It is OK to feel sad. Our feelings are always changing, no matter how old we are or what support systems we have. Everyone feels sad sometimes.
We may use different words to talk about feeling sad such as: depressed, distressed, feeling blue, hurt, down, meh, unhappy, etc.
We may feel sad for a variety of reasons such as having trouble with friendships, fighting with a family member, grief, doing poorly on an exam, being sick, etc.
IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS STRUGGLING OR IN CRISIS, HELP IS AVAILABLE. CALL OR TEXT 988 OR CHAT 988LIFELINE.ORG
Recite positive affirmations
- Examples: I am smart, I am a good friend, I am loved, I work really hard, etc.
Get active and move your body
- Movement can help you manage any negative emotions that build up throughout the day
Connect with your friends and/or family.
- Sometimes just talking through your emotions with a trusted friend can help relieve some negative feelings.
Identify a first "baby step" to get you started on whatever assignment or project you are working
- This could be as small as writing your name on your paper or opening up a google doc.
Pair something you enjoy with the task you are lacking motivation for.
- Ex: Light a candle while you clean your room, complete your homework at a study group with friends, listen to music while you fold your laundry, etc.
What can you do when you feel "not quite happy, not quite sad"?
Set an intention for your day (like a daily goal!)
- Examples: Today I will try something new, Today I will say hi to two new people, Today I will sit next to someone new at lunch, etc.
List things you feel grateful for
- Practicing gratitude can help you to focus on the positive
Pay attention to and notice the good things sprinkled throughout your day to help your mood.
- You can fight the impulse to only pay attention to the negative by keeping track of your "wins"!
For example:
Today I...
Woke up and got to school on time
Had my favorite food for lunch
Got to work with a friend during ELA
Finished all of my homework
Listened to a new podcast episode before bed
Join a club or group to meet new people with similar interests and build your community!
Schedule time in your calendar throughout your week to connect with friends, whether in person or on facetime.
Practice authenticity - be yourself!
- When we pretend to be something we're not to fit in it is difficult to find meaningful relationships and we can think negatively about ourselves.
Exercise
- Try to walk outside during the sunny hours of the day.
Keep warm
- Dress in layers, use an electric blanket, drink a hot tea, etc.
Increase your access to light
- Open your blinds when the sun is out
- Some people benefit from using Light Therapy Lamps to mimic sunlight and boost their moods.
Maintain a healthy sleep routine
- Try to go to sleep and wake up at similar times each day.
Reflect on things you enjoy about winter and set personal goals for the spring time!
"Feeling sad does not mean you have depression. But if your mood starts to interrupt your life and how you function, then you may have become depressed. Key differences between sadness and clinical depression relate to the cause for the change in mood and how long you have felt that way, and other symptoms that might be present. If your mood relates to a recent event, such as a relationship breakup, then you may well be feeling sadness. But if that breakup was months ago, or you can see no clear reason for your change in mood, you could be depressed, and it might be helpful for you to chat to your doctor about what’s causing you to feel the way you do.
Sadness:
is part of life’s regular ups and downs, but it is not constant
is a common reaction to an upset or setback, and is usually not a cause for worry
is interrupted by times of laughter and contentment
is an emotion that can involve negative thoughts but does not usually involve suicidal thoughts.
Depression:
is a longer term feeling (more than two weeks) of severe sadness or or loss of interest or pleasure in activities, and other symptoms. These symptoms may include sleeplessness, low energy, concentration problems, pessimism, loss of hope, suicidal thoughts and appetite issues.
has complicated causes, which may involve genetic or biological components. Maybe the person has experienced a traumatic event or psychological stress
can lead to significant weight change or sleep disruption.
is mentally painful and can be life altering"
https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/its-okay-to-feel-sad
Talk to your family and your doctor - let them know what your concerns are and how you have been feeling
Individuals with depression benefit from working with licensed therapists to develop treatment plans individualized to themselves and their needs
Check in with your school counselor
Talk to a friend
IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS STRUGGLING OR IN CRISIS, HELP IS AVAILABLE. CALL OR TEXT 988 OR CHAT 988LIFELINE.ORG
Cover Image by pch.vector</a> on Freepik