Wellness Tips

1. Find compassion:
   Reconnect with your child through humanising their choices/emotions/behaviours. See why they are that behind what they are at that point.
   
   

2. Identify what you can own:
   We always play some part in the conflict and our kids need us to own that part. Maybe we were overly harsh, under attentive or used tactics we regret.
   
   

3. Gently reach:
   Go to your child and use your voice and body to communicate your desire to repair and reconnect. Don't wait for their reach. Teach them the reach by reaching.
   
   

Every good and loving parent has moments and days  of disconnection with their kids.

The key is to be a repair guru so that those disconnections stay in the minor category instead of the major category if you can.

Many of us experienced parents who made us come to apologize first, as if the hierarchy demanded our humility before theirs.

But that's not the way of secure attachment. In secure families, the parents start the repair and that modeling becomes a shame-free experience which encourages the children to follow the habit.

If you have any concerns about your child's socio-emotional wellbeing in school, please feel free to get in touch with our School Counsellors.