Authors Note- I found this to be rather difficult since I had to do a lot of research to learn what would best suit this assignment and I finally came up with violence towards children which always seems to be one of the biggest controversy’s that can always start up a conversation. make was not sure what would have been a good conflict between people that would be a good idea to use that would make a good way to show difference of people ideas, mind sets, and standing points. I think the use of violence such as striking your child for disciplinary action is where most people can not see all the sides and shows that everyone may not agree and have the same idea’s but that instead there a plenty of different ways of going towards discipline and where they stand on certain points. I find this to be a different and ignored idea and believe that talking about this in my narrative will be a good challenge.
There are 2 people who will talk about how they were raised and how they were disciplined when they caused trouble when they were younger. Now let me introduce who will be arguing their sides and why the way they were disciplined molded them.
Jack he is a 19 years old student that is attending the University of Chicago. He and his classmate Courtney were put into a group together in their debates class to talk about a following topic. They won’t know about the topic until the next time they have class together. When Jack was younger, he did not like to listen to his parent’s wishes and would often getting into trouble mostly in school. He did come from a very wealthy family, but he defiantly worked hard to earn himself a degree to study engineering. His parents would spank him when he caused any trouble or didn’t want to listen to what they asked of him. So, he believes that the way he was raised was good since he still matured and learned from having bad behavior.
Courtney is 23 years old and is working as a manager in a very well- known technology company but decided to go back to school and hope to get a degree for a new promotion her work has offered her. She comes from a very wealthy family and went to a lot of well taught private schools. Her parents were strong believers that disciplining your children by hitting them is a very terrible and ineffective way of teaching what is okay and what isn’t okay. So, when Courtney got in trouble, she would have had her phone and television permissions taken away.
* The next day Jack and Courtney were placed in as group at a table and were talk about which way of disciplining your children would be best t*
Jack starts off the conversation by asking , “So do you believe that using violence to discipline your child works best? ”
Courtney says, “ I believe that grounding or taking something important to a child would be the most affective and best way of discipling a child because it gives them time to think about what they did. Making sure they remember their misdeeds and think twice about doing something next time instead of making them scared to mess up.
Jack replies with, “ I think that spanking a child is what works best because it’s a punishment that works quickest and is more likely to guarantee that they will try to prevent repeating the certain behavior that got them in trouble in the first place. And my parent’s also hit me when I was younger, and I grew up to be just fine. ”
Courtney mentions that , “ Hitting your children isn’t a good affective disciplinary strategy to use of violence towards your children will cause the child to develop mental disorders and trust issues that can be a serious impact in the child future abilities to make connections with people and have problems establish relationships. Not to mention that a very high percentage of children who are hit by their parents when they do something wrong tend to be more angrier towards the world. Also growing to be more violent as they grow up. Which is why using violence in discipline is wrong and should be used anymore.
Jack says, “ Nobody wants to hurt their children out of there anger. If anyone hit their children just because they are mad, then they should get lawful action taken towards them but if they do it help teach their child that the behavior there showing isn’t okay to do and better mold what is believed to be the right behavior for their kid. Also, what types of mental disorder would even be caused due to spanking a child? “
Courtney states, “ Hitting your children may look or be effective when they are younger but when they get older and start to mature, they will be more distant with everyone especially towards you and won’t acknowledge as strong of a relationship towards you. It also can cause psychological behaviors like anxiety and depression which are quite dangerous especially for anyone’s self esteem. Both depression and anxiety are the 2 most major psychological mental behaviors that adolescents most likely will end up getting or feeling since there both known for being the more common mental issues people end up getting affected by. ”
Courtney also says after that, “ Also exposure to young children causes their grey matter in the prefrontal cortex which is told to play a huge role with social cognition. And that it can also cause slight or major drops in performance towards a child’s IQ. “
Jack starts talking again saying, “ I see why you believe your side is the best way towards discipling your children since it is most important to give a child a better future instead causing harm to them and causing personal or mental issue for them. I believe that hitting your children severely and very often which is not right or by any means should be ignored. But hitting your child enough to let them know they made a mistake and letting them know what they did wrong is okay since it is giving them a learning curve to figure out. I just believe that the way my parents disciplined was the best way since it worked on me. Nobody has ever mentioned that IQ or grey matter have any type of roles to play when it comes to violent disciplinary actions. I don’t see any total issues with spanking children since it does get the point across more to kids.”
Courtney replies with, “ I can see why you believe what you are saying is true and the best option since you grew up with that type of disciplinary action. You may not have changed your mind to completely agree with me, but I am defiantly happy that you were able to have intellectual conversation about this topic with you. But in the end, there are more and better way to discipline your child without having to use or resort any type of violence.
* There discussion now has ended and both sides feel like they have taken something new from their sides that they got to argue today. And then they both leave and got to take something important back from this. *
Works Cited-
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/good-thinking/201409/is-what-happens-when-you-hit-your-kids
• https://www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/here-s-what-spanking-does-kids-none-it-good-doctors-n931306
• https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/05/health/spanking-harmful-study-pediatricians.html