I have always held myself to incredibly high standards, often feeling frustrated with my older brother, who operates very differently from me. When I want things clean, he asks me to tell him why I feel like that. How can I open up to someone like that? For years, our approaches were a serious barrier in our relationship, leaving me frustrated and confused. However, Jeremy's coaching provided me with a fresh perspective that has changed everything. His deep understanding of the Enneagram allowed me to see that my brother and I are not really different: more like he and I represent each others' full potential, and that our differences don't have to be a source of conflict.
He helped me understand the nuances of the Type 1 and my brother's Type 4. I learned that, where I approach life with a desire for order and perfection, he seeks authenticity and connection. Instead of feeling annoyed by his attitude, I began to appreciate it as a unique strength. He emphasized that different doesn’t mean bad; it can actually enrich our lives and relationships in ways I hadn’t considered before. With this newfound awareness, I’ve been able to engage with my brother in a way that acknowledges our differences while fostering mutual respect. I no longer view our interactions as a contest of right versus wrong, but rather as an opportunity for growing on my own journey to perfection.
I often feel like an outsider in my own family. I've always been driven by a need to help and connect with others, but my spontaneous nature and high energy level frequently clashed with the more reserved and prescriptive personalities around me. My family’s rejection of my vibrant self left me feeling misunderstood and diminished. It was when I started my sessions with Jeremy that everything began to change.
From our very first meeting, he created a safe space where I could embrace my hyperness and spontaneity without judgment. He guided me through the intricacies of the Enneagram, helping me understand not just my own Type but also how my family’s Type dynamics influenced our relationships. Jeremy taught me that my enthusiasm was not a flaw but a unique part of who I am. He helped me articulate my needs in a way that my family could better understand, emphasizing the importance of connection and playfulness in my life. I still struggle with my family, but I understand now that it's not just my fault. I'm not broken. They just don't understand me, but I may never have understood them either.
I learned how to communicate my feelings and desires in a gentle but assertive manner. I practiced expressing how much their approval meant to me, while also explaining that my spontaneity was not something to be tamed but celebrated. The tools and insights he provided were invaluable. I felt empowered to share my story and advocate for my needs. Now, I can interact with my family from a place of self-acceptance, fostering deeper understanding and connection. Jeremy has truly transformed my life, helping me find harmony in my relationships without losing the joyful essence of who I am. I am forever grateful for his support and wisdom.
I’ve always prided myself on my drive for success and achievement. I envisioned my children reflecting that same ambition, excelling academically, and pursuing prestigious careers. However, when my kids began to struggle with anxiety and depression, I was at a loss. I felt a deep frustration, not just with their shortcomings but with myself for not achieving the family dynamic I had always imagined. My high expectations suffocated my children, leading me to feel like I was failing as a father.
Jeremy opened my eyes to the intricate dance of personality types. Through our sessions, I discovered that the relentless pursuit of success I held as a Type 3 didn’t account for the different paths my children were on, a realization that brought me both humility and clarity. Jeremy guided me to understand that my children, who are more relationship-focused and less driven by conventional success, needed my support in ways I hadn’t previously recognized.
With his help, I learned to align my expectations with my children’s unique personalities. Instead of pushing for perfect grades and academic accolades with the younger ones as I did with the older ones, I shifted my focus to nurturing their individual passions and encouraging their emotional well-being. This transition has been profound. Not only have my relationships with my younger children improved, but the older children have forgiven me because they see how much happier their little siblings are. I’ve also found an unexpected peace in realizing that success comes in many forms. I’m now a more supportive father, ready to celebrate my children's journeys as they unfold, and for that, I am truly grateful.
I've always felt like an outsider—someone who could never quite fit in. Growing up, while my classmates were navigating the complexities of school life, I was tucked away in my own world, crafting stories on loose leaf. My father, convinced computer science was the safer path, pressured me to abandon my passion for writing. This only deepened my sense of isolation, making me feel even more alone in a sea of kids who seemed to have it all figured out while I just could not wrap my mind around it. I mean, it's a program, right? Why does it matter how I write it if it works, right? Again and again, I hit the brick wall of "You're not doing it properly!" I felt alone, the only person who understood me and the only person who cared.
