Chapter 1
If conflicts are inevitable, how can we erase the pattern of recurrent conflicts? I believe relationships have one or two recurrent conflicts, they might originate differently, but not so much because they end up being the same core conflict.
Past relationships have allowed me to be more open and understanding to my partners needs, concerns, ideas, and thoughts. I believe this has also occurred over time and because of my age, but does age really have anything to do with this progression?
The concept of repetitiveness or routine is suggested to be a factor in why we are “locked” or engage with specific behavioral cycles. As such, how do we strive to break away from these cycles if our environment continues to trigger and reinforce those behaviors?
I would like to see how one can properly care for their own needs without failing to acknowledge or affect others.
How we can get to the root of why people avoid conflict?
Passive aggressiveness behavior. This is a new way of seeing conflict resolution for me and I would like to get more knowledge. And collaborating seems like a better option and a healthier way to go on about a relationship and I would like more insight.
Who in the class has effectively used a passive aggressive technique to get something you wanted, and how did it make you feel afterward?
How can we better identify when it's better to compromise vs collaborate?
Do you often have dysfunctional conflict cycles or functional conflict cycles?
How to be assertive while maintaining the conflict as functional?
Collaboration is a good way to let people express their real emotions by looking for a solution that benefits both persons.
why do people take so long to leave unhealthy relationships? What is the deeper meaning behind that? Could it be that they are just used to each other and they cannot stand the thought of seeing their ex with someone else? Could it be that they are still holding onto hope of reviving the relationship?
How do we deal with someone like that in our workplace so that it doesn’t escalate?
If one has already committed to marriage with someone, how can one resolve normative issues when it comes to values, beliefs, political stances, etc. Would it be best to accept the differences in values, or would it cause more harm in the long term?
What is a good way to communicate to another person what is bothering us before it turns into a gunny-sacking cycle?
Do you believe that what is typically seen as traditional masculinity in Mexican or Latino men can be categorized as dysfunctional conflict cycles?
With these various functional and dysfunctional ways of conflict communication how can you hold yourself accountable and ensure that you’re communicating effectively if we instantly and subconsciously deflect during conflict?
What is the best way to approach a person you have a conflict with? How do you start that conversation properly?
How to break the Undesired Repetitive Pattern, what can we do to prevent this type of script from occurring at all?
How to manage more easily conflict and how to approach a conflict with people which avoid conflict?
How are people who are accommodating, or avoidance viewed in society, and is there anyway to try and overcome that dysfunctional cycle?
What leads to early compromising instead of collaboration or regular compromising?
"Skilled negotiators tend to use low avoidance and high collaboration modes of conflict handling…” I agree with this stance, as it is how I have gone about most of my conflicts. However, I find that I question myself as being manipulative as of late.
I tend to bring unsolved things from the past in a new argument, would that be considered undesired repetitive patterns? People think my sisters and I tend to argue with people a lot, but we always that we aren’t arguing. We just don’t say stay silent whenever we encounter someone being rude to us. Does this have any relation to this?
As someone with an avoidant/accommodating conflict communication, how can I deal with conflict with another person who has the same type of communication style? If both of us struggle with the same issue of addressing our concerns and working through problems, what can I do to push myself and encourage the other person as well?