2020

Thursday, December 31, 2020

This is my last post for 2020. Another year over, and a new one to begin...

Wednesday, December 30, 2020

I rarely see burnt peanuts on store shelves since Brach’s stopped making them years ago so I was surprised to see them at Menard’s yesterday. What was a little uncanny, however, is that hours before going to Menard’s, I dreamt that my mom had purchased burnt peanuts for me knowing that Michael likes them. Coincidence or some psychic connection? I honestly don’t know but I’ve always believed that there is some kind of psychic energy that we share with people we love that transcends death. And while I’m not sure this connection applies to this candy “coincidence,” I will continue to believe a small part of mom is still with us.

In addition to burnt peanuts, we also purchased an electric fireplace at Menards. While admittedly, I am not as into the ambiance created by watching flames, real or not, that Michael is, the effect is soothing. The fireplace we purchased has the option of switching out the faux logs for either black river rocks, white stones, or crushed glass. Modern times...

Tuesday, December 29, 2020

I feel like many of us are using the pandemic as an excuse not to move forward with our lives. While many things are on pause, we still have the ability to create and explore. And perhaps what we crave and appreciate or miss the most is a clue to what we really want. My little pep talk this morning...

It looks like our grey skies may have a touch of blue this morning as sunlight struggles to make an appearance. It is a cold 19 degrees with just a thin layer of snow on the ground. I admittedly have not done well with my earlier commitment to get outside everyday. I am not exactly hibernating but it takes some effort to bundle up for cold weather. It requires putting on long pants, socks, shoes, a coat, hat, and gloves. I am hoping it counts that I at least gaze out our windows, often to watch the squirrels or birds (something I have in common with Kali).

Yesterday's major accomplishment was returning the three bags of beverage bottles that had accumulated in the garage. I used the bottle return slips, which totalled a whopping $14.20, to purchase a few items on my grocery list. I also visited Butch to say hello. And for what it is worth, sat in his living room and enjoyed the view of the fields from his front window.

Friday, December 25, 2020

And so this is Christmas, I hope you have fun, the near and the dear ones, the old and the young.

Another somewhat quiet day that involved cooking, eating, listening to music, watching movies, and not moving for hours because Kali was using me for naps. The highlight today was spending time with Sean and Rose on FaceTime. We opened gifts and Rose showed us her baby bump. It's not the same as having them here in person but it was still pretty nice seeing and talking to them. Some shared Christmas moments.

Thursday, December 24, 2020

Twas the night before Christmas...

Butch and April dropped by for a few hours today, which was nice. Otherwise, it's been a pretty quiet Christmas Eve.

I've been thinking about family Christmas traditions. Growing up, our family opened gifts following Midnight Mass. I've always wondered if this was something my father did as a child with Aunt Rose. When my siblings and I got older and started having children of our own, we used to gather at a family member's home on Christmas Eve to celebrate Christmas with our parents. There was usually a gift exchange of sorts and always gifts for the grandchildren. With both parents now deceased, the Christmas Eve family gatherings ended. Family members have either created their own holiday traditions or are at "loose ends." Around the time my parents died, Michael and I retired and moved to Hawaii. Sean and Rose visited us at Christmas a few times , which we will always treasure, but otherwise I believe we currently fall in the "loose ends" category. This is partially due this year to the pandemic. I am hoping with the birth of our granddaughter next year and our return to Ann Arbor, new traditions will evolve. Merry Christmas, all...

Tuesday, December 22, 2020

I visited Celina and Michael today with Butch and April to see baby Paul. It's been a long time since I've held a newborn and they are pretty incredible little humans with their tiny fingers and toes, and big yawns. I held him with freshly washed hands and my mask on creating the hope that I am able to get Covid vaccinated before Rose's April due date. Babies are truly tiny bundles of hope.

Celina looked tired but seems to be handling motherhood well. Caring for a newborn 24/7 is exhausting - a life of little sleep, constant feedings, and diaper changes. But also overwhelming love...

Monday, December 21, 2020

“Let everything happen to you, beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final” ― Rainer Maria Rilke

This is part of a quote that appears at the end of the movie, JoJo Rabbit. And it seems appropriate in this day and age.

Today not only celebrates the Winter's Solstice but also the Great Conjunction. I've gone out a few times in the past few weeks with my binoculars to look at Saturn and Jupiter but unfortunately it is going to be too cloudy tonight. My binoculars aren't strong enough to see any detail so I've been a bit envious of Joe's photos. He's captured the rings of Saturn while I am only able to see two bright lights in the night skies. And yet I still stand out in the dark and cold and dream. And even if I can't see the convergence tonight, I like knowing that it is happening.

Saturday, December 19, 2020

Amber came by this afternoon bearing Christmas gifts. She's a connection of sorts to Sean and Rose and I find her visits comforting. She brings a little much needed humanity to my life.

I decided to walk outside today instead of on the treadmill. The cold wasn't too bad but the sidewalks in our immediate neighborhood were pretty icy. Fortunately, the sidewalks in Pittsfield Village (a nearby condo community) were ice and snow free, something I'll remember for future wintery walks. I've said this before, but it was just nice to be outdoors.

I also wonder how many hours of my life I’ve sat in one place because a cat is on my lap when what I really want is to get up to do something. Maybe cats were put on earth to slow us down and ground us.

Wednesday, December 16, 2020

Today I drove in snow for the first time in six years. Granted it was just a light snow but danger lurked as I did see one car slide into a guardrail while I was out and about. I am not sure how much snow is anticipated but we've had flurries most of the day.

I am done Christmas shopping. My shopping list was pretty short this year and most of what I purchased was done online. I am grateful that my considerate son and his wife provided lists to unimaginative me that included where to order items from. I think we may try to Facetime on Christmas day. I will miss them but given rising Covid numbers and health concerns, it is for the best that we did not try to get together in person.

My latest commitment is to try to get outside at least once every day regardless of weather. It's way too easy to cocoon in the house when it's cold outside. Today's outing was a short walk around the block but it was rather nice walking with the snow falling.

Sunday, December 13, 2020

Baby Paul was born at approximately 6:30pm yesterday. His birthweight was 6 lbs 11 oz and he is 20 inches long. According to Butch, both Celina and Paul are doing well. Welcoming my new grand nephew into the world brings joy to what I have formerly described as a deep and dark December. I am hoping there is an opportunity in the near future to say congratulations in person to the new parents, Celina and Michael, and hello to their son, Paul. And of course hugs for all.

As an aside, I can't help but wonder how many December babies are named Noel, Holly, or Nicholas...

Saturday, December 12, 2020

Waiting for the miracle to come... Celina is in labor. On her due date, no less. In a non-pandemic time, I would be with Butch, April, and Celina's husband, Michael, at the hosptal waiting.

In a it's a small world moment, Bern's first wife called me today. I had contacted her by mail about a month ago and we exchanged letters and contact information. I only met her once. It was while visiting Bern in Ann Arbor (1970-71ish). We were all incredibly young and innocent. But something about her touched my soul. We had a nice chat today about the last 50 years of our lives, our jobs, our families, and our beliefs. Perhaps, post-Covid we will meet once again, maybe in Ann Arbor.

Wednesday, December 9, 2020

My brother Bern has commented more than once that I don’t reveal any deep feelings on my blog. And for the most part, he’s right. There are things in my life that I am uncomfortable talking about. And, I don’t typically share anything that I believe may be hurtful to another person.

That said, I feel somewhat useless these days. I’ve always been involved in something - work, family, neighborhood stuff, volunteer activities, etc. I realize that when a life event happens like retirement or relocation, it takes time to get involved again but the COVID pandemic has made it difficult to re-engage. When Michael and I initially talked about moving back to Ann Arbor, I envisioned trips to Chicago to see Sean and Rose, museum visits, family gatherings, exploring America, and more. And then Covid happened. And I worry. A lot…

Thursday, December 3, 2020

With the current surge of Covid cases, Sean and Rose have decided not to travel to Ann Arbor to see us at Christmas. It is the right thing to do and I completely agree with their decision but I am also sad, disappointed, and maybe even a little angry at the world. I am glad I decorated for the holidays in anticipation of their visit but there is a little voice tucked away in my brain asking if I would have bothered if I had known. I am going to allow myself a few days of pity, look up some cocktail recipes that use Grand Marnier, and then get on with my deep and dark December.

It is fitting that Simon and Garfunkel’s I am a Rock is the latest song stuck in my head. A winter's day In a deep and dark December. I am alone gazing from my window to the streets below on a freshly fallen silent shroud of snow. I am a rock, I am an island…

Wednesday, December 2, 2020

There isn’t much about 2020 to like, so I found myself intrigued by the news that a mysterious monolith appeared and then disappeared in Utah’s Red Rock Country. I like that at least for now its origin and subsequent disappearance is an unknown. Although, I just read a report that four men may be responsible for its removal. I kind of wish that it just mysteriously disappeared.

I haven’t been able to create tears for the past few years so I was surprised to tear up after watching a Meijer Christmas commercial that ended with the word “believe”. Holiday commercials have that effect on me.

Yesterday, Michael and I finally replaced our thirty year-old water heater. It was nice to check something off my “to-do” list. Of course, I just added three more items. Because that's what I do.

Thursday, November 26, 2020

I realize Thanksgiving is typically a holiday spent with extended family but like many others this year, Michael and I spent a quiet day at home. We prepared a turkey breast with all the usual Thanksgiving side dishes.This is not a first for us - we've spent other Thanksgivings in much the same manner. Admittedly, I prefer family gatherings but there is something to be said for spending a quiet day with a loved one.

Tuesday, November 24, 2020

Today would have been Michael's father, Keith's, 104th birthday. He died in 1972 at a far too young age. There is so much that saddens me about this. He didn't get to see Michael mature into the man he is today and he never got to meet his grandson, Sean, who I am sure he would have dearly loved. I'm not a religious person, but if there is a heaven, I hope he is looking down and smiling at our growing family. I feel in my heart that he will always be with us in spirit.

Michael and I are all set for our Thanksgiving feast for two. I grocery shopped early yesterday morning and picked up a few additional items this morning. No homemade pies (thinking of Tricia) but I am planning to make a fancy brussel sprouts dish in addition to the usual Thanksgiving sides. I rather miss the big family Thanksgiving get-togethers but "get" that 2020 is an unusual year.

And I wore my winter coat this morning when I went to the store. Yes, it's that cold...

Monday, November 16, 2020

Kali has dicovered that sitting in front of a heat vent brings warm rewards. She's a smart cat.

Michigan's second stay-at-home order starts on Wednesday. If Target's empty shelves are an indicator of things to come, the announcement means there will once again be shortages of critical items like toilet paper and paper towels. Much to my surprise, however, is that Target had Clorox wipes. Shopping continues to be a hit or miss proposition.

I seem more interested than normal in decorating for Christmas this year. I purchased a 7.5 foot artificial tree, stocking holders for our mantel, and a few other items. Much to my surprise, Michael, who rarely shows an interest in Christmas decorations, saw a Lighted Glitter String Snowman at Target that he thought would be fun on our front porch. Maybe it's the pandemic but we seem to be searching for the whimsical this year.

Saturday, November 14, 2020

Jennifer Garner asks in the Capital One commercials, “what’s in your wallet?” Besides his ID, cash, etc., Dad’s wallet contained two old photos - one of Mom (1948), the other of my brother Bern (1949 or 1950). I suppose it would have been bulky to carry photos of all eight of his children but I do find it interesting that these two photos were in his wallet until his death in 2015. That’s 70 plus years. I can’t help but wonder what if any significance these two photos held for him in that he never removed or updated them, or added photos of any of his other children. In the event inquiring minds may want to know, there are no photos other than the one on my ID in my wallet.

Tuesday, November 10, 2020

I go through these periods where nothing seems very real. It's a little like the movie Groundhog Day in that I just feel like I am living a slight variation of the same day over and over again. Angst? Ennui? Melancholia? I suspect a little of each. I envy people that are at peace with who they are and/or are satisfied with the status quo. And I realize that if I want to live a purposeful life, it's on me to make that happen.

We have been experiencing warmer than normal temps this past week and I've tried to spend time outdoors every day soaking in the sun. A cold front is anticipated to move in tonight but the warmer temps have been appreciated while they've lasted.

And a decorating tip for pet owners - I haven't wanted to jinx this but I put a clear shower curtain on our bed to protect it about a week ago and Kali hasn't thrown up once.

Saturday, November 7, 2020

What a relief! With 75,028.323 votes counted so far, Biden was announced as our president-elect today. I know a number of people who like Trump's style but I am not one of them. It's been a long stressful four years and the weeks leading up to the election have been especially trying.

Michael and I checked out William Sterling State Park yesterday. It's on Lake Erie and has a decent waterfront, a very popular marina, and walking trails. I suspect it's pretty crowded during the summer but it's certainly a good option when a beach-fix is needed. I am not sure if Michael will be able to surf there but it looks like paddleboarding may be an option. Wetsuit anyone?

Today, we explored Sylvan Woods a little more and discovered at least one camp site on the freeway side of the woods. I suspect a few homeless people are in residence. I was not surprised as the woods are in pretty close proximity to food and shopping but it does make me leery of walking in the woods by myself. Reminds me a little of the Teddy Bear's Picnic song - If you go down in the woods today, you're sure of a big surprise...

Thursday, November 5, 2020

Trump has filed lawsuits in Michigan, Pennsylvania, and Georgia as the vote counting continues in key states and the nation waits. Notable is that he has not challenged the vote count in states he's clearly won. I checked my nephew Ryan's Facebook feed (he's a huge Trump fan) and he not only believes Trump's assertions about mail-in ballot fraud are true but he also states that anyone that voted for Biden has been brainwashed. I think that just about sums this election up.

Yesterday's blue skies and warmer temps were a nice reprieve. Michael and I walked to County Farm Park, which was full of mask-wearing kids enjoying the playground, dog walkers, and other humans like us either walking or running the trails. Seeing little kids in masks was a sobering reminder that the pandemic is real although I must admit they did look really cute and seemed to be having a lot of fun.

Michael and I walked through Sylvan Woods (neighborhood park) this afternoon. There isn't a groomed trail - just an overgrown footpath that I suspect is muddy much of the year. The woods are adjacent to US 23 so there is a lot of highway noise but I am guessing they provide a good sound buffer for our neighborhood.

I tagged along with Butch this morning to Donna's house to pick up her snowblower. He's going to try to repair it so that she can use it this winter. I give him a lot of credit for his problem solving abilities as it seems like he's successfully diagnosed issues with a range of items - computers, small appliances, motorized equipment, and more.

Wednesday, November 4, 2020

Votes are still being tabulated in a handful of states, Trump has declared victory, the networks are playing the what-if game, and my mind is swirling with a combination of doubt and hope. There is no doubt, however, that we are a divided nation and will remain so. And sadly, I don't see that changing in my lifetime.

Tuesday, November 3, 2020

It's Election Day and I'm feeling anxious. It doesn't help that many states may not have all votes tallied until later this week. I am hoping for the best and trying to prepare for the worse. There's not much else we can do.

Kali threw up on the bed again. This is the third time in the last week and I am getting tired of stripping the bed and washing the bedding. Mostly though, I am concerned about Kali and hope that this isn't a sign of a serious health issue. I must admit, however, that I wish she would throw up on the floor and not the bed. It would make cleaning up so much easier.

It's supposed to be in the 60's tomorrow and I am looking forward to walking at one of the parks in the area. The last few times I've walked it's been on the treadmill in the basement, which is a lot easier than bundling up to walk outside but not as mentally satisfying. I do some of my best thinking when I'm out walking.

Sunday, November 1, 2020

Wind, falling swirling leaves, sleet... Time to turn the thermostat up.

Saturday, October 31, 2020

It is Halloween and I am feeling a little guilty about not participating by passing out candy. It looked like quite a few kids were out with their parents trick or treating. A touch of normal during a pandemic.

I am watching a movie called Carrington that is about the artist Dora Carrington. The movie is supposed to be biographical and if true she had multiple men loving her concurrently. And this made me curious about what the men who claimed they loved me when I was younger would say about me. I'll never know.

I wore my winter coat for the first time today and I definitely prefer to be warm over the alternative.

Wednesday, October 28, 2020

DTE has an online marketplace that has discounted prices on lightbulbs and other items. I ordered Christmas lights a few days ago and had a flashback to the 60's and 70's when my mom used to take our burned out lightbulbs to the Detroit Edison office to get free replacement bulbs. This program ended in 1978 when someone sued DTE but I thought it was a great idea while it lasted.

