I Miss My Ex . What Should I do?

"I Miss My Ex So Much...What Should I Do?"

There’s really two possible ways you can stop missing your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend

and stop feeling so lonely and heartbroken all the time… either you can get over them

and move on, or you can get back together.

If you’re reading this right now and you’re 100% sure that you do NOT want your ex

back -- if you just want to move on as quickly as possible -- click here

and head over to my post on how to move on after a breakup.

If you’re not sure whether you want to get back together -- maybe you’re on the fence

about it and want to keep your options open -- or if you’re dead set on winning your

ex’s heart back and starting over with them, then keep reading.

Why Do You Miss Your Ex So Much?

I’ve said this many times, but here’s the simple truth: breakups are

one of the toughest things you’ll go through in life.

It’s completely normal to feel absolutely heartbroken when you’ve just been dumped,

especially if it was a serious relationship and you’re still in love with your ex….

Trust me, I’ve been there, and I know how gut-wrenching it can be.

You might feel like your life is over, like you’ll never be able to love again… it’s

a whole lot of heartache, and I sympathize.

What makes breakups so awful?

Well, for starters, research has shown that on a neurological level, romantic love is

a lot like a drug addiction.

Believe it or not, a breakup causes a very similar chemical response in your brain to

that of a drug addict going through withdrawal.

Your brain was chemically ‘dependent’ on your boyfriend or girlfriend, and you were

psychologically dependent and accustomed to life with them at your side….

And now, like a junkie in rehab, your brain is paralyzed by their sudden disappearance.

Now, I realize that knowing the science behind heartbreak isn’t really helping you feel

any better.

So let’s start with the first thing you should do if you miss your ex like crazy…

Step #1 - Determine your chance of getting him or her back.

For the majority of you reading this right now, you probably still have a good

chance of undoing your breakup and winning back your ex… unfortunately, that may not

be the case for some of you, and it may be time to give up and focus on moving on.

Step #2 - Change your mindset.

This is arguably the most important thing I’m going to say in this post, so pay close

attention…

You can’t use words to win back your ex.

You can’t talk your way back into their heart, or convince them to take you back…

no matter how charming you might be.

Trust me on this , I know for certain that the only real way to win back your ex is to change their perception

of you….

You need them to let go of the negative memories and feelings towards you, and re-build real,

organic attraction to the point where he or she simply won’t care about any of their

logical, rational reasons for breaking up.

Please, please click here and watch the full how-to presentation

to learn more about how to shift the way your ex thinks about you… and how to properly

re-build REAL attraction so that your ex will eventually decide, on their own, that they

want you back.

I promise it’s not as impossible as it may sound, and you can learn more here.

That’s all I’m going to say on this topic for now, but just remember that words or gifts

or love notes will NEVER help you win your ex back.

The proper way to move forward if you want to get a second chance with your ex is to

focus on yourself, and the things within your control, so that you can re-shape how your

ex feels about you and re-build their attraction to you until they simply can’t resist the

urge to take you back.

Step #3 - Remove any reminders of your ex for now.

This one is pretty simple.

You don’t want to be constantly reminded of your ex throughout the day, so now is a

good time to pack up any photos, notes, gifts, etc that could remind you of your ex.

Just put them all in a box and throw it in the basement or out of sight somewhere temporarily.

Step #4 - Stop talking to your ex for a month.

I know you’ve heard of the “No Contact” strategy before.

It’s a technique that helps to popularize a decade ago, and now it’s all over the

internet.

And, as I’ve mentioned in other posts, you should ignore anyone who says this tactic

doesn’t work…

I know for a fact it does work, and it’s a critical component of the 3R strategy.

For the purposes of this post, please just forget about WHY it works… and trust me

when I say that you need to use No Contact immediately, especially if it’s been a few

weeks or more since the breakup and you’re still regularly talking with your ex.

If you made mistakes already since breaking up -- such as begging your ex for another

chance, gushing your heart out and telling them how much you still love them, etc -- then

you may first need to use the Clean Slate Message to undo the damage from those past mistakes…

but, that’s a topic I’ve covered in another of my posts.

For most of you, you can safely just begin the 30 day No Contact period right away.

No Contact means, with very few exceptions, NO Contact.

Don’t give in and randomly text your ex at 2am… don’t play along if they send

you a message saying “i miss you” or something confusing like that….

And absolutely do not try to meet them in person, call them up for any reason, or stalk

them on social media.

Delete their contact details from your phone if you must.

Only reply to their calls or texts if it’s absolutely critical to do so -- things like

“are you paying the rent for our apartment this month” or “can you take our cat to

the vet today” would qualify as sufficiently important matters to justify breaking No Contact

briefly.

Otherwise, don’t respond, don’t reach out to them for 30 days.

Step #5 - Occupy yourself and stay as busy as possible for the next 30 days.

OK, you’ve started No Contact….

That’s great.

Now you’ve got a month or so to focus on yourself, and the most important thing during

that month is to STAY BUSY.

Occupy your time with fun or productive activities that will take your mind off your ex and put

you in a better position to win them back once the No Contact phase is over.

Look, I know this isn’t really what you want to hear right now -- me telling you to

“go to the gym” and “make new friends” or “pick up a new hobby” doesn’t really

feel like it’s going to help you stop missing your ex, does it?

But the truth is, if you can stay occupied and keep busy for the next month or so while

you’re not talking to your ex, you’ll be doing the best possible thing you can do

to get through the worst of your heartbreak… while at the same time, improving your odds

of getting your ex back once the 30 days are over.

So no matter how much you may not feel like meeting up with friends tonight, or taking

on another project at work next week, or calling up an old friend who you haven’t seen in

years… but do it anyway.

It WILL help you feel better, and it WILL improve your odds of getting a second chance

with your ex.

What other things can you do?

Well, hanging out with friends and family is the easiest thing to do, so make sure you

fill your social calendar for the next few weeks… don’t turn down any invite to a

party, a drink after work, or a baseball game on the weekend….

Say “yes” to anything.

Get out of your comfort zone a bit, too.

If you’re a bit of an introvert like me, then that might mean joining a club or taking

a night class at a local college… or if you’re really social, maybe getting out

of your comfort zone will involve going tandem skydiving or backpacking around a foreign

country.

It doesn’t matter what it is or who it’s with, just do it!

And finally, as I've mentioned many times in past posts, you should go on dates with

other people as soon as you possibly can.

It doesn’t really matter whether you actually like the person you’re going on a date with,

and it’s fine if you don’t see them again… just getting out there and spending time with

someone of the opposite sex is a big step that will help you get more comfortable living

without your ex, while at the same time making yourself appear more “high value” in the

eyes of your ex… jealousy can be a powerful tool to make your ex want you back, so get

out there and go on dates as soon as you can stomach it.

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