During grief and loss, we sometimes forget our strategies on how to heal and come; here is a few things we can all remember during our journey and everyday life when strengthing out mind and reinforce our mental health.
Improved sleep
Increased interest in sex
Better endurance
Stress relief
Improvement in mood
Increased energy and stamina
Reduced tiredness that can increase mental alertness
Weight reduction
Reduced cholesterol and improved cardiovascular fitness
I think the resilient individual demonstrates brain fitness as excellent. I provided an example of an old neighbor who had experienced a couple of deaths, her son and her spouse. Her brain may adapt to situations repeatedly and improve emotion regulation such as anxiety or depression after experiencing a couple of deaths.
The nurse I identified as a role model after losing her son is also avid at pursuing continuing education. She recently received her certification in Palliative Care through the University of Washington. This is a 1-year course that expands on patient-centered care and builds the foundation for engaging in difficult conversations at the end of life. She also pursues many mental health courses for CE and is continually looking for new and better ways to engage in nursing care at our work. I admire how she is never satisfied with a yes or no answer; she continually looks to explore causes, relationships, and variables that affect patient choices and the subsequent impact on their health.
My role model is Betty Smith Williams the co-founder of the Council of Black Nurses in Los Angeles. She became the first African-American woman to earn her nursing qualification. She works to unit black nurses across the country and has been an ardent activist for minorities. She created a voice for the segregated facets of the population, and I admire her for that.
In the previous week, I talked about my grandfather, who lost his little brother to covid. How difficult our times were because we didn't get to say goodbye or have his funeral the way we wanted. my grandfather showed resilience mentally by letting himself go through his grieving process and found hobbies, and set goals for how he thinks he should improve. He also is very prepared now; although it's a challenging topic, he has gotten all of his wishes in place; he doesn't want us to have to go through the same mess we did before. Doing this has helped him mentally process everything and heal.
The person I identified with, Nicole Sachs, LCSW, based her healing and her methods on Dr. Sarno and his findings and his life work regarding Tension Myositis Syndrome (TMS), which directly links the mind and pain and how to heal. He wrote several books in regards to healing. He mentored Nicole before he passed, and she has tweaked his method to create a new way to heal emotional trauma and pain. I have listened to her podcasts, how her journey began, and what she is doing today, and I can see that her brain fitness has genuinely healed her body and soul, which gives me hope to help end emotional and physical pain.
My role model from the previous week was my mom. She has demonstrated high brain fitness. We do the Sunday New York Times crossword puzzle together every week. We also read the newspaper together (a lost art). We read books together, and if there is a word we don’t know, we look it up in the dictionary. She helps me study and helps me perfect my assignments for school. She is also working toward her degree online while working full time.
The role model I identified in the previous week was Nora McInerny, who lost her husband and shared her experience of living in her grief. In the TED talk, she describes moving forward with grief and letting it be a part of you. She seemed to have a very healthy perspective on her loss, and she also was able to share her story with humor. She essentially retrained her brain to think of her loss as something she needed to let go of and instead allows it to live as part of her present. She acknowledges how her deceased husband shaped certain aspects of her that are still very much part of her new marriage. This reframing of perspective shows great brain fitness.
I was talking about my mom as the most resilient person I know in person. She demonstrated real brain fitness. After being exposed to many emotional and spiritual challenges, she developed immunity to distracting grief and loss effects and focused her brain function on survival mode, but it is the more practical and fulfilling way. I often wonder how her brain functions because I feel like my brain would explode from so much to process, absorb and adjust to a new reality. Her brain is phenomenal; she takes a unique situation and finds positive, and focuses on it, exercising her brain to explore different emotional states at once. It takes time, resilience, and passion for life.
I found an article that discusses how to build a resilient brain and try to relate it with my own experience. It is very complex, but I find it helpful how good connections with close family, friends, and other essential factors are helping to increased brain resiliency. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based organizations, or other local groups provides social support and can help reclaim hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper. Some of the main points discussed in the article are:-Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. -Accept that change is a part of living. -Move toward your goals. Keep things in perspective The main point listed above helps build resilience and build brain fitness while adapting to the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress, such as family or relationship problems, serious health challenges, or workplace financial issues. It means “bouncing back” from difficult life experiences.
Make connections. Good relationships with close family members, friends, or others are essential. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based organizations, or other local groups provides social support and can help reclaim hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.
Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. You can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances maybe a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.
Accept that change is a part of living. Specific goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on events that you can alter.
Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly — even if it seems like a small accomplishment — that enables you to move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?”
Take decisive actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take decisive steps, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would go away.
Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect due to their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, a greater sense of strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased self-worth, a more developed spirituality, and a heightened appreciation for life.
Nurture a positive view of yourself. Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.
Keep things in perspective. Even when facing harrowing events, consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.
Maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good thing will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want rather than worrying about what you fear.
Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing.
Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations requiring resilience.
Additional ways of strengthening resilience may be helpful. For example, some people write about their deepest thoughts and feelings related to trauma or other stressful events in their life. Meditation and spiritual practices help some people build connections and restore hope.
there are many practices people have to strengthen their mind during this painful time, along with self-care and to be mindful of our tendencies and feeling. here are examples others have experienced in their journey.
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