3. SKILLS TO DEAL WITH EMOTION
Emotion is powerful for human beings, and may cause wars, crime, race conflicts and other conflicts among human beings. On the other hand, emotion also provides feelings of joy; it can make everything beautiful and lovely. The emotions of love, joy, happiness, pleasure, and fun can all make our life worthwhile and meaningful.
Emotion may be defined in various ways, one of which is “the state of motivation resulting in rapid heartbeat a rise in pulse rate, fast and strong breathing, red face, etc.” Emotion also is noticeable when some parts of the body become motivated; this may be a pleasant or unpleasant feeling. Emotion is also shown through one’s voice, words, face or manners.
How to Cope with Bad Emotions
1. Try to be optimistic when we are depressed in some situation. For example, when we cannot solve a math problem, trying thinking that “if I get some help, I can do it.” After that we can go to see a teacher or some friends for extra tutoring.
2. Writing down all the good things in a notebook before going to bed every day. At first, it may be difficult, but we may write only the good events of the day. From studies about emotion, people who wanted to commit suicide felt better after doing so for two weeks.
3. Spending time with people who can make you laugh.
4. Paying attention to your own feelings all day. If we know about our emotions, we can manage them with our daily work. When we are in a good mood, we can deal well with difficult situations such as meeting a friend who hurt our feelings, talking to teacher who we think gives us the wrong grade, etc. If we are exhausted in the afternoon, we should do relaxing activities like reading or staying with friends and avoid stress.
5. Take notice of our own emotions during each month; some women find out that their bad temper is related to having their periods.
6. Exercise can strengthen our bodies and minds; it should be done at least 20 minutes a day. This can help us feel peaceful and happy because exercise will help the body produce endorphins which is a chemical substance in the body which helps us naturally feel good and happy.
7. Being able to think things over and differentiate good from bad.
8. Listening to music; research shows that the rhythm of a song can helps us put our thoughts in order and have a stable mind as well as to relax tense muscles.
9. Call friends. Asking for help makes people have good relationship with others and reduces feelings of loneliness.
10. Hugging helps the body produce hormones, makes us feel good and able to cope with our emotions.
Practical Ways to Deal with Teenagers’ Sexual Emotions
There are two practical ways: one is to control the sexual desire; the other is to lower your sexual desire.
Practical Ways to Control Sexual Desire includes Avoiding Increasing Sexual Desire by:
1. Avoid reading books, watching films, or visiting internet sites which have sexually explicit pictures or messages.
2. Avoid any easy-going action such as having sexual daydreams.
3. Avoid any situation where certain parts of the body to touch someone of the opposite sex such as hands and arms, hugs, kisses, and fondling. These can cause sexual desires.
4. Avoid going out at night since it may result in stimulating sexual desires. In addition, places such as night clubs or anywhere alcoholic drinks are served may stimulate sexual desire.