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What do I do if I'm questioning my sexuality or gender?
What do I do if I'm questioning my sexuality or gender?
Start by doing some research about all the different types of sexualities and genders, as well as checking out some YouTubers to get some first hand information and experience. Talk to LGBTQ+ people or
Remember it's completely okay to identify as one thing then change your identity or label later on! You have the right to take as much time figuring yourself out as you need.
How can I support my LGBTQ+ friend/family member who has just come out to me?
How can I support my LGBTQ+ friend/family member who has just come out to me?
First of all, congratulations for being trustworthy enough for them to feel safe coming out to you! Second, head over to the Allies page we have just for you!
How do I choose a new name?
How do I choose a new name?
Baby name websites are a great way to look up new names, especially if you're looking for one with specific meaning. Also, head over to our Trans Help page to find out more!
How do I educate other people when I come out?
How do I educate other people when I come out?
Send them to this website -- Literally.
It takes a lot of time and empathy for someone to understand some of these topics, and even longer if they've already come to a conclusion to LGBTQ+ discourse. Sometimes other people just need visibility to accept you. But remember, it isn't your responsibility to educate everyone. Do yourself a favour (but especially us) and send them to our website ☺
What is a Queerent?
What is a Queerent?
A Queerent is a leader of the Queer Club and is a combination of Queer and Parent.
What are you planning for Pride Month?
What are you planning for Pride Month?
Good Question! Head over to our events page to take a peek ;)
What can I do to support your cause?
What can I do to support your cause?
Get involved with events
Donate to our fundraisers
Share the information from our website
How do I deal with homophobia/transphobia?
How do I deal with homophobia/transphobia?
Within school grounds, report this immediately to a trusted staff member or even reception. You'll have to react to obvious bigotry with strength, but if you encounter it try to report it to authorities or someone who will be able to help.
There is also subtle bigotry/discrimination that may be ingrained within laws, contracts, environments. An example of discrimination in the law is if you can be denied healthcare because of a trans identity. An example of discrimination in environments is lacking a ramp for people in wheelchairs (Yes! Gendered bathrooms are in fact non-binary discrimination - though it is legal at the moment #freethepee).
Hate Speech: There is a difference to Freedom of Speech and Hate Speech. Know who to report to for Hate Speech.
Discrimination: Anti-discrimination laws within New Zealand does not allow discrimination. If you believe you’ve been discriminated against illegally, you can complain to the Human Rights Commission. Make sure you know what is considered discrimination before you take action >>> CommunityLaw.
What if I'm faking?
What if I'm faking?
If you think about transitioning all the time, you’re probably trans. Y'know you can always go back if something isn't right for you (unless if its surgery). For sexuality it can be very confusing (what with CompHet and all) but what is most important is that it feels right for you. Sexuality can be really fluid so don't stress if your current label starts to feel not quite right. It can be quite freeing to simply idetify as Queer or not straight.
Is This Taboo?
Is This Taboo?
Some people have had this concern that the LGBTQ+ community is the catalyst for other taboo practices such as pedophilia or beastiality. The LGBTQ+ community holds values in consensual and moral relationships instead of ones that can negatively affect other people so we are very cautious on the identities we chose to advocate for the society we live within. What we aim to accomplish is the liberation of ethically neutral diversities.
Why are pronouns so important?
Why are pronouns so important?
Pronouns are extremely important in making trans and gender diverse people feel safe, accepted, and comfortable. Soemone using the incorrect pronouns for someone, or misgendering them in any way can cause immense mental distress in them. A study found that up to two thirds of trans and gender diverse people had self-harmed in the last year and 22% - 43% of trans or gender diverse people have attempted suicide in their lifetime. Acceptance and showing that you support them can help dramatically decrease the effect on mental illness on their life.
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