Here are some examples of how to use inquiry to help someone else, or yourself, move up the ladder towards accountability.  For instance, if stuck on Step 4: Wait and Hope you might ask, question #4 below, or another similar question of your choice.

8.   How will you implement these solutions?

7.    What are potential solutions? 

6. What has your role been thus far? What will         it be going forward?

5. What support do you need to face this         reality?

4.  What will convince you to take action         instead of just hoping it will get better?

3. What would empower you to stick with this 

         even though its tough?

2. Why are you giving away your power by         blaming others?

1.    What is the purpose of your denial in this 

       situation? What are you missing because of 

        it?