2024

Tuesday, December 31, 2024

It's the last day of the year, also known as New Year's Eve.  A time for reflection and for some, a time to make resolutions. 

Highlights this past year for me include both travel adventures, and time spent with family - usually in conjunction with each other. I experienced an eclipse in Findlay, Ohio with my brothers in April. I visited Kathy in Parkland, Florida in May and went to San Diego, California in August with Michael, Sean Rose, and Porter. In October, Kathy and I explored the Big Island with Bern. And Michael and I returned to Florida in November to spend Thanksgiving with Kathy and help her with her move. Michael and I also went to Chicago about a half dozen times. My only travel regret, is not going to North Carolina this year to see Joe, which is something we've done a few times since returning to Ann Arbor in 2020.  I truly love the adventure of seeing new places, especially in the company of my loved ones. And I feel especially forunate to have Porter in my life.  Christmas morning was truly a joy.

My only resolution this year is adding a plank a day to my fitness routine.  I don't do many core strengthening exercises and feel this will be a good start.

Kathy closed on her home in Florida yesterday and is making progress getting her new home in Ann Arbor organized. Boxes are being unpacked and she is finding places to store possessions. Keeping in mind that she does not have furniture yet.  And still has work responsibilities. She is also going through the process of getting Internet set-up, changing insurance and health providers, etc.  Michael and I have tried to help her as much as we can, but moving, especially when you are on your own, is a big undertaking.

And remember,  You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. C.S. Lewis

Saturday, December 28, 2024

I've had a series of unfortunate incidents. I accidently washed a red tablecloth in the same load as towels using hot water and now my  light aqua towels look badly tye dyed and brownish.  I was moving the coffee maker and Michael's favorite mug toppled over and the handle broke off.  And I noticed the spring on the laundry chute came off. Sigh...

Today, Sean, Rose, Porter, and I went to Main Street in downtown Ann Arbor. We visited a few shops including, of course, the Vault of Midnight. And we stopped at Old Town Tavern for a light lunch. We then headed home to do dinner prep. Rose put a brisket in the slow cooker before we went out, and also planned to make potato latkes - all in a bid to make a traditional Jewish dinner in honor of  Hanukah. Michael assisted her with dinner prep and clean-up, and much to my amusement could be heard saying, yes chef, to all Rose's directions. 

Shannon, Darrell, Lucky, and Joel joined us for dinner.  Dinner was delicious, and it was nice to have company. Porter was especially excited to play with Lucky. They seemed to have hit it off at the Boxing Day get-together and it was heart warming to hear all their giggles. Both Porter's room and our front room were covered in toys. I am enjoying the chaos of having children in our normally quiet tidy house.

It all ends tomorrow as we say our goodbyes. 

Friday, December 27, 2024

The past few days flew by. As always, it's a huge treat for me to have Sean, Rose, and Porter here.

Christmas Eve was very low key. Porter and I played games, applied holiday window cling ons to the glass on the sliding glass door in the family room, and  watched cartoons. We also baked and decorated Christmas cookies. Porter was a great help measuring ingredients and dusting the snowball cookies with powdered sugar.  I made spaghetti, salad and garlic bread for dinner. 

Chrismas Day started with a morning of excitement. Porter donned a Santa hat and helped pass out gifts in between opening her own. I probably shouldn't have been surprised but Barbie and her sisters Skipper, Stacie, and Chelsea  turned out to a big hit. I've spent a lot of time brushing and braiding their hair, putting their shoes on, and assisting with wardrobe changes. We also played Candyland. Mid-afternoon, Sean and I headed to the airport to pick up Kathy - the final leg of her Michigan move completed.  She is now facing the formidable task of unpacking and buying furniture for her new home.  She joined us for a traditional Christmas dinner of ham, mashed potatoes, green beans, and rolls.

Yesterday, I hosted a Boxing Day family event at my house. I got up at 5am to make crockpot vegetarian chili, potato salad, and guacamole. I also rearranged furniture in the family room and set up the dining table. Family started arriving shortly after noon.  I heated up taquitos, broiled hot dogs, heated sauerkraut and put out other condiments for the hot dogs and dips for the chips. I had a nice time chatting with family members and watching Joel, Lucky, and Porter play games. There were a lot of giggles and squeals from Porter and Lucky. It was hard not to smile. We also celebrated Shannon's 42nd birhday. Candles were lit, we sang Happy Birthday loudly and off key, and enjoyed the cake she brought.  Despite busy schedules, I am glad an effort was made to get together.  In attendance, in no special order:  Michael & Sugar; Sean, Rose, & Porter; Butch & April; Kathy; Tricia;  Jerry, Marilyn, Stephen, Jesse, Christopher, & Jeremy; Shannon, Darrel, Joel, & Lucky. A whopping mix of nineteen family members with different last names, but family, nevertheless. We missed Donna, Spence, Elizabeth, Bern, Joe, Ryan, Larry, Celina, Michael, Paul, and Fiona. Maybe a future event?

This morning,  Porter and I hung out for a few hours. She then went to brunch with Sean and Rose. They were meeting a friend at the restaurant.  Meanwhile, Kathy and I headed to Xfinity to get her Internet set up. Both of us also switched our phone provider from AT&T to Xfinity. Rome, one of the reps assisting us, was apparently great at his job. Kathy and I also went to Walmart to pick up a few items for her house. Later, despite a refrigerator full of leftovers, we all went to Zingerman's Roadhouse for dinner.  And it was good.

The Chicago Doves return home on Sunday. I will be sad to see them leave.

Monday, December 23, 2024

Every place I went today was fairly crowded.  Even the rec building. The track overlooks the gym and it was amusing to look down and see oldsters on one side  playing pickleball and youngsters on the other side of the gym shooting hoops and doing crafts.  Michael and I went out this morning in search of candy canes and found some at the Busch's by Briarwood. Michael scored, as he also found burnt peanuts and cracker jacks.

I spent about an hour at Kathy's house today. I unpacked more of her kitchen stuff and made her bed while Michael reorganized her garage to make more room for her car. We also took her rubbish and recycling bins to the curb for pick-up tomorrow morning. She is going to have to deal with a mountain of flattened  cardboard boxes as the unpacking continues.

Sean, Rose, and Porter arrived around 5pm and thankfully did not have bad weather to contend with on their drive from Chicago. It's my understanding that the roads are slick now. Porter's excitement when she first arrived was pretty darn cute. We ended up ordering pizza and salad from Cottage Inn for dinner.  Hopefully Porter sleeps through the night.  Getting her settled was a challenge and I have to admit she has mastered the art of procrastination.

I spoke to Bern briefly this afternoon. He planned to go to see Nadia after his chiropractor's appointment. 

Our lives are like an episode of Days of our Lives...

Saturday, December 21, 2024

Kathy's possessions arrived today. The moving van showed up around 1pm. Her living room is now crowded with boxes. While waiting for her car to arrive, I unboxed kitchen items and paper products. Her car showed up around  3:30pm. An interesting coincidence is that both the car guy and the moving van guy were both from the Chicago area.  It's made me curious how drivers and delivery locations are coordinated for both businesses.

We still have a thin layer of snow on the ground. And it's cold.  I suppose I should say something about the winter solstice, which is today. It is the shortest day and longest night of the year, and also marks the beginning of winter. 

"After the longest night, tomorrow we sing up the dawn. There is a rejoicing that, even in the darkest time, the sun is not vanquished. As of tomorrow, the days begin to get longer as the light of day grows. While the gentle winter sun slowly opens its eyes, let us all bring more light and compassion into the world." – Dacha Avelin

Friday, December 20, 2024

Red bell bottom guy was working out again this morning. Today he had on black bell bottom work out pants with a red cherry print, a red tee, and red shoes. From now on I am calling him Santa. Not to his face, of course!

One of my favorite Christmas cards this year was from two neighborhood cats, Oliver and Kitty.  Oliver is a friendly black cat that goes for walks with his human family and occasionally follows me a few houses when I am walking. He is also amenable to being petted. Or to rephrase, expects you to stop and pet him. Kitty is a beautiful gray and white cat. Based on her serene demeanor, I believe she has a gentle soul. She often visits our yard and comes to our back sliding door hoping to attract Kali's attention. As do other cats in the neighborhood, which I find amusing. Shiv, our next door neighbor's cat takes it a step further and bangs on the back door's glass to get Kali to notice she is there. By the way, Kali either ignores  her visitors or goes to the door and hisses at them. She can be a jerk sometimes.

A few gifts that seemed to take forever to be delivered finally showed up this week.  I just finished wrapping them and they are under the tree. I am done.

I started today feeling off kilter. I forgot to charge my phone over night and accidently called Butch when I plugged it into the charger. I hung up immediately but he returned the call about 20 minutes later and I answered using my watch. A frustrating call in which I could barely hear him.  Then I didn't see the text he sent telling me he was on the way to my house and I suspect he waited in my driveway longer than he should have while I put my shoes on and looked for my phone. And when I started my walk on the rec building's track, my feet hurt and my sciatica flared up. Not a great start to my day.  All is better now, although I still need to clean up the cat barf under the dining table.  As I mentioned before, Kali can be a jerk.

Thursday, December 19, 2024

I spent time at Kathy's house this morning waiting for AT&T to arrive. Apparently, our neighborhood doesn't have AT&T fiber and her house is set up Xfinity ready. Rather than drill a hole in an outside wall and run whatever wires are needed to connect her, the AT&T rep mentioned it would be far easier for her to go with Xfinity. So be it.

At last check, the tracking tag shows the moving truck is in Chatanooga, TN, so it's possible they may be here tomorrow. I've lost access tracking the tag, which is a bummer, but Kathy still has access and is keeping me updated. Fingers crossed that her car gets picked up this afternoon. She rented a car this morning for the remainder of her stay in Florida.

I vacuumed the basement this morning and was bit out of breath after moving furniture.  What is amusing is that I was more exhausted from cleaning then I was from riding the exercise bike earlier.

At the rec building yesterday, I saw an elderly guy in red snug fitting bell bottom workout pants. And I thought good for him, but I did wonder if he bought them himself.  Or maybe he is Santa.

Tuesday, December 17, 2024

Happy Birthday Kathy!!

I had a somewhat busy day. I got my hair cut and as usual am now trying to brush all the hair products out. Paul  knows I brush it out, but I get that cutting and styling hair is his artistic outlet, so be it.

I also spent a lot of time and money at Meijer.  My first goal was to spend the balance on our OTC accounts before year-end.  As a result, I am officially stocked up on toothpaste, dental floss, and eye drops.  I also bought items for next week's Christmas dinner and the following day's Boxer Day get-together - mostly non-perishables but  I did buy a ham.

And I am done Chrsitmas shopping. I still need to wrap a few gifts but definitely feel like I am ready.

I've been hoping, Kathy's "stuff" arrives soon. Kathy put a tracker in one of the boxes and so far it is still sitting in the Safebound lot in South Miami. It would be great for it to arrive before she does. We experienced something similar when we moved from Hawaii. In our case, however,  with possessions coming in a pod on ship to the west coast and delays related to the pandemic, we waited a few months. Butch lent us a TV, card table/chairs, and some lawn furniture so it wasn't like we were sitting on the floor with nothing to do but it was nice when our "stuff" finally arrived. I am meeting the AT&T tech guy at her house on Thursday to install internet. 

Sunday, December 15, 2024

Slowly putting my life back in order after my three week hiatus. Yesterday was a big laundry day, I washed the sheets and duvet covers on all beds, towels, and all the clothes in my suitcase. Then the struggle of putting comforters back in the duvet covers began. Two down one to go. The struggle is real. 

I was taking inventory of what is in the freezer in prep for the holidays and found frozen meat with a package date of June 2023. Time to toss, I think.

This morning, I watered plants. Emptying and cleaning the litter box is next on the list. After I finish watching an episode of Tracker first. I do have priorities.

I am glad I put the holiday decorations up before I went to Florida.

Friday, December 13, 2024

I returned home today. The Fort Lauderdale airport was insane this morning. I was grateful to have TSA pre-check. The line was fairly short, while the line for general TSA  screening was literally weaving out the door. When I was at the point where you get your body scanned and carry-on luggage screened, I was chatting with the  woman behind me and she had somehow got past the agent that checks your ID. Not sure how she did it but she seemed super confused.

On the way back to our house, we stopped for dinner at Carson's. I came home to a pile of mail.  After sorting through it, I ended up with only four keepers - two Christmas cards, my property tax bill, and a notice from Nationwide.

I still haven't unpacked my bags completely but that can wait until tomorrow. I am mentally making a list of things I need to catch up on or do. Paying my property taxes is a priority. I also need to start thinking about Christmas prep.

It's nice to be home

Thursday, December 12, 2024

Today was too chilly to sit by the pool, which is a shame because it is my last day here. The great British Baking Show's holiday edition has become my background entertainment. 

Kathy and I went to a holiday craft show at the Coral Springs Museum of Art tonight. Unfortunately there were no small Florida inspired ornaments at any of the tables, but I enjoyed looking at what everyone had on display.   We then went to Big Bear Brewery for dinner. We both ordered french onion soup and shared a brie and fruit appetizer. And ordered drinks, of course. It was a fitting last meal.

My latest odd dream has me crossing paths with Leonard Cohen while I am on a walk. He is humming the tune from Anthem and now that song is stuck in my head. Which is okay because I have always loved the lyrics and they seem relevant with the wars being waged now.

The birds they sang at the break of day

Start again I heard them say

Don't dwell on what has passed away

Or what is yet to be

Yeah, the wars they will be fought again

The holy dove she will be caught again

Bought and sold and bought again

The dove is never free

Ring the bells that still can ring

Forget your perfect offering

There is a crack, a crack in everything

That's how the light gets in

We asked for signs, the signs were sent

The birth betrayed, the marriage spent

Yeah, the widowhood of every government

Signs for all to see

Wednesday, December 11, 2024

John arrived at Kathy's home at about 9am this morning. Ellyn arrived a few hours later. John immediately went to work erasing the drives on three computers in Hal's old office. Due to corrupted files on two computers, he was only able to successfully wipe one computer's drive. So the drives were removed from the other two computers instead. Between John and Ellyn, photographs were taken and the pricing and staging process begain. A few tables were set up in garage to display tools. Ellyn found buyers for two of her prints and a ceramic tweety bird while she was here. I look forward to seeing how the estate sale is advertised at Ellen's website. By the way, Ellyn reminds me of Susie from the Marvelous Mrs. Maisel series.

Kathy also signed the closing documents for the sale of her home today at the title company. She has created a list of remaining tasks. Moving and selling a house is a lot of work. 

To celebrate the closing, we went to dinner at La Bamba Mexican Restaurant in Fort Lauderdale. We both came home with enough leftovers for lunch tomorrow.

Tuesday, December 10, 2024

I received a phone call  from Sharon this morning, while out on my walk around Kathy's neighborhood. She is one of my favorite people and I miss our early morning walks in Niu Valley. It was nice to hear from her  and to get updates on Valley news. Jack removed the Tacoma tree in our old yard. Margaret's husband had a heart attack and is recovering well. Bailey and Pom, two much loved neighborhood dogs, passed away. She rarely sees Arlene out walking anymore. And an elderly woman we called Mrs. T, may have dementia and was the reason Sharon was up so early this morning calling me. Appparently Mrs. T. wandered into Sharon and Mike's driveway this morning at 1:00 am and thought it was her house. They took her home but are concerned as she lives alone. It was nice to hear a familiar voice and I felt good that she thought to call me.

Kathy and I mailed four boxes of documents and a few miscellaneous items to my house this morning. It's stuff she wasn't comfortable having the movers take. I did the same thing the last time I moved and am amused at how much we trust the post office with our valuables. 

Elleyn and John, who are managing Kathy's estate sale, will be here tomorrow to stage and photograph items for the sale on December 20-22.  I've secured all my possessions in the closet in my room and put a piece of blue tape on the closet door to indicate nothing in there is for sale. Kathy is doing the same. We are now wishing the sale was taking place this weekend but it is what it is.

