ANGER MANAGEMENT

SEMINAR-2017

FOR STUDENTS AND THE YOUTHS

By: Br. Churchill Ojok

THEME:

ANGER MANAGEMENT

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.

JAMES 1:19-20

WHAT IS ANGER?

-Anger is a natural emotion. Mild forms of anger include displeasure, irritation or dislike. Anger can come as a reaction to criticism, threat, or frustration. This is usually a healthy response. -Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened.

-When anger turns into rage, it can impair judgment and thinking, making people more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things.

-Anger is a normal human emotion, but when it gets out of control it can become destructive, leading to serious problems at work and in personal relationships. It can undermine a person's quality of life.

ANGER MANAGEMENT

-Anger management involves skills of recognizing the signs of anger, and taking action to deal with the situation in a positive way. It does not mean holding the anger in or avoiding angry feelings. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion when expressed appropriately.

-Anger management teaches people how to recognize frustrations at an early stage, and to settle them in a way that allows the person to express their needs, while remaining calm and in control.

In considering anger management there are four broad approaches identified by the “four as”:

1. AWARENESS.

Acknowledging your anger. You have the right to feel angry in certain circumstances.

Get behind the defence mechanisms employed to deny or distort anger.

Listen to your body; experience emotion

2. ACCEPTANCE.

No good telling ourselves you are not angry if you are.

Take responsibility of what you do in anger. Anger by itself is neutral but if misdirected it can lead to destructiveness.

3. ANALYSIS

Ask what anger is about; is it a response to threat? If so what

Identify the trigger then move past it and examine the beliefs that are causing that anger and ask if they are valid.

Check if your perceptions of a situation are distorted in any way.

Is there a message behind the anger?

4. APPROPRIATE ACTION

Choose how to express or release the anger.

Work it out of the system; displacement.

-Talk about it.

-Pray about it.

-Decide to forgive

REMARKS

It is said with some justification that other people do not make us angry. They merely activate some dynamic that is already operating within us. We may not know what this is but it provokes an angry reaction.

RAUMATIC STRESS AND ANGER

SELF-REFLECTION

1. List the people and situations you are angry with.

2. Does your anger make good sense? Do you believe you have sufficient cause to be angry? Is it proportion to the event that provoked it? Does it feel like something from the past?

3. What do you do your anger?

4. Which of the above responses are constructive and which are destructive?

5. How can you stop your anger from damaging you?

CONCLUSION

Whoever is patient has great understanding. Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.

Proverbs 16:32