Toolkit - Responding to change and loss, national alliance for grieving children
The Dougy Center activities, info, and resources for grieving children and families
Book: Let's Talk About It: A Guide for Talking to Children After a Suicide of a Loved One
Cedar Valley Hospice – Youth grief support group
Eucalyptus Tree Services:
· Grief and Death Education
· Katie & Quincy Koala for ages 3-9
· Grief mentoring for ages 5-17
· Parent consultation and support
· Family support sessions
· Support to area schools
TreeTV
TreeTV is special programming created as an extension of Cedar Valley Hospice’s Eucalyptus Tree Youth Grief Program. TreeTV features videos of craft activities, stories and conversations relating to a young person’s grief journey. TreeTV is simply one of the tools Cedar Valley Hospice utilizes to help youth understand their feelings associated with experiencing the death of someone special.
Day Camps
· At Amanda the Panda Grief Day Camps, teens and children find a place of comfort and support as they connect with others who have experienced loss. Loss can stem from the death of a loved one, divorce and other traumatic events.
· Youth are grouped with peers their own age as camp counselors and volunteers lead campers through age-appropriate activities that focus on connection and healing.
· ATP offers day camps in the Des Moines metro and Creston locations.
ATP in Schools
· Amanda the Panda has provided on-site programming at more than 76 schools to support children experiencing grief and loss. We offer six-week, in-school support groups throughout the year on a first-come, first-served basis. These age-appropriate groups use guided activities to help students’ express emotions and connect with peers who have experienced significant loss including death, divorce, custody removal and more.
Supplemental Programing
· Ranging from dinner club gatherings for young adults, to opportunities to attend local events, Amanda the Panda engages participants in activities that promote socialization and help individuals, children, and families rebuild after the death of a loved one.
Community Support
· Our Grief & Loss team is here to support individuals, workplaces, schools, and communities during times of loss. We offer a variety of education, resources, and compassionate support tailored to your needs, including educational presentations for workplaces, schools, and community-based organizations; Day of Hope and Healing events; one-time education and support offerings; crisis support following the death of a loved one; and access to grief-related resources.
Questions? please email griefandloss@everystep.org.
Support to fit your needs
EveryStep hosts support groups at our hospice locations in eight Iowa communities and at the Grief & Loss Services office (home of Amanda the Panda) in West Des Moines. Our bereavement counselors are available to meet with families or visit by phone. All support groups are free and open to the public
How to deal with the grieving process:
While grieving a loss is an inevitable part of life, there are ways to help cope with the pain, come to terms with your grief, and eventually, find a way to pick up the pieces and move on with your life.
Acknowledge your pain.
Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions.
Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you.
Seek out face-to-face support from people who care about you.
Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.
Recognize the difference between grief and depression.
The 5 stages of grief are:
Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.”
Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”
If you are experiencing any of these emotions following a loss, it may help to know that your reaction is natural and that you’ll heal in time. However, not everyone who grieves goes through all of these stages—and that’s okay. Contrary to popular belief, you do not have to go through each stage in order to heal.
The holidays can be a difficult time for those who have lost a loved one. Cheer Boxes are a holiday box of gifts for individuals and families approaching their first holiday after losing a loved one to help honor their loss.