I believe, Kathy's friend, Barry, is coming by tonight to pick up a few items she wanted.  It is interesting to see Kathy slowly divesting herself of several years of possessions. At the same time, it gives her an opportunity, however, to express her own style in her new home, and I'd personally find that pretty exciting.

Monday, December 9, 2024

Elias, Wilson and Wilfredo from Safeguard Movers arrived shortly after 8 am this morning and by 11am had packed the items I had not boxed up already and had everything loaded on the truck. I was impressed by hard they worked and how coordinated they worked together as a team. I also learned a lot about packing wall art and breakables.  Tape and padding.  There was something soothing about watching them work as I listened to the sound of tape being ripped off rolls and the rustling of packing material. 

Kathy and I continue our efforts to eat her freezer items. We ate mini quiches for lunch and I believe our dinner plans include potato latkes and sausage. And maybe some frozen veggies?

Instead of walking the loop around Kathy's subdivision, I ventured across Hillsboro Ave. and walked the trail adjacent to the Covered Bridge Park. It turned out it was less than a mile to the next major street and rather than crossing that street, I decided to turn around. The verdict is out still on whether I'll do it again before I leave. It wasn't particularly scenic.

I return home on Friday.

Sunday, December 8, 2024

I had a concerning moment last night. I wrote a post for my blog and when I published it, six months of posts  disappeared. Fortunately I was able to retrieve the missing data but I had a few minutes of fear that those six months of posts were lost forever.. 

Yesterday, Kathy and I took the computers she was disposing of to the county disposal site. From there, we headed to Pompano Beach for lunch and drinks at the Lucky Fish Beach Bar. Despite the fake owl next to our plates, two scheming crows swooped down and stole my hamburger's top bun and fries. After lunch, Kathy and I walked to the end of the Pompano Beach Pier. We were greeted by a half dozen pelicans, who didn't object to having their photo taken. All and all, an enjoyable few hours. Listening to the sound of ocean waves will never get old.

The movers are coming tomorrow. I packed a few more boxes today and believe we are all set for them.

Today, after running a few errands, Kathy and I visited Ira's grave site  at Eternal Light Memorial Gardens in Boynton Beach. It's a bit of a distance from Kathy's home but where he wished his final resting place to be.

We are now in the process of trying to consume the food that Kathy has on hand. Dinner tonight was fried pickles, apples, hummus, cheese, crackers, and pita chips. It was oddly okay.

Friday, December 6, 2024

Today's packing included wrapping up several small ceramic pieces in tissue paper and then using the shredded paper from the shredder to pad everything in the box. Kathy is shredding documents in prep for the move, so I had a large supply of packing material. I also got a start on packing up her kitchen. We are now using plastic utensils as a result.

I spent a few hours reading by her pool and am enjoying the warmth and sunshine while I can.  Later, we ran a few errands and stopped at Taco Bell on our way back to her house. 

Kathy is planning on taking a few laptops and a computer tower to a disposal site tomorrow. We removed the drives and smashed them out on the street. It was oddly satisfying.

Thursday, December 5, 2024

Kathy got another quote from another mover this morning. It was less than Rick's and this mover can pick her items up as early as Monday-Tuesday next week.  This company was also far more professional and had the quote and contract to her in less than 30 minutes. So I will continue packing as much as I can. 

Last night, we joined Kathy's neighbor/realtor for dinner at a Vietnamese restaurant.  It seems that more and more businesses are short-handed, as there was only one wait-person available. He was hustling but he did look pretty stressed. Food was good although both Kathy and I noticed when we returned home that our clothes and hair reeked of food odors. The restaurant was small so that may have been the reason.

We visited Hal's and Pearl's graves this afternoon at Bailey Memorial Gardens in North Lauderdale.  We also made a stop at BJ's (similar to Sam's Club) to buy tape and bubble wrap (which we never found).  When we entered the store, a older male employee made me laugh with the comment that he didn't know the store was hosting a beauty contest today. I wonder how many times a day he uses that line.

Temps are on the rise here. It is a sunny 78 degrees. This time yesterday, we were wearing long sleeves.

Wednesday, December 4, 2024

Another chilly morning with temps dropping into the 40's. I reminded myself that Ann Arbor's temps were several degrees less. When I return home next week, I am in for a rude awakening. I have thought about how this might impact going to the rec building and have realized I may need to put my big girl pants on and drive myself.

Rick, the mover dude, came by yesterday and gave Kathy a quote for the cost of moving her belongings to her Ann Arbor house. The move date is scheduled for 12/14. She also made arrangements to ship her car via a trailer about a week later so will need to rent a car. The estate sale is 12/20-12/22, and the hope is that by 12/23, the house will be empty. She can then get it cleaned on 12/24 and be in a position (fingers crossed) to fly to DTW perhaps as early as 12/25 (Christmas Day). And sometime during this time period, she still needs to arrange a time with the title company to sign the closing documents on her house sale. Fortunately, she has finished most sorting within her home and the items going to AA are in piles in her front room. Michael went through her garage when he was here and did the same. So while much progress has been made, there are still a lot of wheels in motion.

We packed up all the unopened non-perishable food in her pantry this morning and dropped it off at a food pantry in Coral Springs. We ended up with seven bags of canned goods, pasta, spices, toothpaste, tooth brushes, lotion, soap, paper towels, etc.  After dropping off these items, we went to the Coral Springs Museum of Art. It's not a very large gallery space but I enjoyed their current exhibit, Tides and Currents. The show included a mix of medias that included paintings, textiles, sculptures, and video. From there, we went to the post office, where after standing in line for several minutes to purchase stamps, the only clerk on duty advised me she didn't have any stamps. Say what???  Guess I'll buy some when I return to AA.  We then had lunch and drinks at BJ's Restaurant and Brewhouse, also in Coral Springs.  On the way back to Kathy's house, we stopped at her local comic book store to look for the Sesame Street comic Sean illustrated. They didn't have it, so another purchase that can wait until I return home.  Lastly, Kathy stopped at the Covered Bridge Park across the street from her subdivision. It looks like it has a trail that might be worth checking out if I find myself with nothing to do next week

Monday, December 2, 2024

We had a chilly start this morning - temps were in the low 50's when I went out for my walk.  I actually wore my my puffy jacket.

More packing today. Kathy sorted out the clothes in her closet and started on her drawers. I laughed when I realized she owns more warm socks and snow boots than I do. The mover is coming by tomorrow and I am hoping he will clear up questions about the move and provide dates.  Sooner is better than later in this case.

As a reward for eating turkey four days straight, Kathy and I stopped for burgers for dinner tonight after running a few errands.  By the way, I enjoyed browsing in the Target by her house.

Sunday, December 1, 2024

Kathy and I went to the Parkland Farmer's Market this morning. I was hoping to find some Florida themed small ceramic Christmas ornaments but it was not meant to be. I did find a pair of inexpensive candy cane earrings, however, so did not leave empty handed.

Today, Kathy sorted while I boxed up what I could. It will be helpful to talk to the mover to determine what his expectations are. She also learned today that the mover can transport her car to Michigan, Originally, Kathy intended to drive but the prospect of the long drive by herself and unpredictability of winter weather has her now leaning toward shipping the car and flying instead. If not for Christmas, I would stay and fly back with her.

And I ate my last leftover turkey sandwich tonight for dinner. Thank God!

Saturday, November 30, 2024

Mashed potatoes and gravy for breakfast. A turkey sandwich for lunch. Pizza and salad for dinner seemed like a good choice. We went to an Italian Restaurant in Coral Springs and it was nice to get out for a few hours. We still have more Thanksgiving leftovers, so I may have to get creative tomorrow.  

Kathy and I accomplished a lot today. I packed her books, office supplies, paper products, computer equipment, and more.  I also removed photos from her photo albums. She had photos I had not seen before of family events in the 70's and 80's. Kathy is finally done with Hal's office. She plans to tackle closets and clothes tomorrow. We are making progress.

Friday, November 29, 2024

Both lunch and dinner today were Thanksgiving leftovers. There is still a lot of food left so I anticipate a possible repeat tomorrow.

Michael returns to Ann Arbor today. Butch will be picking him up from the airport. Kali will be in cat heaven to have someone home. Michael tried to spend as much time outside as possible while he was here enjoying the warm weather. When I checked Ann Arbor's weather report this morning, the temp was only 23 degrees so he's in for a reality check. This applies to me as well when I return home in a few weeks.

Sorting continues. Thirty-five years of memories and acquired possessions are being consolidated into a pile on the living room floor.

Thursday, November 28, 2024. Happy Thanksgiving!

Lazy morning at Kathy's house.  Kathy spent the morning sorting through the items in her bedroom closet and Hal's office. Rose scored a classic, vintage English made Marquessa purse that belonged to Pearl, Hal's mother. I found some simple rings, also Pearl's.  The pile of items for  the Michigan move continues to grow.

At about 11am, Michael and I began Thanksgiving prep. I was in charge of the turkey and yams. Michael made the potatoes, green beans, and dressing. All food was ready to go at about 2:45pm. Turkey was moist with crispy skin. Perhaps due to the dry brining? And all the sides were delicious.I have no idea what Kathy and I are going to do with all the leftovers. I foresee some repeat meals over the next few days.

Wednesday, November 27, 2024

Michael and I had talked about going to the Boca Museum today but instead opted to stay at Kathy's and continue sorting. In part, I believe Michael just didn't want the stress of driving somewhere unfamiliar.  Which I understand. He finished getting the garage sorted yesterday, so we tackled Hal's office today.. We also designated a space to put the items Kathy plans to move. There is now an assortment of wall art, pottery, and items we rescued from Hal's office on the living room floor. Kathy should have time going forward to start going through each room in her house and make decisions.  Should it stay or should it go?  We also spent some time poolside today.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving. I tried something new and dry brined the turkey today. It's supposed to make the skin crispier.  

This afternoon, Kathy and I joined Stav, her realtor/friend/neighbor, for pedicures at a salon at the Promenade Mall in Coconut Creek. Kathy also bought some new shoes at DSW.  On the way home, we stopped at Publix for a few last minute Thanksgiving items and picked up burgers at Wendy's for dinner..

Last night we ate dinner at the Beachhouse in Pompano Beach. We were seated on their deck area oceanside, but the it was dark by the time we got there and the beach and ocean weren't visible. I guess we should have ventured out earlier.

Tuesday, November 26, 2024

I got up early with the goal of walking at least two miles. The loop around Kathy's subdivision was 1.88 miles so I ended up walking around her block to push it  over two miles. I saw some grandiose homes on my little trek - certainly doesn't look like my humble neighborhood back home.

Ellyn from the estate sale place was here this morning and  is planning to conduct her sale 12/20-12/22.  We have the task of marking everything that Kathy wants to ship to Michigan. She still is uncertain on how to handle this part of her move.  Fortunately John, Elleyn's partner, is tech savvy  (his words) and will erase the drives. He seemed confident that he will find a buyer.

Michael is busy sorting through the tools, equipment, generators, etc. in her garage to determine what should be sold. Selling one's house and moving out of state is one of life's bigger stresses so I am hopeful we are of some help and not pains in the butt.

Michael and I went to Deerfield Beach for a few hours to let Kathy work in peace. While I was basking in the sun, a large green iguana sauntered by where we were sitting. I read that they are an invasive species that Florida would like to eradicate.  Kathy mentioned that when her mango tree was full of fruit, she saw upwards of ten iguanas in her yard and that the smaller ones often climbed the screens on her pool enclosure. She said that at the last HOA meeting, several home owners felt the association needed to take a more active role to rid the neighborhood of these creatures.

There is talk of going out to dinner tonight. An ocean view is not required but would be appreciated.

Monday, November 25, 2024

I woke up far earlier than I needed to this morning. I tried to fall back asleep and finally got up at 3:30am, solved Wordle, and did the NYT crossword puzzle. Took care of the kitty litter, put fresh food and water down for Kali, took out the garbage, and finished getting myself ready for our 4:45am Uber pick-up. Fortunately the airport wasn't busy yet when we checked in. 

And as always I found myself marveling at the miracle of flight. I am always amazed when the plane is taxiing down the runway and the wheels leave the ground. It defies gravity.

Kathy made us corned beef and potatoes for dinner. A big thanks to her as I know she is busy.  We may try to go to the beach tomorrow.

Saturday, November 23, 2024

I often hear the sound of birds chirping after dark when I am standing in our front room. And it surprises me. It's not a sound I associate with night. And I wonder where the birds are.

Michael and I adopted Kali nine years ago - the Humane Society said she was 8.5 years old at that time. We are all aging together, but there is still a spring in our step. It looks like I am still thinking about the issue of mortality.

We head to Florida on Monday. I am looking forward to warmer walking temps. I packed my shorts.

Thursday, November 21, 2024

We woke up to a coating of snow this morning. The snow doesn’t give a soft white damn whom it touches.– E.E. Cummings

Wednesday, November 20, 2024

Someone explain to me why it costs $301 to change the return flight on a plane ticket to another date and only $224 to book a one way flight. And Delta doesn't charge a change fee. I am uncertain what the logic is.  I am planning on staying in Florida an extra two weeks to help Kathy sort and pack. She is accepting an offer she received on her home today, and suddenly has a deadline to move.

It's a rainy dreary afternoon. I'm relieved that it was dry when I walked earlier today. As more wintery weather becomes the norm, I am not sure how it's going to impact me getting to the rec building. I think I am good with bundling up against the cold but icy sidewalks are a big no. Is it wrong that I selfishly hope that Butch is able to return to working out at the rec building again so I can get a ride?  I know, I know, Michael and I actually do own a car...

Tuesday, November 19, 2024

At age 74, I am well aware that my years on this earth are limited. I hope that I see Porter reach adulthood but with that being fifteen years from now, it would mean I will be nearly 90 years old. And who knows if I'll  still be around. And I wonder how Porter will remember me. And I hope that her memories of me are that I loved her unconditionally. And I hope she appreciates that I have a touch of crazy in me. That it's okay to dance down sidewalks belting out songs. And to have races between wind-up toys. And here's to having many future antics with her.

Monday, November 18, 2024

While I was walking home from the rec building this morning, listening to Mazzie Star, I started to think about moments with Mom. She spent a lot of time sitting on her front porch and I am pretty certain that every one of my siblings has a story about sitting on the porch with her. She often talked about her childhood and growing up in North Carolina. But I believe that some of my favorite moments  with her is when we would just sit there thumbing through magazines. And we'd occasionally ask the other about something we saw on a page. Do you like this outfit?  Have you ever heard of this actress? What about these dishes?  But mostly we didn't talk. And Mom told me one time, that she liked the quiet moments.   And if I had an opportunity to spend a few hours with her now, I think I would choose to be on her porch with her thumbing through magazines. 

Wednesday, November 13, 2024

I woke up from a dream early this morning that frightened me to my core. I went to the gym to work out and was carrying a bulky TV and a bright yellow purse when I left. I was also wearing crazy striped socks with inappropriate heeled  black sandals. On the way to my car, I instead find myself in the kitchen of a very dirty restaurant. I take a door that looks like it leads outdoors that takes me through a maze of empty dark garage like spaces. I see no one. I finally find the exit to outdoors but suddenly lose all strength and coordination in my legs. I am still carrying the bulky TV when I fall to the ground. I don't see my car. I realize it's in front of the gym, which is now two buildings away. I am practically crawling at this point. And my thoughts are that I need to call work to let them know I will be late. And then I wake up. And feel relief that I can walk because it all seemed so real. And I thought this probably really happens to people. And I also thought that I needed to have a talk with the nocturnal me about wearing sensible shoes and not carrying a bulky TV to the gym. The striped socks and yellow bag can stay.

And there is a certain irony in how our dreams parallel real life. I went to the rec center this morning with Butch and he bailed after walking about a half mile because of back pain. By the way, he was dressed appropriately for the gym.  It is hard to see him hurting.

And he disclosed that when we've walked in the past, he's slowed his pace for me. And I thought, I wish he had walked his normal pace because it may have challenged me to walk faster. I'd rather fall behind than know someone was getting less of a workout because of me.