When I first approached the Enneagram, I was hesitant. I had been searching for clarity and direction for so long, and I wasn't sure that understanding my Enneagram type would make a difference. But from our very first conversation, the coach's insights into my Type 4 nature resonated deeply within me. He helped me understand that it was okay to feel different, that my artistic inclinations were not shortcomings but strengths that deserved to be celebrated. We began to unravel the complexities of my emotions, learning that my loneliness was not a barrier but a doorway to deeper self-expression.
He encouraged me to embrace my identity as a writer and pushed me to finally publish the novel I had been working on for years. He taught me how to articulate my fears and insecurities, which empowered me to communicate with my dad more openly. Standing up to him felt daunting, but with the Coach's support, I found the courage to assert my passion for writing. I no longer hid behind the mask of compliance; I shared my dreams and aspirations. Ultimately, I learned to honor my true self rather than conform to someone else's expectations.
I have always valued my solitude and deep thinking, but my marriage to a Type 2—my wife who is overflowing with love and a desire to help—had spiraled into a cycle of misunderstandings and resentment. For years, I felt overwhelmed by her need to be social and her relentless pursuit of charity that we couldn't afford to give, which only seemed to increase my feelings of inadequacy. She called me selfish, but I was never focused on what I wanted. I went to her parties and galas and charity events and she called me selfish for not enjoying them, or wanting to spend my paltry paycheck to help people I've never met when I was eating instant ramen for every meal. She would often accuse me of not caring enough because I needed my own space, and it hurt to realize that this disconnect was driving a wedge between us.
My sessions opened my eyes to the nuances of our types. The therapist helped me see that my desire for quiet wasn’t a reflection of my lack of love, but rather a fundamental aspect of who I am as a Type 5. Through our discussions, I learned that my wife's intrinsic desire to help others stemmed from her own needs for connection and affirmation, and that her actions, while coming from a place of love, weren't necessarily helping either of us. Enneahouse's perspective helped us both understand that being a giving Type 2 does not inherently make her more loving than my more reserved approach to love.
We began to communicate openly without the fear of judgment. I learned to express my love in ways that made sense to me: quiet acts of support, thoughtful gestures, and simply being present, even if it wasn’t loud. My wife, in turn, recognized that I needed downtime to recharge and contemplate, just as she needed her interactions and projects. Now we’re no longer on the brink of divorce. Instead, we have cultivated a deep understanding of one another that reinforces our bond. Thanks to Enneahouse, our love story has transformed from one of struggle into a partnership rooted in empathy and appreciation for our differences. I cannot recommend his Enneagram services highly enough.
Before I met Jeremy, I felt lost—like I was constantly searching for a place to belong in a world that seemed determined to reject me. Growing up, I struggled with insecurity and self-doubt, and years of bullying in school were really enough to crush what little self esteem I had. I was already disabled and from a broken home. What did they think they had to gain by putting me down? The laughter of my classmates echoes in my mind to this day. I was a victim of terrible pranks: they left poop in my locker to taunt me for being awkward and the principal made me clean it up. They attacked me and I defended myself, then I was the one who got suspended. I hurt every day thinking about these relationships. My parents, instead of offering support, pushed me down further, shaming me for what they saw as failures. They never talked to me about my feelings or even how to navigate the complicated landscape of my increasing interest in girls. They told me I was too young and too dumb to understand, so I looked into a lot of things on my own, which got me into more trouble.
But then I found Jeremy and his Enneagram coaching services. From our very first session, he embraced me for who I am, without judgment or pretense. For the first time in my life, I felt truly accepted. Jeremy made it clear that my questions, both about my mind and my hesitance toward but interest in women, were completely normal. He helped me see that my struggles were not weakness, but part of my journey as a unique individual. I learned to love myself and value my own perspective. He told me once "Even if it takes all day, I will help you understand. This is about you." Nobody had ever done that for me before. Even after an 8 hour session, he didn't charge me one nickel of overtime. He said "You are my only priority. You shouldn't feel restricted to an hour, and I won't either." He talked with me about everything, explaining not just the mind but answering questions of the soul. He taught me what my feelings meant and told me he didn't judge me for wondering. Things have gotten hard again after that, and I probably don't keep as open of a communication with Jeremy as I should, but I'll never forget his willingness to help.
