Practicing Lifelong Anti-Racism
When you're told by your doctor that you have high cholesterol, the first line of defense is what they call “lifestyle changes.” This consists of developing new habits, adjusting your activities, changing your diet, and taking care of your mental health and stress levels.
Similarly, doing anti-racist work on a sustainable, longterm basis will require some lifestyle changes. Anti-racism, like healthiness, is not a fixed trait. It is a choice you make with every action you take in your daily life. You need to develop new habits of behavior and mind, you need to adjust many of your activities to be taking regular action, you need to change the diet of media and information you consume, and you need to support your mental health to maintain the capacity to do this work.
Lifestyle Changes to Help You Do Sustainable, Long Term Anti-Racist Work
Developing New Habits
Reflecting on Your Attitudes, Actions, and Mindsets
This is the hardest part of changing your lifestyle to be anti-racist. It means examining your every thought, your every assumption, and your every action.
It is hard, painful work: it will make you doubt a lot about your own morality and “goodness.”
It is cyclical, emotionally-taxing work: you will likely alternate between feeling guilty, angry, hopeless, and inspired.
It is lifelong work: not only must you counteract the socialization you’ve received your whole life, but you must also be wary of the way society continues to perpetuate racist logic. Then you must choose to be anti-racist every single day.
Some habits of reflection you might make a part of your days, weeks, and months
Keep a journal reflecting on your privilege and your growing view of white supremacy in society
Pay attention to how white privilege and supremacy appear in your work/school life and in your personal life
Be wary of your your own stereotypes, assumptions, and words
Think and listen before you speak, especially in the presence of black, indigenous, and people of color
Adjust your language; learn the language of anti-racism and speak it
Examine your body language and question whether it changes in the presence of black people (and whether there are power dynamics implied by any of your gestures)
Question your authority and figure out whether you speak from a place of knowledge and experience before you share or suggest solutions
Evaluate your social relationships to explore whether you get to know people different to you and if you take risks in your white social relationships by talking about race
Reframe discomfort and mistakes as opportunities to grow and learn
Be suspicious of the way mainstream media covers black lives and black issues
Build a list of strategies for addressing white privilege and racism when you see it
Studies say it takes an average of 66 days to form a habit (but can take anywhere from 18 days to over 250 days). If you practice any kind of art or sport, you know that practice doesn’t make perfect, it makes better. We always have to strive for better habits of mind as anti-racist White allies.
Adjusting Your Activities
Taking Action in Daily Life
Right now, we’re training like we have a big anti-racism race next week and we’re trying to get our fastest time. Remember that anti-racist work is an ultramarathon, not a sprint. You want to create an action regimen that is going to be sustainable and is made up of both big actions and small ones.
Big Actions to be part of your regular activity schedule
Vote for politicians that are pushing forward anti-racist policies
Contact politicians on a local and national level to pressure policy changes
Develop genuine, long term friendships with people who are different than you
Set up recurring donations to an organization with anti-racist goals
Create new and/or attend existing allyship groups in your workplace or school
Look at how you can contribute to redistribute privileges you have (reparations)
Small Actions to be part of your regular activity schedule
Call out and address microaggressions and racist attitudes in your family, friend group, workplace, or school
Back up your BIPOC friends, classmates, and colleagues when they speak out against racist actions, attitudes, and policies
Push back against bias whenever you see it; don’t ask for permission from BIPOC peers (that's putting the burden back on them), call it when you notice it
Have conversations on a daily basis with the other White folks in your life, especially young people and children and don’t give up on older generations; it’s just going to take more work with them
Question racist beliefs you see in the people around you; ask why until they realize their logic isn’t sound
Learn a little bit every day (see Changing Your Diet below)
Choose to invest your money in companies that support anti-racist policies and are black-owned (redistribution of wealth)
Continue to amplify Black voices on social media, in academia and education, in your workplace, in entertainment
Apologize when you mess up, especially when you’re told you’ve done wrong, but also when you’ve simply realized it yourself (even if it’s it takes you a little time to realize you need to apologize)
Changing Your Diet
Adopting a Lifelong Learning Curriculum
Anti-Racist Work Is Lifelong Work
We have a lot of work to do for the rest of our lives. Treat anti-racism like you would any other problem within yourself: change for good. Do the work like your life depends on it because Black lives DO depend on it. Just like you warn your children when high cholesterol runs in the family, prepare your children to do this work as a lifelong lifestyle. Model good habits for them and help them develop those habits themselves early in life. It’s time to get off the fitting-in-my-wedding-dress anti-racism crash diet and exercise regimen and get onto the I-want-to-live-to-be-100 (and I want Black people to have that, too) anti-racism plan.
