• Problems come in small, medium, and big sizes.

• It is expected to have our behavioral reactions match the size our problems.

• All feelings are ok. All behaviors are not.

• It is expected for our emotional reaction to be really big even if it is a small problem. In these situations, we must process our emotional reaction in a healthy way outside of the problem situation.

• For example, If I mess up on my school work, it is a small problem. It is expected for me to have a small behavioral reaction and simply erase the mistake and try again. If my feelings are really big, I may need to take a break and calm down.

Here are some tools to use with children: Size of the Problem.pdf