Tuesday, November 12, 2024

Winner, winner, early-bird dinner.  I heard this on a Draft Kings commercial, whose commercials I hate by the way. Also, I realized that I heard the original quote, which ends with chicken dinner, on the Today show. It's something Al Roker often says.  Refer to my October 16th post for clarity on why the hell I even mentioned this. 

It's a beautiful blue-sky day, albeit a cool one. Does the word albeit, come from the words all be it?  Also, I've been watching the The Rings of Power and got it in my head that the name Gandalf comes from the words Grand Elf. Wrong!  In case inquiring minds want to know, my Google search says otherwise. The name Gandalf comes from the Old Norse words gandr (magic staff) and álfr (elf), which translates to "staff-elf". The name was inspired by Gandálfr, a dwarf in the Völuspá's Dvergatal, a list of dwarf names.

I made meatloaf for dinner on Sunday and had meatloaf sandwiches for both dinner last night and lunch today. I don't think I can eat more meatloaf tonight. We are also out of bread.  Winner, winner, chicken dinner?

Monday, November 11, 2024

Veteran's Day - the rec building weight room was busy this morning. I guess a lot of people have the day off. Butch is nursing a sore back, so I have been on my own this past week. I miss his company. But walking by myself gives me a lot of time to think. I found myself reflecting on life this morning  and how much of it is spent not being true to yourself. Unless you absolutely love what you do to finance life's necessities, you are playing a role at your job. I know I spent most of my working life being someone else. And I am aware that our lives are about choices. But I can't help but wonder how many artists and writers are playing roles in corporate America to support themselves. How many books are unwritten? Artwork still only in the mind of the artist?  And I can't help but ponder what I might have done with my life had I not had to find a way to finance the necessities to care for myself and my family.  And so ends this week's Ted Talk.

Wednesday, November 6, 2024

Well, well, well...  I knew last night as I watched the returns what the outcome would likely be.  And I am discouraged that this is what the majority of Americans want.  I usually listen to the news when I walk in the morning. This morning I listened to music - often loudly to drown out the voices in my head.

And as I listened to my playlist this morning, I thought about how much I associate certain songs with life events. 

Forever Autumn, for example, takes me back to October 2014. Michael had left for Hawaii and I was alone in the house as winter approached trying to clear it out and sell it. The winter winds will be much colder now 

you're not here...  I joined him in Hawaii in January 2015.

Lovin' Spoonful's Summer in the City takes me back to the summer of 1966.  I was 15 years old, had just started to date, and felt like I was transitioning from being a kid into adulthood. And it was a hot summer. All around, people lookin' half dead walkin' on the sidewalk, hotter than a match head...

Azure Ray's Home takes me back to August 8, 2014, the day Mom died.  I called Michael, and he came to the hospice. Michael is the family member that I chose and having him to lean on at that very sad moment was comforting.  When we called you, you came so fast, and sat beside me while hours and days passed. I'll always thank you for that and there you were, with your heart made of gold so strong, the only thing holding us up and we knew, you would always be so close. 

I could go on. So many songs and memories. And the beat goes on.  I guess in the end, we weather a lot of storms in our lives. And survive.

Tuesday, November 5, 2024

Election Day!  May the best woman win.  Admittedly I dread the outcome if Kamala does not. The prospect of seeing and listening to Trump and Vance for the next four years makes my stomach queasy. The only silver lining in all this is that the barrage of campaign ads, most negative, is finally coming to an end.  I am tired.

The winds have picked up and leaves are swirling. There will be a final push in the next few weeks to get them bagged up (I guess binned would be more accurate). My today chores include vacuuming, watering plants, and making crockpot chili.  

It's a bit early to decorate for the holidays, but I am debating putting the Christmas tree in an alternate spot this year. I am considering the area in front of the rear sliding glass doors versus the corner spot by the fireplace. Odds are this will not happen because it would mean moving several plants, which I am not keen on doing. And the tree would block my view of the backyard, which I find soothing. Also, in retrospect the tree by the fireplace, stockings hung from the mantle, is a classic holiday look.  By the way, this all a me thing as Michael shows little interest in decorating for holidays. Which reminds me, much to my surprise, there was no discounted Halloween candy on sale at Meijer yesterday. Or ceramic pumpkins and witch hats, which disappointed me. If I had not been shopping with Michael, I would have headed to Target to see what if any leftover Halloween goodies they had on sale.

Monday, November 4, 2024

Home again and back to my routine. Michael and I did some much needed grocery shopping today.  We wish Meijer would let you use your phone to scan items while you shop, pay using the app, and then just walk out of the store like Sam's Club does. I tried to use up some of my OTC money today. We bought toothpaste, eye drops, sugar-free cough drops, and  protein drinks. It's a struggle sometimes and I am well aware that last quarter we still had quite a bit of unspent dollars on our cards.

Michael spent time at Kathy's home today clearing up some of the yard debris from all the branches and bushes he trimmed last week. Meanwhile, at the Lillian house, I filled our bin with the piles of leaves on our back patio and planting beds. Trash pick-up is tomorrow so there was some urgency to get this done today.  Fortunately temps were moderate and the rain held off.

I am missing little Porter already.

Saturday, November 2, 2024

Michael and I arrived to Portage Park yesterday afternoon. I am not sure what the weather was like in Ann Arbor, but Chicago was enjoying a cool but brilliantly sunny day. I was a little surprised that Michael didn't make a quick stop at the lakeshore as he often does when we visit this area. When Porter got home from daycare, she recreated that scene one often sees in films of a child running across a room with her arms outstretched in excitement at seeing us. What a greeting!  She told me all about her first trick or treating experience last night. Only one house was a little scary so it sounds like she had a great time going door to door. We walked to a nearby Italian restaurant for dinner and we both avoided all the cracks in the sidewalks on the way and watched out for any hidden monsters. Fortunately our secret powers were working and we made it to the restaurant unscathed.

Everyone is still in bed, so I am not sure if any activities are planned today. But I am sure a pint sized person with a lot of energy is in my future. And I couldn't feel more fortunate.

We return home tomorrow.

Thursday, October 31, 2024. Happy Halloween.

Last year I had 30-35 trick-or-treaters. The 60 full-size candy bars I purchased were gone before 7 pm this Halloween.  And the kids were still out in numbers when we turned out the lights. I wish I had bought more candy. I believe the warmer weather made a big difference as a lot of younger kids were out with their parents around 5pm while it was still light. And I loved seeing so many familiar faces. And a lot of the kids are also kids we've seen at the pool over the past three summers.  I like the neighborhood feel. Would you be mine? Could you be mine? Won’t you be my neighbor?

Wednesday. October 30, 2024

My mouth still feels a little off. There was some sensitivity to cold on one tooth after the anesthesia wore off but it seems to be quieting down. 

Warmer weather still prevails here.  If not for the wind it would be downright balmy. I am hoping to spend some "sun" time outside this afternoon. I believe this may be my last opportunity to do so this year.  The summer sun is fading as the year grows old, And darker days are drawing near, The winter winds will be much colder, now you're not here.  (Forever Autumn)

I got the results of my labwork back yesterday. All looks pretty normal except for my urinalysis results which showed abnormal levels of Leukocyte Esterase, Ketones, Hydaline Casts, and WBC/HPF. I am not sure what all these terms mean but I suspect my kidneys are involved and I may have a slight UTI. I see my doctor on Friday morning and hopefully all will be explained. My A1C is holding steady at 6.2, which is a decent level but I admit I was hoping for it to be a little lower. Maybe in time.

Michael is at Kathy's house - her yard has become his everyday project.

Monday, October 28, 2024

I spent four hours in the chair at this morning's dentist appointment. It gave me a lot of time to think and I found myself amused that Joe/Michael/Butch's running joke of adding, "that's what he or she said," to the end of another's comment works at the dentist. Like when the dentist says, "open your mouth wider," for example.  Also you engage all senses at the dentist. The sound of the drill, the acrid smell the drilling produces, the taste of chemicals in the materials they use, the sight and touch of the instruments and the dentists hands in your mouth. I also noted that when the dentist's headlight shined at a certain angle, his finger lit up like ET's.  Like I said earlier, I had way too much time to think. Two restorations done, one to go. It would have been nice to get them all done today but I had to delay the third one to 2025 for insurance reasons.

Ob-la-di, ob-la-da, life goes on, bra...

Sunday, October 28, 2024

Michael and I have been spending time at Kathy's house. Locks were changed on Friday. Today Michael did some yard maintenance. Kathy also hired a neighbor's son to mow her lawn and pick up leaves.  I set up a few lamps on timers so it at least looks like there is some life there.

I have a dentist appointment tomorrow morning  at 7am to have two restorations done. I am now regretting the 7 am time as it will still be dark when I leave. And any thoughts of walking to my appointment have been shelved as I am not comfortable walking in the dark.

I Facetimed with Sean and Porter this morning. Porter was quire chatty and informed me that she is going to be a kitty cat for Halloween. She still calls me Grandpa and Michael, other Grandpa, which I find amusing. And I like that she always asks where he is if he isn't on the call with me. Michael and I plan to head to Chicago for a few nights on Friday. I'm sure she will still be hyped about Halloween.

Thursday, October 24, 2024

I do not like the person I become when I feel hurt or under attack by others. I don't know if it's an age thing or something else, but I used to be a lot better at sucking it up. Also, I am quick to self blame in these moments, which just exacerbates these situations even further. And I have a hard time letting go of the self incrimination.  Is this mental anguish a Catholic guilt thing?

Kathy's walk-through was this afternoon.  The official closing and hand -off is tomorrow.  It's hard to believe that cute little house down the street is hers.  

Sunday, October 20, 2024

Just some snippets...

• Three weeks ago Kathy and I had manipedis. My toe nails still look freshly polished. My fingernails, on the other hand, lasted three days before i removed the polish due to chipping.

• I took advantage of the warmer weather today to sit outside and read, something I haven't done in a while. And it was relaxing.

• I made beef tomato (Nanu's recipe) and rice for dinner tonight. It really hit the spot.  

• I have been hiding from Kali when she wakes me up at 3am by sleeping in Porter's room with the door closed.

Friday, October 18, 2024

I am happy with the sunset photos I took Wednesday night. Photographs were taken from a bluff overlooking Lake Michigan. Skies were partially cloudy and quite colorful. And per Joe, I did catch the comet on the lower edge of one of the clouds. Not intentionally by the way.  I wish there weren't so many trees behind our home as I'd like to photograph the comet again before it disappears. And I am well aware I could get off my ass and find a spot where trees are not an issue.

Michael and I finally went grocery shopping today. I bought ingredients to make Sopa Seca de Fideo for dinner tonight, which is a dry soup dish popular in Central Mexico. It was featured on one of the cooking shows I watched a few weekends ago. I don't believe, however, this recipe is a keeper. Despite a number of fresh ingedients, it was a lot of steps for a dish I would judge to only taste okay. 

Warmer temps are expected this weekend so I am looking forward to some outdoor time. Sunshine came softly through my window today...

Wednesday, October 16, 2024

Michael and I arrived at the Lake Shore Resort in Saugatuck yesterday afternoon. We spent time in Saugatuck shopping and had dinner at Phil's Bar and Grille. I ordered one of Phil's broasted chicken dinners and found myself saying, "winner, winner, chicken dinner."  I am not sure where I heard this phrase and had to google it to find out what it means. It turns out it originated in Las Vegas casinos when chicken dinners cost $1.79 and dealers would shout it when a player won $2.00. Who knew?

This morning, Michael and I took a walk in the woods behind the resort. I saw a few deer.  We also walked to the end of Lakeshore Dr. There are some pretty impressive homes in this area.  This afternoon, we drove to Oval Beach, and I was reminded how much I love this area. They already had the winter fencing up but as always I found the views of the sand, lake, and skies soul soothing. We also saw a VW Buzz  in the parking lot with surfboards on top. It looked like they were shooting a commercial or ad. We then visited a few places in Douglas including the Button Gallery and the Douglas Historical Society. I bought a sculptural piece of a swimmer boy at the Button Gallery that I believe will be a great addition to my collection.  There was an interesting life boat exhibit, Man vs. Boat, at the Historical Society. Did you know there were over 30,000 Great Lake disasters that took untold victims between 1850-1900?  We ended up back at Phil's Bar and Grille for dinner and drinks.  Another great day.  I am hoping to get sunset photos tonight.

It's back home tomorrow...

Monday, October 14, 2024

I have recouped from my Hawaii vacay. The six hour time change and a sleepless overnight flight left me feeling like I had a hangover on Thursday. I've also caught up on laundry and housework and am ready to tackle other tasks.  I'd like to spot clean the family room carpet, for example.

Michael and I leave for a few days in Saugatuck tomorrow. I am not sure but I believe this may be a belated birthday getaway, or not.  With temperatures dropping, I am packing long sleeves and long pants for this trip, a big departure from the wardrobe I packed for the Big Island. There will be no photos of me drinking pina coladas poolside.  If I am lucky, maybe drinks fireside?

I am hoping Bern made it home safely. Yesterday's update from him indicated he was sleeping overnight at the Seattle airport waiting for his afternoon flight to Anchorage today.  The trade-off was getting to spend time with his daughter Cat this week. 

I've been working on adding the Big Island trip to my annual photo book. In the process I've realized I missed a few places I visited in the synopsis I posted last week. Like life, it is a work in progress.

Kathy is getting closer to closing on her home. I feel fortunate that she decided to relocate to Ann Arbor. It will be nice to have her close by. 

        Thursday, October 10, 2024

My sister Kathy and I arrived back in Ann Arbor early yesterday morning after a week in Kona, Hawaii with Bern. Our roundtrip journey includes six flights, and nearly 30 hours of air and layover time, crossing six time zones. I learned that Kathy is a wonderful travel companion. And I also learned much about the Big Island from my older brother, Bern, who spent a lot of time there years ago, not only photographing volcanos, but also living in various locations on both the Kona and Hilo coasts of the island. I had not realized the extent of his time there until this trip and was happy to be able to revisit many of his old haunts, which included not only Hawaii Volcanoes National Park, but also a few restaurants (Leungs and Tex Drive-In), and even a small Hilo bookstore called Basically Books. A day by day synopsis of our Big Island adventure follows.

Tuesday, October 1   Ann Arbor>DTW>MSP>KOA>Hilton Waikoloa

My brother, Butch, kindly gave Kathy and I a ride to the airport early Tuesday morning (5:30am) for the first leg of our trip from Detroit to Minneapolis. Believing this might be our only chance to eat, we made a quick stop at the DTW McDonalds before heading to our gate. The two hour flight to MSP was on-time and we easily made it to the gate for the longest leg of our journey to Honolulu. Much to my surprise, the 8.5 hour flight to HNL included two meals and free alcoholic beverages. I had a window seat, which is unusual for me, and enjoyed the views below of  fields and mountains, and found the moment we left the California coast for the flight over the Pacific Ocean somewhat moving.  I then experienced a nostalgic rush when the flight flew over Oahu before landing at HNL, as I recognized many familiar landmarks from the terrain below.  Upon arrival at HNL, Kathy and I made the long trek to the Inter-island terminal for our 46 minute Hawaiian air flight to KOA. It was a relief to finally land in Kona around 5:30pm, nearly 18 hours after leaving the house in Ann Arbor.  

By the time we picked up the rental car and drove north to Hilton Waikaloa Village, it was dark. After checking in and getting settled in our Palace Tower room, we ventured out to the nearby Nui Italian Restaurant for drinks and a shared appetizer. This restaurant was part of the resort's food venues and became our go-to spot for the remainder of our stay at the Hilton Waikoloa.

Wednesday, October 2  KOA>Kailua-Kona

I started my day with an early morning walk around the perimeter of the resort. This became my morning routine. The mileage was under two miles and enough to satisfy my need for exercise. It was always dark when I left our hotel room, which spooked me a little, so I used the time while walking to call Michael.  I figured if I got jumped, he could call 911 for me. 

After my walk, Kathy and I headed back to KOA to pick up Bern, who was arriving from Anchorage, and then we stopped for plate lunches at L&L Barbecue. We also went to Walmart to pick up drinks and snacks. We then headed back to the Hilton so Bern could get checked in. 