The work of anti-racism for White folks means consistently learning and immersing yourself in the history, voices, and knowledge your privilege has allowed you to miss out on your whole life. Right now, you’re probably crash dieting. Your trying to read every article and book on the lists of “must reads” for White people. However, a crash diet is not sustainable and probably isn’t balanced either.
Your well-balanced media diet should include
Definitely some of those texts on your crash diet list are helpful and you should continue to read those over time (we’re talking about the How to Be Anti-Racist and White Fragility, run-down-of-White-supremacy-and-privilege texts)
Some of the classic anti-racist texts that have driven this movement for generations, like books by James Baldwin, Angela Davis, Audre Lorde, Langston Hughes, and many more who paved the way
Some off-the-beaten-path texts, like these scholarly articles
Art, film, music, podcasts, blogs, and literature that celebrate Black life (and Latinx life, and indigenous life, and other lives you haven’t learned about), not just dwell on Black death, suffering, and oppression
Independent news media sources with less biased reporting, local reporting and foreign reporting tend to be more genuine journalism instead of sensationalism
Social media that represents Black voices
Tips to maintain your diet
Try following an existing curriculum designed to do anti-racist work like this one, this one, or this one
Treat books differently if they are from different genres and serve different purposes--reading fiction and nonfiction the same way doesn't work, so plan out the kind of thinking you plan to do in different texts
Write notes and reflections while you're reading or after you finish a text to keep track of your thoughts, ideas, applications, and growth
Break up tough stuff with enjoyable stuff--don’t forget to learn about the joy in other cultures by reading books about BIPOC people living life, succeeding, loving, and enjoying themselves
Set reasonable goals for your media consumption habits (don’t commit to reading a book every month if you don’t already read a lot)
Get together a book club (or film club or discussion group) with other folks who want to do the work
Set aside time for this new consumption (Will you listen to a podcast or audiobook while you get ready in the morning? Will you read before bed? Will you watch a film on Sunday evenings?)
Add to your list of actions based on what you learn from the texts because learning it is only half of the work
Taking Care of Your Mental Health
So You Can Keep Doing the Work
Social justice work is tiring and White folks aren’t used to doing it constantly. Make sure you are taking care of your mental health while you do this work so you don’t get burned out and fail to continue it. When doing this type of work both inside and out, many people experience burn out. Take care of yourself so you can build up stamina.
Tips for taking care of your mental health while doing anti-racist work
Feel your feelings. You are not a robot and lots of this stuff is really hard to process. Let yourself feel angry, cry, or feel numb.
Find healthy outlets for those feelings. Don’t let those emotions impact the people around you, especially by spilling your guilt into black people’s lives. Handle these feelings as you might feelings of anxiety or grief. Do physical activities, meditate, scream into a pillow, laugh, connect with other people; in other words take care of yourself.
Talk with other White people about the work you’re doing and the challenges you’re struggling with. Chances are, they are struggling, too. They may have advice for you, or just an understanding ear.
Take breaks. This work is forever, but it’s not for every moment. When your head is spinning or you’re exhausted, take a bit to relax and turn off your brain, then make sure you come back when you’re ready.
Anti-Racist Work is Lifelong Work
We have a lot of work to do for the rest of our lives. Treat anti-racism like you would any other problem within yourself: change for good. Do the work like your life depends on it because Black lives DO depend on it. Just like you warn your children when high cholesterol runs in the family, prepare your children to do this work as a lifelong lifestyle. Model good habits for them and help them develop those habits themselves early in life. It’s time to get off the fitting-in-my-wedding-dress anti-racism crash diet and exercise regimen and get onto the I-want-to-live-to-be-100 (and I want Black people to have that, too) anti-racism plan.