Formerly Alienated Teens Speak Out About Parental Alienation

Alabama Teen Speaks Out. Partial Transcript:"Dear Mom, I don't want to talk to you ever again. I can't believe that you don't want me as your child. [A lied she believed]. I hate you for that. No Mom could be as mean as you. I hope you are not mad at me. You brought this on yourself. And I hate what you are doing to try to help me to ....... I wrote that letter 4 years ago when I was just 11 years old ... now I realize I was being manipulated and controlled"

Astrid Friesen, 18 years old, speaks out (and please click on the link to the left to read their complete commentary):

“We accuse you adults!

We accuse you adults! Where were you when our parents tore us children apart, in their mad divorce war, which lasted for 12 years and really was a war? Where were the judges and social workers, and the experts, who interviewed us a dozen times, but never made any changes, although our father always had the right of custody!

And you, grandparents, what did you actually do? We were never allowed to see our father’s parents, they died without ever really knowing us. But my mother’s parents: you knew them, didn’t you? They were kind! You wanted us all to your-selves, you never told your daughter that she was trampling all over our human rights. Did you not teach her any morals? You never stood up for us grandchildren, not once.

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And then the child therapists. What did they do? Nothing! What therapy can you give to children who are suffering because they’re not allowed to see their father? What complete rubbish. They should’ve enforced it, and I was taken to see three of them. They should’ve given therapy to my mother, so she’d let us go, without terror, and without saying that all men are bastards. That includes me, I suppose? What else was to become of me other than a “male bastard”. Oh, sure, I could become a “loser” or an “emotional cripple”. Fab! That really makes me look forward to adulthood!

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I accuse all adults

I accuse all adults: Do you know what crap examples you set to us children? Worse than crap, you’re the pits.

- Aren’t you ashamed of yourselves?
- Why is there no check that prevents parents from destroying their children?
- Why can’t you make sensible decisions, get help when something is troubling you?
- Why can’t you deal with your life crises in a way that makes you proud, rather than having tons of half-dead parents, grandparents and children all over the place later?
- Don’t you know that you “pass on” this pattern to us children?
- Why are you so selfish and want exclusive rights to our love?
- Why do you think you’ll lose our love if we’re also allowed to love our father and grandparents?
- Don’t you like both your parents, all your relatives and a dozen friends?
- Your bloody fear destroys us, it’s completely neurotic.
- Why are you so aggressive, also passive-aggressive, by banning, making impossible and manipulating so much?

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Why is there no penalty for tearing children apart?”

Emma speaks out on the BBC, saying in part:

"Emma", now 14, was seven when her parents divorced. Over the next five years, she says, her father succeeded in turning her and her siblings against their mother. "[He said my mum is] a liar, that everything that's happened is her fault, that she doesn't love us, that she's been a bully towards us," she tells the BBC's Victoria Derbyshire programme. Emma's experience is an example of so-called parental alienation - the deliberate manipulation of a child by one parent against the other parent during a divorce or separation. She says he would deliberately block them from seeing their mother, saying she had "been out drinking the night before and had a hangover, so couldn't be bothered to come [and visit them] any more".