but small gifts and last-minute surprise plans can work too. If you can remain unpredictable, a man will never lose interest and will keep wanting you. Speaking of surprises, a change in hair color and wardrobe can be an excellent way to grab the attention of a man. This is especially true for long term relationships where things can start to feel repetitive or lack romance. The trick is to do something that will be clear as soon as a man looks at you. For example, whilst some men may not notice a subtle new haircut a change in hair color will not go undetected. Changing up you style will make you look spontaneous, which is important in making a man want you.
6) Mystery
Don’t reveal everything, allow a man to ask questions to get to know you more. This is a great tactic for long term relationships. Granted, yes, it is a bit of a game, but it is a clever one. For example, when you talk about your day, leave out necessary details by revealing just the bare minimum. This will grab your man's attention and make him ask questions to find out more, you should always wait for him to press for more. It is a good way to make him engaged and interested in you.
7) Keep Your Distance
This is quite simple, yet many women forget: a man cannot want you if you are around all time. Don’t get me wrong this does not mean you need to disappear completely because that will be confusing. It means you need to avoid being too clingy and needy; take time to be in your own company, enjoy the pleasure of your own life – spending time with your friends, taking up new hobbies etc. Make sure to live your own life and be unavailable to him sometimes. Trust that absence will make his heart grow fonder. If you can make a guy miss you have made him want, you. If you need to win him back in record time, one of the tactics you can do is go silent - cut all kinds of communication with him. This means forgetting about messages, phone calls, texting him, any type of social media. You should strictly stick to the no contact rule for some time. You may be wondering why? The main reason why you may want to go silent is to give yourself the time and space required to process your feelings, clear your mind creating a positive environment that will draw your man to you. The moment you stop calling and texting, a man will instantly or eventually start thinking about you more and wondering about your whereabouts and what could possibly be on your mind. This will make your man miss you without him even being aware of it. And missing something and someone means wanting it back, right?
8) Say His Name
Nothing makes a guy feel more special than hearing his name in a soft seductive sensual manner. This is a trick shady guys sometime use to lure women in. Guess what? There is nothing in the unwritten rule book of love and relationships that says you cannot use a similar tactic to make a man want you. Of course, you do not need to say a guy’s name continuously; that will just be weird. But you need to sprinkle it like sugar into your conversations regularly. It will make him know, you are thinking about him and think that he is special. In turn, he will start to want you because he will subconsciously be thinking that you want him, which is of course true.
9) Flirt, Tease, And Play
Whilst enjoying laughter with your man is great, sometimes being flirty is even better. Much better. Messing, flirting and teasing with a man is a great way to spark emotions and make a man see you as more than a friend. The simple way to flirt with your man is to light heartedly joke or tease him and be witty. Doing this with a man is great way to charge up any conversation you are having. However, make sure you don’t go overboard with it; otherwise, your man can start to get frustrated and feel like he cannot have a normal conversation with you. Also, it has been noted that to make a man want you, you should be sexually exquisite in the bedroom to keep him lusting after you and to prevent him drawing close to other women. Sure, you can learn lots of different bedroom techniques but if you are serious about keeping a guy wanting you, then you also need to start learning how to talk dirty to build sexual tension and turn your man on, this what men find irresistible.
10) Healthy Competition
Whilst some women may disagree, it has been argued that making a man jealous is sometimes a good idea and can serve as a wakeup call, making him realize how much he wants you. To do this right, you should be careful because you do not want to come across as malicious and manipulating. For example, to make a man feel jealous in a subtle way, consider posting images of you and an unknown male friend on social media. A healthy amount of jealousy is all about being mysterious about your whereabouts and the people you are hanging with. Not knowing where they stand can sometimes make a man want you more and think that he must work hard to get you because the competition is extremely fierce.
