Celebration of Life Therapist

& Behavioral Health Clinician 

Judith Viers is currently a therapist/ Behavioral Health Clinician at Healing Hearts Carroll practicing in Maryland, email healingheartsjudy@yahoo.com for more information if interested. There are many therapeutic approaches. 

Comfort areas of ages 10+: 

Area that I am not taking clients: dealing with custody disputes, and I do not have specialized certificates in addiction as primary problem and not specialized training on how to help perpetrators of domestic violence (yet).

Types of Clinical Treatment- each client helps create their own service plan so can utilize below treatment methods:



I use the Scientific Method as a template to use and able to utilize many therapeutic methods and wellness tools.  I can also do individual and family workshops and memorial art in therapy.  I can do memorial books as well.  This page I hope can be used by anyone interested in living their best life possible, keep scrolling:-) 

On YouTube. About Judith Viers

Memorial Art Therapy takes place in Maryland and each client will decide their projects and timeframe.  There are many stages to loss and grieving and art can help along the way.   Options can include creating personalized projects: a celebration of life book, ornament, button, keychain, bookmark, cards, shadow box, painted and sealed rock, and even video.  

­What You Should Know

Confidentiality Rules- we practice confidentiality completely outside our agency unless an informed consent signed by you to assist another provider to treat you; with the exception of 2 rules.

 

*If I see you in public, I will act like I don’t know you.  If we happen to know the same people, they will never know you are my client unless you tell them.

Layout of the Program for Ongoing Maryland Clients


Longterm Vision: Layout of the Memorial Art Program for One Week Designed for Out-of- State Clients

Beyond Carroll County: Official Tourism Site of Washington DC | Washington DC  Baltimore Inner Harbor Visitor Center | Visit Baltimore The Maryland Zoo in Baltimore  Home - Catoctin Wildlife Preserve | Thurmont, MD – Get close, in unexpected ways!  Cunningham Falls State Park (maryland.gov) Swimming, Boating and Fishing (maryland.gov) Things to Do in Frederick, MD | Activities & Attractions (visitfrederick.org) Things To Do Around Gettysburg in Adams County, PA (destinationgettysburg.com) 

Places to stay: Best Western Westminster Catering & Conf Ctr | Hotel Rooms  Days Inn by Wyndham Westminster in Westminster, MD - ReservationCounter.com Within 30-minute drive to the office: Historic Hotel Located in Taneytown, Maryland | Antrim 1844 Willet Family Farm - Hipcamp in Westminster, Maryland 




Interested in Services

If you are seeking services and interested in having me, Judith Viers, as your therapist, I will be able to accept:

+Cigna, +United Health Care, +BlueCross Blue Shield


Contact: Healing Hearts Carroll (410) 294-9612 Office: 280 E. Main St., Suite 202, Westminster, MD. 21157 

Email: healingheartscarroll@yahoo.com


 

Clinician’s Model' Using Scientic Method

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I see therapy as following the well-known Scientific Method.

1. Problem/ Purpose of being in therapy/ goals:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A.     Create a different treatment plan if goals not reached.  Many may have to try many different methods, tools, to find the ones that work. 

B.     Conclusion. You may have the tools and insights to reduce services or stop them. Create a wellness plan before terminating services to maintain wellness and help prevent relapse of negative feelings, thoughts, or behaviors and a plan includes positive to steps to take in one's journey.

Clinician Outlook on Life/ Potential Bias

Every Clinician has their own outlook on life and their personal bias and mine is I believe each person matters and is important. I embrace Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.'s Blueprint. "I want to suggest some of the things that should begin your life’s blueprint. 

#1 Number one in your life’s blueprint, should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your worth and your own somebodiness. Don’t allow anybody to make you feel that you’re nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth, and always feel that your life has ultimate significance.

#2 Secondly, in your life’s blueprint you must have as the basic principle the determination to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. You’re going to be deciding as the days, as the years unfold what you will do in life — what your life’s work will be. Set out to do it well." 

*I share my story publicly, on stage, in articles, books, but in therapy it is 100% about client. I believe in recovery, peace after the storms of suicidal thoughts, because it is possible and know it on a personal level.  I hope my belief in you is felt in therapy.  I set out to help my clients and humanity to the best of my abilities. 