Today, Butch, Donna, and I went to Ferndale to see a bench that honors Aimee's fight in Michigan and the US Supreme Court for the rights of the LGBTQ community. It was a nice tribute. Per Donna, Aimee has a few more awards coming her way, one that is being presented to Donna on Saturday evening. We also drove down Seven Mile to see what's currently where Stafford's and Mr Deli used to be. Mom used to work at Staffords and Kathy and Tricia worked at Mr Deli (I believe in the 70's). If interested, Staffords is now Lou's Deli and Mr Deli is now Mama's African Hair Braiding. The area looks more run down than it used to be. Time marches on...

Monday, October 26, 2020

Michael and I survived this morning's trip to SOS (Secretary of State) to apply for Michigan driver licenses. I give SOS points for mask use, social distancing and efforts to process people in a timely manner. There were also a few issues - directions weren't clear about how to get in line, for example, but overall the process went fine.

Temperatures dropped to the 30's and 40's after Friday's 70's. It reminds me of the old joke that if you don't like the weather in Michigan, stick around for awhile, it will change. Michael and I went to Gallup Park on Saturday so he could watch Pioneer's and Skyline's rowers and I have to admit I was cold. I had to keep moving to stay warm so while Michael watched the rowers and chatted with the coaches, I walked and took photographs of bridges, swans, and fall foilage. I am enjoying the seasonal imagery - something I did miss when we lived in Hawaii.

I have no idea what we are going to do for Thanksgiving this year. I'm leery of big family get-togethers. Reminder to self to check with Butch, April, and Donna to see what they are doing.

Friday, October 23, 2020

With temperatures in the 70's today, it was a perfect day to spend time outdoors. I walked this morning with just a lightweight jacket on. Michael and I then enjoyed lunch outside at the Northside Grill, followed by a walk along the Argo Rapids. I wonder if this will be the last warm day of 2020.

Thursday, October 22, 2020

Take this waltz, take this waltz... Mystery solved, I can finally move on. Thanks, Michael.

I am watching the presidential debate and thirty minutes in, I am already shaking my head. It will be a relief when the upcoming election is finally over. If Trump wins, however, I do not look forward to the next four years. Enough said for now.

Tuesday, October 20, 2020

Fragments of yesterday's song are still floating around in my head. Let's sing another song Leonard, this one's grown old.

I've been working on organizing my photos these past few days and am pretty happy with several fall foilage images taken at nearby parks. My photos are in no way unique as people have been posting similar fall photos on social media. But they do reflect what I see when I am out and about. This is not completely related but I like this quote by Elliott Erwin. “The whole point of taking pictures is so that you don’t have to explain things with words.”

I finally broke down and purchased four inexpensive glasses from World Market that I have wanted for years. I am not sure if there is an official style name but they were made in Mexico, and have thick glass and a blue rim. And I cannot explain why I like them, I just do.

In breaking news, I've shifted from taking showers to cool down to showers to warm up. I fantasize about installing infrared heaters in the bathrooms.

Monday, October 19, 2020

I woke up with the tune of an old Leonard Cohen song in my head but I can't remember the lyrics. I also woke up to cold and darkness and wonder if there is a connection. Perhaps the words will come when the dawn breaks.

In preparation for winter, a treadmill was added to the growing collection of exercise equipment in our basement. It arrived Saturday in a huge, heavy box and Michael assembled it yesterday. I prefer walking outside but a combination of rain and temps in the 40's certainly makes the treadmill the more attractive option this morning. It's times like this I especially miss the simplicity and beauty of morning walks in Niu Valley.

On Saturday, I dropped by Shannon and Darrell's home in Canton to deliver birthday gifts for Joel. I wanted to stay and visit with family members but I knew that I would eventually relax my mask use and social distancing and didn't want to chance it. Most of my discomfort comes from concerns that I could be asymptomatic and might infect Joel and Elle - not so much the other way around. I did, however, get to see Elle for the first time and she's pretty adorable. I am looking forward to a future that includes baby holding and hugs. Especially now, as that future includes a grandchild.

Monday, October 12, 2020

According to my calendar, today is Columbus Day and Indigenous People Day and my first thought is what happened to Discoverer's Day.

Celina and her Michael made my Michael and me a delicious lunch of soup and grilled cheese sandwiches yesterday. We got the grand tour of their condo and despite efforts to make friends with their cat Blue, we got hissed at. It was really nice to see Celina. She looks healthy and happy and yes, she has that glow that comes with pregnancy. I found the normalcy of our visit somewhat reassuring.

Following our visit, we took a small detour on the way back to Ann Arbor and drove down the very scenic Huron River Drive enjoying a fall color tour of sorts. We stopped at Dexter Huron Metropark and took a short walk and it was hard not to be in awe of the beauty of the kaleidoscope of yellows, oranges, reds, greens, and purples that surrounded us. Autumn's golden glow...

Today Butch and I went to the Micro Center in Madison Heights. We both bought a few items so the long drive was not wasted. We then headed to Redford to visit Donna. And as usual, ended up at Big Boys for lunch. I have to say my Slim Jim had too much sauce on it but was still pretty good. It was nice spending time with Donna. She has certainly had more than her share of grief and set-backs this year. I don't feel comfortable sharing what is going on in her life but she received even more bad news this past week. I hope she realizes that despite us not always being around, we are with her in spirit.

Saturday, October 10, 2020

Yesterday, Michael and I went on a little adventure to Luna Pier, MI, which is a small coastal town just north of Toledo on Lake Erie. The community has a few restaurants, a small grocery store, a post office, and a few other businesses. Its big attractions are a small well maintained beach and a pier. Despite it being October, temps were in the 70's and Michael, undeterred by the lack of waves, couldn't resist wading out into Lake Erie with his body board. You can take him away from Hawaii, but you can't take Hawaii away from him.

By the way, I took note of the political signage along Luna Pier Road and Trump signs were in abundance. There was a large home on the waterfront by the pier with a huge Biden banner but the majority of signage definitely favored Trump. And also of note, and probably unrelated, I encountered a lot of smokers on the pier.

One of the neighbors I used to walk with in Niu Valley sent me a few photos of the work being done on our old house. Jack, the new owner, is putting in a rock wall around the perimeter facing both Halemaumau and Kawaikui streets. I am wondering if his plans also include a wall or fence on the backside of the property to provide some privacy from the house next door. I'd like to see the house in a few years to see what other changes or improvements he makes.

We are having lunch with Celina and Michael tomorrow at their condo in Howell. I plan to take her baby gifts with me. I am not sure what protocols to follow in regards to masks and/or social distancing. Particularly because Celina is pregnant. Admittedly, I have been pretty casual about Covid precautions with other family members but the concern is always there. This is one of the things that disturbs me the most about this pandemic.

Thursday, October 8, 2020

I am trying to soak in the sunny coolish weather we have been enjoying this week. We have the sliding glass doors and a few windows open. It amuses me, however, that our furnace is set to turn on when the house dips below 68 degrees and the outside air has been in the low to mid 60's much of the day.

Michael headed to the boathouse about an hour ago to watch crew practice. I considered going with him with the thought I could get a walk in but was in the middle of making enchiladas so the timing didn't work. I am hoping to get out tomorrow as afternoon temps are predicted to be in the 70's. I feel like I have to grab these moments while they are still available.

I ventured to the hair salon for a cut yesterday and while it felt nice to have someone fuss over me, I still felt an element of concern. Despite face mask usage and other precautions, social distancing is not possible in the salon environment. But yet, despite my reservations, I did go to get my hair cut. I suspect this says something about my risk tolerance.

Tuesday, October 6, 2020

I have finally been given the clearance to share the happy news that Michael and I are going to be grandparents. Sean and Rose let us know when they visited us in September but asked us to keep it quiet. Rose is due in April. This news makes me wish I was at least ten years younger but regardless I am beyond happy. And I love that the next generation of Pedits/Doves are having children of their own. The future is theirs. Love, love, love...

Sunday, October 4, 2020

October colors are here. It is startling to see some of the more vivid reds and yellows when I am out walking or running errands. There is a definite chill in the air as well. Living in Hawaii spoiled me as I feel cold nearly all the time. I expect my love for sunshine, warmth, and being outside will be tested over the next seven months. This will be my first winter in a cold climate since retiring and I am thinking about projects I can do now that my life is shifting towards being indoors. I'd like to start writing and I expect I will also be doing more photo scanning and organizing. And it may be time to dust off my crochet hooks and the sewing machine. Regardless, I'm someone that likes to keep busy.

I am also wondering what color or colors you see when you close your eyes. I see violets a lot. I actually looked this up and apparently we see biophotonic light inside our eyes. An interesting biological phenomenon.

Wednesday, September 30, 2020

On my walk this morning, I stepped over a rabbit's head on the sidewalk a few blocks from my house. It looked like it came from a pretty good sized bunny. I've seen a lot of dead critters when I'm out for my walks but this is a first for me. Shades of fatal attraction.

I'm in winter prep mode today. I planted the hostas Tricia gave me and brought the last of the potted succulents into the house. I am conducting a winter experiment of sorts with the succulents. The two pots in the upstairs guest room are relying on an east facing windows for light. The three small pots in my office are in a south facing window, which seems to get a lot of light. The two pots in the basement guest room window have a small grow light in addition to some diffused window light. And another two pots are outside the basement guest room window in the window well, which has a plastic covering over it. It will be interesting to see if there is enough of a green house effect for them to survive but I have doubts the window well will be warm enough. I should take photos over the course of the winter to track the health (or demise) of the plants.

Monday, September 28, 2020

Butch, Donna, and I met at Tricia's on Sunday and had a nice time catching up on family news. Tricia and I also divided two of her larger hostas and I ended up with enough divisions to fill in an area along our side fence line. April and Butch have given us ferns and hostas as well. There is something comforting about seeing plants family has shared with me when I'm walking around our yard. I really wish I could go to the Chesterfield house to get cuttings from some of the plants my mother gave me years ago. It would be like having a little part of her.

Thursday, September 24, 2020

Moments of joy, sadness, compassion, love, and all the other emotions that encompass us are like little photographs in my mind. These are past events that triggered such huge emotional responses in me that I can visualize the moment and location. The joy I felt sitting in a doctor’s office on King St. and learning that I was pregnant; seeing the look of absolute joy on Michael’s face when his team won a trophy at a Wyandotte regatta; the sadness of holding my mother’s hand before she took her last breath at Angela’s Hospice; the compassion I was shown by a doctor when I sat in his office and cried (who by the way is possibly the only medical professional whose faith in me changed my life); the incredible joy of listening to Sean and Rose’s marriage vows; the poignancy of Michael’s words to Sean and Rose at their wedding; and the list goes on. And continues to grow.

Wednesday, September 23, 2020

Today, Michael and I went to South Haven (on Michigan's west coast) and spent about three hours at the beach. It was a bit windy and cool and we were both wearing jackets but it was nice walking in sand and listening to the surf for the first time in months.

On the way to the beach, I conducted an informal survey of political signage on M-43 between Kalamazoo and South Haven and counted three Trump signs versus seven Biden signs in front of people's homes. I was actually a bit surprised as I thought it would be the opposite. Of course, while we were at the beach, a man showed up and planted two American flags and his Trump sign next to his chair. There are no doubts on who he will be voting for.

Fall is certainly in the air. A lot of trees along the highway have started changing colors. I saw a lot of reds and vivid oranges mixed in with green. And amber waves of grain...

Tuesday, September 22, 2020

I took advantage of the warm weather today and worked in the yard. I weeded along the fenceline and planted the honeysuckle roots I dug up in Butch and April's backyard. I do not have high hopes that I will have honeysuckle in 2021 but fingers are crossed. Michael split the sedum growing on the side of our backporch and planted it in a new bed he created on the other side of the porch. I also planted rosemary, lavendar and daffodils in the same bed. Additionally, I've started moving outdoor plants into the house and brought in the snake plant today. I am still assessing where to place the five pots of succulents still remaining outside. They will probably end up in the guest room. It's going to be a long winter.

A big thanks to Butch who came by with Lysol wipes and alcohol today. I feel like I've hit the jackpot on cleaning supplies.

Monday, September 21, 2020

I invited Butch and April over for spaghetti and garlic bread yesterday evening and they brought cake! And not just any cake, they made haupia cake, which is not an easy task. The world is momentarily back on its axis due to their thoughtfulness.

Sunday, September 20, 2020

I ended up having to install Chrome yesterday because I was unable to publish to this site using Safari a few days ago. I am not sure what is going on as I have been using Safari to post for several years with no problem. I am pretty paranoid about viruses and am hoping it's something else.

Mornings and nights have been pretty chilly this past week. I made the switch from cool to heat on the furnace a few days ago and put a down comforter on our bed yesterday after noticing Michael adding blankets to his side of the bed. Our bed is currently under a window, which probably isn't an ideal location as temperatures continue to drop.

And I have a confession to make. Despite trying to convince myself otherwise, a birthday cake would have been nice this year. This birthday seemed like a turning point for me - turning seventy, the move to a new home, and surviving a pandemic (so far). Perhaps on my 75th, I'll start baking.

Saturday, September 19, 2020

I celebrated my 70th birthday yesterday. There's conflicting information these days on what age you are considered a senior citizen but I suspect I qualify. And while I rarely ask businesses if they offer a senior discount, I did take advantage of two birthday offers yesterday - a free breakfast at the Northside Grill and a free dessert at Knights. Butch and April joined Michael and me at Knights and despite some qualms about eating out, we had a nice dinner and drinks. Knights was busy and seems to have gotten around pandemic related seating limitations by installing plexiglass panels between their booths. It made me wonder why more restaurants have not done the same. Of course, there is also the possibility that Knights is just trying to get around state mandates on restaurant seating.

Unfortunately, I came home to the news that Ruth Bader Ginsberg had passed away. This news saddens me but I have to admit to selfishly wishing that she had held on until after the election. It will be interesting to see how quickly Trump tries to replace her. May her memory be a revolution. (quote I saw on Twitter)

And in breaking news, the furnace kicked on briefly early this morning in our family room when temps in the house dipped below 66 degrees. It was 39 degrees outside.

Thursday, September 17, 2020

This is about mortality and other nonsense. I will be 70 years old tomorrow. Birthdays have a way of reminding us that we have a limited time on earth and as our age increases, our life expectancy decreases. Social security’s actuarial table says statistically I will die in 16.54 years. I have always been accepting of this with the caveat that I still have my wits, health, and mobility. I was joking about this with Sean and Rose when they were here this past weekend and Rose made me promise to last at least another 15 years. I’ll certainly try.

I planted tulip bulbs yesterday and am looking forward to seeing what spring brings. I also brought in the first of the potted plants that currently reside on the back patio. I washed the pot exterior and sprayed the plant with Castile soap diluted with water in hopes of killing any bugs that might be on the plant. Later, however, I saw a bug on the drip tray, which makes me wonder if it crawled out of the pot's drainage hole. I am hoping this isn't a foretelling of things to come as I continue to move outside plants into the house for the winter.

Michael ordered chicken from Wicked Mary’s for dinner yesterday, which is out of character for him. It made me smile. And the chicken was good.

Wednesday, September 16, 2020

Michael and I got flu shots this morning at the CVS in Target. We had appointments and the pharmacy was pretty quick but Michael still ended up missing about 45 minutes of the Tour de France, which he has been avidly watching daily since it started on August 29th. I am not that into televised sports but I get the attraction. I enjoy watching the Olympics, for example.

It was nippy when I left the house this morning to walk but it's starting to warm up so this may be a good day to plant my tulip bulbs. Given the number of squirrels and chipmunks that frequent the yard makes me wonder, however, if they will dig up the bulbs. I've noticed, for example, that the chipmunks like to dig in my potted plants. I assume for food. Survival is a pretty strong motivator.

Monday, September 14, 2020

Sean and Rose left around 9am this morning to return to Chicago. The house suddenly feels large and quiet. It was very nice having them here for the weekend. Time was spent socializing at a distance on our back patio - Butch and April on Friday evening, Amber on Saturday evening, and Celina and Michael on Sunday afternoon. I not only ate too much but also stayed up too late watching TV with Sean and Rose. This weekend was the best birthday gift a mother could get.

Butch dropped by with a three-pack of Clorox wipes today. Second best birthday gift ever. He and I also went shopping and I found a few items I haven't seen on the shelves for awhile - Clorox wipes, rubbing alcohol, and toilet wand refills. It amuses me how pleased I feel when I spot hard to find items when shopping. Small pleasures during a pandemic. I also purchased tulip bulbs and a bottle of Combier.

Cooler temperatures prevail. "All at once, summer collapsed into fall." - Oscar Wilde

Thursday, September 10, 2020

I am having silent but noisy conversations in my head much like the ones Mom used to have except hers were often out loud. This is me trying to resolve some conflicting emotions I am experiencing. Like Mom, I have a tendency to avoid conflict and rather than express what I am thinking, I internalize it. I know this is not a very constructive approach and yet here I am.

