Us Too.

Examining the high rates of sexual assault in the LGBTQ+ community.

Trigger Warning: This website will cover sensitive topics concerning rape, sexual harassment, hate crimes, homophobia, transphobia, and attempted suicide. Please read with caution.

Me Too. Time's Up. The Truth Has Power. These famous movements have been bringing the horrors of sexual assault into the spotlight and promoting a culture of female empowerment. The flaw with these movements, however, is the fact that they only display the straight white woman's sexual assault narrative. Race, gender, and sexuality are all factors that cause many people's survivor stories to go unheard during the height of this movement. This social justice project will focus on the abnormally high rates of sexual assault in the LGBTQ+ community. Because of the common misconception that gender and sexuality are fluid identities that can be "changed", many sexual perpetrators attempt to "cure" LGBTQ+ people through sexual acts. I will discuss the causes of this dehumanitizing issue, why little is being done to combat it, and what we can do to support LGBTQ+ survivors through this website.

LGBTQ+ Survivor Stories

Pearl Mali

professed that she was raped by an elderly man almost every day from age 12 to age 16. Her mother made Pearl marry this man in hopes that he would make her straight. She supposedly listened to Pearl scream from the bedroom every night, with her only response being "You're making too much noise." Pearl tried to get an abortion after becoming pregnant, and she attempted suicide after her abortion failed. Her baby was taken away from her by her mother, who feared Pearl's touch would make the baby gay. Pearl's mother refused to cooperate during the custody battle, so Pearl now lives alone and is forbidden from seeing her child.

William Turner

stated that he was sexually abused multiple times by his male cousin when he was five years old. He grew up as a gay man in a Southern Baptist community, so coming forward with this story seemed almost impossible. Turner said that "I used to think that being sexually victimized was the product of being gay or vice versa. They are not." William has since been diagnosed with PTSD. He claims that he has forgiven his cousin, but his PTSD will not let him forget. He says that telling his story is his best coping mechanism.

Ashley Stevens

reported that she was raped by her female friend at age 19. When Ashley told other people about her experience, she was told that homosexual rape does not exist. Ashley's college professor and a rape crisis center were among those who did not believe her, making her think that she was in the wrong. Today, Ashley deals with panic attacks that are triggered by small things that remind her of the incident. She hopes to open up her own crisis center someday, where she will offer LGBTQ+ specialized care.

Simphiwe Thandeka

was allegedly first raped at age 13 by a disapproving uncle. Her mother and grandma told her to never talk about it again. Simphiwe's uncle then arranged a marriage for her in order to "cure" her sexuality. She was married to man who supposedly raped and beat her, and then demanded his money back because her sexuality did not change. She contracted HIV and became pregnant because of these men. Later, she stated that she was raped and impregnated by a local priest, but nothing happened when she sued him because the lawyers lost her statement document. Simphiwe said that she has nothing left, and claimed, "The only thing I can do is love my children." Her son and daughter, named Happiness and Blessing, are shown above.

Sarah McBride

is the national press secretary for the Human Rights Campaign. Sarah claimed that she was sexually assaulted in college, only six months after coming out. Internalized transphobia prevented her from going to the police, and she downplayed her experience in her own head. She convinced herself to feel lucky that a man was even interested in her, stating that transgender people generally are considered "repulsive" in the public eye. Sarah said that transgender people face "this notion that ... we are somehow so undesirable that people wouldn't sexually assault us, which is a fundamental misunderstanding of both who transgender people are and how sexual assault works."

Anthony Rapp

is a well-known Broadway actor who started acting at a very young age. When he was only 14, he attended a party thrown by beloved actor Kevin Spacey, who was 26 at the time. When everyone left the party, Spacey allegedly pinned Rapp down on the bed and made sexual advances toward him. Rapp brought the case to a lawyer, who claimed it was not worth pursuing. Rapp decided to come forward in 2017, becoming one of the first gay people to say "Me too" publicly. Spacey claimed that he had no memory of the incident. Spacey also came out as gay in his response to the allegations, but he was criticised for directly connecting his sexuality with his alleged pedophilia. Rapp's courage has opened the door for many other young LGBTQ+ survivors to share their stories.

Sexual Assault Survivor Citations

  1. Carter, Clare. "The Brutality of ‘Corrective Rape'."

  2. "Survivor Spotlight: PTSD Awareness." RAINN | The Nation's Largest Anti-sexual Violence Organization.

  3. "Survivor Spotlight: PTSD Awareness." RAINN | The Nation's Largest Anti-sexual Violence Organization.

  4. Carter, Clare. "The Brutality of ‘Corrective Rape’."

  5. Dastagir, Alia E. "She Was Sexually Assaulted Within Months of Coming Out. She Isn't Alone."

  6. News, ABC. "The Rise and Fall of Kevin Spacey: A Timeline of Sexual Assault Allegations."