Leader Guide
Leader Guide
Welcome to the Monday Evening Women’s CODA Group. This meeting is open to all who identify as women.
I’m ________ and I am your leader for today.
We have the following guidelines to ensure that our meeting is a safe space.
The meeting will not be recorded. The option to record has been disabled.
If you are in a location with others (family, etc.) use earbuds or headphones to protect the confidentiality of other members of the group
The meeting will be locked to additional people joining at approximately 7:15pm Pacific.
Screen sharing can only be done by the host and co-hosts.
Renaming of participants can only be done by the host and co-hosts. Please reach out to our host if you need your particpant name changed.
Our host will post a link in the chat to our Zoom tips for anyone who would like information on how to use Zoom.
[ host host pastes a link to Zoom tips]
Will those who care to please join me in the Serenity Prayer.
[ Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference ]
Will a volunteer please read the Preamble?
Will a volunteer please read the Welcome?
Will a volunteer please read the 12 Steps?
Will a volunteer please read the 12 Traditions?
We will now take turns reading from the Patterns of codependency. Will a volunteer please choose 2-3 from each section and pass. I'll get us started [Leader starts]
[ Ask for a volunteer to reach each subsequent section of the Patterns of Co-Dependency ]
For zoombombing prevention we would like all attendees to turn on their video cameras at this time for a few minutes. If you cannot turn on your video camera we will ask you to explain why. If we do not see or hear from you, you will be removed from the meeting.
[ host and/or leader verify online participants have turned on their video or explained why they cannot]
In a moment, the host will lock the meeting to new participants for security reasons. Before locking the meeting, our host will put their contact info in the chat. If you think you might become disconnected from the zoom meeting, please make a note of that information so you can request to be readmitted to the zoom meeting.
[ host locks meeting ]
We request that you keep your video turned on for the majority of the meeting to help maintain an atmosphere of safety, trust, and support. If there is some reason that you cannot turn on your video for the majority of the meeting please let us know during introductions.
We’ll now go around the room and introduce our selves by first names only. You have the option to say in 1 or 2 words how you are feeling currently. There will be an opportunity to share more fully later in the meeting.
My name is _____________ and I am co-dependent. I am feeling ____________.
[ Introductions ]
I will now turn the meeting over to our Secretary __________.
(Middle Section)
[ Secretary’s report ]
[ Back to Leader ]
[ 4th Monday of the month ]
This is our Monday for reading one of the 12 steps. We are on Step _____.
[ Step # corresponds with the month of the year, e.g. Jan = step 1, Feb = step 2, etc. ]
There is a link to the Step readings on the home page of our meeting site and in the Readings drop down in the navigation menu.
We will now take turns reading 1 - 2 paragraphs at a time.
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In a few minutes, the meeting will be open for individual sharing. As a reminder, we request that you keep your video turned on for the majority of the meeting to help maintain an atmosphere of safety, trust, and support.
The last 3 minutes of sharing will be reserved for newcomers and people who have questions about this meeting or about the CODA program. However, newcomers may share at any time during normal sharing if they wish to do so.
Will a volunteer please read the Guidelines for Sharing?
To respect our guidelines around crosstalk, our meeting host will disable the chat feature during sharing.
[meeting host disables chat]
To accommodate the large number of participants in this meeting, we are using the hand raise feature in Zoom during sharing. To get in line to share, please raise your virtual hand by clicking Reactions in the Zoom menu and choosing the raise hand icon.
As today's meeting leader, I will call on people who have raised their hands in the order that I see on the screen. If we end up with silence between shares and no one has raised their virtual hand, it's also ok to just jump in and start sharing.
Please limit your sharing to 3 minutes to allow for everyone to share. The onscreen timer will show when your time is up.
The meeting is now open for sharing. Who would like to start?
[ Sharing ]
[General sharing ends: 8:05 PST]
The last 3 minutes of sharing are reserved for newcomers and people who have questions about this meeting or about the CODA program. Are there any newcomers who would like to share or questions about this meeting or about the CODA program?
[ newcomer share / questions about program ]
That’s all the time we have for sharing.
Our meeting host will now re-enable chat.
[meeting host re-enables chat]
(Closing Section)
Our 7th tradition states that every Coda group should be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. The contributions collected in this meeting go towards covering the cost of our $22/month Zoom & Venom accounts.
If you would like to pay over Venmo our treasurer has posted a link in the chat.
Our meeting host will again post a link to our Readings in the chat.
[ host posts link in the chat ]
As we bring this meeting to a close, I would like to remind you that CoDA is an anonymous program. We ask that you respect the anonymity and confidentiality of each person in this meeting. We ask that “what you see here, what is said here, when you leave here, let it stay here."
[ Here here ]
I invite each person please speak an affirmation of their choice. Our host will post a link in the chat to our affirmations for anyone who would like to scroll through the entire list. Our host will also display a subset of the affirmations onscreen. You can read an affirmation from the list or make up one of your own.
[ Start the affirmations: "I'm [your name] [Affirmation]. ]
Will a volunteer please read the Promises?
We will now have a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer.
[ Start the Serenity prayer after a moment of silence: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Keep coming back. It works if you work it & you're worth it!"]