WHY DO I WANT TO GET MARRIED TO THIS PERSON?
· Check what is the driving force of your desire.
· As a man you are designed a hunter, while ladies are res ponders. But it is necessary for you to consistently cross-check the reasons behind your intended moves.
· Decisions must be influenced by specific goals.
· Your decisions must cut across your intellect, will and emotions.
· Great decisions do not depend on emotions neither do they depend on logic reasons but on sincerity.
· Decisions also demand spiritual sensitivity.
2. ARE MY READY TO GIVE TO THE ENRICHMENT OF THE RELATIONSHIP?
· Relationships have their platform on giving.
· Every relationship dies when partners stop giving to enrich it.
· To relate is to share.
· Giving is relationship.
· Give her Ross flower, give him a tie, take her out to the restaurant, give him your time, give her your sincerity and he gives you his love, give him respect and he would be devoted to you.
· To stop giving to a relationship is to bury it alive.
3. ARE MY READY EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY AND SPIRITUALLY FOR MARRIAGE?
· There is nothing more pathetic than for a lady to marry a spiritually immature man.
· Marriage is not a function of age but of maturity - mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally.
· Men and Women are two strange bed fellows in marriage never last long in marriage.
· Marriage that is void of two matured people always end up in a crash.
· Read less of romantic novels and more of life transforming materials.
· Get close to God.
· Eat good food and exercise yourself.
· Discipline your mind.
4. IS THERE A MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING OF EACH OTHERS VISION?
· Where there is no vision, provision is scarce.
· Where there is no mutual understanding of each others vision there will be division.
· Where there is division or "two vision" there will be confusion.
· With proper understanding of each others vision there will be promotion.
· Sit down and talk about your vision often.
· Be sincere with each other.
· Desire to serve one another.
5. HOW MUCH RESPECT DOES YOUR PARTNER HAVE FOR YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS?
· Is he or she always excited anytime you begin to talk about your dreams and goals?
· Does he/she show any form of interest or are they just indifferent?
· Do you spend sufficient time together?
· Quality friendship supplies mobility to vision.
· If you must make it work, respect his/her vision.
· You must see what he sees, hear what he hears, say what he says and feel what he feels to make marriage work.
6. HOW FINANCIALLY STABLE DO YOU INTEND TO BE WHEN YOU GET MARRIED?
· How do you both want to run the family finance?
· Do you intend to have a joint account?
· Having a joint account, do you both still want to run separate accounts in case you want to give yourselves some surprise packages?
· How long do you want to stay in that rented apartment?
· What is your dream house, car and luxury like?
· How would you like to train up your children financially?
· There is always a need to set financial goals because most crisis in the home are largely as a result of financial misunderstanding that usually arise.
7. HOW DO FRIENDS, PARTNERS, AND FAMILY REACT TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
· People often reflect their weaknesses, strength, opportunities and our future.
· Every relationship that must survive needs four categories of people. *Friends. ** Mentors. *** Teachers. **** Enemies.
· Friends supply the comfort and acceptance you both need.
· Mentors help you appreciate those areas of neglect.
· Teachers serve as your counselors.
· Enemies ensure that you are sure of the moves you are taking. There very presence makes you think twice before taking a decision.
· Family many times fall into four categories sometime, and good understanding will always deliver the required favour.
· Ensure that you sincerely consider every opposing voice critically before making up your mind.
· Somebody knows what you do not know, or sees what you cannot see in your partner, consider carefully the two sides before plunging into the sea of love.
8. WHAT IMPACT WILL YOUR FUTURE GOAL OR VISION MAKE ON YOUR PARTNER.
· It is good to spell out clearly the benefits of your vision before making any concrete decision.
· Ensure that your partner know that he/she has a part to play in the realization of your dream.
· In a true relationship, everybody wins.
· There are no losers in a relationship. Everybody is a winner.
· Develop a win - win attitude with your partner.
9. HOW DO YOU EXPECT THE FAMILY OF YOUR FUTURE PARTNER TO IMPACT YOUR LIFE?
· You must protect your wife and children.
· As a man you need a life insurance.
· Carry your family along in the scheme of things.
· Agree with your wife how long family members will be permitted to stay in your house.
10. HOW DO YOU INTEND TO HANDLE DISAGREEMENTS IN THE COURSE
OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
· How do you handle anger?
· Can you tell when your partner is angry?
· As a man, are you so weak, that you result to beating up your wife.
· It is madness to beat up your wife. This is because the two shall become one. If the two is one, how then can one beat ones self if not for a display of madness.
· In reproving your wife, wife battery is not an option.
· Think of something creative and more constructive, something peculiar to your relationship.
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