Adoptee Healing Collective

WHAT WE BELIEVE

ADOPTION IS TRAUMA.

Adoption is trauma + specifically immediate infant relinquishment is developmental trauma. Adoption is inhumane.

This fact is not debatable, it's literal science. [you can Google it]

The best alternatives to adoption are twofold.

First and foremost, family preservation.

When that is not possible, the best alternative is legal guardianship.

Family separation cannot exist without trauma.

🙂 Adoption is meant to provide safe + external care for children in need.

☹️ Adoption is NOT meant to be a family building tool.

ADOPTION IS BIG BUSINESS.

The false narrative you have heard is simply from adoption agencies; it’s all marketing + propaganda. Adoption is BIG BUSINESS.

In 2025 the average cost of adopting a baby privately is $40,000-$100,000. This is the average!!!

The biological parents see none of that money, it all goes to the adoption agency + is masked as fees for this + that. Yes there are fees but $60,000? Absolutely not.

Adoption is a 100% profit business + it's legal human trafficking.

Coercion of biological parents is also still alive + well. It happens every day.

✨ FACTS ABOUT ADOPTEES:

Adoptees are 36.7 times more likely to attempt suicide than non adopted people.
Adoptees are 2 times more likely to be in mental health treatment.
Adoptees are 8 times more likely to be abused at home.
Adoptees have significantly higher rates of addiction due to trauma.
Adoptees are over-represented in prison.

✨ ADOPTEES LOSE EVERYTHING.

In adoption [the way it currently exists in the United States]:

The person loses their name, culture + family history.
The persons birth certificate is legally altered + the original is sealed.
- The only other time this happens is in the witness protection program.
The person doesn't generally have access to their original birth certificate. Those records are sealed. Some states allow adoptees access, but most don’t.
The person loses their medical history, genetic mirroring + sense of self.
The person is entered into a life long contract that they didn't consent to.
The person suffers from lifelong grief + ambiguous loss.
The person is bought + sold.

All of these things are unnecessary + are truly not in the best interest of the PERSON it’s supposed to be all about - the ADOPTEE.

✨ FINDING HEALING + COMMUNITY

The trauma of adoption is so deeply + interwoven through us because we developed this way. Our bodies are wired for emergencies + survival + that is all we know.

We have been told so many stories that have shaped our internal narrative, our identity, but when what we are told, how we feel + what we have experienced, don’t line up, where does that leave us?

It leaves us with the NEED to heal because the trauma is in us, part of our genetic makeup + our bodies remember.

It leaves us with the NEED to find community because no one else understands unless they were also adopted.

It leaves us with the NEED to explore our adoption narratives + stories we have been told or we have told ourselves, to unpack the trauma.

It leaves us with the NEED to find connection from adoptee to adoptee because this connection is one of the most powerful healing tools we have.

✨ EVERY ADOPTEE STORY + HEALING PATH IS DIFFERENT

The Adoptee Healing Collective was created to be a place where adoptees can come together, learn, share + heal through connection. The adoptee to adoptee connection is one of the most powerful we can have + we believe it deserves to be nurtured.

For a lot of us, it is heal or die.

If we don’t maintain an intentional healing journey + continue to work on ourselves, we will suffer, our relationships will suffer + symptoms of complex trauma will come back.

We focus on authenticity, vulnerability, self-discovery, self-care, self-healing, mindfulness, meditation, somatic exercises + much more!

✨ ALL ADOPTEES DESERVE HEALING

We host a wide variety of healing based events every month to help adoptees on any stage in their journey.

Check out the events tab for more information!

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