11) Stay Interesting and Interested
In the early days of dating, you may have spent time trying to think of new and ever-more exciting things to do together. When you have exhausted all the common dates and you start thinking it can go somewhere, be sure not to slip into doing the same-old activities every time you meet. Doing similar things all the time leads to complacency. If you can do your best, avoid the complacency trap. The earlier dates are over, you are beginning to develop a real connection and be comfortable in each other’s company, but there is so much to learn and do together. In other words: do not watch movies and eat pizza every time you see each other. Recommend new things to do together. Think about places you both have never been to and go there! Begin getting out of your comfort zone together. However, keeping it interesting is not just about what you do on dates. It is also about what occurs when you stay up late talking about your dreams or hopes. Seek to find ways in which your goals and ambitions connect. Discuss the things you love doing, and the things your man loves doing, things that that you need to know more about. This will show you are interested and keep things between you interesting, there will never be a dull moment.
Are there any hobbies and activities that you want to try but for some reason you just haven't got round to it? Now is the time to do it. It is time to widen your horizons, engaging in activities that will make you smile and make you feel complete. You can try abstract art, writing, singing, or the same and you may post it on social media. When a man notices how passionate you’re about something he will want to get to know you and your passion more. You should make sure your man knows that you are a beautiful interesting woman and you choose to spend time wisely by having fun doing exciting things.
12) Remind Him Why He Fell for You
This is another tip for women in long term relationships, to have the feeling of getting him to want you, you can start off by reminding him why he wanted you in the beginning of your relationship. Surely, you know why your man was attracted to you initially, right? Well, find some ways to remind him of this – use actions, remember they say actions speak louder than words. It may be that you decide to wear the outfit you wore on a first date or even a recreation of the first date. Sometimes, that is all it takes for a man to want you the way he used to.
13) Apologize, If Necessary
Ended a relationship harshly? Got into a silly argument? Think about the series of events that led to this outcome. Did you yell at each other, throw things all over the place and swear that you did not want to talk to your man again? Or maybe you said something that you regret? If you feel like you are guilty of any of these things, you need to consider apologizing to your man. Many women believe if they apologize to their partner it will make them come across as weak. But this isn’t true. Apologizing means you have accepted your mistakes or words said in anger, acknowledging them, and moving on – this is mature and noble. By doing this, you will show your man that you are ready to move on with life and forget everything that occurred in your past, which will make him see you as a responsible mature adult. What better way than to get him to want you? What man doesn’t love a mature minded woman who is willing to accept and own up to their mistakes, this is what makes a man adore a woman.
14) Stop Overthinking
Not overthinking sounds like a no-brainer, right? But many women spend too much time over thinking, by trying to make the best impression and trying to be perfect but risk being the opposite. In the early days of getting to know a man your mind can run 1000 miles per hour over thinking – ‘did I say the right thing’, ‘did I come across as’. You may feel like you are continuously thinking about how to react and what impression you are giving. You are trying to be perfect and make a good impression however because you mind is all over the place this can show and end up putting the man off.
Stop overthinking. By trying to be ‘perfect’ all the time, you are not being yourself. No-one is perfect. and Sometimes, you could have a hard day at work, or a feel sad about a family issue etc. It is better to not be ok all the time; however, this does not mean you should take your feelings out on your man. Also, you don’t need to be deliberately mean or pretend to be sad to get his attention. This is considered as ‘playing games’. Neither of them will aid you to build those all-essential relationship foundations that you need to be building in a relationship. By trying to be ‘perfect’ you are continuously trying to live up to a photo of the person you think your man needs you to be. It is counter-productive because it means that you are creating the foundations of your relationship based on a insincere version of yourself, so stop being ‘perfect’ and instead focus on being real. This is how you get him to want you.
15) Be Independent
There is nothing more frustrating and off putting than being the kind of woman who is needy and desperate for a man. If you show a man that he is your world’s center and you cannot function without him, you surely won’t make him want you. Instead, in some instances this can push a man away as they may start to feel suffocated in a relationship. What you should do is show him that you are perfectly happy and content without him. The moment a man realizes that a woman is genuinely happy without him in her life, he will feel the need to draw back to her because there is nothing sexier than a fierce, independent woman who does not need a man to be fulfilled in life. A man will want you to find a space in your life for him because he will desire to be part of the happiness you have displayed.