I finally posted some of my North Carolina trip photos on Flickr.

One more day...

Wednesday, September 9, 2020

I am looking forward to Sean and Rose's visit. They arrive in two days, not that I have been keeping track. Today is Rose's birthday. As she humorously pointed out in one of her tweets today - she is now old enough to be president. I am planning to bake her a birthday cake thinking it might be nice to belatedly celebrate this milestone birthday. By the way, have I mentioned I would like a birthday cake this year? I am going to be twice as old as Rose.

And I was reminded today of the old saying that "no good deed goes unpunished."

Sunday, September 6, 2020

It turned out to be a cool day temperature wise and not sunny enough to read outside. So I ended up putting the Swiffer to work and discovered there were quite a few dust bunnies under our bed. I also wet mopped the floors in a few rooms. I guess one advantage of being stuck at home is an inclination to clean more than I normally would.

I am taking advantage of having access to the Disney Channel (courtesy of Sean). I watched a few movies today - Artemis Fowl and Captain America: The Winter Soldier. I also finished watching the first season of the Mandalorian last night. I wasn't sure if I would like the series but once I got involved in the characters I was hooked.

I find all the negative political rhetoric found on the news and social media exhausting. I am trying to be optimistic about the upcoming presidential election but worry about Trump's many supporters - many of them apparently related to me or Michael based on comments I see posted on social media. I find the idea that I am not American (or worse) if I don't support Trump particularly offensive.

Saturday, September 5, 2020

A handmade bookshelf I ordered from a company in Wisconsin called Sawdust City arrived today. I liked that it arrived mostly assembled and information for the few pieces that needed to be screwed on were hand written with a marker on the bookshelf. I am using it to display some pottery and wooden serving pieces that are usually hidden away. I am also using it to store my cookbooks. The bookshelf is pretty basic but makes a nice functional addition to the entry to our dining area.

I spent today doing laundry and other chores in hopes that I can spend time outdoors tomorrow. Michael cleaned out a planting area by the back porch. I am thinking I might use it to plant the lavendar and rosemary that I currently have in a pot on the back porch. I also have some tulip bulbs that need to be planted. This is me preparing for the onset of winter.

Friday, September 4, 2020

There is a coolness in the air that feels like Fall. It was only 52 degrees this morning when I left the house to walk. I guess it's time to figure out how to program the thermostats. And replace the filters on our heating and cooling system.

My covid test results were negative. Michael is still waiting on his. I have been pretty careful about face coverings, social distancing, and hand washing but plan to be even more diligent this next week to assure I don't endanger Sean and Rose. It will be good to see them. Just one more week! In a more general way, I must admit that I don't look forward to several more months of living this cautionary life but I accept that it is necessary.

When I was walking this morning, I heard someone calling my name. It turns out that a woman I worked with at both Merit and Eastern Michigan University lives in Pittsfield Village. I'm impressed that she recognized me as I haven't seen her in fifteen plus years. It's a small world after all.

Wednesday, September 2, 2020

Michael and I got covid tested this morning at an urgent care clinic in our area in preparation for Sean and Rose's visit. We don't expect results until next week. Quite honestly, I will be surprised if either of us tests positive but you never know.

In other Dove news, this morning Costco delivered a 55 inch Sony TV that Michael purchased. Michael set it up and I must admit it is amazing what a difference a larger screen TV makes. I imagine we will appreciate the larger format especially when we are watching movies.

And finally, I would be remiss not to mention that today would have been Dad's 92nd birthday. He died in 2015. It might surprise him to know that his children and grandchildren still mention him in conversations. And I will always associate him with Chinese food in much the same way that I will always associate Mom with Big Boys. This makes me wonder if when I die family members will associate me with Long Island Ice Teas. That's a not so sobering thought.

Monday, August 31, 2020

Michael and I moved to Ann Arbor five plus months ago. Our house is mostly furnished and we've met a few neighbors. There is a run down sign that identifies this area as Forestbrook when you turn into our neighborhood and I've wondered who is responsible for repairing or replacing it. Homes were primarily built in the sixties - bilevels and ranch houses line the streets. Black Lives Matter, Biden/Harris 2020, Thank You Essential Workers, No Human is Illegal, Science is Real, and other signs for a myraid of causes are posted in many yards. A number of people can be seen walking their dogs throughout the day. We live about a block from the Forestbrook Community Pool that is closed because of the pandemic and has been half full of stagnant water all summer. There is a park nearby with tennis and pickleball courts. I bought pickleball paddles in hopes of luring Michael to the park to play but so far it's been a no-go. We live in a peaceful, nice community. The only drawback so far is the traffic noise from US 23. I sometimes feel like I am living in limbo, but the reality is this is our home now. And our lives go on...

Saturday, August 29, 2020

Yesterday's storm left a trail of large tree branches and downed power lines in Butch and April's backyard. When Michael and I went by to see if there was anything we could do to help, DTE was working on his street but I will be surprised if power is restored today. I am hoping I am wrong. On the plus side, no large branches crushed his home and he and April are fine. Clearing the branches, etc., however, looks like it is going to be a long term project for them.

I had an appointment this morning at U of M Imaging for a mammogram. Their set-up was surprisingly efficient and I was in and out of there in about ten minutes.

Michael and I both purchased new iPhones Thursday at the Apple Store. I only had 16gb of storage on my old phone and was no longer able to use it to take photos. I am looking forward to being able to take photos again with the added benefit of having a better camera as well.

Speaking of photos, I am looking forward to seeing Joe's North Carolina trip photos on Flickr. While I was pleased with a few of the photos I took when I was in NC earlier this month, I found many of my images disappointing - even more so when you consider that I was surrounded by the beauty found along the Blue Ridge Parkway. I use photography to tell a story in my annual photo books. My hope is that the images are effective when words fail me.

Wednesday, August 26, 2020

The college students are back - a phrase I haven't uttered in over five years and a nod to how the population in the Ann Arbor/Ypsilanti area increases this time of year. Krogers, Target, and Home Goods were very busy today and shelves were even emptier than normal. I've been trying not to buy cleaning supplies and paper products if I don't have an urgent need but now I am wishing I had done a little hoarding. While observing the student buying frenzy, I heard Michael muttering under his breath, don't buy too much, you may not be here very long. I couldn't help but laugh. With the influx of young people to this area, the prediction is that Covid numbers will be on the rise.

In preparation for a possible visit from Sean and Rose on 09/11, Michael and I made appointments to get tested for Covid next week. We plan to self isolate following the testing to minimize any risk we may pose to them. It's sobering the lengths needed to provide a safe environment when welcoming new people into your home. But if it allows us to see Sean and Rose, it's worth it.

I've been noticing gnats in our house this past week and realized they were coming from a potted plant in our living room. I took the pot outside this afternoon and plan to wash the plants and replace the soil tomorrow. Just removing the source seems to have helped immediately. I am hoping this works.

April returned to work this week - she is working remotely from home and Butch mentioned that she is on video-conferencing calls nearly all day in preparation for students returning remotely to school next week. These are challenging times for not only educators but also for parents that are dealing with their children learning at home instead of at school. While I hope families are getting the support they need, it is hard to not be concerned.

Monday, August 24, 2020

We've been enjoying nice weather this past week. I've been trying to spend time outside whenever possible because the end of summer is only a month away. And I suspect our first winter back in Michigan is going to be difficult after living in Hawaii. Note to self - invest in a warm winter coat and snow boots so I don't freeze my ass off.

I am still trying to make a decision about what to do with my potted succulents over winter. The choices are to either let them die or to bring them in the house and perhaps put in grow lights. If I opt to over-winter the plants with lights, however, it would probably need to be in the basement and might encroach on Michael's territory. Something to think about...

I am still organizing my North Carolina trip photos to incorporate them in my annual photo book. A problem I am encountering is that I have nearly reached the max number of pages allowed by Shutterfly for a book project. So I find myself putting multiple photos on pages to save space instead of showcasing some of the better photos. Which is crazy because with four months left in the year, I am going to end up starting a second book anyway. I am sure there is a psychology lesson going on here.

Thursday, August 20, 2020

Michael and I ventured out yesterday morning for the first time this week to get bloodwork done. I am happy to report that all my lab results are within the standard range including my iron and ferritin levels. Hopefully, this means my chronic anemia for the past few years is a thing of the past.

Afterwards, we stopped for breakfast at the Northside Grill and chatted with both Andy and Jim. It was nice to catch up but also good to hear Michael laugh again. Plus, Jim comped our breakfasts.

Today, Michael and I went paddleboarding on Argo Pond. We paddled from Argo Dam to Barton Dam and back. I spotted turtles sunning themselves along the riverbanks, admired the beauty of the water lillles and reeds along the shore, and smiled at a dragonfly that hitchhiked a ride for about five minutes on the front of my board. I was also treated to the sight of a large blue heron in flight across the river in front of me. With the warm sun on my back, it was a peaceful few hours out on the water.

We received a note from Rose today that I found really touching. I hope she won't mind me sharing. ".... you've always welcomed me and made me feel part of your life. You've both made my life better and easier in large and small ways, and I hope we can continue to do the same for you." Rose, I know that you do not read my blog, but we both truly love you and you've enriched our lives as well. Your love for Sean is the biggest gift we could have ever received. Thank you...

Monday, August 17, 2020

I am home! Butch and I left North Carolina at 6 am yesterday morning and we pulled into my driveway around 5pm. A big thanks to Butch for doing all the driving with no complaints. Especially since he woke up this morning with a swollen knee.

I had a busy day today. I not only unpacked and did laundry, I also rearranged my office and made dinner. An example of Newton's law of motion...

Saturday, August 15, 2020

Packing up is in motion in preparation for an early departure tomorrow morning. Joe, Butch, and I hiked one of the trails in the Moses Cone Memorial Park this morning. There was a steady rain the first hour but it was still rather pleasant. We encountered just a few other hikers and runners on the trail.

I'm glad I made the decision to make this trip despite my concerns about Covid. We spent most of our time outside and I carried a mask with me everywhere, even on the trails, in the event we ran into others and social distancing proved difficult. And despite my huffing and puffing, I truly enjoyed the hiking even when the trails were steep, rocky, and/or muddy. The scenic overlooks, walks in the woods, and waterfalls were well worth the effort. I owe a lot to Joe and Butch for making this happen.

Friday, August 14, 2020

Tomorrow is our last day in North Carolina. We head back to Michigan on Sunday. It's been a good trip of daily hiking, primarily on trails along the Blue Ridge Parkway.

We started our day this morning hiking the trail around Price Lake. Despite the trail having several muddy sections due to recent rains, it was a pleasant scenic walk. From there, we drove north to Linville Falls. On Wednesday, we had hiked a trail to these same falls but on the opposite side. It was interesting seeing the falls from a different viewpoint. Our next stop was Wiseman's View, which has spectacular views of Linville Gorge. And our final hike was up to the Flat Top Overlook. Another busy day of hiking...

I am not sure if I am just getting better at hiking up and down steep trails, but I've surprised myself a little this trip.

Thursday, August 13, 2020

This morning, Joe, Butch, and I hiked the loop around Rich Mountain. The trail meanders through pastural land and I cautiously paused more than once to wait for cows to make their way across the trail. This was definitely one of those times that watching where you stepped paid off.

Following our hike, we went to Boone and had lunch at an Indian restaurant called Mint. The chicken dish I ordered was really delicious. Butch and Joe also seemed happy with their entrees. I don't always like some of the seasonings at Indian restuarants so it was nice to find a dish I really liked.

After lunch, Joe and I visited a few galleries in Banner Elk. I purchased a nice glass bowl and a few small ceramic pieces. I often try to purchase something when I travel as a reminder of my trip and these purchases will make a nice addition to our house.

Lastly, I enjoy taking photos and was very touched today when Joe told me my photographs have soul. It's one of the nicer compliments I've received, especially because I admire Joe's photographic skills so much.

Wednesday, August 12, 2020

Yesterday morning, Joe, Butch, and I headed back to the Moses H. Cone Memorial Park and hiked up a trail called Flat Rock. It was cool and a bit foggy when we started out, which made mountain views more challenging but I really liked hiking through the misty forested areas on the trail. There was a fire tower at the top of the trail that Butch and Joe climbed. Later in the day, we ventured to a 65' waterfall along the Elk River. When we arrived, it was pouring rain so the short trail to the falls was a bit muddy. There was a stone cliff area at the top of the falls that I took a few photos from but you needed to hike to the bottom of the falls to get the full view. The lower portion of the trail down was rocky, steep, and pretty slick from the rain so I ended up turning around but both Butch and Joe made it down. As did the several other people that were either in the water or climbing the rocks at the base of the falls. Yes, I am a wuss...

Last night, we had dinner at an Italian restaurant called Bella's that was not far from our Airbnb. The food was a bit bland but I enjoyed the company.

Today ended up being a waterfall kind of a day. This morning we hiked to Linville Falls and were treated to a series of falls with four different overlooks. With the exception of a few spots, the trail wasn't too strenuous. This was followed by a second hike to Crabtree Falls. I found the descent on the hiking trail a bit dicey - it was steep in parts with a lot of rocky areas but we all arrived safely and the falls were well worth the hike. This seemed to be a pretty popular hike as we encountered quite a few people on the trails and in the area under the falls.

And just a few observations about mask wearing in the parks. It's not a lot different than what I've encountered in Ann Arbor. While masking up is not required in outdoor spaces, there is an expectation that people social distance on the trails. I have noticed, however, that in park restroom areas it's a mixed bag of those that mask up and those that opt not to. Fortunately, there have only been a few instances where I've felt uncomfortable.

Monday, August 10, 2020

Butch and I drove to North Carolina yesterday to join Joe in the Banner Elk area for a week of hiking and sightseeing. This morning we hiked a trail in the Moses H. Cone Memorial Park off of the Blue Ridge Parkway. I think a few of the photos I took are promising. After lunch in a town called Blowing Rock, we took a short steep hike up the Rough Ridge Trail to a few stone overlooks and were treated to some scenic views of the Blue Ridge Mountains. A really nice day one.

Saturday, August 8, 2020

Today is the anniversary of Mom's death - she died six years ago. Donna and I were reminiscing last night about both Mom and Dad and realized we had different perspectives on events that occurred in the last few years of their lives. It would be interesting to record and piece together all the siblings' memories of mom and dad in the months before each of them passed away. I suspect we would be surprised by what our brothers and sisters' recollections revealed. I did get a laugh when Donna told me that when Elizabeth interviewed mom for a class project, when asked what her greatest regret was, Mom responded having more than three children. Needless to say, I still miss and think about her often. Especially when I see, read, or hear something that reminds me of her. I've said this before but I wish I could sit with her one more time talking and thumbing through magazines on her front porch - a touch of the ordinary. I love you, Mom.

Thursday, August 6, 2020

My major accomplishment this week is successfully purchasing prescription catfood for Kali from the Ann Arbor Cat Clinic. A testament to the hoops we will jump through for our furry companions.

I went through my clothes yesterday trying to decide what to pack for the upcoming North Carolina adventure with Butch and Joe. I am expecting to be not only hot and sweaty but also cold, wet, and muddy. Fortunately there is a washer/dryer in the rental but I'd like to at least last 3-4 days before needing to use it. In all honesty, I've never mastered the art of packing and have had trips where I didn't have enough clothes or the right clothes and other trips where I found myself with unworn items. I guess I'll muddle my way through as usual and just remember to pack lots of extra underwear.

In shopping news, trips to a few retail stores like REI and Bivouac have revealed that August is not the time of year to buy trail shorts in Michigan unless you are a size 2 or a size 3X. It's apparently a good time, however, to purchase sweatshirts, jackets, and coats. I guess I'm not in a midwest groove yet.

Monday, August 3, 2020

Alrighty, Michael received his voter registration card today and his middle name is misspelled. I think we are on a roll as this comedy of errors continues.

Celina and Michael had a gender reveal party on Saturday with both sets of parents and his sister in attendance. They are having a boy, the due date is in December, and his potential name is Paul John - a nod to both grandpas. I suspect little Paul John will love my brother's curiousity about the world and his sometime goofiness. Sincere congratulations to them all.

Saturday, August 1, 2020

Michael and I ventured into Ann Arbor last night to drop our ballots off at City Hall. We ended up eating at the Red Hawk and very nearly had the entire restaurant to ourselves. I was seated facing towards the back of the restaurant and not one table was occupied. That said, we walked a few blocks and Knight's outside seating area was full (street was blocked off) and ditto for Mani Osteria, an Italian restaurant I'd like to try some day.