Brainstorming on Ways to Get and Feel Well


Below is an incomplete list of different forms of therapy and wellness tools. It started during my Mental Health First Aid Course via asking a question and taking notes from the rest of the class.  Including this list here is because you should ALWAYS have HOPE and keep going!!!  Many have heard that they may need to try a couple medications to get one that works, similarly there are many wellness tools and therapeutic methods where one may help, and one may not.   Patience and perseverance are the key to recovery. 


Check for medical/ biological causes (Vitamin deficiencies, etc) to rule out underlying cause.



Psychotherapy

Trauma Informed Care


Great website for ideas, videos, and more Therapy worksheets, tools, and handouts | Therapist Aid 


Narrative Therapy/ journaling- You can daily write down the positive steps you take, food you eat, track anxiety/ wellness tools. Work with a therapist on those negative thoughts and steps to take to help prevent.

This can also be allowing you to simply talk without interrupting. There can be a time for a therapist to listen.  There can be a time to teach psychoeducational information and utilize CBT or use Motivational Interviewing/ Socratic Questioning. The can be time for reflection, learning, even homework.  Each person is unique but listening to listen not to respond is an art that is not appreciated or used by all therapists, but I embrace.  There can be time for silence to provide time to process information and not give your automatic response.  People are often in therapy to heal and healing may take work, silence, processing, thinking, learning more information.   


•Storytelling- some therapists when a client is stating they are lacking hope can share stories of other people, often famous who have been in their shoes.   This is not for everyone, but is a great tool to have knowledge and use as clinically appropriate. 


Laughing for some people can boost mental wellness, boost mood instantly, stop racing thoughts. This may not help all, but for some a wellness tool used daily. (Don't try while eating to prevent choking). 

Some say (43) Ev'rybody Has A Laughing Place (Sing Along Songs) - YouTube   https://youtu.be/BvAGNSJ7Wrc

"Our children carry around emotional backpacks that they will eventually unload." Laughter article.  Laughter helps everyone during stressful times! 105 Ways to Make Your Kids Laugh: Laughter Is The Best Medicine ~ Thisnthatparenting 

(43) Laughter Yoga with School Children - YouTube 

Top 3 suggestions from my best friend: El Risitas - Funniest Laugh Ever!! - video Dailymotion (42) James Gregory: Funniest Man in America - YouTube (42) Jerry Clower - A Coon Huntin Story - YouTube 

Cute family animal videos: (43) Worlds funniest talking parrot - YouTube (43) Talking Parrot Will Leave You Speechless - YouTube (43) Kitten sleeps sweetly with the Chicken 🐥 - YouTube (43) It's TIME for SUPER LAUGH! - Best FUNNY CAT videos - YouTube   People Making Funny Animal Sounds: (43) Girl makes animal sounds - YouTube (43) Animal sound Man - YouTube 


ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy)

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)

Cognitive Distortions: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Techniques 18/30 - YouTube 17 minutes (other resources)

How to Turn off the Fear Response 12/30 Create a Sense of Safety - YouTube 18 minutes (exercises) 

6 Therapy Skills to Stop Overthinking Everything - YouTube 15 minutes 40 seconds 

Turn off Anxiety in Your Nervous System: 4 Ways to Turn on the Parasympathetic Response - YouTube (14 minutes)

Fight/Flight/Freeze Response: Anxiety Skills #1 - YouTube 5 minutes

Coping Mechanisms - Bing video 6 minutes (HELFPUL: breathing, grounding, exercise, writing/ planning, technology break, asking for help, socializing, gratitude, act of kindness, vs UNHEALTHY coping mechanisms).

WRAP (Wellness Recovery Action Plan) Training, FYI I'm not a trainer but have gone through training. 

Pastoral Psychology, Spirituality, Religion, God, &/ or Faith, I'm comfortable talking about client's faith, but not a Pastoral Counselor by any means

Motivational Interviewing

Socratic Questioning

Parts Therapy, 9 Minute Video on Parts Theory

Behavioral Therapy

Exposure Therapy

Humanistic Therapy

Shadow Work


Good resource with assessments: Defense Mechanisms Worksheets: 10 Tools for Practitioners (positivepsychology.com) 


Mindfulness

* Child's Mindfulness Videos: (1) Mindfulness Bootcamp - 21 days of Guided Mindfulness Videos for Parents and Educators - YouTube 

* (1) What is MINDFULNESS and how do you do it? (Zen Den) | Cosmic Kids - YouTube almost 8 minutes 

