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Poor communication skills ruin relationships.
As kids we develop specific ways of listening and responding based on what we learn in our family system. If the behaviors modeled were unhealthy, unconsciously we may behave similarly while socializing and it can get in the way of successful relationships. Therapy will help you look back in time to understand who modeled your communication skills and what the success factors were from those behaviors. By working to address learned behaviors, we can work on ways to develop better communication skills in order to build strong respectful relationships.
Common cues of Poor Communication
You may find yourself interrupting others during conversation. Although you may have good intentions, it is important to let others finish stating their ideas.
Becoming defensive during conversations may be because you are struggling with actively listening to what is actually being said.
You may find that your words are often demanding, mean-spirited, and arrogant. These behaviors often comes with yelling, using profanity, and aggressive body language.
Another sign you may struggle with being a good listening is if you tend to shift most topics back to yourself.
Having poor body language can send many negative cues. If you often fold your arms, fidget, avoid eye contact, or appear distracted during conversations, you may be displaying negative communication skills.
Do you find your family to have very similar communication styles that often doesn't work? This may be a sign that your communication skills are learned. They may work for your family system, but may also be met with a negative response by others.
When communicating brings on significant amounts of conflict in your life to the point where you aren't being understood or understanding others, you may need help. Poor communication is treatable and you can regain improved behavioral health and improve relationships through counseling services by learning different types of communication styles, examining learned behaviors, and learning communication skills!
Facts about communication skills
Learning how to have relationships with other people can be life changing. These relationships include friendships, relationships, partnerships, and co-workers where we often have to communicate with.
Poor listening leads to assumptions and misunderstandings which deteriorates trust and weakens communication even further.
On a personal level, poor listening leads to hurt feelings and a loss of team togetherness.
Being part of the world takes courage, even on your best days. Many interactions are happening virtually right now where communication and body language are on display.
When we share space with others; resentments can build, expectations can fall short, and mistakes can happen. Even when this occurs, there is a solution that can move you forward again. It comes in the form of an apology and changed behavior.
Remember, poor communication may stim from childhood, but it definitely ruin relationships. A therapist can help facilitate conversations that seem overwhelming to have by yourself. Through individual therapy I can help you come to terms with the hurt you have caused or the hurt someone else has caused, and what to do next.
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