And an observation of late, the male critics in my life keep me humble.

Friday, July 31, 2020

The neighbor's orange cat is hanging out on our back patio with Michael. He and Kali had a staring contest yesterday through the back sliding glass door. Sometimes I feel a little sorry that we keep her indoors as I think she would enjoy exploring our backyard. And then reality hits on how dangerous the outside world can be. And not just for cats.

Butch and I are headed to North Carolina on August 9th, a trip I am looking forward to despite my pandemic related concerns. The plan is to do some hiking with Joe although I suspect the disparity in our fitness levels will be a factor in what we actually do. Fortunately, Joe is cool with doing his own thing.

Tuesday, July 28, 2020

I've had a busy morning running errands. I went to a CPA for assistance with paying estimated taxes on the capital gains that resulted from our home sale. The staggering amount that we owe made me wince a little despite knowing in advance that it would be a lot - in fact more than what we normally gross in an average year.

We also went to the Ann Arbor City Clerk's office to straighten out our voter registration woes. My name is now spelled correctly and Michael's address is current. In the process, we received mail-in ballots for the August 4 primary. It felt good to finally get this resolved.

From the City Clerk's office, we headed to the post office and I stocked up on stamps. Michael then picked up a few hardware items at Ace, and after a stop at Burger KIng for take-out we headed home.

I am now planning on lounging on the back patio in a few minutes with my Kindle...

Monday, July 27, 2020

Despite being pretty negligent about doing yardwork, I decided to weed this morning. I was working on an area by the driveway and noticed several plants with leaves of three brushing against me. Given my past history with rashes, I immediately took a shower. Fingers crossed, I sent a photo of the plants to my outdoor expert, Butch, and he said it is not poison ivy. Whew...

Michael and I had a nice chat with Sean and Rose yesterday. It sounds like they are cautiously socializing with friends and have adjusting to a new normal in these uncertain times.

And much to my amazement, I received my voter registration card today. Unfortuntely, my name is spelled incorrectly but I believe I am officially a Michigander now.

Friday, July 24, 2020

The neighbor's big orange tom cat just sauntered across our back patio. Kali's reaction surprised me. She left the back patio's sliding glass doors and ran to the bedroom window on the side of the house to see if she could spot him from there as he made his way to the house next door. Nothing like a little excitement to start the day.

Paul, as always did a nice job cutting my hair. The salon's employees appeared to be adhering to safety measures - all wore facial masks, the front reception desk was behind plexiglass, hand sanitizer was available, a sign on the door directed customers to remain outside until their stylist was available, and temperatures were taken before entry. It's a dangerous world we live in.

Yesterday, Michael and I spent a few hours sitting riverside at Island Park. It was pleasant watching kids playing in the shallow water by the shoreline. There were also a lot of tubers and kayakers making there way down the river. This included a few flotillas of teenagers having a good time with no facial coverings or social distancing. It made me realize that back when I was their age, one of them could have been me. The fearlessness of youth.

Butch and I continue to walk every other day. He injured his knee a few months ago and I suspect he is enduring a fair amount of pain on these early morning treks. While his stoicism is admirable, I was relieved when he told me he finally made a doctor's appointment to get his knee looked at. I'll feel badly for him if he's told to stay off it for a few weeks. Kathy is also having similar issues with one of her knees. From experience, I know how frustrating it is to have to limit activity due to an injury or following a procedure. It always feels like you are backpedaling when you are finally able to resume activities.

Wednesday, July 22, 2020

When I was working, I used to wonder what my parents and the few unworking relatives I have did all day. I am still unsure but I have found that after being retired myself for five years that I am able to keep fairly busy. I still maintain a to-do list spreadsheet on my laptop that currently has about 20 action-needed items on it. But unlike when I was working, I don't feel the urgency and stress that having limited time caused. And an added observation on retired life - using a weekly pill organizer helps to identify what day of the week it is. Just saying...

Going back to me maintaining a to-do list, this is a habit that's a carry-over from my Franklin Planner days. Michigan National Bank sent its employees to a Franklin Planner seminar and bought us planners in the 80's. I eventually started using steno pads instead of bulky planners to record actions needed, outcomes, and notes, and am now using a spreadsheet on my laptop. I recall Bern maintaing his to-do lists in composition books, which surprisingly I still see being sold in the school supply section of stores each fall.

Kali has started Joining me when I am working out in the basement. She uses everytime I lay down on the floor or foam roller as an opportunity to jump on me. It certainly makes working out a slower process as I find myself giving in and petting her. I assume this is a form of catercizing.

I have an appointment at Salon Luminosity at 2pm this afternoon for a haircut (something I can check-off my to-do list by the way). I am hoping all precautions are being followed in terms of masks, etc.

Sunday, July 19, 2020

I decided to buy a small bookcase to display Dad's flag and a few of his patches and while it looks like nice, it also looks like I am paying homage to Dad's military career, which by the way was not intentional. Michael commented on this as well. It's not that I don't think Dad deserves respect for the many years he served his country as a career army man but on a personal level, without elaborating, Dad is not someone I would encourage my son or others to emulate.

Friday, Michael and I visited a few of the Metro parks in our area. Despite the heat, we took a walk on one of the trails at Hudson Mills. Most of the people we encountered on the trail were on bikes but there were also a fair amount of families and seniors enjoying themselves in the picnic areas. Social distancing was not a problem. And to my delight the park's restrooms were open and clean. We also scoped out both Dexter-Huron and Delhi Metroparks and would consider spending a few hours at either on the riverbank with a good book. I will report back in late September on whether or not this ever happens.

On the way home from our park exploration, we stopped at Zingerman's Roadhouse for a late lunch that included adult beverages. I was impressed by how seriously they seemed to be taking the COVID virus. Our temperatures were taken at the door and we were asked to wait outside while our table was being set up. Both kitchen and wait staff were masked and gloved. It was somewhat reassuring although I recognize the onus is on us to personally take precautions to limit exposure. Added bonus, the smoked barbecue ribs I ordered were awesome.

I made reservations at the Secretary of State's Office to apply for a Michigan driver's license. Not surprisingly, the earliest appointments available at the office closest to our house are on October 26. Having Michigan licenses now would have made it possible to apply on line to vote - something that I am still struggling to accomplish. I also discovered that although Michael shows as being registered when you check on-line, he's registered to vote in the precinct and ward we used to live in. Who knew registering to vote would be this challenging!

Wednesday, July 15, 2020

My life seems to be in the doldrums. All my insecurities are bubbling up and my desire for a change of pace had me wandering around Gardner White yesterday looking at uninspiring furniture.

I discovered yesterday that I am not registered to vote in Michigan despite mailing my application along with Michael's in the same envelope to the City Clerk a few weeks ago. His application was processed so I know it was received. I completed and mailed a second application yesterday but I do not know if it will be processed in time for the August 4th election. Fortunately, there is still plenty of time before the general election in November.

I've gone as far as I personally can with paperwork related to moving, taxes, and the house. I have tax questions I need professional help with and hope to find and consult with a CPA within the next few weeks. I also need to make an appointment with the Secretary of State's office to transfer my Hawaii driver's license to a Michigan one.

In the meantime, my primary activity seems to be watching Kali in a staredown contest through the back patio sliding glass door with the squirrel I call Buddy.

Sunday, July 12, 2020

I am tired of all the hateful and ignorant political and racial remarks on social media. And yet at least once a day I skim through them looking for newsy or introspective posts from family members or friends. Birthday greetings; witty, humorous, or thoughtful remarks; family and vacation photos; news on projects people are working on - these are the posts that interest me. The posts that reveal a little about who you are and what your interests are. So Joe, keep posting your beautiful early morning walk images. Michael, Joyce, and other artists, yes, I want to see your latest projects. And Rose, keep amusing me with your daily observations about life, food, and the human spirit.

Saturday, July 11, 2020

Sean celebrated his 41st birthday this week. Michael and I called him, Rose made him a chocolate cake, and life and time marches on. And I feel a sense of gratitude.

All the world is made of faith, and trust, and pixie dust. - J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan

Sunday, July 5, 2020

I've been feeling a little peevish by mid-day the past few weeks. I suspect it's related to not only a current lack of direction but also a frustration with myself for not being able to figure out a few things that are on my mind lately. My confidence level is on shaky ground.

And I hate to admit it but I miss contact with others due to pandemic related distancing. I am fortunate I have Michael and am very thankful to have Butch and April close by. But it frustrates me to not be able to engage with old friends, acquaintances, and other people that make me laugh. And knowing Sean and Rose are only 250 miles away and not being able to see them kind of sucks.

So now that I have expressed my angst, I did have a nice evening with Michael, Butch, and April last night. We had a typical 4th of July meal of hot dogs, mac salad, and coleslaw with apple pie for dessert. A pleasant evening on our back patio and a reminder that despite the state of our country currently, I have much to be thankful for.

Friday, July 3, 2020

One set of our kitchen cupboards was starting to look like the infamous junk drawer so many homes have - except I am talking about four shelves, not one drawer. After a trip to Michael's to buy storage bins, I took everything out of the cupboard in question and sorted it into the new bins. This includes tools, batteries, tape, and more. I then labeled and put each bin in the cupboard. Let's see how long it takes Michael and me to get lazy and ignore the labeled bins.

Covid 19 numbers are on the rise and not surprisingly our governor has reclosed bars in southeastern Michigan, which were only recently allowed to open. It won't surprise me to see more restrictions put in place. Far too many people refuse to take precautions. Sigh..

Another hot day. I am enjoying our a/c.

Thursday, July 2, 2020

I was going to try to say something profound about the current heat wave in southeast Michigan but then ran across this quote from an Australian novelist named Hal Porter and immediately felt humbled.

The heat is searing and superb. The paddocks surrounding the town are bleached blond. The distant ring-barked gums, mile after mile, wriggle in the heat-waves, and seem to melt like the bristles of a melting hairbrush. The hills turn powder-blue and gauzy. Mirages resembling pools of mica and shallows of crystal water appear at the far ends of streets and roads. Punctually at eleven every burning morning, the cicadas begin to drill the air, to drill themselves also, ceaselessly and relentlessly, to death in one short day after seven long years underground.

Michael and I ran errands this week including a trip to the bank and Target today. It's nice having a home with A/C to return to. We have absolutely no plans this weekend to celebrate the 4th of July, which is fine. I am hoping fireworks won't be too excessive in our neighborhood.

A few weeks ago, I detected a hard nodule on the top of my left foot and made a doctor's appointment to get it checked out. On Tuesday, however, I noticed the lump had disappeared. I have no idea what's going on but in an odd coincidence, the doctor's office sent me a note today to let me know my appointment was canceled and asked me to reschedule a phone or video appointment. Uh...

Sunday, June 28, 2020

We're in a battle for the soul of the nation - words spoken by Joe Biden on Twitter today. Words that pretty much sum up my feelings about what the Trump presidency has done to our country.

Michael signed paperwork this weekend that once filed signals probate entering an inactive status. I am glad that despite all the delays, overall probate went fairly smoothly making it possible to finally get some closure on the home in Hawaii.

We also got word from Sean this week that the swelling that he has been experiencing in his salivary glands is not an indication that his cancer has returned (a fear we all had). It was extremely difficult to not be anxious so this positive news was a huge relief. This Twitter post from Rose pretty much sums it up. Sometimes your relief is so deep you don't know where to put it. Definitely a different kind of feeling surplus!

Saturday, June 27, 2020

Bless me father for I have sinned, it's been five days since my last confession. Words that bring back memories of uncomfortable moments in the confessional. Which when you think about it is an odd Catholic ritual in that it seems like you would have already had a come to Jesus moment before confessing your sins to a priest.

That said, time marches on. It is officially summer. Butch and April joined Michael and me for dinner last night and we spent a pleasant evening dining on our back patio. Chef Michael showed off his cooking skills with crusted mahi, rice, rolls, and an asian salad - all served with a bottle of white wine. A delicious dinner and good company made for a relaxing evening.

A storm passed through our area last night and I could swear as I checked the doors before heading to bed I saw fireflies twinkling in the backyard, a bit of summer magic.

A few days ago Michael and I walked a loop around downtown Ann Arbor. We explored a few shops but while there were some people out and about for the most part streets and businesses were mostly deserted. It definitely didn't have the feel of the vibrant Ann Arbor I knew and loved for years and makes me concerned about future viability. Another observation was that many of the people we encountered were not wearing masks. This seemed to be along age lines with older folks taking precautions and younger ones not so much. Perhaps this is just another moment of what life is like during a pandemic but it makes me a little sad.

I spoke to Bern for a few minutes yesterday. He sounded tired and anxious. His appointment at the cardiology clinic was on the 24th. If I understood him correctly, no tests were run but they did confirm he had a heart attack on May 18. He is scheduled to get an echo on July 31. I can't begin to imagine how stressful it must be to continually be waiting weeks for appointments post heart attack. It's not clear to me if these delays are pandemic related.

Monday, June 22, 2020

Michael and I took advantage of World Market reopening and purchased a patio table with a bench this weekend. We purchased a canopy (table umbrella) and stand today so are now all set for al fresco dining. Maybe someday we will actually have people over. And in a carthartic move, I also returned the "chair" to Kohl's this morning.

No matter how many times I heard Michael say yesterday he doesn't celebrate Father's Day, I'm certain Sean's text last night was the highlight of his day.

Butch and I went to Donna's house yesterday to see if she might like some of Dad's remaining paintings or drawings. We had a revealing chat about how difficult it was growing up with Dad's frequent sarcastic remarks and other verbal abuse. I realized how hard it had to have been for Donna as the youngest child to be at home without the support of other siblings. Probably not the best Father's Day topic but it was our reality for several years.

On the bright side, Butch treated Donna and me to lunch at Big Boy's and I felt a moment of bliss as I bit into my Slim Jim. I'm certain it was the highlight of my day. I wonder if Big Boy's knows how much...

Friday, June 19, 2020

I spent some time with Butch yesterday going through the remainder of Dad's stuff - old files, paintings and drawings, a few old photos and books, and other miscellaneous items. I came home with his military records and am planning to either scan them and/or go through them and create a chronological document of his ranks, assignments, and commendations. Butch did note that because Dad was in intelligence, some of the locations listed may not be reality. I am thinking this may be a good winter project for me. Who knows, some day I may get around to writing my life story and I could count this as research.

My partially assembled chair is still sitting in the family room as I deal with the manufacturer's parts department in California. I feel like I am getting closer to boxing it up and returning it to Kohl's.

And of note - on Monday the Supreme Court ruled favorably on the LGBTQ case that Aimee played a significant role in. It is unfortunate she died before the ruling but it is a major victory for both her personally and the LGBTQ community. I was really touched when Donna called to give me the good news. And given how the world has been turned upside down this year with not only the COVID pandemic but also the Black Lives Matter movement, it was nice to get some good news for a change.

Wednesday, June 17, 2020

Someone I worked with at Eastern Michigan University died suddenly over the weekend. Jean was more than just a work friend. I've always said that of all the places I've worked over my lifetime, my job at EMU was my favorite. This was in part due to the wonderful group of people I worked with. We occasionally socialized after work and I would have felt comfortable calling on any one of them if I was stranded on the highway and needed to be rescued. As a result of this sad news, however, I ended up talking to two of my old coworkers, one who just happens to be my ex-sister-in-law. It was nice catching up with them and hearing about what their children (now grown-ups) are up to. When this pandemic is no longer a threat, I hope we are able to get together in person.

I also spoke to Bern a few days ago. He's pretty certain he had a heart attack on May 18th but doesn't have an appointment with his cardiologist to get an EKG and other tests until the end of June. I find this appalling. It's hard not to be concerned and I suspect for him the wait for care has to be making him extremely anxious.

I was feeling a little frustrated this morning. I discovered while assembling a chair I purchased at Kohl's that a set of holes on one of the arm rests are drilled on the wrong side. So I now find myself in a bit of a quandry because a part of me wants to just return the chair to Kohl's but because it's partially assembled doing so will be awkward. There is an email listed on the parts sheet to report problems. I've already been in contact with them due to missing hardware and so far they have not been very helpful. What to do, what to do...

Sunday, June 14, 2020

Michael and I celebrated our 48th wedding anniversary today. It's hard to believe we have been married nearly half of a century, 70% of our lives, but here we are. It hasn't always been an easy path but we have persevered. We decided to go to Paesano's, our old standby restaurant, for dinner. It was nice after all these years of being away to not only be in a familiar place but to also have the owner acknowledge us.

I am not sure what the years ahead of us will bring but I believe we will be okay.

Friday, June 12, 2020

Butch, April, Michael, and I ate at Knight's last night and as much as I don't want to sound like it was a big deal, it was pretty darn close. It's been awhile since we've gone out and sat in a restaurant for dinner.