* Bucket Fillers Website Full of Great Videos for Kids (1) "Have You Filled a Bucket Today?" read aloud with author Carol McCloud - YouTube <7minutes

   "Will You Fill My Bucket?" read aloud with author Carol McCloud - YouTube 6 minutes

"Buckets, Dippers, and Lids" read aloud with author Carol McCloud - YouTube 38 minutes

*(1) Sesame Street: Stop and Think Song - YouTube 1 minute

10 Calming Techniques and Transition Strategies for Kids - The Inspired Treehouse article

How to Make Good Choices: Mindfulness for Kids | Cosmic Kids (app preview) - YouTube 3 minutes

Coping Skills For Kids - Managing Feelings & Emotions For Elementary-Middle School | Self-Regulation - YouTube 5 minutes (3 steps)

7-Minute Emotion Regulating Activity To Help Kids Calm Down! [with mindful breathing techniques] - YouTube 

Take A Breather! 4 Minute Box Breathing Activity To Calm Nerves and Ease Anxiety For Kids - YouTube 

    

Communicating with Your Child - YouTube 3 minutes- 1. Praise 2. Imitation 3. Description 4. Active Listening

Giving Directions to Your Child: You Know What I Mean? - YouTube 3 minutes Simplify, make sure child understands, be clear, praise


More For Kids

(1) The Boundaries Song - "That's a Boundary." - YouTube 3 minutes 

Healthy Relationships and Consent, Caring and Harmful Behaviours, Mental Health Education - YouTube 3 minutes 

(1) Kids Feelings and Emotions SONG Animation with A Little SPOT - YouTube 2 minutes 

(1) Sesame Street: Bruno Mars: Don't Give Up - YouTube 


All Ages

(1) 4 Small Habits To Improve Self Esteem - YouTube 5 minutes

Success is an iceberg by DINIAEVENTS - YouTube  1 minute

Emotional Safety: How to Improve Relationships and Communication #2 - YouTube 6 minutes, 40 seconds.

Christian: The Power Of Hope | Motivational Talks With Steve Harvey - YouTube 4 minutes 


Kids' Exercise

Yoga For Kids - The Sun Salutation - YouTube (less than 4 minutes)

Music for Children on Just Dance Kids! Bingo Song & More | Learn to Dance (Baby Kids) - YouTube (54 minutes)

The Sid Shuffle - Ice Age: Continental Drift - YouTube 3 minutes

Tabata Workout for Kids! - YouTube 5 minutes

*Mr. Rogers' Opinion: importance of silence, wonder, clips, input, "feelings mentionable and manageable" discussion (1) The Best of Mr. Rogers - YouTube


For Parents/ Older Kids:

Setting Healthy Boundaries - YouTube 3 minutes

Teaching Kids Healthy Boundaries - YouTube 5 minutes

How To Cope With Panic Attacks - YouTube 11 minutes

How To Handle A Narcissist - Dr. Phil - YouTube 10 minutes at 5minutes 30 seconds "you can never do enough to make them happy" your idenity not dependent on them

How to parent a teen from a teen’s perspective | Lucy Androski | TEDxYouth@Okoboji - YouTube  5  minutes

8 Ways to Improve Parent Child Relationship - YouTube for families with teens 6 minutes

Andrew Solomon: How the worst moments in our lives make us who we are | TED Talk  20 minutes- "powerful call to action to forge meaning from our biggest struggles"

What type of relationship would you like to improve? (5lovelanguages.com) What are The 5 Love Languages?  


Active Listening - Clip 1 - YouTube (4 minutes tv show with role playing "Everybody Loves Raymond") does it Everybody Loves Raymond Uses Active Listening - from Parent Effectiveness Training - YouTube (3 minutes)


Dr Daniel Siegel presenting a Hand Model of the Brain - YouTube (2 minutes 30 seconds)- reasons to take a "time out" explained and more interactive model Brain & amygdala hand model explains how thoughts & emotions fuel anxiety https://empoweru.education (youtube.com) (2 minutes)


Co-regulation: What It Is and Why it Matters - YouTube (5 minutes) at 1:45 minutes crosses out self for self-regulation "you don't develop it by yourself"


Psychodynamic

Spiral Dynamics

Grief Therapy

Education/ Trainings/ Reading

Mental Health First Aid, FYI I'm not a trainer but have gone through training. 

