Creating a family
Creating a family
Becki Moss
Team Chapnick
Ashleigh Hughes moved to Union, Mo., seven years ago with her then-girlfriend and now wife of two years, Jessie Hughes, who grew up in Flint, Michigan. They moved for the affordable housing and for Ashleigh to be closer to her family. Her mom, Kat, had Ashleigh when she was 19. “We grew up together” Hughes said of their close relationship.
Having family only a 10-minute drive away has been important as Ashleigh and Jessie became foster parents early in 2025 to a baby girl, their now 10-month-old foster daughter Emma, whose name has been changed for confidentiality reasons. Ashleigh’s mom will often pick Emma up from daycare if either Ashleigh or Jessie are working late. The Hughes are fortunate to have first fostered Emma through the only private agency in Missouri that allows same-sex couples to foster children. Despite living in a state and country that is increasingly hostile to LGBTQ+ people, the family is building a life of hope for their child.
Ashleigh studied cosmetology part-time from 16 to 18-years-old, while also balancing high school and two jobs. She now works at Uppercutz on Main Street as a barber. Uppercutz only has women working in the salon. She's been cutting men's hair for six years. "I found my niche," she said.
While the future is uncertain for this small family in mid-Missouri, each day is filled with joy as they surround each other with love.
From left, Ashleigh Hughes, 10-month-old Emma and Jessie Hughes watch an episode of "Bluey" at home in their living room. The globally-loved Australian television show is a favourite in the Hughes household even as they limit Emma’s screen time to less than 10 minutes. Ashleigh said that they try to stick to “shows that aren’t too overstimulating for children."
Ashleigh Hughes, left, cuts a client’s hair at Uppercutz barbershop. Cheyenne Negretti, right, opened the business four years ago and Ashleigh has worked there from the start. The four barbers, all women, at the salon are all close and often go to out after work to social events together.
Ashleigh Hughes talks to her wife Jessie Hughes on their way to Washington for their Thursday date night after Ashleigh finishes her work. Every Thursday, Ashleigh’s mom, Kat Pohlmann, picks 10-month-old Emma up from day-care and watches her for the evening. “Usually we go to Washington for Taco Loco and then go home for quiet time,” Jessie said of their weekly ritual.
Ten-month-old Emma sits in a swing as, from left, her "aunties" Campbell Pohlmann, 10, Cecilia Pohlmann,12, foster mom Ashleigh Hughes, 27, and "auntie" Caitlin Pohlmann, 11, play outside the Pohlmann’s house at dusk. As the only baby in the family, Emma is always the center of attention when she is with her extended family.
Ashleigh Hughes and her 10-month-old Emma take a walk through their new-build suburb. The pink tricycle can be reconfigured as Emma grows and is able to pedal it herself.
Jessie Hughes plays with her foster daughter, 10-month-old Emma, after her 10 hour shift at an automative factory. When she and her wife Ashleigh are with Emma, she is the center of their attention and care, no matter how tired they are from work.
Ashleigh Hughes prepares a bottle of formula for her 10-month-old foster daughter, Emma, to take to day-care.
Cecilia Pohlmann, 12, center, holds her foster niece, Emma, while Caitlin Pohlmann, 11, left, and Ashleigh Hughes, right, look on. The family are outside "Ice cream at Andy’s" waiting for their order. The "Andy’s" franchise is a group of local produce stores and the ice-cream location is a recent addition to Union.
Ashleigh Hughes does her make-up while holding 10-month-old Emma in her downstairs bathroom. Ashleigh is solo parenting on weekday mornings as Jessie Hughes leaves for work at 5 a.m. With Emma being a foster child who had a traumatic beginning to her life, Ashleigh and Jessie focus on building strong attachment bonds with her as they build a life together.
Ashleigh Hughes, left, and Jessie Hughes embrace in their driveway. On Wednesday's, Ashleigh has dinner with her extended family who live 10 minutes away, giving the couple’s foster daughter, Emma, time with her “aunties” and Jessie her “introvert time."
Ashleigh Hughes plays with her 10-month-old foster daughter, Emma, at home in their living room. “I’ve always wanted to a be a mom,” Ashleigh said. And the opportunity came up unexpectedly. “The law gives foster parents 90 days to become licensed and we had completed everything within 20 days.”