We all chilled in our rooms for a while before heading to Nui Italian for a pizza and drinks. We discussed plans for Thursday's trip to Hawaii Volcanoes National Park. Bern mapped out what he called the southern loop, which included stops at the Park and then Hilo for a late lunch at Leungs.

Thursday, October 3  Hawaii Vocanoes National Park>Hilo

The southern loop took us on a scenic winding road along the coastline on the Kona side that curved around the southern tip of the island and then up towards the entrance to the Park. We stopped briefly at Punalu'u Bakery, which advertises itself as the southernmost bakery in the USA, for malasadas and a coconut turnover. Then it was off to look at volcanic formations. 

We started by stopping at the Killauea Visitor Center, where of course Kathy and I got our national park stamps and stickers. We then went to Volcano House, which overlooks Halema'uma'u Crater in the Kilauea caldera. The Volcano Park Art Center Gallery was next, where I purchased a basalt and agate bracelet. Bern then directed us to Crater Rim Drive/Chain of Craters Road, which has some lovely wooded areas before eventually opening up to sweeping vistas of mountain slopes and the ocean in the distance.  We stopped to look at one additional crater along the road (Pit Crater?). Unfortunately, due to a lack of parking, we were unable to visit the Thurston Lava Tube, which I imagine would have been fascinating. Along the drive, Bern helpfully provided a running dialogue on past eruptions and descriptions of cones, calderas, and other formations.

After leaving Hawaii Volcanoes National Park, we headed up the coast to Leung's Chop Suey House in Hilo, a favorite eating spot for Bern when he lived in the Hilo area. It's a small older business where you order at the counter, but it did have a few tables if eating in. Kathy and I ordered broccoli beef and rice but I have to admit being impressed by the look of their char sui entree, which Bern seemed to enjoy quite a bit.

We then headed west on the winding and often steep Saddle Road to return to Hilton Waikoloa Village.  Drinks at Nui Italian followed before bedtime.

Friday, October 4    Kailua-Kona

We decided to take it easy today and went to Kailua-Kona. We ate a nice breakfast at Kalikala Cuisine, an outdoor restaurant fronting Kailua Bay. We purchased a few items at a nearby ABC Store. We then walked along the bay. I was reminded by Michael that the swimming portion of the Ironman Triathlon takes place here.

After we returned to the hotel, Kathy and I relaxed for a few hours and enjoyed pina coladas at the resort's Kohala Pool.  That evening, we all went to Queen's Marketplace and ate dinner in the foodcourt, followed by a little shopping. And me pondering whether Michael was a medium or a large at Vintage Tees.

Saturday, October 5   Hilo

After breakfast at A-Bay's Island Grill in Waikoloa's King's Marketplace, our Saturday travels took us up the steep winding Mauna Kea Access Drive to the Mauna Kea Visitor Center.  We were treated with impressive views and much cooler temperatures. There is still debris at the base of the access drive from the Thirty Meter Telescope protests that took place from 2014-2020. Interestingly, the TMT was never built. Construction was halted by the onset of the Covid 19 pandemic and never resumed.

From there we headed to Basically Books in Hilo, another one of Bern's favorite places. It is a small well-stocked bookstore. I purchased a cute gecko children's book for Porter. 

We then headed north along the coast to eat a late lunch at Tex Drive-In in Honokaa, which advertises its world famous malasadas and "ono kine" food. Kathy and I could have easily shared a hamburger, as they were huge.

After lunch, we headed back to the Hilton, with a stop at the Waikoloa Petroglyph Reserve which abutted a nearby golf course. After traversing a rocky volcanic rock path in search of petroglyphs, we discovered that there were several that could be easily accessed from the golf cart pathway next to the Reserve. 

Saturday evening found us once again at Nui Italian for drinks and an appetizer.

Sunday, October 6  Pololu Valley Lookout >Waimea

On Sunday, we traveled north on what Bern labeled the northern loop which started on the west coast of the Big Island and looped back to the Hilton Waikoloa on a mountainy road that passed through the town of Waimea. 

Our first stop was the Pu'ukohola Heiau National Historic Site, where you found Kathy and me adding more stamps and stickers to our collection. I braved the heat, and walked up the trail to the heiau, which is very impressive. This site was built by Kamehameha in 1790-1791 and is considered a sacred site.  Workers formed a 20-mile human chain to transport the rocks hand to hand from the seaside valley of Pololu.  

We then proceeded to Hawi, where we unfortunately somehow missed the historic art district described in the tour book. From there, our drive took us to Pololu Valley Lookout which had some amazing views of the coastline below.

From Hawi, we drove south on the scenic Kohala Mountain Road to Waimea. We pulled over a few times to admire and photograph the breath-taking views of the terrain both below and above us.  

We stopped at Longs when we reached the town of Waimea. Purchases included coffee, macadamia nuts, an eye patch and masks (Bern), and miscellaneous snacks.  We also stopped at a McDonalds for a quick inexpensive lunch.

Later, Kathy and I found ourselves at Nui Italian sharing a pasta dish and enjoying a few tropical drinks, while Bern napped.

Monday, October 7   King's Marketplace, Waikoloa

Kathy and I decided to spend our last day on the Big Island relaxing by the hotel's pool and packing. But first Bern, Kathy, and I headed to A-Bay's Island Grill for a much needed breakfast.  Later back at the hotel, after taking a swim, Kathy and I enjoyed pina coladas poolside.  A girl could get used to this. I believe Bern decided to use his time looking at the hotel's artwork and chilling in his room.

Later, we headed to Fosters, a restaurant in nearby King's Marketplace for our final dinner and drinks on the Big Island. Food was decent but not fantastic. 

Then it was back to our rooms to finalize packing for an early departure the next day.

Tuesday, October 8   KOA>OGG>LAX

Bern, Kathy, and I left the Hilton at 5:30 am and headed to the airport. Kathy dropped Bern and me off at departures with the luggage while she returned the car. We checked in and went through TSA only to discover Bern's flight to Seattle was delayed four hours, meaning he would miss his connection to Anchorage. In a moment of serendipity, he decided to take advantage of the delay to see his daughter Cat for a few days in Seattle before continuing his flight home. Meanwhile, Kathy and I headed to OGG in Kahului, Maui. I had a window seat and enjoyed the views of the islands as we departed the Big Island and landed in Maui. At OGG, we connected to our flight to LAX. We arrived at LAX at 9:06pm and connected to the final leg of our journey to DTW.

Wednesday, October 9  DTW>Ann Arbor

Kathy and I arrived at DTW around 5am.  Butch was there waiting to chauffeur us back to Ann Arbor. Along the way, we stopped for a much needed breakfast at Leo's Coney Island. And this is where this story ends.

A big thanks to my travel mates - Kathy and Bern.  Kathy arranged our hotel accommodations, the car rental, and coordinated with me on flights. And did the bulk of the often stressful driving. She also proved to be a considerate roommate and fun drinking buddy.  Bern mapped out our routes and was an excellent tour guide and informational resource, particularly at Hawaii Volcanoes National Park. I can't forget to thank Butch as well for providing transportation to and from DTW.  All and all, a memorable trip.

Note to Bern and Kathy: Let me know if you have any corrections to my synopsis.

Monday, September 30, 2024

Kathy and I leave for Kona early tomorrow morning. We are meeting Bern there and I am hoping this trip will give him and us an opportunity to revisit some of his old haunts. This is my first trip to the Big Island and I personally am looking forward to visiting Hawaii Volcanoes National Park.  I am sure I will have a lot to talk about over the next week but may delay blogging about it till I return home, as I am not planning on taking my computer with me.

Monday, September 23, 2024

Yesterday morning, I heard a little voice calling grandpa from her bedroom. Porter had just woken up and wanted to come downstairs. I thought it was sweet that she called for one of us instead of her mom or dad. She called, I answered.

Before heading back to Ann Arbor,  we stopped to visit Rose's friend Rachel. She and her husband Tanner recently purchased a building on Western Ave. They live on the second floor and are in the process of renovating the first floor into a suite of offices.  Rachel plans to open a therapy practice in part of the space and rent out the remaining offices for rental income. Rachel is also a very talented quilt maker. And I find it hard not to admire her courage in taking on this new venture. She is a special woman.

I had my first dental appointment with a dentist at the practice I have been going to for years - I can't see the dentist I used to see because he doesn't accept my insurance. Big sigh. The new guy seems nice but has already targeted three teeth for restoration. Nearly $4,000 in dental work is in my future. Big, big sigh.

Michael and I transferred the title to our 2010 Honda Fit back into our names today. Fortunately, the process at the Secretary of State went smoothly.

Sunday, September 22, 2024

Yesterday, while Porter, Rose, and I headed to a nearby playground/park, Sean and Michael worked on their yard.  They accomplished quite a bit and I believe once Sean gets the stones he wants along his fence lines put in, it will much easier for him and Rose to maintain their yard in the future. A good thing, as I sense yard work isn't really their forte.

The Byron Street block party was also yesterday. With the street closed off, kids either played in the jump house, rode their bikes up and down the empty street, or played impromptu games of soccer. Families set up tables, chairs, and barbecues in front of their houses. And as the day progressed into evening, the music got louder, along with a party atmosphere.  A petting zoo that included pony rides up and down the street was part of the block party activities and their trailer was parked in the street in front of us. It was funny to look up and see a small white horse grazing in the grass strip just feet away from where we were sitting.

Quite a few of Sean and Rose's neighbors are Mexican Americans and one home had not only an elaborate bar set up in front of their home, but also a live band once it got dark. Michael and I walked down to enjoy their music and soon found ourselves offered drinks and a place to sit with their family and friends. And when the dancing began, even Michael got up to show off his moves. I was moved by not only their generosity but also by how welcoming they were to include a couple of old non-Mexican strangers from Michigan in their family gathering. It reminded me of the local family gatherings, I'd often see at the parks and beaches in Hawaii.

We return to Ann Arbor today, grateful not only for a weekend with Porter, Sean, and Rose, but also grateful for the inclusion we felt from their neighbors this weekend.  

Friday, September 20, 2024

Fortunately, the drive to Chicago was uneventful yesterday. There were a few areas where traffic was slow or backed up, but nothing out of the ordinary. Porter was excited to see us when she got home from daycare. She was a nonstop whirlwind of activity.  And again this morning, she seemed pleased to have dedicated adult attention. She did, however, put up quite a fuss when asked to get dressed to go to childcare. I quietly excused myself.

I walked with Rose to a coffee shop after Sean and Porter left to get in some much needed exercise. Michael has been working in their backyard all morning. It's shaping up to be another summery day.  

This afternoon, Michael and I accompanied Sean to the DMV to transfer the title to our 2020 Fit to him. I was mentally prepared for long lines and potential roadblocks, but it went surprisingly well. It helped that we had all the docs required. One thing that surprised me was that Sean was never asked for proof of insurance. Sean also finally received the title to  the 2010 Honda, which we will need to transfer that car to us. So a few more things to check off our to-do lists.

We all headed to Sutherlands, a sports bar on Irving Park Rd, for dinner this evening after picking Porter up from daycare. Tete had painted her fingernails and toe nails a deep pink color and she was in high spirits. At about 6pm, if you happened to see a 74 year-old woman and a 3 year-old girl holding hands and dancing their way down the sidewalk on Irving Park Rd, singing let's do the monster mash off key, that was us.

Wednesday, September 18, 2024

Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I'm seventy-four?

I walked through County Farm Park this morning, before going to the rec building to work out. It's been a while since I've walked in this park, but when I lived in the neighborhood south of the park, I walked there often. And while this park is very familiar to me, I noticed this morning it felt somehow different. Perhaps the trees are taller? There are certainly more pathways than there were years ago. But I appreciated my walk very much. Other than a few dog walkers, the park was deserted. The sun was still low in the sky creating a dramatic glow on treetops and pathways. There was also a mist hanging over lower areas. The dahlias and sunflowers in the community gardens were in full bloom. Their colors were quite vivid against the early morning's half light. And of course, I paused to take a few photos. I am disappointed in myself, however, for allowing unease to prevent me from walking the path through the woods - as if invisible dangers lurked there. I am sure there is a phobia with a scientific word to describe my cautious feelings.  And I am suddenly reminded of one of my favorite children's songs.  I am thinking that perhaps if had thought of this song earlier, I could have sung it in my head and it would have provided some levity to my fears.

If you go down in the woods today
You're sure of a big surprise
If you go down in the woods today
You'd better go in disguise!
For every bear that ever there was will gather there for certain
Because today's the day the Teddy Bears have their picnic

My birthday plans today include going to downtown Ann Arbor this afternoon for some window shopping and a visit to UMMA. I also made reservations at Knights Downtown for dinner.  And drinks, of course! 

Tuesday, September 17, 2024

I enjoyed some moments on the river today. Michael and I took both a paddleboard and a raft to Bandemere Park. I floated and Michael paddled on Argo Pond. We also tried a few of the upper rapids at the Argo Cascades. I am glad we took advantage of  one of the last warm days left as summer officially ends on Sunday.

Following our river adventure, we stopped at the Northside Grill for an early birthday lunch, courtesy of Jim, the owner and also a friend.  All and all, a nice day!

Monday, September 16, 2024

Our summery weather continues and as I type this, I am listening to the birds chirping away in the backyard.

Michael and I head to Chicago on Thursday to visit our Chicago family. I've enjoyed the recent photos and videos of Porter that Sean and Rose have shared. She is quickly turning into a little girl and as Sean pointed out yesterday, is now one of the older kids at childcare. It looks like the childcare teachers (I am not sure what they are called) have been giving her more responsibility, which is probably a good thing.

Joe sent Butch and me a heads up on us possibly being able to see the Northern Lights early this morning. I set my alarm and went out between 2 and 3 am this morning and realized between the bright  moonlight and streetlight glare, it was a bust. If I could have been assured they were visible in this area, I would have considered driving somewhere darker.  

I was thinking about how many names my brother Butch has. Butch is a nickname, so he has his "real" name. And he also has two Facebook aliases with fake birthdates that I get birthday reminders for. I believe their purpose was to cut down on spam.  I am not sure how that has worked out for him.

And just because I like finding quotes about things I write about, here's one about aliases.  "And once again I think about how people use the devil as an alias for the things they fear. The cause and effect is backward. The devil doesn't make anyone do anything. People just do things and blame the devil after." ~ David Levithan

Wednesday, September 11, 2024

Twenty-three years ago...  I had hoped that I had written something about my feelings on 9/11 that I could share but my musings only go back to 2004.  I recall mostly worrying about Sean who was going to art school in downtown Chicago when this event happened.

i washed ceramic pots today for storage in the garage. I also brought in five plants, half of the plants I plan to move into the house. The weather continues to be mild so I am not feeling any urgency.

I scheduled both a covid and a flu vaccine for tomorrow morning at CVS. One more thing to check off  my to-do list before traveling in a few weeks. I'd prefer to go to Michigan Medicine but they haven't started offering vaccine clinics yet. 

Even the smallest act of service, the simplest act of kindness, is a way to honor those we lost, a way to reclaim that spirit of unity that followed 9/11. President Obama in a 2011 radio address

Tuesday, September 10, 2024

I spent a few hours this afternoon prepping the outdoor plants for their transition into the house before the first frost. This including spraying all leaf surfaces with Neem Oil, which is an insecticide. I also soaked the soil in the pots with a mixture of hydrogen peroxide and water. Hopefully these measures will eliminate contaminating the plants currently in the house with bugs.  I still need to wash the ceramic pots - some will come in the house but the larger ones will be stored in the garage.

I ordered the $5 meal deal at the McDonalds on Michigan and Carpenter yesterday after my shopping spree at Sam's Club, and noticed I was  charged $5.59 for it - with tax I think my bill was $5.93. I guess it makes sense that franchisees can charge what they want but it was still listed on the menu as the $5 meal deal, which seems a little contrary.

Today, I went to Kohl's to pick up leggings I ordered and noticed that the former TGIF's is being remodeled to be a Culver's. We enjoy eating at Culver's when we visit the Chicago Doves so are happy with this addition to the many Ann Arbor eating locales.  Butter burger anyone?

