在二十多年前,我还在上初中的时候。当时的我,算是成绩中游,教室里稍微认真些就理解课堂上内容的学生。作业从来不认真写,上学划水摸鱼,放学就全心想着玩。
那个时候有位数学老师一直有联系到现在。那个年代的中国相当保守,并不像现在这么开放包容。比如纹身,除了特殊的少数民族习惯,很少有人做。当时的纹身并不包含艺术和美,完全是流氓坏人用来恐吓老百姓的装饰。偶尔的一次机会,有个同学发现这位数学老师的左臂上,纹着一只栩栩如生的丹顶鹤。难怪他不管多热的天都穿着长袖上衣。因为他本来就是非常严厉的老师,数学成绩不好是真的会挨揍的,这件事在学生间传开之后大家都更加害怕他了。而我自己因为成绩还凑合却没当回事。后来发生的事却改变了我。
我那时的同桌跟我关系挺好,家里比较娇惯,人高马大一个初中生就接近一米八的刺儿头,他自己又是当年的全国青少年跆拳道亚军。所以平时非常嚣张跋扈,经常欺负别的同学,脾气非常暴躁。也许是中二的年纪渴望被认可被尊重的叛逆心理,在一堂数学课上就和这位老师起了冲突。当时的这位同桌嘴里骂骂咧咧指着老师喊:“你@!¥#%$#有种出来单挑!!”。老师听了只是默默摘下眼镜说了一句:“走”。看着他俩气势汹汹的出门,我们全班同学坐在教室里一动不敢动都害怕极了。后来老师就一个人回来给我们继续上课,这场决斗的过程,我们谁也不知道。下课后关系好的小伙伴们一起去操场上找到我这个同桌时,看到他满脸的鼻涕眼泪血水和泥浆混在一块“哎吆~嘶~哎呀”的叫唤着。很多年后我们同学聚会喝酒时他告诉我:“真的非常非常感谢这位老师当年对他的这一顿揍,要不是老师当年打醒我,我可能就从校园霸凌走向社会犯罪的深渊了。”
写到这里我不得不承认,当年的我,后来也因为学习态度被这位老师狠狠的揍了。很委屈的是当时物理,化学,生物等别的科目成绩下滑,我也会挨他一个数学老师揍。活活把我一个成绩中游的学生揍成年级前几名,揍进了重点高中。
时至今日,教育惩戒因为各种原因在中国教育界越来越单薄。大家当然知道教育不是暴力,教育是爱。可是这位老师一个个迷途知返的学生毕业后,每次对着老师说的一声声“谢谢。”难道他们,没有感受到爱吗?
最后我要给英语老师道歉,英语成绩不好,文中的数学老师也为此揍过我的。可是,没有用。
More than twenty years ago, when I was still in junior high school. At that time, I was considered a mid-level student in the classroom who could understand the content of the class if he was a little more serious. I never write my homework seriously. I go to school to paddle for fish, and after school I just think about playing.
At that time, there was a math teacher who has been in touch with me until now. China at that time was quite conservative, not as open and tolerant as it is now. For example, tattoos, except for special minority habits, few people do. Tattoos at that time did not contain art and beauty, they were completely decorations used by rogue bad guys to terrorize the common people. Occasionally, a classmate found a lifelike red-crowned crane tattooed on the math teacher's left arm. No wonder he wears a long-sleeved top no matter how hot it is. Because he was a very strict teacher in the first place, and he would really be beaten if he didn't do well in math. After this incident spread among the students, everyone was even more afraid of him. And I didn't take it seriously because my grades were not bad. What happened later changed me.
My tablemate at that time had a good relationship with me, and his family was rather pampered. He was a junior high school student who was close to 1.8 meters tall, and he himself was the runner-up of the national youth taekwondo that year. Therefore, he is usually very arrogant and domineering, often bullying other classmates, and has a very bad temper. Perhaps it was the rebellious mentality of the second-year-old who longed to be recognized and respected, and had a conflict with this teacher in a math class. At that time, the deskmate cursed and pointed at the teacher and shouted: "You @!¥#%$# have the guts to go heads-up!!". After hearing this, the teacher just took off his glasses silently and said: "Go". Seeing the two of them going out aggressively, our whole class was terrified sitting in the classroom and not daring to move. Later, the teacher came back alone and continued to teach us. None of us knew the process of this duel. After class, when my close friends went to the playground to find my deskmate, they saw his face full of snot, tears, blood, and mud mixed together and yelled "呀咕~咲~哟哟". Many years later, when our classmates had a drink, he told me: "I am really very grateful to this teacher for beating him up. If the teacher hadn't woken me up, I might have gone from campus bullying to the abyss of social crime. gone."
As I write this, I have to admit that I was beaten up by this teacher because of my attitude towards learning. What was wronged was that my grades in other subjects such as physics, chemistry, and biology fell, and I would also be beaten up by his math teacher. He beat me, a student with mid-level grades, into the top few in his grade, and got into a key high school.
Today, education punishment is becoming weaker and weaker in China's education circle for various reasons. Of course everyone knows that education is not violence, education is love. But these students said "thank you" to the teacher every time after graduation, every student who had lost his way and learned his way back. Didn't they feel love?
Finally, I would like to apologize to my English teacher for not doing well in English, and the math teacher in the article also punched me for this. But it's no use.
教育惩戒的KSAA模型分析:
K (Knowledge): 教育惩戒的知识包括了对于学生行为管理的理论知识以及相关政策法规的了解。教育者需要了解不同年龄段学生的心理特点,学生行为问题的原因分析,以及适当的惩戒方法和策略等。
S (Skills): 教育惩戒的技能包括了有效的沟通能力、决策能力、问题解决能力等。教育者需要具备良好的沟通技巧,能够与学生充分交流,理解学生的需求和问题,并能够通过有效的解决方案来引导学生改变不良行为。
A (Attributes): 教育惩戒的素养包括了良好的情绪控制能力、尊重和关爱学生的态度、公正和公平的原则等。教育者需要具备稳定的情绪状态,能够处理学生不良行为时保持冷静和理性;同时,教育者对学生需保持关爱和尊重,帮助学生认识错误并能够改正,并且在惩戒过程中要遵循公正和公平的原则。
A (Ability): 教育惩戒的能力包括了正确判断和执行惩戒措施的能力、问题解决的能力以及对于个别学生的差异化管理能力。教育者需要准确判断学生行为是否需要惩戒,并选择合适的惩戒方式。同时,教育者需要具备解决问题的能力,能够通过与学生、家庭和其他教育者的合作来解决学生行为问题。此外,还需要能够根据不同学生的特点和需求,进行差异化管理,个别辅导和帮助学生走出不良行为的困境。
教育惩戒是一个复杂的问题,需要综合考虑K、S、A和A应用。通过应用KSAA模型,可以帮助教育者更全面地思考和评估教育惩戒的合理性和有效性。