When to text your Ex - What to say to make them want you again.

When is it a good time to text your ex?

I’m going to answer this exact question… and I’m going to give you additional texting tips to make sure that your ex comes back

to you as soon as possible.

I’m going to talk about WHEN to text your ex… and furthermore, I’ll share some tips on exactly what to say

when you finally text your ex.

If you’ve been reading my articles from before, then you’ll probably know a little bit about

what to do directly after the breakup.

If you haven’t read those articles yet, then you should and I guarantee you that you’ll find some really helpful

information about this.

But the quick and dirty is this: the No Contact phase is a period of around 30 days after

the breakup in which you absolutely do NOT, under any circumstance, text, call, or communicate with your ex.

The goal of this phase is to make your ex return back to what I call “emotional neutral”,

you want your ex to return back to a mental state where they’ll be more

receptive to receiving your calls and text messages.

I know this might sound a little confusing right now, but I assure you my other articles

on No Contact will help you out if you’re interested in learning about it more.

So in this article, I’m going to assume that the 30 days of No Contact has already passed…

and that you’ve generally followed the advice that I usually give directly after a breakup.

But before I get into WHEN you should text your ex…I’ll go over some very quick guidelines on when to NOT text your ex.

1.) First thing in the morning or right before going to bed.

If you’re texting your ex during either of these two times, you might be coming across

as a little bit needy.

If you’re texting your ex first thing in the morning, he or she is going to assume

that you’re thinking about them as soon as you wake up.

And if you’re texting your ex at night, he or she is going to assume that you might

be lonely and in need of someone to talk to.

So these are two times that should be avoided at all costs.

In a minute, I’ll go over a few times in the day when you SHOULD be texting your ex.

2.) During special occasions outside their birthday.

One of the most common questions that I get in my coaching sessions is…

“Should I wish my ex a Happy New Year?” … or Christmas… or Halloween… or Thanksgiving, etc.

Generally speaking, the answer that I give is ALWAYS NO.

Remember, when you DO text your ex, you need to make sure that you have a real purpose.

Wishing your ex a happy Thanksgiving is NOT going to help you build attraction with him

or her, so don’t even think about it!

The only exception that I make is for their birthday.

The reason being is because birthdays are personal… and your ex might take it as an

insult if you forget to wish him or her happy birthday.

They won’t care if you don’t wish them a Merry Christmas, for example.

And by the way, if you DO text your ex to wish him or her a happy birthday, don’t

use it as an excuse to start a conversation.

End it DEFINITIVELY… for example, you could say something like…

“Happy birthday!

Hope it’s a good one.”

Or…

“Happy birthday, hope you’re doing well.”

Just remember, you’re NOT in a relationship with your ex anymore… so there’s no reason

that you should treat your relationship with your ex as if you were still in one.

But more on this later.

3.) When you’re drunk or feeling lonely.

This is probably one of the most common mistakes I see people make… they’ll

say something like, “omg, I got drunk last night and texted my ex that I miss him…”

Again, if you’ve been reading my articles, then you know that this sort of behavior

makes your ex LESS attracted to you.

I’m sure you’ve drunk texted someone before like this… but if you really want to get your ex to come crawling back to you,

then this sort of stuff WON’T work at all.

If you’ve ALREADY texted your ex this, don’t worry, because there are things you can do

to salvage the situation.

For example, in the Ex Factor Guide, this thing are called the “Clean Slate E-mail

Template” that helps ‘wipe the slate clean’ with your ex, so if you want to

learn more about this e-mail template, then head on over to “The Ex Factor Guide” and watch

the free video presentation there.

But again, in short, delete your ex’s contact information from your phone if you plan on

going on a bender.

4.) When your ex is already in another relationship.

This is another time where you should absolutely AVOID texting your ex.

If your ex is in a relationship already, then they’re probably in what is known as a “Rebound

Relationship” … these relationships typically don’t last very long anyways, but your ex

will absolutely not appreciate you texting them when they’re with another person.

Remember, getting your ex back is all about building yourself up in a natural, subtle,

and organic way.

If your ex feels like you’re purposefully trying to sabotage their relationship, or

that you’re actively trying to convince him or her that their new relationship is

no good, I can promise you that you will NEVER get your ex back.

So do NOT text your ex back during this period.

5.) If you know your ex is still feeling extremely emotional about the breakup.

Sometimes, 30 days of No Contact isn’t enough.

In some cases, you’re going to have to use a little bit of your own discretion here.

For example, if you cheated on your ex, or your relationship ended in a highly negative

way, then your ex will indeed need much more time to get over these negative feelings.

Again, you want your ex to return to “Emotional Neutral” before you start texting your ex

again… meaning he or she is largely over the negative emotions that are associated

with your breakup.

If you feel like you’re in this situation, then you definitely should NOT be texting

your ex under any circumstance, EVEN IF IT IS their birthday.

It’s difficult to know when you SHOULD text your ex, so if you feel like you need some

extra guidance, then you might want to consider get “The Ex Factor Guide”.

6.) Right after they text you.

Finally, you definitely do NOT want to text your ex back right away if they do indeed

text you during No Contact.

If your ex is trying to reach out to you for something, then you need to convey to him

or her that you’re not waiting by the phone, 24/7, eagerly waiting to reply to them.

You need to convey to them that you’re a busy person and that they aren’t a priority

in their lives anymore.

I know, this might seem like a little bit of reverse psychology here, but I promise

you that if you do this properly, it’ll work like a charm and your ex will be chasing

you in no time.

So that’s a short list of times when you SHOULDN’T text your ex.

So what IS a good time to send something to him or her?

1) During lunch time.

I think that one of the least intrusive times to text your ex is actually lunch time – it

doesn’t scream that you’re needy or desperate, and it’s generally a time when people are

on their phones catching up on social media.

2) A day after they text YOU.

Again, you’re going to want to wait a period of time before replying to your ex if they

do text you.

Sometimes, I recommend waiting a full 24 hours before replying to your ex… and depending

on the situation, sometimes I recommend waiting longer.

Again, you might have to use some discretion in a situation like this – obviously if

it’s an emergency, you will have to throw all of this advice out the window.

3) On a weekday right after dinner.

Much like lunchtime, this is a great time to text your ex for the above reasons.

After dinner on a weekday is a time when people usually haven’t made any grandiose plans,

so texting around this time won’t come across as desperate or needy.

4) Finally, my personal favorite… early Sunday night!

Statistically speaking, Sunday nights are actually when people are MOST on their phones…

typically around 9 PM.

So this is a great time to send your ex a text message.

5) After you’ve found a LEGITIMATE reason to text your ex.

Again, if you’re texting your ex, you need to have a good reason to do so.

You can’t just simply send your ex a text asking them how they’re doing.

This is most definitely not a good reason to text your ex.

Instead, if a situation arises that allows you to send your ex a REAL question, then go for it.

Ultimately, if you DO want your ex back, the whole goal of sending your ex a text is to

eventually set up a meeting.

You’re never going to convince your ex to come back to you just through texting – that’s

just not how attraction works.

So if you have a legitimate reason to text your ex to set up a meeting, even better!

In “The Ex Factor Guide”, there are DOZENS of example text message templates that you can use to ENSURE

that you get your ex out on a date… and ENSURE that you make him or her interested

in you again, and back in your arms in no time.

If you’re interested in learning everything you need to learn about “texting

your ex back”, then again, CLICK HERE and watch that free “how to video”

It’s short and I promise that you’ll learn a TON.

I hope that answers your question on when to text your ex…