We head to Chicago next week Thursday. I am looking forward to seeing everyone. Their neighborhood block party is on Saturday, which should be fun.

Sunday, September 8, 2024

It is noon and I find myself looking for something to do, and hate that most of the activities I've come up with are housework related. Like cleaning baseboards or kitchen cabinet fronts. Activities so far today include: cleaning kitty litter, making bed, baking banana muffines, cooking breakfast, washing dishes and kitchen counters, sweeping kitchen floor, tidying up hall closet, and taking out the garbage. I suppose I could make more beaded bracelets, but there doesn't seem to be much point, as they have no future beyond joining the others I have amassed in a box. I have two bracelets I need to finish so I guess I'll direct my efforts there. Sigh...

It is now 7:30pm. I ended up making inari with some rice Michael prepared a few days ago. Then at 4 pm, Michael and I met with Angie, Kathy's real estate agent, to look at a few homes in the neighborhood. Which turned out to be fun by the way. One of the two houses looks promising.

Thursday, September 5, 2024

Michael and I celebrated Dad's birthday a day late at the Evergreen Modern Chinese and Bar on Plymouth Rd.  It was my first time eating there and I think Dad would have approved. I noticed they had both roasted and Beijing duck on their menu. Of note is that Michael ordered a jalapeno beef dish that was so hot even he, who loves hot food, had trouble eating it.

The rec building reopened yesterday and I smiled when I walked in to find Butch chatting with Tom at the reception desk, just like old times. And not a surprise, the weight room was populated by a lot of familiar faces.  My MWF routine faces its first challenge tomorrow morning as I have a mammogram scheduled. It did occur to me that I could wear my gym clothes to my mammogram and head over to the rec building afterwards. I'll see how I feel tomorrow morning.

What I thought was leftover sloppy joes in my freezer turned out to spaghetti sauce. The label had fallen off. So last night's dinner was a hot dog bun with sauce on it. Guess who is planning to cook pasta later today. 

Today is our last warmish day before cooler weather prevails this weekend. My chair, a cold beverage, and my Kindle await. Until Michael suggested going paddling. We headed to Argo and paddled for about 45 minutes. It was nice to be out on the river and as an added bonus I saw herons along the shore line.

Monday, September 2, 2024

Dad would have been 96 today. And I feel like I should eat Chinese food for dinner tonight, as we normally went to a Chinese restaurant to celebrate his birthday. Something I have another 4-5 hours to think about. And also, does take-out count?  And then there is this - Michael has a lot of weird food rules and I believe one of them might be, I don't eat Chinese food on Mondays.  Rain check, Dad?

It was chilly enough this morning that I wore my hoodie when I went out for a walk. Which led to me doing a little reorganization in the family room when I vacuumed today in anticipation of the first frost. I made space for the plants that will be wintering over inside the house.  It's probably time to look for the drip saucers for the pots as well. It's time like this I appreciate that we have a fair amount of natural light coming through the sliding glass doors facing the backyard.  And I always feel a little saddened by the demise of the plants I don't bring in. It would be awesome to have a sunroom.

Sunday, September 1, 2024

Happily we bask in this warm September sun, which illuminates all creatures. -Henry David Thoreau

Today is sunny and cool. I whisper to myself that it is the perfect day for a walk. I was out earlier for about an hour and after the mugginess of last week, the air felt crisp. And to elaborate, I was out enjoying our yard, not walking any distance. Our neighborhood pool closes tomorrow - just one more indication summer is just about over.  And I have mixed fellings as I don't look forward to the months of cold and darkness ahead. But I do enjoy autumn's colors.

The rec building reopens on September 4. It will be good to get back to my routine and start working out in the weight room again. The last time I went was a few days prior to the trip to San Diego.

Ah, birthdays...  I will be 74 years old soon, nearly three quarters of a century. And I am starting to get birthday emails from vendors I have some connection to: Kohls a $5 coupon; Cinemark a free large beverage; and Nike 10% off if I spend $100. I did laugh at Nike's use of the words Sugar Month to describe September in their message to me.  

In early October, I am headed to the Big Island with Kathy and Bern. Bern has spent a lot of time there and his familiarity with the island's geography will be a bonus. I've felt a little bad as I have cut him off a few times on phone calls when he's started to describe in detail a roadway or other part of the island. And I hope he understands that without context on my end, his descriptions are stop making sense moments for me. I purchased a map of the Big Island and am hoping the visual of the map will give me more context and understanding of the information he is so thoughtfully sharing. Hopefully, we will all be in decent shape to get around as I know for myself how easily accidents can happen. And how illness can impact vacation plans (Michael in San Diego comes to mind). 

Happy September!

Friday, August 30, 2024

I've reached the point that I may be throwing in the towel with VitaCheck. I received notification today that my order has been cancelled because I did not submit requested required documentation to them. Documentation has been sent three times to no avail. The incompetency of this company is mind boggling and I see any further action on my part as a futile waste of my time and energy. 

In better news, no suspicious or cancerous lesions were detected during the skin exam today at my dermatology appointment. I did request they freeze off a benign lesion under my right eye. It is red and puffy currently but I expect it will be better in a few days. I also got a recommendation to use CerVe cream for my dry itchy back. Apparently my constant scratching isn't helping. In the appointment summary, the doctor noted: Xerosis with scattered excoriated papules on the upper back. Whatever the hell that is.

I went to Barnes and Noble after my doctor's appointment hoping to find a book on beading that might answer questions I have about finishing a project I am working on using seed beads and very slender cord. Much to my disappointment, they only had three beading books and none addressed my specific issue. So I guess it's back to trying to describe what I want to know to Mr. Google.

I believe we are heading to Paesano's for dinner shortly, which is good because I am hungry. 

Sunday, August 25, 2024

Rose and Sean have many good friends and I love that as a consequence Porter has many non-family adults in her life. Rose posted photos of Porter and her at the beach today with a few girlfriends and I thought how good it is that Porter is comfortable with these wonderful people. To all the Rachels, Hannahs, Taras, and others - a big thank you for including Porter in your lives.

I am feeling a little greasy after frying pork chops. I guess that's what showers are for.

I was speaking to Bern a few days ago and had to smile when the conversation turned to people's perceptions of their own intelligence. The premise was that many less intelligent folks tended to perceive that they are more intelligent than they actually are. Most intelligent folks are more perceptive of what they do not know and may even have self doubts about their intelligence level.   Enough said, as I am aware that growing up my brother was always thought of as being the smart one.

Ann Arbor schools begin classes tomorrow. A sure sign that the summer season is coming to an end. Have I mentioned how much I hate winter?

Summer has always been good to me, even the bittersweet end, with the slanted yellow light. - Paul Monet

Wednesday, August 21, 2024

I have been trying to get a birth document from North Carolina Vital Records and was directed to use a company called VitaCheck. I submitted an application, the identification docs listed on the application, and payment in early June. I received an email in mid-July requesting additional documentation. I immediately faxed them. I received a second email request a few weeks later for the same docs. I called and there was no record of my first fax. I faxed the docs again and also noted that around this time they cashed my check. I heard nothing, however, and called them again last week only to be told my faxed docs were still not received. The representative suggested I use a different fax number and so once again I faxed docs to them. I finally received an email yesterday advising me they submitted my application and docs to North Carolina Vital Records, who normally need 134-139 days to process an order. What the hell!!  I am not holding breath and am glad there was no urgency for this record. The inefficiency of this company astounds me. I could have driven to North Carolina in far less time than this company has taken.

It continues to be coolish here. I wore a hoodie this morning when I went out to walk. Temps were only in the 50's.

I went to Michael's today and purchased some slender cord in hopes I can finally string my bugle beads. Fingers crossed.

Tuesday, August 20, 2024

Michael retested this morning. The line indicating the test was positive for Covid was very faint. Which I've read is a good sign as it means the virus is diminishing. So hopefully only one more day?  But still disappointing.

I purchased some beading needles hoping I would be able to string bugle beads on some small gauge cord I have in my beading supplies. It was a no go and I find myself baffled on how the person who made the bracelet i purchased in San Diego at the farmer's market strung the beads on the cord - same beads and same gauge cord.  Back to googling and watching YouTube videos.

It's surprisingly cool today - it feels more like mid-September than mid-August.  I am a summer person and am not ready for the inevitableness of winter.  More complaining about cold is on the horizon.

I made a few salads today using garden fresh ingredients. A neighbor left a basket of potatoes to share in front of their home.  I am looking forward to eating the potatoes combined with banana peppers from our garden plus thinly sliced red onion mixed with a little mayo and cayenne pepper.  I also combined store bought steamed broccoli with a fresh tomato and red onion for another salad - one Michael's mother used to make. Just one of many recipes passed on to me when I married Michael.

And just a reflection on seeing a post on Facebook of me in a bathing suit. I have mixed feelings. I look rubenesque and appear to have a waist but still it is more exposure than I am comfortable with.  I know, I know, get over it.

Sunday, August 18, 2024

I've stayed close to home the past few days as a precaution. After three negative Covid tests, however, I plan to do some much needed grocery shopping today. The last test was this morning. I am hoping Michael will self test today to see if he is in the clear. It's been five days since he tested positive.  There is an irony knowing that if I had been exposed to a different virus, I would have gone out before now.

And a few observations on this past week, in no special order. 

• Art and Marie have a catio for their two cats. There was a cat door from their back entrance to a large caged-in area on the back of their home. A good solution if you want to keep your outdoor cats secure when you are not home.  

• When we visited Kathy, Porter was in her pool non-stop. Not so on this trip. She would sit on the outside of the rental's pool but refused to go in.  I found this puzzling, especially because she seemed to enjoy playing in the waves at La Jolla Shores Beach. The ocean being a far more active body of water than a pool.

• I find the bag check-in process at the airport far more time consuming and far less efficient than it was ten years ago. It seems like if you are self tagging and sometimes weighing your own bag, you should also be able to just drop the bag in a secure location instead of standing in a long line to pass it off to an agent. 

• I was surprised that despite eating far more than normal and exercising far less on the San Diego trip, I weighed the same when we returned. That almost never happens. 

I've been having trouble falling asleep since returning from San Diego. I am guessing the three hour time difference may be the culprit. Although it was the norm for me to wake up at 4am when I was there, so I don't know what the problem is.  I also have been having weird dreams - the kind where you worry you are going to be late for something.  Hopefully sleep patterns normalize soon.

Friday, August 16, 2024

We returned from San Diego last night.  I had a lovely time with Sean, Rose, and Porter. Unfortunately for Michael, two days into our trip, he tested positive for Covid. Here's a brief synopsis of our time in San Diego.

Michael and I met Sean, Rose, and Porter at the San Diego airport Sunday afternoon. After picking up our rental car (a Ford Escape) at Alamo, we headed to our airbnb in Chula Vista. The home we were staying at had a beautiful backyard.  In addition to a pool, which we did take advantage of, there was also a sauna and hot tub. The backyard had an expanse of lawn surrounded by palm trees, citrus trees, and hundreds of tropical plants and flowers. It was the perfect spot to sit and watch the butterflies flitting about and the occasional hummingbird. Ruthann and Frank were welcoming hosts and tried to make sure we were comfortable. We also became quickly acquainted with their two friendly Boston Terriers, Lucy and Lucky, that spent hours running around the yard and wrestling. 

After getting settled in, Sunday evening we ate dinner at an Italian restaurant not far from our rental that Ruthann recommended. The restaurant was, how shall I put it, adequate. And we left with the first of the several leftovers that filled our refrigerator over the next few days.

On Monday morning, we headed to La Jolla Shores Beach with towels, beach chairs, sand toys, and a boogie board provided by the airbnb. Michael had a great time out on the waves. And we gently coaxed Porter into playing in the water along the shoreline. Michael's love for the Pacific Ocean and California is apparent.  

Monday evening, we went to Michael's calabash cousin Art's home. He and his wife Maria prepared delicious mahi mahi tacos, rice, beans, salsa, and guacamole for dinner. Michael's and Art's parents and aunt were close friends when Michael was growing up and considered each other family. Art designs and builds guitars and gave us a tour of his workshop, which was of special interest to Michael. Maria works for a law firm in nearby downtown San Diego. I experienced a little artisitic envy when I discovered she also makes quilts. I really need to take a quilting class. They live in a cozy and inviting 100 year-old bungalow style home.

Tuesday morning we explored the San Diego Zoo. Zoos are not Michael's forte, but he gamely joined us on this expedition. We rode the aerial tram to the far end of the zoo and worked our way back to the exit. It was midday and many of the animals were sheltering out the sun, but it was still nice walking by their exhibits and looking for them. Following the zoo, we stopped at a Mexican restaurant for lunch. Portions were large and more leftovers were added to the airbnb's refrigerator upon our return. It was at this point Michael mentioned he was not feeling well.  He went to bed while we enjoyed the pool. We made a small dent in our leftovers for dinner.

Wednesday morning, we went to Rite Aid for Covid tests. Michael's test result was positive. After some discussion about what to do, Michael isolated in the rental's bedroom until our flight Thursday morning. By this time, he was feverish and miserable anyway. Sean, Rose, Porter, and I headed to downtown San Diego. We took advantage of Maria's offer to validate our parking in her office building and walked to a small street fair in Little Italy. My only purchase was a $5 beaded bracelet that had a slip closure I'd like to learn how to do. Rose found a few small gift items for her friends. We then headed to Waterfront Park. I walked down to the Star of India, which was docked across from the park and took a few photos. The Star of India is an iron-hulled sailing ship, built in 1863. Its mast and sails are impressive. It currently houses the Maritime Museum of San Diego, which in retrospect I wish I had visited.  Porter enjoyed running around the park.

On the way back to our rental, we stopped at L&L Hawaiian Barbecue for take-out and bought way too much food. It was delicious and as I bit into my barbecue beef and mac salad, I am sure I sighed in contentment. I also deeply regret that Michael was too sick to enjoy the plate lunch I purchased for him. More leftovers to add to the refrigerator.

Then it was time to pack in preparation for our departure the next day. Thursday morning, Sean put gas in the car rental and we headed to the airport. The car return went smoothly and we split up to head to our respective terminals (Delta and Southwest are at different terminals).  Saying our goodbyes was bittersweet. Michael, double-masked and feeling tired and achy, braved the crowds at the baggage check and TSA. Our flight was delayed about an hour, then it was back to Detroit. Butch picked us up at the airport and Michael, grateful to be home, fell in bed. 

And no surprise, I tackled some cat clean-up issues and began the unpacking process.  Today I did laundry and a few other household chores.  Kali, unsurprisingly, has been closely attached to me since my return. I excused myself from going to the rec building this morning, which I just remembered will be closed the next few weeks for annual maintenance.  This will be a test of how disciplined I am. I am confident I will get some walks in or ride our indoor bike. But will I pick up the hand weights in the basement?

Friday, August 9, 2024

Michael and I went to Zingerman's Roadhouse for dinner tonight. Marcus, our wait person, was pretty great. This very personable guy informed us that you can get refills on mashed potatoes. Yes, please. But I do find it interesting that in all the years I have eaten at Zingerman's, he is the first wait person to mention this tidbit of information. He also gave me mashed potatoes to go. I left with my take out container and a smile on my face.

Thursday, August 8, 2024

I lost my mother ten years ago today. The Livonia Big Boys was a frequent lunch spot when I used to visit her. Today, with that in mind, Michael and I went to Big Boys for lunch. I didn't realize how much seeing her empty seat would impact me. I thought I was all cried out but I ended up excusing myself from the table to cry in the restroom. Grief is grief. It may lessen but it never goes away completely. My love to you, Mom. You were a good kind person who always put the needs of others ahead of your own. I feel lucky to have had you in my life  for so many years.

By the way, we drove by Angela Hospice on our way to the restaurant. And memories of the day she died came rushing back to me. Hearing mom's last breath will stay with me for the rest of my life.

