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"How can I add communication to bathtime?"

Bathtime is the BEST for working on communication! The bath is naturally a time whe your little one is a bit contained but they are getting a full sensory experiance making it a time where your child is more likly to be regulated and happy. 

1. The "Anticipation Pause" (For Joint Attention & Communication)

Joint attention happens when you and your child are sharing a focus on the same object or activity. You can build this by using the natural rhythm of pouring water.

• How to do it: Take a plastic cup, scoop up some water, and hold it above the tub. Catch your child’s eye and say, "Ready... steady..." and then pause. Hold your breath and wait for 3 to 5 seconds.

• What to look for: Look for your child to glance up at you, smile, make eye contact, reach for the cup, or make a sound (like "go!" or "ah!").

• The Reward: The moment they connect with you—whether through a look, a gesture, or a word—say, "...GO!" and dump the water.

2. The "Gatekeeper" Strategy (For Expressive Language & Choice Making)

Instead of putting all the bath toys into the tub at once, hold onto them. This creates a natural reason for your child to communicate their wants to you.

• How to do it: Keep the toys on the ledge or in a basket out of their reach but in their line of sight. Hold up two options (e.g., the red boat and the yellow duck) at your eye level.

• What to do: Ask a clear, simple question: "Want boat or duck?"

• Meeting them where they are:

  • If they reach or point: Label it for them: "Duck! You want duck," and hand it over.

  • If they use a sound or word approximation ("du"): Celebrate and repeat the full word back: "Yes, duck!"

  • If they are using words: Encourage them to expand by waiting a beat to see if they say "yellow duck" or "want duck."

3. Narrate Like a Sports Caster (For Vocabulary & Shared Focus)

Instead of asking your child a lot of test-like questions (e.g., "What color is this? Where is your nose?"), simply describe what they are doing while they are doing it. This takes the pressure off them and models language perfectly.

• How to do it: Follow your child’s eyes. Whatever toy they are looking at or touching, talk about that specific thing.

• Keep it short: Use 1- to 3-word phrases.

  • If they splash, you say: "Splash! Big splash!"

  • If they pour, you say: "Pour, pour, pour. Empty!"

  • If they wash, you say: "Wash toes. Squeaky clean."

Your Goal This Week: Don’t try to do all of these at once! Pick just one strategy to try for 2–3 minutes during bath time. Notice what catches your child’s attention, and celebrate the small moments of connection.