Buddhists see death as a major transition between the present life and the next, therefore death is not seen as a completely sad event.
Family and friends try to support the dying person before, during and after death to develop a positive state of mind in order to ensure a good rebirth. Because of this and because of the restriction on their participating in parties and the like, funerals are the only major life rite in which Buddhist monks and nuns are actively involved.
Ceremonies are held for the benefit of the deceased person but also for the benefit of friends and family left behind. There may be a sermon which will emphasise the Buddhist teachings of anicca (impermanence) and anatta (non-self) and of the inevitability of death.
Losing a loved one is always a time for reflection and sadness. However, Buddhist funerals are not completely sad occasions, as Buddhists believe that the dead person has passed into the next rebirth and hopefully will experience a happier and more fulfilled life. The family hope to improve the future birth of the dead person through prayer and offering food to the monks.
Ceremonies are held for the benefit of the deceased person but also for the benefit of friends and family left behind. There may be a sermon which will emphasise the Buddhist teachings of impermanence and non-self and of the inevitability of death. The ceremony will also be concerned with developing merit which will then be transferred to the deceased person so that it can benefit them in their new circumstances.
Samsara
Buddhists believe in the cycle of samsara. Therefore, their beliefs about death are focused on the idea of rebirth. Until a Buddhist achieves nirvana, they will not escape the cycle of samsara. Buddhists therefore believe that death is not the end - it is part of a bigger cycle.
Anicca
Death ceremonies provide mourners with a sense of comfort, but they also allow mourners to acknowledge that death is a part of life.
Karma
The death ceremony also allows for karma to be obtained, as mourners can be charitable and generous during the period surrounding a death.
In Mahayana Buddhism, it is believed that when a person dies, they go through six stages or Bardos:
the Bardo of This Life
From conception to last breath
The Bardo of Meditation
Subset of first bardo - still alive
the Bardo of Dream
Subset of first bardo - still alive
the Bardo of Dying
Moment of death
the Bardo of Dharmata
visions and auditory and phenomena occur
Some may think they are still alive
and the Bardo of Existence
Transmigration based on karmic energies
Buddhists in Theravada countries think that rebirth takes place immediately after death.
In Sri Lanka, a Theravada country, at the funeral the family will give cloth for making new robes to the monks. The funeral ceremony will include chanting of verses about impermanence. About a week after the person died, monks will come to the family home to deliver a sermon. Thereafter, at three months and one year, there will be special merit-making ceremonies for the benefit of the deceased person.
As opposed to holding a more formal service, Theravada Buddhists may otherwise prefer to donate to charity or other worthy causes. This is because Buddhists believe in transfer of merit’ which means they can pass on the positive effects of good deeds to people who have died. They see this as a more positive experience than mourning.
When Buddhists in Mahayana countries are dying, someone whispers the name of the Buddha into their ear so that this is the last thing the person hears before they die. After death, relatives wash the body. They then place the body in a coffin surrounded by wreaths and candles. The funeral often takes place a few days after the death to allow the first bardo state to happen. This is the time when the dead person becomes conscious of being dead and the next form of rebirth is decided. Buddhists in Mahayana countries think that rebirth takes up to 49 days (7 weeks) after death.
In Tibet, a Mahayana country, as a person dies and for 49 days afterwards, they will have detailed guidance read to them from an appropriate text. For one lineage of Tibetan Buddhists, this is the Tibetan Book of the Dead. During this period, the dead person is understood to be going through a series of confused intermediate bardo states, and is capable of being influenced.
Because Tibet is mountainous it is not easy to bury a corpse. By preference the body is either cremated or broken up and fed to vultures. This is called a 'sky burial' and is performed by monks or specialists who do this job. This is regarded as a lesson in impermanence for the dead person in the bardo state and for the relatives, and also is a last act of generosity whereby the dead person helps feed the vultures. For this reason Tibetans believe that vultures help the process of rebirth in the cycle of samsara.
Prayers are offered for the deceased at different stages after death, sometimes 30 days or a year later.