Wednesday, August 7, 2024

Be still my heart. I Facetimed with Sean and Rose last night to discuss a few trip logistics. Porter, upon hearing my voice, yelled Grandpa from across the room, and rushed to the screen to show me her new bathing suit and share news about what she was eating and more. She also asked where her other Grandpa was much to Michael's delight. And she told me she wants to come to my house. I asked her out of curiousity what her mom's name was and she confidently responded Chilli (which is Bluey's mother's name). She then corrected to Rose but it did give us all a laugh. Do we all start calling Rose Chilli and Sean Bandit?

I discovered there is an L&L Hawaiian BBQ restaurant in Chula Vista, about five miles from our Airbnb. Definitely worth a visit!

I have an RSVP to the Harris/Walz rally today in Romulus but will be taking a pass - with a trip coming up and a few days, I'm a little leary of big crowds. But I suspect it would be interesting to attend.

The San Diego trip is the first trip I am embarking on that I need to consider transporting my injectable medication. I bought an insulated container with a small gel pack to keep the syringe cool but have subsequently read that it can be unrefrigerated for up to  21 days as long as it's kept in a cool location. So to save on space, I may just pad the syringe and carry it in my carry-on.  I'll save the insulated container for road trips in which my meds have the danger of being left in a hot car.

Monday, August 5, 2024

We head to San Diego on Sunday and I feel like I am in a holding pattern. I am delaying some household chores like watering the indoor plants. Grocery shopping can wait until we get back but I still find myself wanting to go to the store. And as I think about the logistics of traveling with another group and leaving from different cities, I wonder if for future joint trips it makes sense for one group to drive to the other city and all leave from there. The joys of overthinking.

I've been crisscrossing neighborhood streets while out walking looking at houses and speculating if I believe Kathy would be comfortable living in a particular house style and/or size. It's an amusing exercise as there are houses I'd be okay with that I say no to for my sister. Like I think she would want something more modern or larger. By the way, none of these houses are actually for sale.

Kathy extended an open invitation to her home at Thanksgiving and  Christmas. Michael and I decided to visit Thanksgiving week. We have no one these days but each other on Thanksgiving so going somewhere seems to make sense. The big family Thanksgivings of yesterday died with my parents. 

Which reminds me, the anniversary of Mom's death is on Thursday. I'd like to eat lunch at the Big Boy's I used to frequent with her. It's perhaps a strange way to remember her but it brings me some comfort and it's something I've done the past two years.  I guess I am still feeling my way after her loss. She will always be Mom.

Wednesday, July 31, 2024

Per Dr Cooper, "Make sure to stay hydrated, limit sodium in your diet, and avoid NSAID medications."  So my insticts that increasing my water intake might help with my kidney function issue were correct. So basically carry on and drink more water. I have to admit that addressing my ongoing health issues is hard work. It's not just a physical effort, it is also a mental game. There are many mornings I have to put on my walking shoes and push myself out the door. And that will never change.

I spent a few hours at the pool today. A 4 year old approached me and as I made small talk with him, his mother informed me that he was deaf, which explains why he didn't respomd, but also why she signs to him. It's also renewed my interest in taking ASL clasees. I continue to be impressed by kids I encounter. Today, a young man explained why life is really a simulation to Michael and I at the pool and he made sense. I later learned he was only eleven years old. 

I'm taking more and more breaks from watching the Olympics. When I found myself semi-accurately guessing gymnists' scores, I knew it was time to move on to something else.

Tuesday, July 30, 2024

My a1C dropped to 6.2, which I am happy about, but conversely my kidney function has also decreased and is now slightly below normal. Not a good trade-off in my view. My doctor hasn't contacted me yet so I do not know what next steps are. I am secretly hoping that perhaps increasing my water intake may help as I've read that dehydration can be a side effect of Mounjaro, which impacts kidney function.

Porter took my frog beanie baby home with her after their visit earlier this month. She renamed it Froggie. I happened to see directions on-line for making jumping seed bead frogs and made one yesterday, thinking Porter would get a kick out of it.. Alas, my little bead froggie is cute but does not jump, which is disappointing. And as an aside, seed beads are hard to find when they fall in carpeting.

I am still making my "word" bead bracelets - the last batch are Hawaii related and include SHAVE ICE, ALOHA, and DA KINE. I am thinking MALASADA might also be cute.

I'd like to visit the Harris campaign office to see if I can score a campaign sticker or something.  I would love to hear her addressed as Madame President in 2025. I dread the alternative.

Thursday, July 25, 2024

You never know what you might find in the fridge. I discovered a couple of Nutty Buddys today and thought I had won the lottery.  

I've enjoyed watching the sparrows raise their little chicks in one of our birdhouses for the past 2-3 months and realized they moved out a few days ago. I already feel their loss. Maybe one of their children will move back next year. Is that a thing?

I plan to get my a1C checked tomorrow. It would be nice to know if and how much an impact Mounjaro is having on my numbers.  I've also come to realize that I measure weight loss in ounces not pounds these days. And I am falling into an old pattern in my thinking. The if I only lost X number of pounds, I'd be satisfied. And I realize how unhealthy it is. I wish I could embrace acceptance.

Wednesday, July 24, 2024

I think Michael and I may have set a speed record at Ikea today. Just saying. And of course, we stopped at Arby's on our way home and I have four classic roast beef sandwiches in the freezer for future meals. It gives me some pleasure knowing they are there. A bit perverse maybe, but I like planning ahead.

Today's Mounjaro injection was wince-worthy. It hurt and bled so I can't help but wonder if I hit a sensitive spot. I notice sometimes finger pricks vary in how much they hurt and/or bleed. I guess being a diabetic means being a bit of a masochist as well.

And I rather like this quote by John Muir.  The world is big and I want to have a good look at it before it gets dark.  Another reminder about our mortality.

Sunday, July 21, 2024

There have been moments in my life that have touched my soul. Standing on the edge of a foggy field immersed in mist. Watching the sun rise on the rim of a canyon. Standing on rocky cliffs overlooking the ocean as waves pound below. The view from above the clouds at the top of Haleakala. Sean and Rose's marriage. Holding Porter for the very first time. And maybe even everytime Porter climbs onto my lap looking for comfort. And I also remember the feeling I get sitting in the car on road trips, watching the scenery whizz by. I've come to look for America.

I went to a few open houses today.  I only visited one house I felt Kathy might like. I have to admit I would love it if she was able to find a home within walking distance of mine. Selfish, I know. But it would be nice.

Saturday, July 20, 2024

 It would be interesting to hear Donna's take on being the youngest family member and last to leave the nest.  I asked, Donna answered, and it wasn't pretty. If I could change the past I would. Her story is not mine to tell but I am sorry for the scars she still carries from treatment she received as a young person in the Pedit household. 

I went to the Ann Arbor Art Fair yesterday with Michael. We took advantage of the bus sytem being offered to and from the fairs from Briarwood Mall so had no art fair traffic and parking hassles. I enjoyed walking through the maize of booths and looking at the creative efforts of the many artists enduring three days of heat and crowds to display and sell their work.  A bit of sensory overload but in a good way. Despite seeing a few ceramic pieces I liked, I didn't buy anything this year. Something I may regret later but as weird as this sounds, I just wasn't in a buying mood.  Michael and I treated ourselves to a late lunch and drinks at Red Hawk - a nice air conditioned oasis after two hours of walking in the hot sun. 

Today I am catching up on laundry and a few other house chores. One load done and folded, two more in queue. It's pretty much a typical Saturday.

Wednesday, July 17, 2024

I did it, I ordered a new watch. I'll blame it on the voices I kept hearing saying, just do it.  And I am not talking about Nike.

Michael purchased a new battery powered lawn mower today. And he turned to me and said, "Now you can mow the lawn."  Woohoo...

I've gotten it into my head that I want to plant zinnias. I doubt I'll find flats at this late stage but I'm sure there are still seed packs available. I actually did some weeding today. The weeds are still winning despite my efforts.  I also swore at the beginning of summer that I was going to dig up a rose bush (more like one little twig on a trunk) if it didn't bloom this year. It has not bloomed in the two years and only has a few leaves due to pests. It is now in a pot and I am undecided on its fate. It's the school of hard knocks.

Tuesday, July 16, 2024

Kathy left this morning and as is my nature when company leaves, the towels are being laundered and the vacuum cleaner is ready for use as soon as Michael finishes watching today's stage of the Tour de France.

I am having a moment of indecision. I've talked about replacing my Apple watch. It's an older Series 3 model that has no trade-in value but still gets the job done. My only issue with it is its waning battery life. And I have always been frugal when it comes to cars, appliances, and other devices; normally replacing items only when they are no longer serviceable.  I believe growing up poor has something to do with this mentality. It feels self-indulgent. However,  it's Amazon Prime days, and I can get a SE model for a decently discounted price.  What to do, what to do?

Monday, July 15, 2024

Kathy and I went to visit Dad's grave today at the Great Lakes National Cemetery. We said hello, in the way many address a deceased loved one in their final resting space, and took a few photos, as perhaps proof of our visit. Following our visit we stopped at Mike's Coney Island in Holly for dogs and onion rings. It was quite satisfying.  As it turns out, the laundramat next to the deli is owned by a delightful woman names Betty, who sells tank tops, tee shirts, and sweatshirts screenprinted with a whimsical laundramat themed image. She was out of my size, but Kathy bought one of her shirts.  The next time I am in Holly, I will definitely drop by to see if she has more in stock.

Last night's Dirty Knobs concert with family was fun. We ate dinner prior to the concert in the Motor City Casino's food court. I haven't been to a rock and roll concert in years, and while it may not be my preferred music genre, I enjoyed this event greatly. I also liked the venue and would seriously consider attending another event at this location.

Kathy just gave Kali a good brushing, the last of many while she was here. She returns to Florida tomorrow morning. It was nice to spend time with her and I look forward to her perhaps retiring in the Ann Arbor/Ypsi area next year.

Sunday, July 14, 2024

Yesterday, I had. a nice lunch at Grizzly Peak in Ann Arbor with my two sisters, Kathy and Tricia, and my niece, Elizabeth. It would have been even more special if Donna had been able to join us. It's rare that all four sisiters are in the same place at the same time. Fortunately, we will get another opportunity to get together tonight. Kathy organized an outing for the Pedit siblings to see the Dirty Knobs (who I admittedly had never heard of) at the Sound Board at the Motor City Casino in Detroit. Butch, Jerry, Marilyn, and Tricia's friend Mallory are also attending. Reminder to self to make sure to get photos.

Yesterday's outing with the girls also included a visit to Ideal Body Piercing. Tricia purchased a piece of hoop jewelry for one of her ear piercings. Another discovery in Ann Arbor was a recycle store called Rag Stock. They had several vintage Hawaiian shirts in the $10 range - I recognized many of the brands from my years in Honolulu. I believe Rose would have loved this store. I ended up finding a cute $8 blouse, that I will probably wear to the concert tonight.  Our afternoon out ended with ice cream at Blank Slate Creamery. All and all, an enjoyable afternoon.

It is interesting to see the interplay between Kathy and Tricia. As Kathy pointed out, there is only an 11 month difference in their ages so they were always close growing up. They shared a bedroom and several of the same friends. In some ways, Donna and I are like end pieces.  I am 5+ years older than Kathy and Donna is 7 years younger than Tricia. I was a sometimes second mother/babysitter to my younger siblings so my role in the family was often as an older caregiver, not somone you hung out with. It is also apparent Dad was a bit stricter with me about curfews and dress codes than he was with my younger siblings. It would be interesting so hear Donna's take on being the youngest family member and last to leave the nest.

Friday, July 12, 2024

Kathy arrived from Florida late this afternoon. Butch, April, Michael, Kathy, and I ended up eating dinner at Paesano's, which turned out to be quite nice. We had a large table in their dining room area that was situated by the windows overlooking their outside patio. I haven't been out to dinner with Butch and April since April's surgery more than two months ago, so it was especially nice to see her out and about.

I am also looking forward to spending time with Kathy. She always attracts my other two sisters and Elizabeth when she is here. This amuses me as I certainly don't seem to be much of a draw for anyone. As an example, Tricia is coming by tomorrow morning and there are plans to meet Elizabeth for lunch.  

Thursday, July 11, 2024

The Chicago Doves left about an hour ago. Porter slept in this morning after waking at 4 am yelling, "Dad, Daddy, Dad."  She was hungry. Both Mom and Dad reported for duty. Twenty minutes later, after a snack, she went back to bed and didn't make another appearance for another five hours.  Her parents didn't venture upstairs again for another six hours. I am glad they were able to catch up on some much needed sleep. Porter and I played with her self inking stamps,  colored with chalk, and did other crafts this morning while watching Mickey Mouse Funhouse. And then it was off to the Northside Grill for a late breakfast/early lunch. We also went into downtown Ann Arbor. I visited the Cherry Republic to get salsa, while the rest of the gang browsed the Vault of Midnight.  While it was nice to spend time with Porter, it is also nice to finally have more me time. I plan to get back to my exercise routine starting tomorrow morning.  I am currently washing towels and sheets.

I do need to report a theft , however. It seems that my frog beanie baby returned to Chicago with a certain small person, who named it Froggie. I noticed she slept with it so I guess Froggie is in good hands.

Wednesday, July 10, 2024

One word - rain.  We ended up taking Porter to the downtown branch of the Ann Arbor Library. They have a large salt water fish tank in the children's section and we had fun looking for the clownfish aka Nemo. We also spent about a half hour playing a game on one of the computers. Following the library, we bypassed going to the Northdside Grill to head to McDonalds for chicken nuggets. Guess who picked our lunch spot? That said, I did enjoy my $5 combo. 

We decided to make life easier and ordered pizza for dinner. As I look around my living room, I find myself smiling at Porter's toddler sized table and chairs, her craft supplies and toys, and her potty chair. Life with a little one. I'll miss the Chicago Doves when they leave tomorrow.

Tuesday, July 9, 2024

It's been a long day. I was tasked with putting Porter to bed tomight so Sean and Rose could go to a movie. Her delaying tactics were far more masterful than my feeble attempts to be firm. After reading several books to her, she announced she was hungry. She requested toast, then decided she wanted strawberries. I denied her request for a cookie. We then read another book and I turned off the light and left her room. I just checked the monitor and she is still very much awake. I am feeling a bit inept.

No big activities today. This morning,  Rose went to Starbucks to work. Sean, Porter and I went to Target to pick up a few things, including  a few items for dinner.  And while Porter was napping this afternoon, Sean and I went to Batteries Plus to have a second key made for his old car. While waiting for the key, we went to the Asian Market across the street from the battery store.  I was pleasantly surprised by their produce so was glad I went. Good to know for any quick future veggie needs.  I ended up making spaghetti for dinner.

Tomorrow is their last day in town and we may head out for dinner. Other than that we have no plans. I understand that we will be feeling the effects of Beryl with rain in the forecast, which means it would be nice to find an indoor activity. Guess we'll wait and see.

Monday, July 8, 2024

It was close to 9pm when Sean, Rose, and Porter arrived last night. So last night's dinner became today's taco lunch.  Tonight's dinner of charsui pork, rice, mac salad, and peas is prepped so not too much to do. Porter decorated Sean's birthday cake this morning with sprinkles, M&Ms, and pink candles, of course. She has also managed to eat about half of the M&Ms she put on his cake.

Michael and I took Porter to the petting farm at Domino Farms and she hated it. Aggressive goats at her eye level with evil looking eyes were the first animals she encountered when she entered the barn -and she literally twisted her body in fear and buried her face in the back of her stroller. It was pretty much downhill from there. She kept asking to see the piggies and all they had was a rather large sleeping hog. I am pretty certain she was imagining cute little pink baby piglets. Her most exciting moment was when a large gray cat sauntered by her. Porter apparently is not a farm girl.

We also tried to get her to play in a small pool on our back patio. It was a no go although she played with toys in the water standing on the outside of the pool. And seemed to take much glee in getting us wet.

Saturday, July 6, 2024

Just finished a quick vacuuming of the family room in anticipation of our Chicago family arriving tomorrow - or as Butch calls them, the kids.  Grocery shopping was done yesterday and I'll start prep for a few planned meals Sunday morning. And beds all have fresh linens, so other than bathroom clean-ups,  I think I am set for their arrival.  

