1. A man should not express emotion and love.

The belief is that a man who expresses emotion or love to anyone might not be a gentle man. Therefore, a man will express love only by the sexual relations and it seems that a man is born for having sex only to express love. Actually, a man can express his love by face and eyes, and even by actions just as a woman does. Sexual relations are a part of showing love physically.

2. Touching Leads to have sexual relations

It is our belief that if a woman lets a man touch her, she gives him her heart and the man than will try hard to have sexual intercourse with her. This is wrong because sometimes a woman needs the warmth and attention from the one, she loves without thinking about sexual intercourse. Holding hands, embracing and touching each other are the innocent transactions showing love. It is not necessary to have sexual intercourse.

3. Having violent sexual intercourse provides more pleasure.

It has been a misunderstanding for a long time that a strong man can have fast and intense sexual intercourse and can easily bring a woman to the climax. It’s also believed that only a big penis can make a woman happy. Actually, having a warm and understanding sexual intercourse can bring the lovers to the climax. Hence, sexual intercourse should happen in a relaxed and romantic atmosphere.

4. Making love involves only sexual intercourse.

This is another total misunderstanding. Sexual intercourse is not the only way to make love. Love can be expressed and transmitted by touching every part of the body, not only specific parts.

5. A man should be the leader when making love

Here is another misunderstanding. Conservative men and women think that a man is the one who takes the action and the woman only supports such action. Actually, making love is a process equal for both because each of them can take turn in being the leader.

6. Woman should not be starter

From the above mentioned, we can see that sex is a communication between two people by cooperatively making love for their happiness. They can take turns or change roles to be the leader or to support the leader and finally reach happiness from the action.

7. A man thinks about sex all the time

It is a misunderstanding to believe that a man thinks about having sex all the time. Of course, he doesn’t think about sex only but thinks about work and family as well. Apart from that he is always ready to have sex, but that doesn’t mean that whenever he is ready for sex, he must get it immediately.

8. A woman has to be ready to have sex whenever her husband needs

Nowadays, it’s not necessary to be like this because a man and a woman are equal. Having sex is one of the activities when both of them are ready. This means that the desire of only one does not force the other one to have sex.

9. Sex is natural and does not need to be learned

Many elderlies say that sex education is not important and point out that people in the old days could live and be happy with sex without learning about it. However, good preparation is half the way to victory which is also true for the relationship of two people. They can learn how to develop happiness for each other in such situations.

INFLUENCE OF THE MEDIA ON SEXUAL PROBLEMS

Nowadays, the media influences everyone’s way of life in many ways including sexual problems. The media affects the decision behavior of people in the society. Everyone consumes information all the time by watching television for the morning news, reading the newspaper, or accessing the internet and obtain information through SMS. Thus, media inevitably influences our thoughts and feelings, and the decision making of people in the society.

The factors mentioned show the influence of the media is transferred to every part in the society, whether to a big city or upcountry. This transfer may be for the better or worse because the media directly influences everyone in the society, children, teenagers, and adults. Media influence has a great effect on the economy status; the way the country develops to be equal to other countries. At the same time, cultures from outside are getting into Thailand via the media such as radio, television, printed material and internet. These media then influence the way of life, cause problems and affect many parts of the traditional life style of the Thai society. Some situations shown in the media like crimes, wars, movies, the violent content of dramas, and pornography influence children and consumers imagination stimulate their behavior. We can see that children and especially criminals commit crimes and later confess that they were inspired by movies or other media. Even the fashions of teenagers, the commitment of crimes, people’s uprising, violence in solving problems, and sexual violence result from the influence of the media.

The media thus play an important role and influence people’s way of life in the society. Changes are happening all the time; some are very fast, but others are gradual. Problems are fading away and finally disappear. The progress of the communication technology provides for fast changes to urban and rural societies. Even though we cannot deny access to information and entertainment from the media, we can select the media which are useful, nonviolent, and moral.