Accepting Feedback

Throughout my career as an ERW, there have been many occasions where I received extremely positive and validating feedback. On a few occasions, there has been opinions or expressions of feedback that were not as friendly or constructive. Although, it was not always easy to not take things personally, I would be grateful for the feedback.

At the beginning of the year, a student that I support, called me over for help. I bent down to his eye level and he proceeded to hug me, and he kissed my cheek, (he is a very affectionate little boy with Down’s Syndrome). I began to gently remind him that we only hug and kiss ‘mom’ and ‘dad’ and at school we give smiles or wave hello, when I was abruptly interrupted by a supply teacher, “YOU SHOULD NOT LET HIM DO THAT!” I stood up slowly and smiled. I took a slow deep breath to regain my composure because she startled me with her very loud voice. I calmly agreed that the action was not encouraged on my part, and I would do my best to put more space between myself and the student to support appropriate behaviour. Deep down, my first internal reaction was embarrassment and upset. I talked to her later in the morning and reiterated how much I agreed with her, and kindly let her know that she startled me, and perhaps she could approach me more calmly. Although her delivery was excessive, she was correct. I learn each time I receive feedback, regardless if it is less favourable or desired. Self-development in my role as an ERW, is essential to all feedback as a result.