Michael and I are entertaining Porter while she is here so Rose and Sean can work. Weather permitting, we plan to take advantage of playgrounds at nearby parks and perhaps taking her to the petting zoo at Domino Farms. We also bought a small pool that is on our back patio she might enjoy splashing around in.

I also made a few upgrades to Porter's room - she now has a new pink comforter and a  primarily pink and grey rug, There is an irony in Porter's current love for the color pink, as I believe her parents tried hard to be gender neutral in making choices for her toys, books, and clothing.

We went to Knights last night for dinner and kudos to our waitress for bringing me a small glass of coke to add to my very strong Long Island. I ordered french onion soup as a starter and quickly realized it was very filling. As a result, I didn't make much progress on my entree, but it does mean I have half a steak and a potato for tonight's dinner.

Sunday, June 30, 2024

I took my first shower in our new walk-in shower today. It was a pleasure to be in such a clean bright space. And Michael is now waivering on the shower glass. He says he is satisfied with using a clear shower curtain. And quite frankly, considering that the shower curtain serves the same function as the glass at far less cost, it is a good option.

I spent the day cleaning, doing laundry, and cooking. Our front room was covered in dust from the bathroom redo. I dusted all surfaces, including the pottery pieces and other display items on shelves. I also rolled up the area rug and damp mopped the floor.  Then vacuumed the rug. The family room was also dusted and vacuumed. And kitchen counters scrubbed. Hopefully this means I am no longer breathing in air-born dust.

I am baffled by a few new pains. I have a bruise on the ball of my left foot - no idea what caused it. And I also have what I guess people call a stitch on my right side where I imagine my appendix is. Going to the rec building tomorrow morning to work out could be uncomfortable. But moving on...

I had a feel good moment today. Sean and I were talking on Facetime, and Porter upon hearing my voice, excitedly yelled Grandpa and immediately ran to the phone to show me her new star stickers and the contents of a goodie bag she got at the Farmer's Market at Portage Park today, which included slime and a lollipop. She also ate a croissant, which she pronounced perfectly. And she has new Minnie Mouse underpants. How could I not smile.  

Saturday, June 29, 2024

With the exception of the shower glass, the bathroom is finished. And it looks nice, perhaps it even looks a little more spacious despite its tiny square footage.  Hopefully, it was money well spent. We were advised to not use it until tomorrow to allow paint and sealant to dry, and grout to set. Until the shower glass is ordered and installed, we'll use a shower curtain as a temporary fix. 

This project was a leap of faith for Michael. He has a hard time hiring strangers to do home projects outside of plumbing and repair work. The last work we did in the house was pulling up our front room rug and having the wood floors refinished. My next project is not that grandiose, We are planning to replace the ceiling fan in our family room with something  more modern looking.

Thursday, June 27, 2024

Today the shower wall tile and bathroom floor tile were installed, but not yet grouted. Bill is still waiting for the shower floor tile to arrive and will then grout everything the same day. The bathroom is looking good so far and I think we will be pleased with the finished result. I am impressed with how hard Bill and Luke work when they are here. Interestingly, Kali seems comfortable with the guys, especially Bill who softly talks to her whenever he sees her. He apparently likes cats. 

Wednesday, June 26, 2024

Bill and Luke seem to know what they are doing. Yes, we found out their names this morning. I laughed that it would have been funny if their names were Bill and Ted, as it does seem like this is an adventure of sorts.  Michael is taking advantage of the dumpster to toss a few bulky items we needed to dispose of.  Kali is stressed, not so much from the presence of strangers in the house, but from the  noise.  She spent a few hours in our bedroom this morning but came out while the guys were at lunch and is with me in the family room currently.

I found myself coughing last night - I believe a reaction to all the dust and plaster particles in the air after the demolition yesterday. The laundry area is covered in dust and small pieces of debris that fell through the flooring as tile was removed from the walls and floor. It was odd to see the bathroom stripped down to the wall studs and rough plank flooring. And I must admit feeling some relief that I did not see water damage or mold. So far today, they have put in the shower pan, prepped the walls for tiling tomorrow, and installed the plumbing for the new shower. 

Tuesday, June 25, 2024

The bath guys (MW Tile Inc) showed up and spent this morning gutting the bathroom.  I realized later that I don't know their names.  Something to find out tomorrow. And there is a dumpster in our driveway. There was a bit of a communication issue, however, as we were supposed to purchase the shower fixtures, sink, faucet,, and other items in advance. So Michael and I made a quick trip to Home Depot and Lowes to pick up the shower fixture, which was essential for the guys to get started on the shower enclosure tomorrow.  We ordered other items on-line, which should be delivered  within the next few days. The installer is taking care of getting the subway tile for the shower enclosure. And we are using leftover tile from Sean's kitchen remodel on the floor. We still need to pick out a toilet, a medicine cabinet, and some towel hooks, so we have our marching orders for the week. And I am sure, there will be items we've forgotten.

Monday, June 24, 2024

Detroit continues to impress me. I am watching tonight's fireworks display on TV and the city skyline and the Ambassador bridge make impressive backdrops. Detroit is undergoing a massive revitalization and has become a destination after years in decline. I am not sure who the credit should go to as I am sure it's been a joint effort, but something is working. 

Temperatures have cooled off considerably. It was downright pleasant today. We spent a few hours at our neighborhood pool. And as always, I am amused by the commentary provided by the kids enjoying the water. 

Michael received notification that the guy doing our bathroom remodel is scheduled to start sometime tomorrow. Michael is feeling some anxiety about the project but I think anytime you hire someone you are taking a leap of faith. And in this case, part of the anxiety is just not knowing exactly how everything works, what the timeline is, etc. But perhaps tomorrow is when this all gets laid out. 

I also purchased a low twin bed frame for the bed in our guest room (aka Porter's room). Assembly required, but unlike most furniture you put together yourself, the holes were not pre-drilled. The box came with pre-cut pieces, instructions, and a bag of different size screws. Michael admitted it was a challenge getting it together. But no more "hippie" mattress-on-the-floor look going forward for this room.  

Our next home project is installing a more modern ceiling family in the family room.

Saturday, June 22, 2024

I just went outside to check on my plants and despite it only being mid-morning, it's hot.

I believe our bathroom remodel starts next week. Michael has already started using the downstairs bathroom for showers, etc. I will probably move my shampoo etc. downstairs sometime this weekend. I have no clue how long the remodel will take.  We picked up floor tiles leftover from Sean's kitchen remodel when we were there this past weekend.  We would like to use white subway tile for the shower enclosure. I am grateful that Michael is taking the lead on this project. He's collected photos and made sketches of what his vision is. 

Today is a big laundry day - I am washing not just sheets and towels but also comforters, and a few other bulky items. I am expecting, of course, needing to run downstairs when the comforters become unbalanced to even out the load.  It's a given - one disadvantage of top loaders.

Wednesday, June 19, 2024

I watched the episode of Bridgerton last night in which Penelope has sex for the first time. And I wondered if the nudity was uncomfortable for her. And then I felt badly about my thoughts because I am aware it's because she doesn't have a body type idealized by media and our society. Body image is something I have struggled with most of my life. It wasn't always easy being short as a teenager. And then later as an adult, feeling embarrassed by the extra pounds I carried on my body. And unfortunately, fat-shaming comments made by complete strangers aren't easily forgotten. I still feel their sting. Anyway, it was good to see that the beautiful actress that plays Penelope is comfortable with herself.

And then there is this comment I tend to agree with. BMI is not totally independent of height and it tends to overestimate obesity among shorter people. My BMI is right on the cusp so hell, yes!

I find myself missing the tiny person I had snuggled against me this past weekend. We had some wonderful conversations as she quizzed me about everthing from why I shower to why I wear glasses. And I loved watching her interact with Michael, Sean, and Rose. On Sunday, for example, I marveled at the dance that took place as Michael tried to coax her to the park's small splash pad. It started with a small cup and and a coffee can of water and evolved into a totally soaked little girl happily splashing by the falling water. A three-year-old's curiosity about life is a wonderful thing to witness. 

Sunday, June 16, 2024 aka Father's Day

I watched Sean patiently sit on a hard wood floor by Porter's side last night as she cried from the discomfort she was experiencing from a bout of constipation. He treated her with respect and compassion, and I thought what a gift it was for me to witness his gentleness and love to his suffering daughter, who is also my grandchild. He is a good, kind man, son, and father. And I can't help but wonder what it might have been like to have been raised by such a man, as I cannot think of a single moment of  compassion from my own father growing up. So warmest Father Day wishes to my son. I am proud of you.

Porter continues to call me grandpa, a name I share with not only Michael but I believe Jackie, as well.  Her circle of love grows. Last night, despite her discomfort, she snuggled against me as we distracted ourselves with non-stop Bluey episodes and the children's aps on my iPad. We  colored, did kitten jig saw puzzles, and played a bird sorting game. She handily using the pink stylus I got for her. Pink is her favorite color, afterall. She finally was able to eat and drink something. It was past her bedtime. And after several delaying tactics, she asked me to read her a few books, one which she described as really big as she lugged it over to me. And then finally, she and Sean headed to her bedroom and sleep.

As always, I am up before everyone else. Listening to the birds sing their dawn chorus. I am not sure what the plans are today but life goes on with its steady cadence.

Saturday, June 15, 2024

Dinner last night with the family was nice. Ironically, I who used to always order my steaks well, but now request medium, was a bit diappointed my steak was on the well side. But all was still enjoyable. 

Today we went to a Zine Sale in Logan Square. I found myself wanting to support these young zine creators and spent all the cash I had in my wallet. We picked up Mexican food on the way home. 

I had planned to make Beachcomber ribs, mac salad, and rice for dinner tonight but it just wasn't meant to be. Porter is miserably constipated, Rose had plans with her friends, and after eating Mexican food mid afternoon, no one is all that hungry. So I am saving it for dinner tomorrow. Which means we will be staying an extra day.

Friday, June 14, 2024

Michael and I are celebrating our 52nd wedding anniversary today. We usually try to go to Saugatuck on our anniversary and enjoy a meal either dockside at the Mermaid Bar and Grill or on the terrace of the Wild Dog in Douglas. This year we opted to go to Chicago to celebrate with a dinner out with Sean, Rose, and Porter. We are going to a restaurant called L. Wood Tap & Pine Lodge. They are located north of Portage Park in Lincolnwood. We went there on a prior trip and thought it was worth another visit.

Fifty-two years is a long time. Most of my life. I met Michael in 1968. I was seventeen when we first started dating. And somehow, here we are, fifty-six years later still dating. The truth is we still enjoy each other's company and still laugh together about the quirkiness of life. If this isn't love, I don't know what is.  Happy Anniversary, love you Dove man.

The sound a heart makes is a kiss.  - By Porter Lannin-Dove

Thursday, June 13, 2024

This is because I am listening to the birds in our backyard...

Oh do you have time to linger for just a little while out of your busy and very important day
for the goldfinches that have gathered in a field of thistles for a musical battle,
to see who can sing the highest note, or the lowest, or the most expressive of mirth, or the most tender?
Their strong, blunt beaks drink the air as they strive melodiously
not for your sake and not for mine and not for the sake of winning but for sheer delight and gratitude –
believe us, they say, it is a serious thing just to be alive on this fresh morning in the broken world.
I beg of you, do not walk by without pausing to attend to this rather ridiculous performance.

It could mean something. It could mean everything.
It could be what Rilke meant, when he wrote: You must change your life.

Mary Oliver, “Invitation,

Wednesday, June 12, 2024

This morning a woman I used to see on a regular basis at the rec building, showed up while I was working out. I had not seen her for about six weeks and was relieved, as I had begun to worry that something had happened to her. It's funny how we develop bonds with people we know from places we frequent - restaurant workers, bankers, store clerks...

I accidently left the sliding glass door to our backyard open and Kali wandered outside. Fortunately, she ran in the house when Michael called out to her. I am reminded of the old saying that curiosity killed the cat and am glad that in this case all's well that ends well.

Tuesday, June 11, 2024

Slowly windows and screens are getting washed. Michael has washed screens and helped clean some outside windows that aren't accessible from the inside. As I age, I can see why some homeowners hire someone to do this chore. 

Temps are supposed to spike into the 90's early next week, so it's nice to have air conditioning in both our house and car. We head to Chicago on Friday, and I am grateful the AC in the car is now operational. I am also looking forward to spending time with Porter. Oh, and Rose and Sean also...

Sunday, June 9, 2024

Yesterday, I washed the two very smudged sliding glass door windows in our family room. And this morning, when a bird slammed into one of the windows, I wondered if there was a connection.  The bird seems to be okay, by the way. Window washing isn't high on my list of chores but I am committed to doing at least one window a day till I'm done. This chore is way past due.

Speaking of birds, the robins that nested above the light on our front porch, had their babies and abandoned the nest. The birdhouse hanging under the front overhang of our garage is still in use. Several, what I believe are wrens, are constantly flying in and out. What I like about them, besides their cuteness factor, is that our presence in the driveway doesn't seem to faze them. They go about their business, we go about ours. These same wrens put nesting materials in a few other birdhouses on the side of the garage but don't seem to be using them. We also have a few birdhouses on our fence that Michael has seen birds enter but I don't know if they are actively being used.

A few days ago, we discovered there is a Ross store on the west side of town. It apparently opened a few months ago. Ross was a favorite shopping stop for Michael and me when we lived in Honolulu. Fifty dollars later, we came home with a kiddie pool, some art supplies, an avocado masher, and a sun hat (for me).  None of these items were on my shopping list.

We plan to head to Chicago next weekend. for our anniversary and Father's Day. I need to ask Butch if if he can check on Kali on Saturday, and maybe Sunday.

Thursday, June 6, 2024

I decided to dig up a big weed in the window well outside the basement egress window and quickly discovered a squirrel corpse that had been in there for some time. I am assuming the squirrel fell through the grating and couldn't get out. It occurred to me that if someone slept in our guest room on a regular basis, they might have noticed the squirrel when it was still alive and saved it. 

Michael took Sean's old car to an auto repair place in our neighborhood to get its non-working AC looked at. Moe added freon and dye. He checked the AC assembly yesterday and sure enough, tiny bubbles were coming out of one of the hoses, indicating a leak. He made some repairs and fingers crossed, the AC is now fixed.

And in housekeeping news, I attached a scrub brush to my little drill, sprinkled Ajax in the tub and now have a clean tub. I am not sure if I'm lazy or a genius.

Tuesday, June 4, 2024

I have a document in google docs that outlines our finances - what accounts we have and where important documents are kept in the event of our death. I was updating the document today and had forgotten the inclusion of this last line.  I said to tell Sean and Porter, to face their fears, accept change, be tolerant, and travel. I believe some good advice from their mom and grandma.

I like watching Kali sit at the sliding doors to our backyard taking in the sounds, smells, and sights outside. I always wonder what is capturing her attention. 

I went to a sewing class tonight and managed to finish my pajama pants. I haven't decided yet if I'll go to my Thursday class.

Sunday, June 2, 2024

You know that headachy, queasy feeling you have when you are hungover? That's how I felt yesterday despite not drinking the night before. Thankfully, I woke up this morning feeling more like my normal self. 

I think Michael and I have reached a good balance plant wise. The entrance to the house off the driveway is looking tropical with its pots of crotons, hibiscus, jasmine, and dracaena. Our back entrance and patio is a mix of ornamental grasses and annuals. Herbs seem to be doing well. and I've noticed our pepper plants are flowering. Our yard critters have been munching happily on our lettuce and other leafy veggies. Hostas, ferns, and irises are filling in the areas by Michael's backyard pond. And hostas, black-eyed susans, and daylilys are along our fence lines. All plants, I am sure, are enjoying this morning's rainy start to the day.

Friday, May 31, 2024

I am not coughing as much and am feeling much better. Just tired. And I listened to myself and slowed down. I've slept more the past few days than usual for me and resisted the urge to exercise. Today, I did some light gardening - mostly repotting plants I bought at Home Depot this morning. I plan to do a light workout tomorrow to see how it goes.

