This article was in the April May June 2013 issue of MauMel Magazine. It was written by a Junior High School Student at a Charter School in Maumelle, Arkansas.
Relationships
Relationships:
We have all had them or we have friends with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Most of them don’t last and people move on.
That brings up the question,
"How many 'significant others' are you going to have before you settle down?
I have a view opposite of most the students in this school. I see myself as saved for the man God chose for me before He even formed the world.
For many that seems crazy. They think it’s weird because I have never had a boyfriend. It’s completely foreign to their minds to see that I’m not all over every guy I see. I’m not saying that every girl here is, but at least half, if not more, run after every slightly attractive guy they lay eyes on.
With all the boy chasing that goes on there comes a lot of drama as well.
Pretty much all I see in this school is a ton of drama with the girls, and nine times out of ten it is over or because of a guy.
Although this is true, girls are not the only ones at fault here.
The guys know how to manipulate a girl into falling for them.
Guys see things differently as well, they see more than just the pretty face and they want more than just the pretty face.
In 1 Corinthians 7:2 the Lord says, "each man should have his own wife and each woman should have her own husband.” Notice that those are all in the singular form. It isn’t supposed to be you and whoever you can get! And for me it definitely will not be.
I want to have one guy that will love and respect me for the rest of my life.
The relationships I watch around me last roughly three to for weeks, maybe six if you're lucky.
These relationships aren't built on anything more than "special" privileges. That is so sad to me; they are giving a piece of their heart away with each one of these "special" friends.
It goes along the same lines every time: boy asks girl out, girl says yes, they get “special” privileges for an extremely small amount of time, big dramatic break up, repeat with the next person to come along.
Why would you want to give a part of your heart away to someone who isn’t going to cherish it for forever? There is no respect involved at all. It’s all about what you can get out of the other person and what makes you happy. Once you aren’t happy anymore it’s “time to move on”.
If you are reading this and you think I’m crazy, it’s probably because the person I just described is you.
Now you’re getting mad and you don't want to finish reading this, but hey you've made it it this far!
I would encourage you, if this is you, to look at your life and to examine the relationships in it.
Ask yourself why you have had six boyfriends/girlfriends in the past six months. Really dig deep, don’t kid yourself, be real.
Next make a list of the characteristics you want in a partner.
Now that you have made this list look and see which ones are true of you, so you know a little more about yourself. Then you will need to think about how you would treat this person.
How do you want to be treated, with love, honor and respect?
After you have done all of these things, you need to find an older, wiser person in your life whom you can trust and talk to them about these things. Ask them to hold you accountable to all of the steps you have taken thus far.
Finally, wait. The Lord will bring you your spouse in His perfect timing. Trust Him to fix this mess you have made.
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Olivia Grace is a junior at Academics Plus Charter School in Maumelle. In her free time she likes to hang out with her five brothers and sisters, go to church at BCLR and to play soccer for the ASC Dragonflies. Her favorite subjects in school are History and Chemistry. Her plans after graduation are to attend either South West Baptist University in Missouri or Oklahoma State University. She wishes to pursue an education in Photo-Journalism.
From Page 47 in the April-May-June 2013 issue of MauMag
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