Attachment Theory

The attachment Theory invites you to fulfill in the child's mind and heart during the 6 stages of attachment in order to maturate: 

• Proximity: since they were born, we need to have contact and touch with kids. We send them the message that we love them close to us.

• Sameness: at the age of 2 the desire to be like their parents (or teachers). They feel connected when we emphasize interests or inclinations that we share with them.

• Belonging: at the age of 3 children like to be loyal, to take the same side as the other person. 

• Significance: around 4 years, by letting our child know how they are special, we strengthen the sense of closeness. The understanding is that parents or teachers will hold close what is special or precious to them. So the child feels significant and unique.

• Love: at 5 years old is where warm and affectionate feelings begin to help deepen attachment. A child who experiences this kind of emotional intimacy with the parent is able to tolerate much more physical separation and yet still manage to hold the parent close.

• Being known: from six years onwards, children reveal their secrets. Children attached don’t like to keep secrets because of the resulting loss of closeness.  They allow themselves to be known because of the significant safety they feel.