I did, however, miss my sewing class last night and as there is only one class left, I am concerned I may not finish the project I am working on. I am considering going to another session's class on Tuesday, so I'll still have my regular Thursday night class to finish. The other alternative is to either hope I can do it in one class or finish on my own.

Michael and I ventured to a restaurant called the Venue for dinner today. It's an open airy space with an ecclectic menu. If you are familiar with Ann Arbor, it's in the old Kroger's store on Stadium and Industrial. I ordered a martini from their Happy Hour menu and discovered I am apparently not a martini drinker. Food was a bit pricey but well prepared. And good enough, that I'd like to go again and try a few of their other entrees. And a different drink.

Thursday, May 30, 2024

I should mention that I came home from Florida with a cold. It started with a runny nose on Monday, and now three days later, a nagging cough. And i feel tired. One thing I don't like about myself is my inability to just let go. Despite not feeling well, I grocery shopped, changed the linens on our bed and did three loads of laundry yesterday. And today I am trying to fight the temptation to work out on the exercise bike in the basement. Because I feel guilty when i skip a workout, which is a little nuts. And do people still covid test when they feel ill?  I tested about 20 minutes ago, just in case. Being sick is making me crazy. Maybe I'll water my houseplants today to create the feeling of productivity, that I seem to desperately need.

Wednesday, May 29, 2024 

Our flight back to Detroit yesterday was a breeze. No crowds at either FLL's baggage check or TSA and flight was on-time. Our only snafu was at the baggage claim in Detroit. Carousal 4 was clearly marked with our flight number. But after 20 minutes of not seeing our bags, I finally wised up and looked at an app that tracks luggage, and realized our bags were at Carousal 6. Our bags were sitting there with just a few other unclaimed bags.  A big thanks to Butch for patiently waiting for us and getting us home.  

Sean's journey back to Chicago was not great. An American agent somehow changed his birthdate and he was flagged at TSA for the discrepancy and told to go back to the American counter to get it corrected. Rose and Porter proceeded to the gate, he joined a long line to speak to an agent and ended up missing their flight.  He was able to get on a 6am flight this morning. A big thanks to Kathy for coming to the rescue. She picked him up from the airport last night and drove him back early this morning.

By the way, we had a really nice weekend at Kathy's home. She is wonderful hostess - fridge was stocked with beverages, cheese, fruit, ham/turkey, and more. There were also lots of snacks. She went out of her way to make sure we were comfortable. We also enjoyed her pool a lot. 

On Monday, aka Memorial Day, we all went to Deerfield Beach with several other hundreds of sun lovers. Not surprisingly, parking was a bitch. Porter enjoyed playing in the sand with all the sand toys Kathy bought for her.  Monday evening, we went to JB's on the Beach for dinner and drinks. The girls all ordered coconut shrimp, the boys swordfish. Our table overlooked the beach. It was a nice way to end our Florida vacay.

Sunday, May 26, 2024

Someone needs to give Sean a medal for driving us all to Miami and searching for parking in very congested South Beach today. It was poor advance planning on our part. It's Memorial Day weekend and there was an airshow going on. All the east/west streets were barricaded, many parking lots were full and those with spaces available were charging $30-$80 to park. We eventually found a parking garage with spaces still available for $30. We went to a small art deco museum, took a quick walk down to the beach, and checked out the guys and gals at Muscle Beach. By this time, we were all dripping with sweat. We found a Diner with outside seating and a big fan, got rehydrated, and scarfed down sandwiches and chips. 

From South Miami Beach, we headed north to Dale Zine Shop in the Miami design district. It was not without drama. The seatbelt securing Porter's car seat locked up and was tightly cutting into her chest. She was scared and crying as Michael and Sean desperately tried to free her.  They literally shimmied her out of the car seat belt as she cried. After everone recovered, we went to the zine shop and walked around a little. This area of Miami had a lot of interesting shops and as the name "design district" suggests, it's artsy.

As soon as we got back to Kathy's home, Porter immediately stripped off her clothes and parked her naked butt in the pool. We all joined her (in bathing suits).  We had originally planned to go out for dinner but decided to eat in instead. Kathy baked a few frozen pizzas, and we put out leftovers from last night, salads and fruit. There is nothing like a relaxing evening at home after a long busy day.

Saturday, May 25, 2024

Our flight to Florida was uneventful. Although, I was a little tiffed that the beverage cart stopped serving soft drinks before it got to my seat. The car rental process was also somewhat efficient. Conveniently, there was a shuttle stop adjacent to baggage claim, that took you to the rental garage. We had requested a Pacifica and ended up with a Ford Expedition. Michael experienced some stress over not being comfortable with the car's control panel, followed by confusion using the navigation system. And despite using his iPhone to  get directions to the cell phone lot, we never found the lot so we could wait for Sean and Rose's flight to arrive, which had been delayed an hour. A melt-down was imminent. I called Kathy for some guidance and she suggested Michael head to her house and she and I would pick up Sean, Rose, and Porter. It all ended well but I felt some guilt over Kathy driving to the airport. I95 was backed up in several places.

This morning we went to an Enterprise location a few miles from Kathy's home to add Sean as a driver to the rental agreement. So he is now our designated driver. He's far better than Michael at handling "city" driving anyway.

We decided not to travel today and spent our time relaxing aroung Kathy's pool. Unfortunately, Porter only feels comfortable sitting in the few inches of water on the top step in the shallow end.  Both Sean and Rose offered to carry her in the pool but her mantra quickly became "I don't want to."  It's interesting how many children develop a fear of water so early in their lives. I really believe getting them used to water when they are under two and haven't developed fears yet is helpful.

We are making burgers and tater tots tonight for dinner. Tomorrow, we plan to head to Miami to check out the art deco architecture.

Tuesday, May 21, 2024

Managing one's health is a lot like being in school, with doctors the equivalent of teachers, patients the equivalent of students, and medical test result numbers the equivalent of grades. I take my blood pressure regularly at home and the results are usually on the high side. From my point of view, this is not something I have good control over despite watching my salt intake, taking my medication, and exercising regularly. And yet, I feel like I've failed. Ditto on blood work results. Everytime I get tested, I feel like I am being judged personally on the results. And the pressure is on. To do what I am not sure. I have little empathy for people who simply give up but a part of me understands the why.  So I continue muddling my way through on the health journey I am on and hoping for the best.

Ironically I heard back from my doctor today regarding the blood pressure readings I sent her and she's doubled the dose on the bp meds I am taking. And I am back to taking my blood pressure daily for a few weeks to see if the increased dosage is working. Sigh...

And as luck would have it, one of my crowns fell off this morning. Fortunately, I was able to get an emergency dental appointment this afternoon and the dentist was able to glue it back on. Hopefully this will be the only pre-trip issue that comes up. Fingers crossed.

Monday, May 20, 2024

Bloodwork came back normal; my potassium level dropped significantly in the two weeks I have been taking hydrochlororthiazide (long name). 

I went to Benny's today and had their version of a Slim Jim today. They don't do that smash thing that Big Boys does but they put a lot more filling in their sandwiches - more ham, lettuce and tomatoes. Both delicious in their own way. And with the absence of a Big Boy in Ann Arbor, it's nice to know there is an alternative.

I've started sorting clothing for our Florida vacay and have to keep reminding myself, we will only be their three full days. A couple of bathing suits, shorts/skorts, tank tops, and something to wear if we go out. And Kathy does have a washing machine.

Sunday, May 19, 2024

Yesterday, Michael and I went to Kensington Metro Park to watch the Michigan High School Rowing Championship. It was hot and sunny and I found myself seeking shade.  Kathy has warned us that its been very hot and humid in Florida and I find myself wondering how much time spent doing activities outside will be limited because of the heat. Fortunately she has a pool, which will be a nice reprieve. I am grateful to her for trying to make sure we have everything we need. From shampoo to towels and sunscreen.

Butch has a lot on his plate lately. In addition to caring for April, his refrigerator is on the blitz, and Saddie had an emergency vet appointment a few days ago. He is coping but it's hard not to feel some sympathy for him. I suspect we have all been there - like when our house in Hawaii flooded a few days before our flight to Michigan to attend Sean and Rose's wedding. 

A big storm passed through southeast Michigan a few hours ago. There were reports of hail although I didn't notice any here. We did need the rain, so there is that.

Friday, May 17, 2024

Next week this time, I will be chilling at Kathy's house. The temperature in Parkland is currently 83 degrees and it is 10pm. Sounds like tank top weather to me. 

Last night when I returned home from my sewing class, the house had an unpleasant odor. I cleaned the kitty litter but the odor remained. I realized this morning that Kali had crouched over the backside of the litter tray, and left a pile of matter. I cleaned that up but could still smell something. While retrieving my shoes by the back door, I saw what I thought was vomit on a rug I put by the door for dirty shoes. It turned out to be diarrhea. A disgusting clean-up followed, with me washing my hands several times afterwards. Ah, the joys of pet ownership. And I am not sure why I shared this.

In health news, I continue to take Mounjaro and have apparently gotten past most side effects. No more stomach discomfort. While I have cut down on snacking, I am still attracted to sweets, especially chocolate/nut combos. Everything in moderation, I guess. The doctor also recently switched my blood pressure medication after a blood panel indicated my potassium level was slightly above normal. She has me recording my blood pressure daily and I plan to take another blood panel on Monday. Fingers crossed, all will be normal.

I still have a pain in my neck, and I am not talking about Michael or Kali. It was especially sore last night after sewing for a few hours.  I am able to move my head but if I turn my head to the left, I experience a sharp pain. It makes reversing the car a little dicey but overall isn't curtailing most of my activities.

Wednesday, May 15, 2024

Rose's friend, Rachel, was four months pregnant when her unborn son died . This was in early January. Had her son lived, he would have been due this month. She posts regularly on social media and her grief and anger are still raw.  Mother's Day was particularly difficult. Her heartbreak makes me all the more grateful that Sean survived his cancer diagnosis in 2018, and that I have a healthy three year old granddaughter. Both of whom I love very much.

Today is a bit cooler than yesterday so no sun bathing on the back patio this afternoon.

And yes, my neck is still sore. But I think it is getting better.

Tuesday, May 14, 2024

I joined an Ann Arbor Gardening group on Facebook. Members post general questions about plants, and/or what plants they want or have to give-away. Last night, I noticed a post from someone in our neighborhood that had irises to give away. I immediately hopped in the car and drove over and was rewarded with a big box of irises, which Michael happily planted by his pond this morning. They make a nice addition to the ferns and hostas he's already planted. My neighbor mentioned that she's used this resource often and that most of the plants in her flower beds were give-aways.  And I personally like looking at the plants in my yard and silently thanking Tricia for our beautiful hostas, April for our beautiful ferns, and Sean and Rose for my potted palms. And now a woman named Tracy for our lovely new irises. Apologies if I have forgotten anyone. It takes a village to raise our green babies.

Fingers crossed but it feels like some of the stiffness and pain in my neck is less today. I am avoiding heavy lifting and repetitive tasks today in hopes that it helps. I was ironing earlier and actually stopped and took a break.

Monday, May 13, 2024

I spent about an hour at Joann's this morning buying material for upcoming sewing class projects. It's sobering how quickly material and other supplies add up. I am thinking about making another tote bag to give as a gift. To who, I do not know.  

I had a pet peeve moment yesterday. While weeding the flower bed in our front yard, I caught a whiff of dog poo and sure enough someone's dog had made a deposit a few feet from the front of the house. It irritates me that someone allowed their dog to wander freely in our yard so close to our house, and then didn't bother to clean up the mess it made. Irresponsible!

We enjoyed an unseasonably warm day today. It felt good.

Sunday, May 12, 2024

I regret sleeping through the Northern Lights yesterday early morning. And then again this morning. I stayed up late last night hoping to catch the lights before midnight. I finally gave in to sleepiness and went to bed. I guess it wasn't meant to be.

I had a nice Mother's Day. This morning, Michael and I ate breakfast at McDonalds (my choice). We then went to Matheia Botanical Gardens and walked around the gardens. Our intent was to go to their spring plant sale but it was pretty much sold out when we browsed what plants were left. We decided to go to the Arbor Farms plant sale instead. Michael found an ornamental grass for the front yard and we also purchased some herbs and a tomato plant. I planted my share of the herbs and did a little weeding. Then chilled for a few hours on the back patio reading.  We had also stopped at Trader Joe's on our way home and picked up a few frozen entrees (orange chicken and wontons), which with the addition of some stir fried veggies, made for a quick and inexpensive dinner. 

Sean called mid-afternoon and Michael and I chatted with him for about 20 minutes. Porter also made an appearance for a few minutes. She was watching Bluey but did manage to say hi and showed us that she was eating toast.  I am looking forward to seeing them in Florida in a few weeks.

All and all, a nice day.  Although, I still have a sore neck. Sigh...

Friday, May 10, 2024

My neck is still sore, Heat seems to help. I will be glad when the pain eases up.

Michael and I got Covid boosters today. We are traveling Memorial Day weekend and our doctor thought it was a good idea.  An ounce of prevention is a ...

Thursday, May 9, 2024

Today is about 20 degrees cooler than yesterday so Kali and I are trying to keep warm while I catch up on a few TV shows.  On Monday, I experienced a pain on the left side of my neck - it radiated from the base of my ear toward the nape of my neck. I have no idea what the cause was. I tried a lot of fixes including ice, massage, Biofreeze, heat, and stretching. Today is the first day it seems to be easing up. Which is a relief.

I have sewing class tonight. I am currently making a tote bag. At the last class, I cut out all the pieces and ironed on the interfacing. With the prep work done, all I have to do tonight is assemble and sew it together.  I find I feel a little uncomfortable with this class. I am not sure why I feel awkward but it may be because I am easily twice the age of most of the other students. 

I've seen trailers for a movie called If, which stands for imaginary friend. It made me start thinking about Sean's imaginary friends (e.g. Bolgo and Mickey) and whether or not he has any memory of them. If yes, I'd love to hear what he remembers. I wish now that I had recorded  what Sean said about his friends when he was young and they were active in his imagination. I do recall a few humorous moments of having to hold the car door open and wait for them to get in. 

Wednesday, May 8, 2024

I had a nice time with Kathy this past weekend. She arrived Friday afternoon. Michael, Kathy,  and I headed to Depot Town Friday evening for dinner at the Sidetrack. Despite a negligent waiter, we enjoyed our meal. Following dinner, we checked out a few of the vintage shops in Depot Town before heading home. 

On Saturday, I hosted a pizza party at my house for family. Despite a rainy start to the day, by mid-afternoon the weather cooperated. We had a nice gathering, which included Michael and I, Kathy, Tricia, Jerry, Marilyn, Shannon, Joel, Elizabeth, Stephen, Ryan, Jeremy, Christopher, Donna, and Spence. 

On Sunday, Kathy and I went to an open house (just for fun because the house looked funky), and then headed to the Creature Conservancy.  The Conservancy is a non-profit zoological organization in Ann Arbor with a number of exotic animals, some rescues. Animals included alligators, lizards, hissing cockroaches, exotic birds, a cougar, and more.  I think Porter might enjoy going there, so maybe something to do on a future visit.  Sunday evening, we celebrated Cinco de Mayo by going to El Tapatio for dinner and jumbo margaritas. 

On Monday, Kathy and I headed to Dearborn to visit Elizabeth. After a tour of her house, we went to Honest John's, a dive bar in Detroit for lunch. I enjoyed its decor - there were several humorous neon signs throughout the restaurant - Men Lie, Sobriety Sucks, Bah Fuckin Humbug, Hoover Sucks, and more.  Kathy returned home Tuesday morning.

On Thursday, April had surgery, Butch spent days at the hospital, which meant several trips to their house to feed Saddie and encourage her to go outside to do her business. She was usually snuggled in her dog bed when I arrived and I felt bad waking her up. Fortunately she was mostly cooperative. And giving her treats helped. I suspect, however, Saddie was relieved when April was released from the hospital on Sunday. April has a long recovery ahead of her. It looks like Butch is taking good care of her.  When Kathy and I visited her Monday afternoon, she was just finishing PT and Celina was also there.  It was good to catch up with her.