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Suggest how/what you would encourage the people exposed to "Lost and Grief" to enhance their realistic optimism

Kim Huynh:

Mental health continues to be a challenge for many people, including the sick and relatively healthy. The condition arises from a variety of external factors such as work and societal pressure. These factors drive numerous people into mild and chronic depression, stress, anxiety, and in extreme cases, insanity. Nurses can enhance optimism among such populations by motivating them to change their brains and line of thought. The nurses can motivate the affected groups to break down their fears, thus evoking change and mental stability. Lastly, nurses can enhance optimism by ensuring the afflicted groups stay and associate with optimists and loving societies. This technique enables them to enjoy a positive environment and overcome their negative thoughts.

He grieving individual can only overcome the pain when they are given emotional support. Therefore, it is essential to find love from others since only those who are close can help. Failure to share the pain with others may lead to an individual getting depressed, leading to more harm. Situations such as death are inevitable, but an individual needs to be prepared mentally to handle the loss since it can happen at any time in our lives.

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Dee Dee Call:

My grandmother passed away less than 6 months ago around Thanksgiving time 2020. It wasn’t because of Covid or cancer or anything like that. She was 86 and it was her time. She died in her own home surrounded by her whole family, it was a heartbreakingly, beautiful moment. While we are, of course, saddened by this loss, we are also comforted by the thought that she is in a better place and no longer in any pain. She is an a place where she can watch over us and guide us. We all had our happy memories to share about Grandma and talk about them frequently, usually laughing or smiling during the stories told. The pain we feel for our loss will always be there and no one will ever replace Grandma, but as time goes on, the pain recedes a little each day and soon we can say how much we miss her without tears in our eyes. Death is not easy to face and being overwhelmed with that loss is just as devastating. Everyone deals with loss and grief in their own way, no one person can ever tell someone else how to feel in any situation, let alone when losing someone. Be supportive, be optimistic and know that it is easier to build on positive thoughts and experiences that negative thoughts and experiences.

Jane Jugao:

I would say to think of “positive things” or "positive affects” after the death. I know it would be easy to say and hard to do if the love one is one of my family members. I remember the moment when my grandmother passed away because of dementia and other health issues. My dad and his siblings had a hard time to digest my grandmother’s death. Since she was suffered from dementia, her behaviors were hard to understand for her children. However, they started to communicate more each other and try to understand more after my grandmother had been passed away, causing siblingship is stronger. I remember my dad did not have a good relationship with his sisters, but after my grandma’s death he started to open his mind to his sisters. He was sad to lose his mother, but it was her gift for him to have relationship back with his sisters.

Daniale Delkettie:

During grief and loss of a loved one I think it is important to show up, be supportive, and mostly be quiet and listen. I don’t think that it is the proper time to be optimistic, or try to look on the bright side. When a close friend of mine died by suicide I remember another friend said, “At least he is not in pain anymore” and I wanted to scream and shout and break things (I didn’t do any of those things though) – I was ssooo angry with that comment. Now, years later, I can understand what that person was trying to say, but at the time it was not encouraging or helpful. Also, each persons loss is so very different. We can’t blanket losses all together. Being optimistic is helpful when the person who is grieving is ready to be optimistic. We have to be discerning when being optimistic. Building positive feelings and thoughts takes time and patience.

Leah Foster:

I love the lyrics from the song Fly by Celine Dion:

Fly, fly little wing

Fly beyond imagining

The Softest cloud, the whitest dove

Past the planets and the stars

Leave this lonely world of ours

Escape the sorrow and the pain

And fly again

Fly, fly precious one

Your endless journey has begun

Take your gentle happiness

Far too beautiful for this

Cross over to the other shore

There is peace forevermore

But hold this memory bittersweet

Until we meet

Fly, fly do not fear

Don't waste a breath, don't shed a tear

Your heart is pure, your soul is free

Be on your way, don't wait for me

Above the universe you'll clumb

On beyond the hands of time

The moon will rise, the sun will set

But I won't forget

Fly, fly little wing

Fly where only angels sing

Fly away, the time is right

Go now, find the light

This is a song of hope for me because it gives the person experiencing grief the power to let their loved one "fly" away to a place of beauty and free of suffering. This song so beautifully encapsulates the experience of any parent or caregiver who is letting go of a child.

Reference:

Dion, C., Goldman, L., & Galdston, P. (1996). Fly [Song]. On Falling Into You [Album]. Recorded by Columbia.

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