Stores are starting to reopen. Michael and I went to Kohl's today and I found a nice rug on sale for my room. And the long awaited reopening of REI happens on Monday. Dare I say I believe a certain someone I am married to is giddy with anticipation.

Butch and I started walking every other day. We have been meeting at my house around 6:30am. I am grateful that he is willing to make the drive over but I must admit feeling a little guilty. It's been nice, however, having a walking buddy.

Wednesday, June 10, 2020

Yesterday the City of Ann Arbor planted a tulip poplar in the median in front of our house. It's not clear if Michael wanted a tree but our very sunny front yard may one day be shady, which is something to consider when selecting plants.

Today is one of those oppressive humid days that makes me appreciate having air conditioning. It wasn't too bad when Butch and I walked this morning but when I went out later to run errands, it was pretty noticeable. Currently a big storm (rain and strong winds) is moving through Ann Arbor. Lights are flickering a little. I won't be surprised if we lose power.

I've been experiencing additional issues with my laptop's browsers that I find concerning as my understanding is that they are virus related. Couple these issues with the audio distortion I have been experiencing these past few years and I am getting closer to getting a new laptop. I feel like it may be time.

Tuesday, June 9, 2020

Busy day... The racks Michael ordered are on the car making it possible to load the paddleboards and head to Gallup Park. It was a nice day to be out on the river but as I drifted upstream, I found myself making comparisons to paddling in the ocean. And I realized it was like comparing apples to oranges in that the two locales are not just physically miles apart but metaphysically apart as well. There was something mesmerizing about the movement of bright green reeds on the river bottom. And the humble little river turtles sunning themselves on the logs along the riverbanks made me smile. As did the dozens of geese and duck families with their little ones.

Following our little river adventure, we went to the Northside Grill for lunch. It's been nearly three months since we've eaten "out" and it was rather nice to sit on their patio with Jim and catch up on news about the people and places we left behind five plus years ago. A touch of the ordinary.

Friday, June 5, 2020

This morning, Michael and I dropped off Nanu's chair at my friend Karol's house to have it reupholstered. The chair was made in Denmark by CADO in the 60's. Karol selected a green leather from her stock of material and it looks like it will be the perfect color for the chair's time period. I have a lot of confidence in Karol's skills and am really looking forward to seeing the finished chair.

On another note, Karol is also willing to share her plants with us. I've had similar offers from both my sister Tricia and another old friend. So maybe my fantasy of having a yard full of plant orphans may come true. There is something to be said about standing in your yard and having living reminders of other plant lover's generosity and friendship.

Butch and I may walk together again tomorrow morning. I appreciate his company. He tends to see things I don't notice when I am walking, a good quality to have.

Wednesday, June 3, 2020

Our video calls this morning with our "old" new doctor went well but I think I prefer face-to-face appointments. That said, we have a doctor finally, labwork has been ordered, and prescriptions have been renewed. Life during a pandemic goes on.

After our appointments, Michael and I picked up Butch and headed to Costco. Our list had four items on it: batteries, storage bags, Clorox wipes and gin. Not surprisingly, there were no wipes in stock but we got the other items plus a lot of other non-essentials that made their way into the cart. To repeat, life during a pandemic goes on.

Tuesday, June 2, 2020

Our mattress and dresser were delivered yesterday. I put my clothes in the new dresser this morning and wondered if people still line their drawers (I didn't). Our next big purchase will be outside furniture and a grill but I consider both non-essential so no rush. Eventually, I'd also like to get area rugs (we are using our swanky moving pads currently), lamps, nightstands, a bookcase for the basement guestroom, and the list goes on...

I also heard back from the doctor's office yesterday and both Michael and I have video appointments with our old doctor tomorrow morning. It will be good to get back on track with medications, labs, etc.

I walked the 4.58 miles to Butch's house this morning. I checked out the roadkill along the path on Platt Road and backed away from a mean looking dog at one point but overall it's not too bad of a walk. Thursday morning, Butch and I are planning to meet at Lillie Park (half-way point between our respective homes) and do a loop through the park. Remembering an old Chinese proverb that says a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step...

Sunday, May 31, 2020

Butch, Tricia, and I were at Donna's several hours yesterday but did make noticeable progress in the garage. Disposal of some items may be challenging but hopefully once things normalize more, there will be more options for disposal available.

I checked on the robin family this morning and only saw one chick sitting in the nest. Mom eventually visited the nest, flew off, and a few seconds later the chick followed. Michael checked the nest and it was empty so I am assuming the rest of the chicks flew off either early this morning or sometime yesterday. This past month, I've found the process of watching the nest being built, then watching mom and dad caring for their chicks, and finally seeing the last chick take flight fascinating.

Friday, May 29, 2020

Hold the presses, Michael and I bought a mattress and a dresser at Gardner White today. I was surprised to see them open but malls in the area are starting to open as well. Fawn, our sales associate, talked us into a semi-pricey Serta IComfort mattress. And then we talked each other into a mango wood dresser. Another pricey purchase but besides being a nice looking piece of furniture, it also looked solid and well constructed. Delivery for both items is scheduled on Monday.

Our robin chicks are getting too big for their nest, which makes me wonder when they will be on their own. If one of them falls out, it's a bit of a drop to the porch below. I admittedly find watching them from the kitchen window interesting.

Butch and I are headed to Donna's house tomorrow morning. I believe one of the tasks is to clear the front area of the garage in preparation for the installation of a new garage door. If I am honest with myself, I mostly go to see Donna and any other family members that show up.

Thursday, May 28, 2020

For the past few weeks I have been trying to get a primary care physician at Michigan Health. More specifically I called the clinic we used to go to to see if Michael and I could return to the same doctor we went to for several years before our stint in Hawaii. Apparently the clinic tried to contact our former doctor to ask and he hasn't responded. I told the person assisting me today that at this point I don't care who our doctor is. At issue is Michael is already rationing his meds by taking them every other day and will soon run out. If this is happening to us, I suspect there are a lot of others that are in limbo regarding their health care as well. I am relieved we aren't at a critical point yet but am hoping we are able to come up with a solution for this issue soon.

In container gardening news, I am happy to report that my research revealed that rosemary and lavender can be grown in the same pot.

I am trying to re-establish an exercise routine of sorts and this week have tried alternating mornings of walking outside with mornings exercising in the basement (bike/lightweights). I think it will work until it gets too cold to walk outside comfortably 4-6 months from now. I seem to have a window (using one of Michael's analogies) for working out - if I don't get to it when I first get up, it's not going to happen. Exceptions are if I am engaging in physical activity with someone else.

Wednesday, May 27, 2020

Yesterday, Michael and I went to the Ace on Stadium Blvd. to pick up a few items. And if you are wondering, they do not carry fiberglass, which is what Michael needs to repair the paddleboard he broke while unpacking the moving pod last month. In a surprising move, however, we did purchase a few more pieces of dinnerware. If I add more pieces in the future, I think I'd like to buy something funky or whimsical.

I also found small pots of lavender and rosemary - two plants with very different scents that I love. I'll probably repot them today but am wondering if it's okay to have them in the same pot. Googling...

Monday, May 25, 2020

Butch delivered a huge ceramic pot this afternoon from April. I am unsure where it eventually will go but I may put it in the family room as an objet d'art for now. If I end up deciding to use it as an indoor planter (thinking ficus tree), I'll need to find something to put under it to protect the floor. Regardless, it's a wonderful addition to our home and everytime I look at it I will be reminded of how thoughtful Butch and April are.

These past few weeks, I've been photographing the robins that built a nest on our porch light. I thought they only had two chicks but today counted four hungry mouths waiting for food. Initially their parents spent a lot of time at the nest but I've noticed the past few days the chicks are on their own for long stretches. One of them seems really weak, I hope it survives. I would hate to find a dead baby robin on the porch one morning.

I cooked an entire package of bacon today... and it was good...

Sunday, May 24, 2020

On the yard front, potting continues with the purchase of more potting soil. Michael and I also purchased a few herbs yesterday and a snake plant for the front porch.

I've discovered that one off shoot of this pandemic is that getting notary service at our local bank is a difficult endeavor. Fortunately, an old friend from my days at Michigan National Bank is still a notary and kindly offered to notarize some documents for Michael at his home. So we drove to Canton yesterday morning to visit him, masks on, with our own pen. And I am sure he sanitized the table we used when we left. I felt like I was in an episode of bizarro world.

Yesterday, Butch and April came by for dinner - standard Memorial Day fare of hamburgers, hotdogs, mac salad, corn on the cob, and strawberry shortcake. I'm afraid social distancing and other guidelines were not strictly adhered to. It was a nice break, however, from the isolation of our normal routines.

It is quite warm today, dare I say hot? I left the house at about 10 am and walked to County Farm Park and worked up quite a sweat. It feels like summer out there...

Thursday, May 21, 2020

I potted a few succulents today that I purchased last week and think they look pretty good. I have more to pot but need to purchase more soil first. I'd also like to purchase herbs as well with hopes they'll successfully flourish in a few pots on the back steps.

Joe attended Aimee's burial at Lafayette Memorial Park on Tuesday. I like to think he was there as not only Donna's proxy but also to represent the family. It was a small gathering. I downloaded burial photos from Joe's Flickr account to use for a spread I am planning in my annual photo book so was glad he was able to attend.

Butch and I spent time at Donna's on Wednesday. He really got a lot done outside while I helped Donna sort through more of Aimee's belongings. She's been busy going through Aimee's paperwork as well and trying to address any items that need action - a tedious process. She doesn't have death certificates yet so much is still on hold. Baby steps...

Monday, May 18, 2020

You can't have a rainbow without a little rain but so far it's just another grey drizzly day. The missing ingredient is the sunlight needed to pass through the prism of water. I used to smile when someone would describe a passing shower in Hawaii as liquid sunshine. But it's a spot on description when you think about it.

I have nothing on my agenda today except some house chores. Kali has been keeping me company despite the slight bleach smell on my hands. My trademark...

I finally caught up on Facebook this morning and am somewhat discouraged by the amount of bigotry and hate a few of my friends/family continue to post. Not that this is a new phenomena. The ones that bother me the most are the ones that share an image or article full of misinformation. Many are political in nature and paint a very black and white them vs. us image. I find myself hoping it's not what they really believe but the fact that they are sharing this content is telling. And not in a good way. Big, big sigh...

Sunday, May 17, 2020

Another grey rainy day... My work space is slowly evolving. Michael and I went to Home Depot yesterday and bought coating for the plank I plan to use as a desk top. I also bought some succulents and soil and when it warms up will transfer them to ceramic pots we brought from Hawaii. Of course, I am already trying to plan for what happens to my succulents next winter. They will not survive unless I bring them inside. Maybe grow lights in the laundry room?

Michael cut my hair yesterday and it looks pretty good. I believe if he had professional scissors and a good comb, he could be styling in no time as Mr. D's Salon. His choice of name, not mine.

Thursday, May 14, 2020

I woke up to a grey rainy day. The perfect day, as it turned out, to help Donna sort through the contents of dressers and cabinets. Donna and I filled several garbage bags while Butch emptied out oxygen cannisters and took care of other outdoor chores. I found spending the day with Butch and Donna oddly calming. We chatted, we reminisced, and we laughed as we worked. Butch had asked me earlier if I had regrets about leaving Hawaii. I answered that I felt like there are always some regrets when you move. But moments like today reinforced my desire to be closer to family, one of many reasons Michael and I moved.

Tuesday, May 12, 2020

Sadly, Aimee passed away this morning. Butch and I arrived about 90 minutes before she died. Aimee seemed to be struggling and was breathing irregularly. Butch, Aimee's sister Susan, and I were in the kitchen and I really wasn't surprised when Donna came to the door and said she was gone. My heart aches for Donna. Charles Step Funeral Home in Redford is handling the arrangements and Aimee will be shipped to North Carolina in a few days to be buried in her family's cemetery plot at Lafayette Memorial Park. I do not know when the actual burial will occur. I am thankful that the GoFundMe accounts will cover funeral costs and other expenses Donna may have going forward.

Monday, May 11, 2020

Unless something has changed, the probate hearing for the lot in question on our Niu Valley property is only a few days away on the 14th. Our fingers are crossed that the ruling goes in Michael's favor as we'd like to have this matter resolved and behind us. Positive thoughts...

Aimee's GoFundMe account has exceeded $20,000. I am not privy to what conversations are taking place regarding Aimee's care but I heard Donna may need more assistance than hospice is currently providing. I am hoping the amount raised is sufficient to cover any expenses going forward particularly if Aimee hangs on longer than expected. This is me wanting to be more in the loop but resistant to contacting Donna because I don't want to add more stress to her situation.

I received the two five-drawer units I ordered to use as a base for a desk and took two days assembling them. A couple of fingers took some damage screwing in all the hardware needed to put them together but they look nice. Michael and I went to Lowes and purchased a plank to use as a desktop. So I finally have the beginnings of a usable work space. I have some small bins coming from Amazon and hope to at least get the items I shipped from Hawaii sorted and organized. Fine tuning can come later.

The weather remains cold and grey. I think both Michael and I both just want it to warm up here. I miss outdoor time.

Friday, May 8, 2020

The family set up a GoFundMe account yesterday to raise funds to help Donna with costs related to Aimee's healthcare, future funeral expenses, and other financial needs. It's doing well. I won't be surprised if donations eventually surpass $20,000. The original goal was $15,000 and so far $18, 865 has been raised. When the time comes, Aimee would like to buried in North Carolina in her family's plot.

Butch, April, and I visited Donna earlier this week to help her with yardwork. Donna is hanging in there but her stress level is high as she tries to balance work, caring for Aimee, and house chores. It's difficult to know how to best help her but I hope she knows how much her family loves her.

Sunday, May 3, 2020

We visited April and Butch yesterday to celebrate April's birthday. It felt like a bit of normalcy, if that makes sense.

Thursday, April 30, 2020

Little did I know as this year began what was to come. In January, the effects of my brother’s anger and hurt overshadowed me in ways that left me beaten and tired. It didn’t help that I was also ill during this time period and had little energy to cope with all that was going on. Our house was for sale. The only bright spot was that Sean and Rose were visiting. Michael and I then discovered in mid-February that our pending house sale could not happen until an issue with the title was resolved. We hired an attorney and she is scheduled to present our case to a probate judge in mid-May. And while we hope for a favorable outcome, the delays and uncertainty have caused an undercurrent of stress in our daily lives. We moved to Michigan in March and within a few days of arriving a stay-at-home order was issued because of the COVID-19 pandemic. Until a week ago, we were waiting for our shipping pod (and with it a sense of normalcy) to arrive. The pod made it to our driveway in Ann Arbor two months after leaving our driveway in Honolulu, crossing an ocean and another 2400 miles overland. But it is just one of a few resolved matters in our lives currently.

I must admit I am tired. But I can’t help but feel a little guilty at the same time because in the scheme of things I have much to be thankful for. I am doing okay and I mostly accept what I can’t control. I don’t think, however, that Michael is coping as well. He seems angry a lot. But in retrospect, the anger may just be a part of who he is, what drives him.

And throughout all this I find my heart breaking for my youngest sister. She advised the family yesterday that her spouse has decided to discontinue both dialysis treatments and medications and is now under hospice care. It’s unknown how long her spouse will survive. I can’t help but worry about how draining this will be for my sister. Final days and end of life moments are not easy. I hope both my sister and her spouse find some peace throughout this process.

Wednesday, April 29, 2020

Today is Sean and Rose's 2nd wedding anniversary. Without getting into the adversity they have faced since their wedding, it brings me a lot of comfort knowing that they have each other. I love them both and hope they have a lifetime together. I think Rose's posting today on Twitter says it well. We got married two years ago today. To paraphrase television we love: In all this randomness and this pandemonium, we found each other, and we have a life together. Isn't that remarkable?

Remarkable indeed. Happy Anniversary, Sean and Rose...

Tuesday, April 28, 2020

We've enjoyed two sunny days in a row and took advantage of the warmer temps to spend time outside. Yesterday we walked the trail from Parker Mill to Matthaei Botanical Gardens and back. Today we walked from our house to County Farm Park and back. It was nice to be out after being cooped up in the house sorting through bins this past week.

I forgot to mention that when I was unpacking the outdoor ceramic pots a few days ago, I discovered a live cockroach in the bottom of one of the pots. I'd run across a few dead roach carcasses but this guy was still frisky. I am happy to report, it is no longer among the living.

Arlene (Seattle) called me today. Outside of family, after all this isolation, it was nice to hear a friendly voice. She and her husband, Bill, are selling their home and moving to Las Vegas. She is one of the few people I know that I believe when she says she may one day visit me. I hope her home sale and move goes smoothly.