Jeremy's unwavering support revealed to me that it was okay to be different. In fact, it was something to celebrate. Now, I feel an immense sense of loyalty towards him. I would do anything to support him in return for the priceless gift he has given me: the ability to be myself. Thanks to him, I am no longer a victim of my past. I’m becoming the person I always knew I could be. Jeremy has changed my life in ways words can hardly capture, and I will forever be grateful to him for showing me the way.
As a Type 7 in a family of introverts, I’ve often felt like a vibrant firecracker in a room of muted candles. My loved ones constantly urged me to calm down and tone it down, which only fueled my desire to seek more excitement and spontaneity. Yet, beneath the surface of my hyperactive exterior, I was wrestling with a deep need for something more: a desire for depth and meaning that I had never fully acknowledged.
Working with him was a transformative experience. He guided me to understand my inherent strengths as a Type 7, but more importantly, he helped me see that my relentless pursuit of fun was masking underlying issues that needed my attention. It was through his compassionate coaching that I began to unravel the complexities of my personality, leading to revelations about my tendencies toward Type 1 habits driven by my own anxiety and OCD. He explained that everyone's "bad" is different, and that some people's "bad" may look like another's "good". I realized that I was in a bad psychological place, desperately striving for control in a chaotic world, rather than embracing the calm that comes from introspection and contemplation.
He gently encouraged me to seek balance in my life. I learned that to truly thrive as a Type 7, I needed to allow space for thoughtfulness and reflection, qualities that I previously dismissed as boring or unnecessary. He instilled in me the understanding that my value doesn’t solely hinge on how much joy I can create but also on how deeply I can engage with myself and others. I’m now on a journey toward integrating my Type 5 qualities, embracing not just adventure but also the beauty of stillness and contemplation. I feel more grounded, and my relationships with my family have improved tremendously, as I strive to appreciate both my energetic spirit and the peaceful moments that make life truly rich.
I used to pride myself on being a strong, no-nonsense person who didn’t tolerate any nonsense from my students. When I first started teaching elementary school, I thought my love for kids would outweigh my frustration with their often flaky behavior. But as the days went on and I found myself brimming with annoyance over what I perceived as their stupid antics, I knew something had to change. That’s when I reached out to my Enneagram coach. From our very first session, he helped me understand not just my own Type 8 tendencies, but also the various personalities that make up my classroom.
I learned that each child, no matter how immature or frustrating they sometimes seem, has their unique way of processing the world. This was a revelation for me. Instead of expecting them to rise to my expectations, He taught me to assess where each child is coming from and what they’re capable of giving. His coaching helped me develop a strong rapport with my students, allowing me to connect with them on a deeper level. I learned how to tap into their individual strengths and weaknesses, rather than imposing my high standards on them. I now cherish the diversity of their personalities and approach my teaching with a greater sense of patience and empathy. Thanks to him, I feel like a better teacher and a better person, and I’m finally finding joy in my work with my kiddos again.
As a busy Type 9 mom of four energetic kids, I often found myself feeling overwhelmed and stretched thin. I love my children dearly, but there were days when I felt like I was drowning in their boundless energy. That's when I decided to reach out to Jeremy, an Enneagram coach who specializes in helping moms like me find their sense of balance and alignment. From our very first session, Jeremy’s calming presence made me feel instantly understood. He guided me through the complexities of my seemingly simple Enneagram type, helping me recognize that my natural inclination to avoid conflict and keep the peace often led me to neglect my own needs.
What struck me most during our sessions was Jeremy’s emphasis on self-care, not as an indulgence, but as a crucial aspect of my well-being. He helped me realize that taking time for myself doesn’t mean I’m failing as a mother. Instead, it empowers me to show up as the best version of myself for my kids. He provided practical strategies for carving out those precious moments of solitude, whether it was through simple breathing exercises or setting clear boundaries with my family. Since working with Jeremy, I've learned to embrace my own needs and understand that self-care is an essential part of nurturing my children. I now genuinely feel the benefits of being more centered. I am grateful for Jeremy’s insights and support; he has truly transformed my perspective on parenting and self-compassion. Thanks to him, I’ve discovered that taking a break is not only okay, but it’s necessary for both my happiness and my family’s harmony.