WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN—HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILD

1. Listen very carefully to what your child is asking or talking about. Usually, their fears are specific. Clarify just what the concern is before you answer.

2. Don’t answer questions that have not been asked. Do not overload your child with information that is probably beyond his level of understanding. Your child is your child and not your friend. They do not need to hear all of the facts.

3. Although you may be very upset, regain your composure before your talk to your child. Answer questions calmly. The child will reflect your mood and your visible emotions.

4. Assure your child that you and other people that are in charge are doing everything possible to make sure they will be safe.

5. Don’t make guarantees that such a thing can never happen again. Words like “never” or “always” should be used very carefully because small children trust that this is a promise from you.

6. Explain that we do not know why people treat other people badly. Emphasize that we should always try to talk things out with other people, instead of reacting with anger.

7. If there is media coverage, please try to limit your child’s exposure to any scenes showing violence. A child believes what they see on television, or in the newspaper is always true.

Submitted by Shelly Mantz

Bridle Path

School Counselor