Art Therapy

Wellness Tools/ Coping Skills 10-minute video of 25 Coping Skills

•Sleep

DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy)

3 Thought Stopping Techniques (verywellmind.com) article discusses alternatives to "thought stopping" 



Other Options Beyond My Current Scope of Knowledge

•Apitherapy- local for Veterans/ First Responders and their families Mission Beelieve | Veterans and First Responders Program | Taneytown 

Hypnosis

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation) Therapy

Dynamic Neural Retraining System (DNRS)

•Brain rewiring

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)

Reiki/ Energy Psychology

Healing Rocks/ Crystals

Medication

Acupuncture

Emotional CPR (eCPR)


Movement- 6-minute overview of "The Body Keeps the Score" (recommending additional physical activity in conjunction with therapy)  The Body Keeps the Score - Bing video 1 minute 45 seconds trauma related (talking about but also physical activity)

Music or Dance Therapy

Yoga/ Sun Salutation

•Hiking, walking, biking, roller blading, skateboarding, ice skating, Zumba, gym, aerobic classes, personal trainer, online or DVD exercises 

•Aikido, sports, martial arts, jumping on a trampoline, swimming, skiing, exercise, etc.  

Light Therapy Treatment/ Sunlight

Float tank (water)

Massage

Salt Therapy

Nutrition or Exercise

Peer Support

Support Groups:

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)

Al non (family of alcoholics)

Narcotics Anonymous (NA)

Celebrate Recovery

GriefShare

Church Small Groups

Friends or Family Time

Social Clubs (Lions Club, Rotary Clubs, Scouts, etc)

Volunteering or Missionary Work



Relationships

It Takes Two to Make a Relationship Work and Only One to Ruin It - Teal Swan Articles - Teal Swan 


(5 Minute Therapy Tips - Episode 18: Couples Therapy - YouTube - positive, just noticeable difference)


Fair Fighting Rules (Video) | Therapist Aid  5 minutes "1. Ask yourself why you feel upset. 2. Discuss one issue at a time. 3. No degrading language. 4.  Express your feelings with words. 5.Take turns speaking. 6. No stonewalling.  7. No yelling. 8. Take a time-out if things get too heated. 9. Attempt to come to a compromise or an understanding"  


Dr Daniel Siegel presenting a Hand Model of the Brain - YouTube (2 minutes 30 seconds)- reasons to take a "time out" explained and more interactive model Brain & amygdala hand model explains how thoughts & emotions fuel anxiety https://empoweru.education (youtube.com) (2 minutes)



Couples Therapist | 10 Tips For Good Communication! - YouTube < 13 minutes (timeline to click on step), explains active listening/ reflective listening, "1. Set clear intentions 2. Create a safe atmosphere 3. Speak slowly 4. Be concise 5. Understandable language 6. Watch your body language 7. Avoid sarcasm 8. Stay on topic 9. Avoid shifting blame "I feel_____ when you do ____ and in the future I would like you to_________________." 10. Barrier Loud Noise and Stress "


What type of relationship would you like to improve? (5lovelanguages.com) Quiz and short video

The 5 Love Languages Explained - YouTube 6 minutes

The Apology Language Quiz (5lovelanguages.com) 

The Anger Assessment Quiz (5lovelanguages.com) 


Free Personality Test | 16Personalities - understanding different personalities can increase understanding


The Attachment Style Quiz (personaldevelopmentschool.com) The Four Types Of Attachment Styles: ANXIOUS PREOCCUPIED, FEARFUL AVOIDANT, DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT, SECURE ATTACHED    


3 Power Dynamics in Relationships and How to Overcome Them (psychcentral.com): Demand/withdrawal, Distancer/pursuer, Fear/shame    


Jordan Peterson - Make YOUR RELATIONSHIPS last FOREVER by DOING THIS - YouTube (This one is great on changing routine to have one person help more at home, prevent verbal attacks/ arguments.) 8 minutes


The Secret of Successful Relationships: Rupture and Repair - YouTube -Being teachable and teaching. Them patience and repair. "1-ability to apologize, 2 ability to forgive, 3 the ability to teach, 4 the ability to learn"    *8 minutes 30 seconds.


How to Make Love Last Forever - YouTube discussion on "complaining in love.. to preserve the love to have unresentful future," safe to complain 6 minutes. 