Monday, April 27, 2020

Living room furniture from Burrows arrived on Saturday. The pieces came in several well labeled boxes and turned out to be fairly easy to assemble. It's the first time Michael and I have purchased a couch, chair, and ottoman that we assembled ourselves. Is this the future? Anyway, we now finally have a comfy, functional family room, dining room, kitchen, and front room (aka Michael's art and music salon).

I still have several bins to sort through. But with no shelving, etc. to put things on or in, there isn't much urgency to unpack them. I believe Michael is experiencing the same issue but on a grander scale. He has a lot of art supplies and artwork to sort through.

It's a sunny beautiful day with temps currently in the 50's. Time to head outside.

Friday, April 24, 2020

The pod is empty and is scheduled for pick-up on Monday. I unpacked the bin with my pottery this morning and so far only two items are broken. Unfortunately one of those was an artsy retro piece I believe Michael's father made, which makes me really sad. I didn't feel that badly about the outdoor pots as they were in the if it fits, it ships category when we were packing.

The coffee table I ordered online is scheduled to arrive today and the couch/chair/ottoman set within the next few days. We still need a mattress for our bed and a dresser. And I'd like to set up an office/work/relax area for myself. I was looking forward to going to Ikea and browsing for furniture but that's a no-can-do. I just need to be patient a little longer or try to shop for furniture on-line.

Thursday, April 23, 2020

Michael and I cleared out most of the pod this morning - all that remains is some art work and art supplies. Unfortunately, about half of the ceramic (outdoor) pots I packed were cracked. And the top of one of the two pagodas that made the trip was in pieces. I am sure we'll find other damaged items as we continue to unpack. I am rather hoping, however, that my pottery pieces are intact. I plan to open that bin tomorrow...

The kitchen is in good shape and I spent today doing a lot of laundry. I washed all the sheets, quilts, towels, clothing, etc. that was packed in the pod. I also cleaned and oiled most of the furniture we shipped. After weeks of having little to do, it's a bit daunting to walk into rooms filled with unopened bins.

Wednesday, April 22. 2020

I have been tracking our moving pod on the PODS website and noticed Monday night that it showed the pod was in Romulus, Michigan. I called yesterday and the the pod was delivered this morning. Dare I say that both Michael and I were a bit excited (in a subdued senior citizen way). Butch and April came over today and we unloaded about 3/4 of the pod - fortunately that included two very heavy pieces of furniture. Given how my lower back is feeling, Michael and I were very grateful to have their help.

I've concentrated my efforts so far on the kitchen and most items have been washed and/or put away. After not seeing our "stuff" for two months, it is nice to finaly have it here in our new home. Some of the furniture got banged up, the TV is a loss, and there was some damage to the boards Michael shipped, but I am somewhat optimistic that most of the items packed in the bins will be in decent condition. Fingers crossed...

Saturday, April 18, 2020

After a snowy cold day yesterday, it warmed up enough today to walk. It felt good to be outside after being cooped up most of the week. We also grocery shopped today so should be set for the upcoming week.

I'm impressed by other's generosity during these trying times. People have been sewing face masks and sharing them. Both Tricia and Amber have given Michael and me masks. And when we were walking today, a neighbor had a basket of different sized face masks in front of her house with a sign indicating they were free to anyone in need. For myself, I hope I am able to pay the kindness shown toward me forward.

Friday, April 17, 2020

Someone posted this on Facebook and I thought it was worth saving for future reference:

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but you need to know how silly you look if you post some variation of, “Welcome to Socialism…”. You are not seeing Socialism. What you are seeing is one of the wealthiest, geographically advantaged, productive capitalist societies in the world flounder and fail at its most basic test. Taking care of its people.

The crisis is not about the virus. The crisis is about the failure of our “booming economy” to survive even modest challenges. It is about the market dissonance of shortages in stores, even as farmers/producers destroy unused crops and products. This crisis is about huge corporations needing an emergency bailout within days of the longest bull market in our history ending and despite the ability to borrow with zero percent interest rates.

This crisis is about corporatized healthcare systems being unable and ill equipped to provide basic healthcare, at the same time they post record profits. It is about crisis response depending on antiquated systems nobody remembers how to operate.

But most of all, this crisis is a direct result of the publication of every aspect of our society for the benefit of a privileged few. The vilification of education, science, media, natural lights, rural lifestyles, urban lifestyles, charity, compassion, and virtually everything else for brief political gain has gutted our society.

Thursday, April 16, 2020

My nephew continues to post angry comments on Facebook. His sister continues to respond. Today's posts ended with him saying, "That's y I said fuck y'all 2 take care ur own yard." And her responding, "So...fuck ya'll too. Hope you don't get COVID."

Related, I've noticed my nephew uses the acronym IMAO a lot and I finally looked it up. It stands for "in my arrogant opinion" and is usually used with a sense of irony or self-deprecation. Another site, however, elaborated and said being arrogant means you have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and tend to make excessive or unjustified claims. Huh...

I'm a bit embarassed to note that it's a sad state of affairs to find myself so interested in these posts. In some ways, however, they seem to represent the divisiveness in our country right now.

On a more positive note, Amber (one of Sean's old friends) just dropped off a few masks she made for Michael and me. With the masks Tricia sent for us, I now have three masks to get me through this pandemic.

Wednesday, April 15, 2020

The stimulus payment was direct deposited to our bank account today along with our monthly social security payments. The news reported that Trump wants his name displayed on the paper checks when they go out to people without direct deposit. He needs to come up with a catchy name to put on the checks like the Trump Grump Bump or the Trump Chump Hump. Anyway, thank you Mr. Trump for paying for a few pieces of much needed furniture in our semi-empty house.

Moving on, I found myself somewhat amused yesterday about an exchange on Facebook between my nephew, his sister, and his sister's spouse. He is on a rant to impeach Governor Whitmer because she did not include landscapers as essential workers in Michigan's stay-at-home order. While I am sympathetic about his situation and understand how financially detrimental this is for him, this is a dangerous time and strict measures are called for to slow down the spread of the corona virus. As I shake my head at his outrage, I find myself asking this question. Would I be more sympathetic if he was the type of person that instead of focusing on his inability to do landscape work, he focused on using his free time and energy to help others? Maybe by volunteering at a foodbank or another organization that is assisting others during this crisis? It might go far in giving him more perspective on the challenges others are experiencing. Just a thought on my part. And shame on me for sounding judgmental because I really don't fully know his situation.

Full disclosure: I acknowledge that I am big on volunteerism so may be a bit biased on this subject. And also I am not involved in any organizations myself currently.

Tuesday, April 14, 2020

I’ve been living in the Lillian house for 28 days and it still doesn’t feel like home to me. I’d like to believe that home is where Michael and Kali are but I am finding there is more to it. Maybe this is the self isolation speaking but I’ve been asking myself what makes a house a home. Is it because my belongings are somewhere else? Is it the lack of normalcy this pandemic has brought to my life? Is it the inability to visit or be visited by family? I don’t know but I believe it’s because there is not much in our house that truly reflects who I am. Michael wisely set up a room as his studio and while it may not be furnished the way he wants and he doesn’t have his supplies, he’s made it his personal space. The best I’ve managed so far is camping out in the family room on my old futon.

Sometimes I feel like I’ve left a little piece of who I am in all the houses I’ve called home over the course of my life. A trail of crumbs randomly dotting a map…

And while I can’t control what is happening in the world right now, I do have some control over how I am reacting to it. And I know I can do better. Maybe it would be easier if there was a rule book to follow.

Monday, April 13, 2020

I find myself creating little projects to fill my days but am also finding myself watching more TV than usual. Instead of judge shows and the news, I searched PBS programming today and discovered a Ken Burn's series on the Roosevelts that was free. I watched part of the first episode today and am looking forward to continuing with the series this week.

Today was grey and blustery. I stood in the doorway a few times and thought about going out but couldn't get motivated enough to put on long pants, shoes, and my coat. I sure do miss the days of walking outside in shorts and flip flops. Sigh...

Sunday, April 12, 2020

I wish I could think of something profound to say instead of reporting on shopping successes and failures. I have to admit I feel some guilt about non-essential items I've purchased either in stores or on-line. It's been easy enough to rationalize that because we just moved here and our shipping pod is stalled in California, we are filling a need. But I still feel guilt.

Life is on pause and no rewind or fast forward is available. Michael and I are taking it day by day. He is more restless than me. I believe if the weather was warmer, we'd both benefit mentally and physically. We've certainly appreciated the few sunny days we've had since arriving in Ann Arbor. Do I have regrets about leaving Hawaii? Of course I do but I realize I'd also have regrets if I'd stayed.

Now if I could just remember to take the kleenex out of my pockets when I do laundry...

Friday, April 10, 2020

Michael and I ventured to Target today and ended up spending mega-bucks. Our major purchase was a printer but we also bought house items, art supplies, groceries, toilet paper (couldn't resist), and a few hygiene products. What I really needed was paper towels, which ended up not being in stock. When it comes to shopping these days, it's all about timing I guess. Surprisingly, Target was not all that busy.

Celina called me while I was at Target to tell me that she was pregnant. In these trying times it was nice to get good news. I recall when I found out I was pregnant that surreal moment of realization that a human being was growing inside of me. I am truly happy for her and Michael.

Thursday, April 9, 2020

Our governor extended the stay-at-home order until April 30th. Daily life is overshadowed by this pandemic and measures to keep residents home have increased. No surprise as Michigan's confirmed cases are now at 21,504 with 1076 deaths.

I contacted the car dealership yesterday and the business manager dropped off our license plate this afternoon so we are at least able to check that off our pending list.

And it both hailed and snowed today. Just saying...

Wednesday, April 8, 2020

I seem to be losing track of what day it is. And as COVID-19 cases skyrocket, I find myself more wary when I am out and about. I've tried to limit trips to the grocery store and when possible have been buying non-grocery items for the house on-line. But there are times when you need a grocery item like milk, for example, and end up going to another store because of shortages.

There have been big swings in daytime temperatures lately. Temps when I get up are often in the 30s and 40s and then by mid-afternoon are often in the 50s and 60s. I've been trying to come up with a schedule of sorts to exercise. Unfortunately I find that if I don't walk or workout as soon as I get up, I find it difficult to do so later in the day. But I really would prefer to walk when the temperatures are warmer. It's a conundrum.

Today Michael and I walked a paved trail along Dixboro Rd. that went from Parker Mill County Park to Matthaei Botanical Gardens. There were several signs along the trail warning people to stay on the path because massasauga rattlesnakes are found in the area. We did see a snake slithering across the path but I didn't get close enough to see what kind of snake it was. This would be the third snake I've seen in the past few weeks.

We still haven't received our license plate from the dealer. With the Secretary of State offices closed, I am hoping it doesn't turn out to be a problem.

Saturday, April 4, 2020

Michael and I just watched Once Upon a Time in Hollywood and it was thoroughly enjoyable. We currently only have basic cable (about 10 channels) but because of the pandemic Xfinity is offering temprary limited access to a few premium channels. I also watched the Green Book, another great movie, a few nights ago.

It was a bit cooler today than it's been the past few days. I have to admit I miss the warmth of Hawaii. There's something to be said for being able to walk outside without bundling up. And I really loved my morning walks in the valley. That said, Michigan has its own quiet beauty and I appreciate living in such close proximity to both County Farm Park and Gallup Park. And I am rambling...

Friday, April 3, 2020

It's unfortunate the move to Michigan coincided with the COVID-19 pandemic. I have tried to be patient about not getting call-backs or responses to inquiries I've made regarding medical insurance changes, banking issues and utility cancellations because I know workers in essential positions are being bombarded. But it's hard not to wonder if my inquiries have been somehow lost in the shuffle. Especially for things that are time sensitive. I am forcing myself to wait a week before trying to make contact again but am finding the uncertainty difficult.

Yesterday's sun and higher afternoon temps were a nice reprieve from the gray skies and chilly temps we've been experiencing this past week. Michael and I enjoyed a walk along the Huron River at Gallup Park. I saw another garter snake - this one was sunning himself on the path but slithered away when we approached. Maybe snakes have got the message about social distancing.

I am wishing I had a bandanna or similar item to use as a mask in the event I need to grocery shop or go somewhere I will be in contact with the public. I checked a few sites online but shipment dates tended to be in late April so are not that helpful for the present. Oh well...

Wednesday, April 1, 2020

It's been a boring couple of days. Our only outing was to Kroger's on Monday. But our freezer and cupboards are well stocked for this stay at home period. Except for gin, Michael says he's low on gin...

I heard from Sean a few days ago and his MRI results are a sobering reminder of how vigilant he has to be. There was no reoccurrence in the area he had surgery on but the MRI detected swelling in a couple of lymph nodes that the doctor wants to keep an eye on for any changes. So cautious optimism...

Sunday, March 29, 2020

I nearly stepped on a garter snake today at County Farm Park while trying to avoid mud on the path. It was the most excitement I've had all week.

Sean called tonight and it was nice hearing his voice. He and Rose are surviving the lockdown and are both working from home. He mentioned he had his annual MRI (cancer check-up) this past week. Fingers are crossed that the results are boring but meanwhile I expect Sean is pretty anxious.

Saturday, March 28, 2020

Thank you Leonard...

Here are the words in full: The birds they sing, at the break of day. Start again, I heard them say. Don’t dwell on what has passed away. Or what is yet to be.

Yes, the wars, they will be fought again. The holy dove she will be caught again. Bought, and soul, and bought again. The dove is never free.

Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.

We asked for signs. The signs were sent. The birth betrayed. The marriage spent. Yeah, the widowhood of every government. Signs for all to see.

I can’t run no more, with that lawless crowd. While the killers in high places say their prayers out loud. But they’ve summoned, they’ve summoned up a thundercloud. They’re going to hear from me.

Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.

You can add up the parts; you won’t have the sum. You can strike up the march, there is no drum. Every heart, every heart to love will come. But like a refugee.

Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.

Friday, March 27, 2020

Friday night date night is alive and well as we wait for our delivery order from Chili's. We are providing our own adult beverages. Michael is sitting in front of the sliding glass door at the back of the house enjoying the sun while we wait. He asked if we should sit at the card table to eat and I may have snorted. We shall see...

Thursday, March 26, 2020

I experienced a moment of deja vu during yesterday's afternoon walk at County Farm Park. I've walked the paths there so many times. Blue skies, sun, fresh air, and Michael's company made for a very pleasant walk. Despite gray skies, we walked again today. This time we walked through our old neighborhood. We only saw one of our former neighbors but she was on her way into her house and we didn't have a chance to say hello. It doesn't look like the owners of our old house have made any changes to the exterior and it may be the time of year but it was looking a little unkept. I'd like to ask them for a shoot or cutting from the wisteria vine we planted years ago but I'm not sure how they would respond.

We shopped at Meijer's this morning and they had plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables, meat, cheese, etc. Shortages seemed to be mostly things like toilet paper and cleaning supplies. Thankfully, we are pretty well stocked at this point.

According to news reports, conditions at Detroit hospitals are rapidly deteriorating. They are overwhelmed by the ever growing numbers of COVID-19 patients and at the same time the lack of protective gear and other needed supplies. I have a lot of sympathy for their workers. This is certainly a case of our country reacting too late to the inevitable.

Wednesday, March 25, 2020

I haven't mentioned that a few days ago Michael and I purchased a new Honda Fit Sport at Serra Brighton Honda. The dealership was in transition to new ownership, which caused some issues registering the car and getting a plate. And of course, the Secretary of State's offices were all closing as the state went into lockdown. Our Fit may have been the first car sold under the new dealership name and I appreciated that their financial person worked hard to get the car registered and secure a temporary paper "plate." He came by our house later in the evening and taped it on the rear window of the car for us.

It's still pretty chilly this morning but is supposed to warm up this afternoon so I am delaying walking until then. Butch mentioned he has some free weights I can borrow so soon I will have no excuses for my laziness.

Tuesday, March 24, 2020

Michael, Butch, and I went to Sam's Club today and I discovered that despite having toilet paper at home, it's hard not to buy a pack when it's available. People seem to be staying home as there was very little traffic. And Sam's Club surprisingly had very few customers, which made shopping rather pleasant. And of course, we were all practicing social distancing.

The vacuum cleaner I ordered from Amazon was waiting for me on our front porch when I got home from Sam's Club. I put it to good use and picked up quite a bit of dust and dirt from the rugs. Not surprising when you consider the rugs haven't been vacuumed for six months.

The temps are supposed to be in the 50's tomorrow and I am looking forward to getting out for some fresh air and a walk.

