On Love

On Love

Advance Philosophy of Man

Joshua Caesar O. Elegado

BA Philosophy

“This appeal means an invitation to will one's subjectivity, to consent, accept, support, and share his freedom”

-Eric Fromm

“Love means willing the other's free self-realization, his destiny, his happiness”

-Eric Fromm

To reflect, having to be loved and to go on loving, we must never expect something that is actually pertaining to one’s objectivity. As we can see, love is not about actually having the best part of your partners face, not her body statistics, but rather, we must be attracted to one’s personality and is to be treated as a subject over than being an object. It is actually talking about the appeal to cause the continuous reciprocity without conditions, but self-mitigating power of love only. When talking about love, it does not matter whether the one you are loving or you are the one who is being loved, has flaws in which any of you has flaws that society has actually judging. In such cases, we should never be affected by what we perceive such as the judgement of the others towards ones relationship. A relationship must be composed of love, and that love must be strong to the extent, that you will not let others destroy your love and your relationship, because love is a must to be upheld, and love is not something that is to be broken that easily, in fact, love is not meant to be broken. The quotes that I had chosen, entails with one another through my definition of love. First is that, “This appeal means an invitation to will one's subjectivity, to consent, accept, support, and share his freedom”, we must treat each other as a subject, to the extent that, the two lovers will support each other in times of difficulties, they will not see the challenges as a burden of another that is meant to be absolved through their individualities, but rather, they see challenges as one, and they overcome it as one. They will accept each other’s flaws, and they absolve it for the continuous propagating of love. They will support each other, in times of difficulties, problems, and devastation; they will never give up on each other for the love so strong is deemed to be unbreakable. They will share freedom, they must never kept the other captive of being free, hence, they must respect the freedom of one another, and with that being kept, it is called love. Second, “Love means willing the other's free self-realization, his destiny, his happiness”, this is entailed with the first reflection that I had done, love is willing the others free self-realization, this is actually interrelated to the treatment of the others as a subject, it is because of from subject, flows respect. And from that respect, love is actually befalling a healthy nature, it is because when we love somebody, we must never let that person be captivated on our own pride, we must not set standards, we must not dictate what they should do and not do, if we love, we should set the them free, and they love come if they love you back, a concept of love, love that is a reciprocity without conditions in return. When we love, we are happy. When we are happy, we must let that happiness be flourished unto others, so that they will experience love, and I can say that, love is contagious and at the same time continuous.

To summarize the entire presentation of love, here are some particular matters in accordance to the presentation. The presentation tackled different notions of love with its misconception pertaining to it. Love as something that is a possession, is somehow a misconception pertaining to the reciprocity that it values is something that is negative and is not to be tolerated. Say for example; the word that is thrown saying “I am yours” is something that is in a possessive act that is not to be tolerated. Next are the concepts of love such as romantic love, wherein there is somewhat a possession, and lovers do not see- to love is to be attracted to the good qualities of the other even if they are not there, another one is, love is equated with admiration. Now, there are misconception in accordance to such matter, like, there is nothing to be learned about love, love hits man like lightning, and either you are struck by an arrow of cupid or you are not. It also emphasizes of being-loved rather than on loving misconception, and we must keep on loving rather than on being loved. We must treat each other as a subject rather than an object, we must give the other a freedom, and we must keep them happy. Lovers are individual yet they are two, hence, they remain as one.

To affirm, I believe that love is actually a concept wherein everyone must have knowledge about. Having to talk about love is somehow difficult for such subjects are caving to others as simply as an interpretation, in other terms, love may befall into others as an interpretation. But someway somehow, there are actual studies of love such as David Wolpe, Max Scheler and etc. These people are actually expert when it comes to things that is hard to even understand, they are the guide of which knowledge is seemed to be profound and basically, must be upheld universally. I agree that love is something that is positive, and there is no room for any negativity. I also agree that love is something that is a manifestation of happiness. It is specified that there are very wide range of definition of love and so as its interpretation; one thing that seems to be wrong is that, in whatever the definition, right or wrong in accordance to the persons, in which definition that makes a person sees love in anyway can keep their own definition of such. Actually, there are no absolute meanings to such, in general and in universal, as long as its definition is in positive face, I felt that nothing will ever be a conflict nor a problem in defining love.

To interpret, love for me is actually a positive definition; in fact, I have learned that in love, there is no evil. So basically, Love is a universal language that is reuniting people around places. Love is pure goodness for my interpretation. Love is to be flourished. Let love befall in each of every one of us. Love is innate. Love is forever. And with all of that reasons, I can proudly say, that I have love that meant for the goodness and for the betterment of all.