The Last Time I Died
I’ve died a dozen times but none of them have stuck. I drowned three times: once in a swimming pool, once in a frozen river after falling through the ice, and once on a raft stuck in the middle of a lake. I can’t tell you how I survived those incidents. I’m not sure I did.
I’ve died in car crashes several times. Something pretending to be me always picks up where I dropped off.
The last time I died in a car crash, I was coming home from Lowe’s, stopped at a stoplight, crying. I was out of money and I had just picked up a package that turned out to be the first donation I received for a public service program I started that was causing me to go broke. It meant I finally reached someone, even though it was too little, too late. The stress and the relief was all too much. I needed a moment to compose myself.
A large, dark blue pickup truck came to a stop next to me on my left. I was glad the truck was so high the driver couldn’t see me crying in the minivan. His engine was loud at idle and louder once the light turned green. I hesitated pulling into the intersection and then it happened.
As I crossed the centerline, a jeep blew through the red light at 45 miles per hour. I hit the brakes. The driver of another car waiting at the light put her hands in front of her face to shield herself from the debris that was about to explode. Only it didn’t explode!
The driver of the jeep never slowed down. As he passed in front of me, he realized what he’d done. He turned and looked me straight in the eyes, his face filled with horror. Somehow the jeep slipped between the tailgate of the pickup truck and the front bumper of the minivan without hitting either of us.
After a shocked moment stopped in the middle of the intersection, I navigated across the street, surrounded by motorists blessing themselves and thinking they just saw the luckiest guy alive. But I’m not sure I survived.
I’m not sure who picked up the meat suit and continued on, but I’m pretty sure it wasn’t “me.” I was different and have been ever since. I feel like I’m living bonus time so I should make the most of it. I could not figure out why I, who wanted to die -- or at least was okay with dying -- would survive while some other schmuck who wants to live gets randomly snuffed?
Years earlier, when I was divorced and depressed, living in New Orleans, I went to an anti-crime march holding a sign that read, KILL ME NEXT. I seriously thought the punks should not kill another person in New Orleans until they had killed me first. If they never killed me, maybe the killings would stop? If they did kill me, I would not have to read about another murder in New Orleans. A win/win situation.
I asked my priest if the Church kept a registry of people willing to substitute themselves for hostages. He recommended I contact a therapist, which I did. I would happily offer my life for someone else’s if it would get them off the hook. I would take anyone’s place in a vehicular fatality if I could. Maybe that’s how I got here? Maybe I’m the person who took my place the last time I died?
I tried finding like-minded people willing to substitute themselves for hostages through organizations such as Amnesty International. The U.S. State Department is officially opposed to the idea. My new girlfriend was also upset by the idea, so I let it go.
The last time I died is the most unsettling since the Lowe’s incident five years ago. I’m afraid of heights -- always have been. It has saved my life many times. I get vertigo looking down a steep edge. The vertigo went away briefly after a tussle with Covid-19, but that’s another story. The vertigo was raging when I rented a Genie 40-foot boom lift to do some work on the house.
Alone in the lift, bobbing 20 feet above the ground, I became paralyzed with fear. I would have to peel myself off the floor of the gondola to grab the caulk gun with one hand and pray. Day after day, I was crouched down sensing every breeze in every muscle, certain the next gust would send me to the hospital.
Every time I came down I felt like a sailor on wobbly legs. Every time I went up I nearly threw up. At night, laying in bed waiting for sleep, I could feel the swaying of the gondola and see myself falling through the blackness.
In dreams, I come right up to the edge all the time but I never take the leap. I get just as sick in my dreams as I do looking out from the top floor of a parking garage. Once I was invited to tour the Columbia Center in Seattle as it was nearing completion. The water in the toilets on the 75th floor sloshed back and forth with the breeze. We were escorted to the rooftop patio, which was “fenced” with a skimpy rope around the perimeter. The fall would be certain death. I got so sick I wished I died that day! It makes me nauseous to recall it.
In my dreams I’m usually chased to the edge, but I never go over. If I do, it turns out not to be an edge after all, or a cliff or a pit or a well or a ravine. Or else I wake up. That’s what made this last dream so unusual.
The last time I died was in a dream where I was chased to the edge, but this time I said, “Fuck it! I’m ready to go!” Over the edge I went and there I was, dangling in the air. It was a cliff, there was a ravine, I was certain the fall would kill me! At the bottom, miles down, there was a postage-stamp lake of purest glacier-melt blue. It reminded me of Lake of the Clouds in Michigan.
Then I noticed I wasn’t falling. I looked back at the edge and I got scared and reached out and somehow I made it back. “Wow!” I thought, “I went over the edge and I still didn’t die!” Unless I did and that’s when the guy writing this put on the meat suit.