Monday, March 23, 2020

This was a difficult day for me and I'm feeling a little down on myself. I can't seem to get much right despite my efforts. Besides being berated for missing communication cues and chided for my inattentiveness, there were couple of should of moments that have made me doubt myself. And while I know no malice was intended, I ended today feeling tired and beaten. I am hoping for a better tomorrow.

Sunday, March 22, 2020

A very tired Michael arrived safely yesterday. Kali was a little unsure at first but she eventually figured out who the new addition to our household is and all is well. With all the uncertainty in our lives currently, it is good that we are finally together.

Butch brought us a small futon couch we used to have in our house on Chesterfield. It's basically a platform with a futon mattress - kind of like a plush cot. It's made a comfy addition to our living room and Kali and I like having something to lay on. Joe's used it as a bed when he's visited Butch so I feel a little guilty about having it here. Note to Joe, it's yours if you happen to be in the AA area.

I miss my morning walks and working out at the gym. I've only missed a week of walks but it's been more than a month since I've done any strength training. I've decided to try to come up with a strength/stretching routine that I can do without any kind of equipment. And I need to get back to either walking or riding the stationery bike. I've worked too hard to get fitter and don't want to have to start all over.

Saturday, March 21, 2020

I never dreamed that my first week back in Ann Arbor would be like this. I imagined visiting with family, shopping for furniture, and enjoying the wide range of restaurants in the area. Instead I am hunting store shelves for basic necessities and for the most part staying home to limit exposure.

Michael's flight arrives soon after a very stressful last week in Honolulu. In spite of restrictions and shortages due to COVID-19, I think he will breathe a sigh of relief to be here with family. And despite this virus being global, I remember feeling a little like a refugee when I stepped off the plane in Detroit.

Friday, March 20, 2020

Butch dropped by today to bring me my old exercise bike. He then kindly drove me to Target to pick up a few more items for the house. He smartly stayed in the car while I shopped. I was unable to find some items but in the scheme of things, I just feel appreciative to have what I have been able to find.

This morning I took a 2.5 mile walk around the neighborhood and needed another layer as it was a bit nippier than I anticipated. But I've missed my morning walks and it felt good to get out.

Despite long periods under the duvet on the futon, Kali is adjusting to her new home. She seems to be fascinated by the basement so maybe Michael will have some company when he is working in his studio downstairs. He is scheduled to arrive tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

Michael and I are in the process of purchasing a new car. With all the business closures and lock downs, I find myself a little concerned that auto dealers may close their doors before we complete the transaction. Another fingers crossed moment.

Thursday, March 19, 2020

What a difference a week makes. I left Hawaii on Monday night and arrived in Michigan on Tuesday. It was difficult to practice social distancing on the fully booked flight from HNL to LAX. Every time someone coughed or sneezed I winced. And I was shoulder to shoulder with the guy sitting next to me but it couldn't be helped. The seats in the main cabin are narrow and he was pretty broad shouldered. In contrast, the main cabin on the flight from LAX to DTW was fairly empty and I had all three seats to myself. After sanitizing everything, I was able to lay down and make myself comfy.

I spent my first few days in Ann Arbor "hunting" for groceries and was fairly successful finding canned goods, frozen entrees, fresh fruit and veggies, milk, and even toilet paper. Additionally I purchased kitty litter and a litter pan in preparation for Kali's arrival.

I purchased a file box and hanging folders at Office Max yesterday and spent the evening last night refiling all the paperwork I had mailed to myself before leaving Hawaii. It was oddly satisfying and fulfilled my obsessive need to feel organized.

Butch drove me to United Cargo this morning to pick up Kali. She weathered the trip fairly well. After thoroughly exploring the house and head butting me a few times, she snuggled under the down duvet on the futon mattress I've been sleeping on. I suspect it's a combination of wanting to be both warm and hidden. I hope she eventually comes up for air, however, as she's been under cover now for 6-7 hours.

Butch has been very generous with his time this past week and it will be hard to repay his kindness. He's been to DTW twice and driven me to several stores to pick up supplies. And when you add the months he's kept an eye on our new home, mowing the lawn, removing snow, etc. - I am overwhelmed. He's such a good person.

Monday, March 16, 2020

I am disappointed that today turned out to be a rainy cloudy day as I would have loved to have gone to the beach for a few hours before leaving. Our furniture is gone and I made one last drop off of stuff to Goodwill this morning. Kali is on track to leave Wednesday and Michael leaves on Sunday. So it's happening, the Doves are returning to Ann Arbor.

In response to COVID-19, restrictions impacting restaurants and other public venues in Michigan have been implemented. I spoke to Butch this morning and he's kindly offered to take me grocery shopping so I am hoping to at least come home with a jar of peanut butter, bread, and maybe a few apples. I also need to pick up a litter tray and kitty litter for Kali.

I said goodbye to Mike and Sharon (the couple I walk with) this morning. It started pouring rain so it was a brief goodbye as we parted ways to get home. I was also really touched when Arlene (another neighbor I frequently walk with) came by looking for me in her car to say goodbye. It's moments like this that make me realize how lucky I am to have had such great people in my life.

Michael and I went to Roy's last night for a final meal. We ordered a salad, pupus, and drinks and sat on their lanai enjoying views of Moanaloa Bay, Portlock, and Diamond Head. Afterwards we took a drive to Makapu'u for one last look at the beautiful beaches and ocean. Aloha Oe...

Saturday, March 14, 2020 (pi day)

More furniture found a home today and most of what's left will hopefully be picked up tomorrow. Kali knows something is up. I was outside and could hear her meowing plaintively. I feel for her as the bed leaves tomorrow and it's been her safe haven ever since she joined our family. Poor kitty...

Friday, March 13, 2020

Phrases like self isolation and social distancing are now part of our day-to-day vernacular. No goodbye hugs are allowed. Michael changed his flight dates. We talk about shortages of toilet paper and other basic supplies. And then I remind myself that in the scheme of things, this may be just another blip in our lives.

We are planning on going to Chuck's Cellar for dinner tonight so I can say goodbye to Leslie. And I am smiling at myself because my thoughts are about whether or not they've shut down their salad bar.

Thursday, March 12, 2020

Both dinner invites from neighbors were cancelled today due to illness. Interestingly, both neighbors work for the airlines and are considered high risk. Neither was tested for COVID-19, however, and this concerns me. Also, apparently there is a rumor circulating between airline employees that flights to the mainland might get suspended. This has put Michael in a panic over concerns that he may not be able to leave Hawaii as planned. As I watch events getting cancelled, schools closing, and employees being asked to work from home, it hits home how serious this all is. Add to that the shortages in basic supplies and the panic that is causing. Michael and I went to the Panda in Hawaii Kai a few hours ago and parking was at a premium due to the crowds at Costco. It made me wonder if a shipment of toilet paper came in.

Wednesday, March 11, 2020

Michael and I checked more items off our to-do list today with a visit to the bank, and drop off boxes for both Goodwill and the Foodbank. The clock is ticking.

Tuesday, March 10, 2020

Yesterday was an interesting day. Michael drove me to the Plant Inspection Office at the airport to have my tillandsia examined so I could mail them to Michigan. They passed by the way.

On the way back home, we took a drive through the Sand Island State Recreation Area. It's fairly large (14 acres) and mostly unoccupied. There were fisherman, campers (perhaps homeless?), and a few cars in the parking lots, but no one on the beach. There is still a both a guard tower from it's days as an internment camp and bunkers. The area provided unique views of the Honolulu skyline and Diamond Head.

From there, we stopped at the newly restored Kaka'ako Waterfront Park. It was nice to see it cleaned up after being destroyed by out of control homeless encampments. Once again, you can't beat the beautiful views of Diamond Head and the ocean from the park.

Our last stop was L&L at Ala Moana Beach Park for lunch with its large portions of mac salad and bbq beef. Ono...

This morning we had breakfast at Jack's in Niu Valley with our neighbors, Jan and Terry and then headed to Kuhio Beach for a few hours.

The countdown for me has truly begun.

Monday, March 9, 2020

I seem to have lost my ability to cry. I tear up occasionally but the last time I remember really crying was after my mother died. I didn’t cry when my father died. It seems to take me longer to process my emotions and I sometimes worry that I am not sad enough. But at the same time, I feel like there are buckets of unshed tears dammed up inside of me looking for an outlet. I suspect I have an unintentional cognitive strategy in place that leads to me suppressing my emotions and then using thinking or distraction instead of feeling. A strategy I have used in the past to deal with traumatic events. A strategy I wish at times I could get away from because I feel like crying would be a relief.

Michael and I said our goodbyes yesterday to his Aunt Wanda. It was her 94th birthday so I very much doubt we will see her again. She and Michael talk weekly by phone, however, which might surprise a lot of people that know Michael and his dislike of talking to people on the phone. Wanda is his last connection to his dad and is someone that has been in his life since childhood. Our goodbyes were another bittersweet moment in this week so full of goodbyes to family, friends, and neighbors...

Saturday, March 7, 2020

Michael and I had an interesting day in the world of giveaway. We put several items in the driveway with a sign that said free. Tools and surfboards went quickly followed by some smaller stuff but there didn't seem to be a lot of interest in the furniture we had put out. Just when we had decided to call it a day, a neighbor showed up with their truck and took shelving and a big chair. Then another neighbor came by a few minutes later and said they would take most of the furniture we have left for a home they are renovating one valley over. We are still using some of the items but it's nice knowing stuff has some place to go within the next few weeks.

And then the router died...

Friday, March 6, 2020

I went to lunch at Cafe Asia today with Arlene and Phyllis - an 80 and an 86 year old. Despite me leaving the restaurant feeling like I was going to burst, they easily out ate me. We ordered several items that we cooked in pots of oil on the table (shabu shabu) and they insisted I try everything. And then Michael and I went to Jose's for dinner and margaritas. I am sitting on the couch right now and moving is an effort.

Oahu Junk Removal did a great job cleaning all the debris from our side yard. Michael and I are both going through moments of disbelief at how real this is all becoming. He gave one of his surfboards to a young girl that lives on our street - it was heartwarming to see how excited she was and I found it hard not to smile when she called him "Uncle Mike."

Thursday, March 5, 2020

Last night the Millers took us to the 12th Avenue Bistro in Kaimuki, which I really enjoyed. They make a killer Long Island making me wish Michael and I had tried them earlier. I scored yet another meal invite this morning when I was out walking. This one is breakfast at Jack's in Aina Haina on Tuesday morning with Jan and Terry. I also have an invite tomorrow for lunch with Arlene and Phyllis at Cafe Asia in Niu Valley. I've decided to just enjoy the food and company and worry about my weight later.

Oahu Junk Removal is scheduled to come by tomorrow morning. Michael has been piling up everything in our side yard. It will be a relief to get these items removed.

Today we took advantage of the good weather and enjoyed a few hours at Waimanalo Bay. I am going to miss the warm weather and easy access to the beach we enjoy here.

Tuesday, March 3, 2020

We heard from our realtor today. Jack, the buyer, would like to move in on March 26. It's good to finally have a date but it means the hussle is on. Especially for Michael who has been tasked with clearing out the house and taking back the cable boxes. Leslie has decided to purchase our car so that's one less worry. I will be glad when this part of the move is over.

I said my goodbyes at the library today. The Friends haven't found anyone yet to take over my "communications" job so I agreed to continue managing email notifications and posting notices in publications for their book sales. It was hard to say goodbye to the library staff, customers, and volunteers that I have come to know over the past few years.

I dropped by our vet's office as well and purchased Kali's catfood - I plan to mail it to Michigan so it will be there when she arrives. The vet also gave me a prescription for her food in the event I need to purchase more before taking her to a vet in Ann Arbor. So much to do, so little time...

Sunday, March 1, 2020

I leave for Michigan in two weeks, a sobering fact. There are still unresolved issues regarding the house sale that we can't control but I feel like we are as organized as we can be with the move. The POD was picked up yesterday so that's one more thing we've been able to check off our to-do list.

We are meeting Leslie for dinner tonight to celebrate her birthday (a few days early). Our neighbors, the Millers, invited us to dinner on Wednesday night. And another neighbor invited us to dinner next week. My goal of clearing out the freezer and pantry has gotten a little more challenging but to me it's worth the trade-off of getting to spend time with family and friends before we leave.

Friday, February 28, 2020

The POD gets picked up tomorrow morning. Michael is stacking all the stuff that needs to be disposed of in the side yard and plans to contact one of those haul-away-junk companies. A charitable organization called Surf the Nations is supposed to pick up our remaining furniture and other household goods. I still need to find homes for my potted plants. But slowly we are emptying out our home. It makes me think about how many times we moved as kids and what a nightmare it had to be for Mom.

Despite submitting address change requests to the companies we do business with, we are still getting mail from a few of them.

Michael's brother Ralph called today in response to a letter from our attorney regarding his mother's estate. There were no surprises on what he wants. I guess that's life...

Kali is being all lovey and suspicious me is wondering if she barfed somewhere. That too is life.

Thursday, February 27, 2020

POD packing is close to being done! We've used four rolls of bubble wrap, at least five large rolls of packing tape, forty plus bins, about 160 zip ties, and lots of blood, sweat, and tears. Our tiny house is actually looking a bit spacious.

Sam's Club was packed yesterday with shoppers stocking up on toilet paper, bottled water, chlorox wipes, disinfectant, and non-perishable food in preparation for a coronavirus outbreak in Hawaii. We had gone there for a storage bin and bubble wrap, both of which turned out be out of stock. We left the store with a bottle of gin, coffee, and bagels. Now I am thinking maybe I should have grabbed some toilet paper. I guess it's good, however, that people are taking this outbreak seriously. I've personally found myself with concerns about how safe travel to the mainland will be when we get ready to leave. And I must admit when a homeless looking woman in McDonalds yesterday starting hacking and spitting up her food, I cringed.

I ran across the word gaslighting recently and realized I have been on the receiving end of this form of manipulation (intentional or not) more than once. And as much as I have tried to control my reactions, it’s resulted in both self doubt and a sense of caution.

I thought I'd end this post with a quote Donna shared on FB recently. Don’t be afraid to start all over again. You may like your new story better. It seems appropriate given what is currently going on I’m my life.

Wednesday, February 26, 2020

Packing is not for wimps... We are off to Sam's Club this morning to purchase one more bin and more bubble wrap.

I had a doctor's appointment Monday morning to go over my latest lab results. Both my ferritin and iron levels are now in the normal range resulting in the doctor directing me to stop taking iron supplements to see what happens. If my levels remain in the normal range, I think it's a safe bet that my last surgery corrected what was causing my anemia. On a negative note my triglyceride level, which is normally pretty low, is now in the high range. Perhaps, stress eating potato chips isn't a smart health move?

Tuesday, February 25, 2020

The POD is slowly filling up - the two heaviest pieces of furniture have been loaded and it looks like Michael has a plan on how to stack all the bins we have packed. I've noticed, much to my amusement however, that once it appeared there might be room for more "stuff" - more "stuff" made the cut. Kali doesn't seem overly concerned yet but I've noticed her prowling around the house checking out the now empty spaces. Little does she know what's to come.

Michael and I are still trying to figure out timing for the remainder of the move. From comments he's made, I get the sense he doesn't want to be delayed from leaving, especially if it means just sitting here in an empty house. I get it, he needs to move forward and get on with his life. He's a creative driven person. I am not sure what this says about me but I don't have the same urgency. As long as I have something to sleep on and Internet/TV, I don't mind staying behind for a few weeks to tie up loose ends. And unlike Michael, I am willing to ask for help. <smile>

Saturday, February 22, 2020

The POD arrived yesterday and we've begun to transfer our belongings into it. It's going to be a bit of a puzzle trying to determine what should go where. Everything needs to be tied down and the weight evenly distibuted. Our first challenge was loading the koa wood shelving from my office. It was so heavy we ended up having to ask a neighbor to assist us. It makes me wonder how we are ever going to unload it and manuever it up the stairs at the AA house. Regardless, we have a big task ahead of us this week. And a little voice has been whispering in my ear, lift with your legs, lift with you legs...

Friday, February 21, 2020

Dad died five years ago today. His death was expected and I knew I would never see him again when I said my goodbyes six weeks earlier. But I remember exactly what I was doing when Butch called to let me know. And while I don't recall what Butch said, I do remember my emotions after hearing the news. A feeling like I was holding my breath for a few seconds too long and couldn't breath. And I suddenly felt a sense of urgency to return to Michigan to be with family. To surround myself with the people I love and grew up with, who shared some of the same memories as me. And that's what I did and I am grateful to have such wonderful siblings. Miss you, Dad.

