Q: If you lose the align palette how do you open it?
From the menu bar, open "Window", then select "Align".
Q: How do you select the object that you want to align or distribute?
Use the V shortcut tool to select multiple objects, then use the align window to align and distribute.
Q: How do change the align and distribute from "to selection" to "to artboard"
From the bottom corner of the align window, there are three selections. The first symbol aligns to the artboard, and the middle and right aligns by the selection or by which object is the anchor for alignment.