"The Gardener and the Carpenter"

By Alison Gopnik

Alison Gopnik challenges the modern concept of parenting that has emerged over the past 30 years. Gopnik argues that the current view of parenting, which is often obsessive, controlling, and goal-oriented, is not only based on flawed science but is also detrimental to both children and parents. Drawing on the study of human evolution and her own scientific research, Gopnik contends that children are inherently designed to be messy, unpredictable, playful, and imaginative. Parents should read this book to challenge conventional parenting notions, gain insights into child development backed by scientific research, and learn how to promote healthy parent-child relationships by embracing individuality and shifting from goal-oriented to process-oriented caregiving. The book provides a thought-provoking perspective that encourages parents to create secure, loving environments for their children, fostering natural development and unique qualities.