Wednesday, February 19, 2020

I hate the feeling of uncertainty that I have about my life right now. And the feeling that it is a bit out of control. I had assumed that when the issue with the title came up that moving would be on pause as we worked our way through the probate process. We received news yesterday that our potential buyer's home sold quickly. Michael has spoken to him and believes he may still be interested in purchasing our house. I am unsure, however, what this all means logistically and am trying to prepare myself for whatever may come next.

Tuesday, February 18, 2020

I had labwork done this morning. My ferritin level is 30ng/ml, one year ago it was 6ng/ml. My iron level is 111ug/dL, a year ago it was 33ug/dL. This is good news. I have been taking an over the counter iron supplement (Nature's Bounty Gentle Iron 28mg) so I am not sure if my improved levels are a result of the supplement or the surgery I had this past summer (or both). But it's a relief to see these numbers and my compulsion to chew ice has abated as well.

Sunday, February 16, 2020

Despite the uncertainty and delays surrounding our title issue, we have decided to keep moving forward. The POD arrives Friday and will ship in mid-March. One change is that Kali and I will not be moving to Michigan in March as originally planned. At least one of us needs to be Ann Arbor in April, however, when the POD arrives at the new house.

The attorney said she is filing Michael's petition to be assigned executor of his mother's estate this week. Then we have to wait for a court date, which we have been warned may not be until April or later. So a lot is up in the air. Our fingers are crossed that the judge approves his petition so that we can move on to the next step in this process.

We went out to dinner last night with Peter and Bo, a couple that lives in the valley. Peter used to live across the street from Michael back in the 60's and from what I understand Michael had a huge crush on his sister (just a little background). We went to O'Kims Korean Kitchen in downtown Honolulu, which I guess could be described as a little hole in the wall type restaurant. There are a few tables when you first walk in but they also have a small outdoor deck behind the restuarant with seating (which is where we were seated). Given how unadventurous I am about food, I was pleasantly surprised at how much I enjoyed the entree I ordered (Korean Chicken and Gnocchi). I think Butch or Sean and Rose would have liked this place.

Friday, February 14, 2020

Michael and I spent three hours today at the Office of Vital Records waiting to get certified copies of his parent's death certificates. The poor souls waiting with us were surprisingly accepting of the wait and at one point even cheered when a new number was called. We had an opportunity to chat with others while waiting and they were pretty open about why they were there. It gave me faith in mankind.

I had one of those weird dreams last night in which I was trying to run up a pathway on a hill and a man in front of me kept blocking my way. A pretty close metaphor for my life right now.

The truth is as I get older, I have learned to cry less.

Wednesday, February 12, 2020

We consulted an attorney this morning and there is not a quick resolution to our title issue. It appears we need to go through the time and expense of probate. This may mean dealing with Michael's half brother, which is one of Michael's biggest nightmares. Additionally, we are concerned that we are going to lose the offer on the house and will end up being in Hawaii much longer than planned. All this, of course, ruined any hope of Michael celebrating his birthday. It's been a long time since I have seen him this upset. I am trying hard to be pragmatic about this situation but it's a struggle. One day at a time...

Monday, February 10, 2020

There is trouble in paradise with the discovery that our lot is actually two lots and when the property was transferred to us the 2nd lot number was not listed on the quit claim deed. We are consulting with an attorney on Wednesday. Needless to say we are experiencing major stress over this.

Sunday, February 9, 2020

Our house status is currently in escrow showing, which I compare to being in purgatory. We are in limbo until our buyer sells his house but at the same time we are having an open house today. Which somehow seems wrong to Michael and me. And to add to the confusion, the realtor we are using mailed postcards to everyone in our area that said our house is sold so yesterday I ended up having to field questions from neighbors who were asking when we are moving. We are also receiving requests from the title company handling the escrow to fill out several documents, which I know is not something we had to do when we sold or bought houses in Ann Arbor. Interesting...

Michael and I are meeting Leslie at the Outrigger for breakfast this morning. She paid for our dinner at Chuck's Cellar Friday night so I am hoping she will let me reimburse her for breakfast this morning. We definitely owe her a nice dinner out as well. With Michael celebrating his birthday with dinner at Buzz's on Wednesday and plans being made to have dinner with one of Michael's friends later this month, I may have to avoid stepping on the scale for awhile. Fortunately, life will eventually normalize again.

Friday, February 7, 2020

Leslie came by today with Chelsea to pick up plants. I laughed at myself for feeling a little sad saying goodbye to a few favorites but I know Leslie will take good care of them. She mentioned that Selena may want a car so fingers are crossed that our Fit might be an option.

I'm a little scared but also looking forward to this major change in my life. I remember saying when I left Michigan five years ago I'd never move back to a cold climate again. I guess I was wrong.

Wednesday, February 5, 2020

More moving news... Trying to both pack for the move and at the same time prep the house for Sunday's open house do not mesh well. I feel like I am just shuffling boxes from place to place to get them out of the way. It will be a relief when the POD is delivered on the 21st and we can at least clear out the items we are moving.

I am trying to make arrangements for "shipping" Kali as well and determining the best date is a bit of a challenge but I am thinking mid-March. I am hoping Butch is available to help me pick her up from the airport because I suspect it's going to be stressful.

I have a final dental cleaning tomorrow morning and a doctor's appointment in a few weeks. I am hoping to return to the same doctor and dentist I had in Ann Arbor once I get re-situated. Unfortunately the dentist is looking iffy as he doesn't accept the dental insurance I planned to purchase.

I chatted with Kathy this morning and realized after I hung up that I never asked her how she was doing.

Deep breaths and a thought for today... The sun hugs the moon. The moon bursts into flames. And the sun whispers, “This is your fault.”

Sunday, February 2, 2020

Today is Groundhog Day - a day that seems meaningless in Hawaii. Although I guess the same could be said about any place. But at least Punxsutawney Phil gets his moment of glory once a year.

My Sundays are a little bit like Groundhog Day in that they have a sameness to them. I make Michael breakfast, clean the kitchen, read the paper, do the crossword puzzle, tackle house chores, and prep/make dinner. By the way, I tried a recipe I found in the NY Times today - pasta with sausage, broccoli, and peppers. It might be a keeper.

Packing continues. We sure do have a lot of stuff...

Saturday, February 1, 2020

February is here and with it the realization that I am only going to be in Hawaii another six weeks or so. We are still sorting and packing. Today I went through my outdoor ceramic pots and potted plants and made decisions on which pots I'd like to take with me, space permitting. Leslie and Chelsea are planning to come by with the truck this week to take any plants and/or pots they like. The rest I'll offer to neighbors and anything left will go on the curb with a 'free' sign. It's a bit crazy but I will miss my plants. Some came from neighbors, some from cuttings, and some I purchased. And you know me, I love pottery.

Peter, one of Michael's friends from childhood (who also lives in Niu Valley) dropped by today with his wife, Bo. They came by to pickup artwork they stored here while doing renovations on their house. It was interesting talking to them and we made plans to go out to dinner with them next week Sunday. It makes me wish we had been more aggressive these past five years about going out socially with other people. Imagine me whispering, Michael, like Brick (The Middle). I am hoping we do better in Ann Arbor.

Thursday, January 30, 2020

All of yesterday's "symptoms" went away. I woke up feeling energetic enough to go to 24 Hour Fitness. My arm is still a little tender but other than that I feel fine.

We formally accepted the offer on our house today. It's an as is offer which will make things a little easier going forward. We have three weeks to get things packed up before the shipping pod arrives. Meanwhile, the house is in a state of chaos as we box up belongings. Just as we did with the last move, we are not bringing much furniture but are still worried about everything we are shipping fitting in the pod.

And just because, sometimes I feel like there is a Kafkaesque quality to certain aspects of my life.

Wednesday, January 29, 2020

I am dragging today and feel tired and head achy. I got my second Shingles vaccine yesterday and am guessing there may be a connection.

We got a reasonable offer on the house today and will probably accept it. The only drawback is that it is contingent on the buyer selling their house which means Michael may end up being here longer than he expected. Both Michael and I are busy packing. The PODS container arrives on February 21 and ships on March 17. I am still trying to figure out a date for me to leave for Ann Arbor. Additionally I am also looking into cat transport options and costs. Poor kitty...

Tax documents have been slowly trickling in and I am hoping to file taxes within the next few weeks. I've contacted nearly every company Michael and I do business with to change addresses and bank account info and feel like I am making some progress. I am hoping I haven't missed something.

Saturday, January 25, 2020

I woke up this morning with a very persistent purring cat in my face. Kali's universe has been restored. Sorry, Sean and Rose, I don't think she misses you.

I've realized over the years that I am the straight man in relationships. I am not the "fun" one. I can be pretty quick with an occasional witty comeback but am also aware that I make a lot of dumb comments as well. Especially if I am anxious about something. And I have had my share of awkward moments when I find myself smiling while someone is relaying bad news.

The Aina Haina Library Friends is having a book sale today. I am scheduled to work 1-4pm. We had a successful day yesterday and I am hoping today continues to be busy. I really admire the core group of volunteers that work endless hours to keep the Friends going. It's a big commitment.

One of the aftermaths of Sean and Rose's visit is that in addition to washing linens and towels, I am boxing up all the stuff that wouldn't fit in their suitcases to mail to them. Four boxes later...

Friday, January 24, 2020

Today was D-Day (departure day). Michael and I sadly said our goodbyes to Sean and Rose at the airport this afternoon. The house feels empty without them. But it will be nice to sleep in my own bed tonight. It will also be interesting to see when Kali catches on that another room change is in the works.

Sean and Rose managed to get about 90 minutes in at Queen's Surf today, followed by plate lunches at Zippy's and shave ice at Uncle Clay's. And then they tackled packing just minutes before heading to the airport. Talk about cramming in as much as you can before leaving.

Thursday, January 23, 2020

Sean and Rose return to Chicago tomorrow. It's been nice having them here and I am glad they had this opportunity to spend time in the Dove family home before it is sold. Who knows, maybe twenty years from now, Sean and Rose will return to Hawaii and stop by to see the property much as we all did when we visited Michael's grandparent's last home in Makawao, Maui. I suspect twenty years from now, however, our home will no longer be here, but you never know...

Despite our spotty Internet, Rose worked from "home" yesterday and is doing the same today. As a result, we were able to go to Waimanalo Beach late yesterday afternoon for a few hours. I feel like we hit the trifecta of Oahu beach going during their visit - Yokohama, Waimea, and Waimanalo. Each very different from the other but all quite beautiful. We stopped at Buzz's Lanikai before heading home for drinks and pupus. We sat at a small table on their tiki torch lit lanai and as I looked around the table I thought about how lucky I am to have my family.

Tonight we are headed to d.k. Steak House in Waikiki for a last dinner with the "kids" (and steak).

Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Yesterday we headed to Waimea Bay on the North Shore. Sean says this is his favorite beach on Oahu and I have to agree it is spectacular. It's certainly my favorite beach for swimming when the waters are calm. There was a large shore break yesterday so going in the water was strongly discouraged by the lifeguards, who made frequent announcements, some mildly sarcastic to the scores of people in the ocean that ignored their warnings. Sean and Michael went in, Rose and I did not. Needless to say, another beautiful day at yet another beautiful beach on this island we have called home for the past five plus years.

We stopped in Haleiwa on the way home for a relaxing dinner at a sport's bar called Stormy's Gastropub. Haleiwa has been jammed with tourists the last few times we've been there so it was kind of nice to find fewer people and lots of parking.

Sean and Rose went to their rented work space today. Michael is busy with the yard and I plan to tackle housework and paperwork I've been neglecting. Life goes on...

Sunday, January 19, 2020

I am always a bit stunned by the beauty of the Waianae Coast. We went to Yokohama Bay yesterday. It was Rose's choice. The beach is located at the most west northern tip of Oahu, known as Ka'ena Point. It's a bit secluded and Rose described feeling like she was at the end of the world (at least that's what I think she said). It was a bit windier than optimal but still a beautiful day.

This morning, we met Leslie for brunch at the Outrigger Canoe Club. On the way there, traffic was being diverted from the scene of a stabbing of a woman (she survived) and the shooting of two police officers (both died) at the base of Diamond Head. We later learned that the incident had happened only minutes before. Police cars and emergency vehicles were still arriving and lined the streets by Kapiolani Park. We eventually made our way to the Outrigger and noticed smoke billowing from the scene. The suspect set the house he was in on fire and the fire quickly spread to several other homes in the neighborhood. The suspect is presumed dead but his remains have not yet been found. Despite this pretty dramatic start to the morning, we still managed to have a nice brunch with Leslie. We were also treated to a view of a monk seal that had come up on the beach to sleep.

After brunch, we went to Don Quixote and a few bookstores. Michael and I continue to enjoy just hanging out with Sean and Rose and will miss them when they leave Friday.

Saturday, January 18, 2020

The reef view tour Sean, Rose, and I went on yesterday did not deliver spactacular views of fish, coral, and other sea creatures but it still turned out to be a nice excursion on a boat with pretty great views of the ocean and coastline from Aloha Tower to Waikiki. The combination of the windows in the underwater viewing pod being dirty plus the water looking murky, didn't provide much visibility. You could see fish and coral, for example, but you missed out on seeing any vivid colors or clear definition. We were told by the crew that on the prior day, they spotted hump back whales, which would have been pretty exciting. Our big moment was a large honu that swam by the window and it was good enough... A few photos can be seen at http://almostdoveart.blogspot.com

Last night we ate dinner outside on the lanai at Roy's in Hawaii Kai. It was a bit breezy but still very pleasant. Time is ticking away - the kids go home in six days.

Today the plan is to go to Yokohama Bay on the Waianae Coast.

Thursday, January 16, 2020

The sun has finally made an appearance after two weeks of clouds and rain. It makes me feel a little hopeful that Sean and Rose may get some beach time this weekend before they head back to Chicago. Both Michael and I agree that it has been comforting to have them here and we will miss their presence in the house.

I spent this morning trying to change the account number we use for automatic payments and credits. With all the security measures utilities and other companies have implemented, it's proven to be far more difficult than I thought it would be. Hawaii's utility companies don't have an online process and require you to fill out a form and attach a voided check for an account I never ordered checks for. Something tells me this is going to take a few weeks so I am glad to have started now.

And on an unrelated personal note I am finding there is no comfort in giving up.

Wednesday, January 15, 2020

Michael and I went to Sam's Club thus morning to buy more plastic bins and packing supplies. I spent the afternoon bubble wrapping and packing the bulk of my pottery. Tiny steps...

Sean and Rose have been taking the bus to their "work" space the past few days. It seems to be working out for them. Rose plans to take Friday off so we are going to do something touristy - I made reservations on a two-hour reef view tour. Fingers crossed that the weather cooperates. Just sit right back and you'll hear a tale, a tale of a fateful trip, that started from this tropic port aboard this tiny ship...

Tuesday, January 14, 2020

There is a special kind of sadness that can only be found in the confusion between who you think you are and who you think other people want you to be. These are words I’ve stolen from Iain Thomas.

Bern has unfriended me again on Facebook. The significance of his action is not lost on me and I will honor his decision and back off. It saddens me immensely that events escalated to this point but at the same time I know I tried. And failed. In an odd twist, I had planned on either visiting him next year or meeting him somewhere but I’ve finally come to accept that he is unable to love and accept me for who I am. An imperfect sister with baggage… I will always love Bern and hope that the decisions he’s made will bring him the peace he seeks.

Monday, January 13, 2020

It looks like another blustery day. We have a house showing tomorrow and the house needs a good cleaning so I suppose it all balances out in the end. But it has been a long time since Michael and I have had a beach day.

Yesterday Sean, Rose, Michael, and I went to see Little Women and it turned out to be the perfect rainy day movie. The cast was great and Saoirse Ronan did a wonderful job playing Jo March. Little Women is a book a lot of women read when they were younger but I am guessing not something most men read. It made me wonder if being familiar with the characters and storyline made viewing the movie a different experience for Rose and me vs. Sean and Michael. Like we knew (spoiler alert!) that Beth was going to die and that Amy would end up marrying Laurie.

Sunday, January 12, 2020

Sean's Intro to Comic Book Drawing workshop at the Aina Haina Public Library was a big success. More than 30 kids showed up. The library had to add an extra table and chairs to accommodate everyone. I loved how focused most of the kids were and many of the comic strips they developed were not just creative but funny as well.

In other news, rainy days have become the norm and I am feeling a bit sorry that Sean and Rose haven't had any beach time in the past few weeks. They are only here twelve more days and have expressed an interest in going to both the North Shore and Yokohama Bay. I am hoping the sun makes an appearance soon. Not just for them but for me too!

Thursday, January 9, 2020

And what to my wondering eyes did appear, but an article about Sean in the local papear (paper rhyming effort)...

From the Star Advertiser January 9, 2020