The Three Requirements of a Good Relationship - YouTube 1. kindness, 2. shared vulnerability, 3 understanding (not complete merger at all, important expectations only, or "perfect") 5 minutes.


8 Habits of Healthy Relationships - YouTube 5 minutes for couples


Men share 10 unspoken rules for a successful marriage and it's eye-opening (msn.com)  "1. Pick your battles 2. Help out in any way you can 3. Some days will be challenging 4. Observe the signs 5. It's a team effort 6. Learn to let go 7. Be careful with words 8. Marriage is a subjective experience 9. Be clear about finances 10. Not everything needs to be said"  by Abhiram Sajai 


4 Habits of ALL Successful Relationships | Dr. Andrea & Jonathan Taylor-Cummings | TEDxSquareMile - YouTube < 17 minutes 

“Habit #1 Be curious, not critical. How we are wired differently to play to our strengths." “You cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that got you there.”-Einstein "Habit #2  Be careful, not crushing. Habit #3  Ask, don’t assume. Habit #4 Connect, before you correct."

Which Long-term Relationships Will Survive and Which Won't - YouTube "I can hear what you are saying I can see this matters a lot to you and I will try to do my best.." trying to understand the others perspective. (< 7 minutes) 


Casting Crowns - Broken Together (Official Music Video) - Bing video (< 5 minutes, can listen together, recommend hold hands) "God" can be viewed for an atheist as a personal insight not yet revealed, deeper understanding or whatever connects to client (Christian song, but can be useful regardless of religious views).  Discuss being broken together on the same team, how to support and understand each other instead of being defensive or opposing. 


I'm A Couples Therapist — These Are The 9 Most Effective Changes People Can Make In Counseling (msn.com) "1. Accept the fact that therapy works 2. Trust your therapist. 3. Be honest but never hurtful. 4. Commit to your significant other.  5. Take personal responsibility. 6. Practice acceptance. 7. Practice sobriety. 8. Don't disrespect 9. Avoid the trap of inaction"


Active Listening - YouTube cartoon ( 1 min 30 seconds)


The Surprising Key to Building a Healthy Relationship that Lasts | Maya Diamond | TEDxOakland - YouTube  on emotional responsiveness (8 minutes 30 seconds) 


How to Increase Love in Your Relationship | Jonathan Ljungqvist | TEDxZagreb - YouTube (<20 minutes)


The Best Relationship Advice No One Tells You - YouTube (<12 minutes)- "Love isn't enough"


How To Make A Relationship Work: 9 Rules To Follow | mindbodygreen "1. Accept conflict as normal. 2. Grow yourself up emotionally. 3. Give each other space. 4. Develop an "I'm awesome" attitude. 5. Take care of your own needs. 6. Communicate boundaries. 7. Never reward bad behavior. 8. Heed the wisdom of your internal voice. 9. Flood it with affection."



Healing from an Affair/ Infidelity:

How to Heal From Infidelity: 6 Recovering From Affair Stages & How to Move Forward Together In The Relationship | Regain article

Moving Forward after Infidelity: Do’s and Don'ts (youtube.com) (<18 minutes, says Christian background)

Book Recommendation Amazon.com: Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair: 9780998058412: Weiner-Davis, Michele: Books 



Local Marriage/ Couple Resources  

(US National US Marriage :: Classes )

About - MREC (mrecenter.org) - Events - MREC (mrecenter.org) Couples Coaching - MREC (mrecenter.org) Classes: Adventures in Marriage - MREC (mrecenter.org) 





How to Heal from a Breakup

How to QUICKLY Get Over a Breakup - TWR Podcast #67 (youtube.com) (43 minutes)

0:00 Introduction

2:08 Treat it like you're breaking a drug addiction

5:40 Detox/no contact for 30 days

12:53 Remove any reminders

16:37 Go back to the basics of good health

20:28 Rule of 3 or the Big 1

26:06 Closure does not involve the other person

34:43 Be dialectical

40:30 Outro


If You Are Dealing With HEARTBREAK, Watch This! | Mel Robbins (youtube.com) (12.5 minutes)




Healing from Past

The Father Wound: How to Heal from Absent Fathers and Emotionally Unavailable Fathers (Episode 66) (youtube.com) <49 minutes


Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma (Episode 90) (youtube.com) < 28 minutes



DoctorRamani - YouTube - "Your #1 source of guidance about healing from narcissistic relationships."