Leader Guide
Leader Guide
Welcome to the Monday Evening Women’s CODA Group. This meeting is open to all who identify as women.
I’m ________ and I am your leader for today.
We have the following guidelines to ensure that our meeting is a safe space.
The meeting will not be recorded. The option to record has been disabled.
If you are in a location with others (family, etc.) use earbuds or headphones to protect the confidentiality of other members of the group
The meeting will be locked to additional people joining at approximately 7:15pm Pacific.
Screen sharing can only be done by the host and co-hosts.
Renaming of participants can only be done by the host and co-hosts. Please reach out to our host if you need your name changed.
Our host will post a link in the chat to our Zoom tips for anyone who would like information on how to use Zoom.
[ host host pastes a link to Zoom tips]
Will those who care to please join me in the Serenity Prayer.
[ Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference ]
Will a volunteer please read the Preamble?
Will a volunteer please read the Welcome?
Will a volunteer please read the 12 Steps?
Will a volunteer please read the 12 Traditions?
We will now take turns reading from the Patterns of codependency. Will a volunteer please choose 2-3 from each section and pass. I'll get us started [Leader starts]
[ Ask for a volunteer to reach each subsequent section of the Patterns of Co-Dependency ]
For zoom-bombing prevention we would like all attendees to turn on their video cameras at this time for a few minutes. If you cannot turn on your video camera we will ask you to explain why. If we do not see or hear from you, you will be removed from the meeting.
[host and/or leader verify online participants have turned on their video or explained why they cannot]
In a moment, the host will lock the meeting to new participants for security reasons. Before locking the meeting, our host will put their contact info in the chat. If you think you might become disconnected from the zoom meeting, please make a note of that information so you can request to be readmitted to the zoom meeting.
[ host locks meeting ]
We request that you keep your video turned on for the majority of the meeting to help maintain an atmosphere of safety, trust, and support. If there is some reason that you cannot turn on your video for the majority of the meeting please let us know during introductions.
We’ll now go around the room and introduce our selves by first names only. You have the option to say in 1 or 2 words how you are feeling currently. There will be an opportunity to share more fully later in the meeting.
My name is _____________ and I am co-dependent. I am feeling ____________.
[ Introductions]
I will now turn the meeting over to our Secretary __________.
(Middle Section)
[ Secretary’s report ]
[Treasurer's report]
[List Person's report]
[ Back to Leader ]
(Speaker Meetings)
For today's meeting, we are pleased to have a guest speaker: CATHY
In speaker meetings, we will forgo our usual readings
Our speaker, Cathy, will share for up to 15 minutes about her experience, strength, and hope.
[Host reads speaker Intro]
Cathy is from Denver, Colorado and she celebrates her one year anniversary tomorrow. She learned about the program from a speaker on Youtube from her church group.
Cathy, please let us know how you would like to be timed during your share. You may request warnings at 5, 10, or 1-minute intervals.
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In a few moments, we will begin individual sharing. To help create a safe, trusting, and supportive space, we encourage you to keep your video on for most of the meeting.
Please note that the last three minutes of sharing are dedicated to newcomers and anyone with questions about this meeting or the CODA program. Newcomers are also welcome to share at any point during the regular sharing time if they feel moved to do so.
Would someone please volunteer to read the Guidelines for Sharing?
To support our guideline of no crosstalk, the meeting host will turn off the chat feature during sharing.
[meeting host disables chat]
We will now begin individual sharing. To share, please use the virtual "raise hand" function in Zoom. You can find this by clicking the "React" button at the bottom of your Zoom window and then selecting the "raise hand" icon.
As the leader for today, I will call on people to share in the order their virtual hands are raised on my screen. If there is a moment of silence and no one has their hand raised, it is also acceptable to simply begin sharing.
Please keep your sharing to a maximum of 3 minutes to allow everyone an opportunity to share. An onscreen timer will help you track your time. The meeting is now open for sharing. Who would like to share first?
[ Sharing ]
[General sharing ends: 8:20* PST...depending on when the speaker ends]
The last 3 minutes of sharing are reserved for newcomers and people who have questions about this meeting or about the CODA program. Are there any newcomers who would like to share or questions about this meeting or about the CODA program?
[ newcomer share / questions about program ]
That’s all the time we have for sharing.
Our meeting host will now re-enable chat.
[meeting host re-enables chat]
(Closing Section)
Our Seventh Tradition reminds us that every CODA group is self-supporting, declining outside contributions. The funds collected in this meeting go directly towards covering the $22 monthly cost of our Zoom meeting account.
If you would like to contribute through Venmo, our treasurer has shared a link in the chat. The meeting host will also repost the link to our meeting Readings in the chat.
[ host posts link in the chat ]
As we bring this meeting to a close, I would like to remind you that CoDA is an anonymous program. We ask that you respect the anonymity and confidentiality of each person in this meeting.
We ask that:
- what you see here,
- what is said here,
- when you leave here,
- let it stay here."
HERE! HERE!
We will now take a moment for affirmations. I invite each person to speak an affirmation of their choice. Our host will share a link in the chat to our complete list of affirmations for anyone who would like to browse them.
A subset of these affirmations will be displayed onscreen. You are welcome to read an affirmation from the list or share one of your own.
[ Start the affirmations: "I'm [your name] [Affirmation]
Will a volunteer please read the Promises?
We will now have a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer.
Start the serenity prayer after a moment of silence:
God Grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change
Courage to change the things I can
And Wisdom to know the difference
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Keep coming back it works if you work it and you're worth it
Meeting Close