It's not easy to get your ex-boyfriend to want you back quickly. But, although it may be difficult, it is not impossible. For starters, focus on patience and work through your differences, and hopefully, you can get together again.

1. Take a break from your ex-boyfriend. You might be dying to be back with your ex-boyfriend, but the worst thing you can do is hang around him incessantly, call him or wink at him. eye in class until he has the picture. If you're still there, he probably understands the image, but it won't be the one he likes. Instead, you should take a break and stop hanging around him, at least for a few weeks or more.

• You can decide if you want to cut contact completely or if it's impossible because of school.

• Stop calling or texting her. Even if you think of something funny that reminds you of him, it's better to wait.

• Try to avoid seeing him at all, even when hanging out with mutual friends. If you catch yourself at the same party, you don't have to be rude to him, but you shouldn't spend too much time talking to him.

• You don't have to be rude to take a break from your ex. If you meet him, you don't have to run away, but you don't have to linger and talk about nothing either.

2. Think about what went wrong. While distancing yourself from your boyfriend, you will be in a good position to reflect on the problems in the relationship. If you want your man back, you need to figure out what went wrong, so you don't start over.

The problem may be simple, or it may take a little longer to resolve. Here are some of the things that could have gone wrong:

• Maybe you were too jealous or too controlling, and he couldn't take it anymore.

• Maybe you haven't spent enough time together.

• Maybe he felt like you weren't caring or loving enough.

• Maybe he felt like you were too clingy and always there.

• Maybe there was a change in circumstances, as one of you had to move to another city, or maybe he was leaving for college in a few months and wanted to break up.

• Maybe you were always arguing and not getting along.

3. Make a game plan to solve the problem. Once you figure out what went wrong in the relationship — which could be a combination of problems instead of just one — it's time to think about how you can change things around next time. You don't want your ex-boyfriend to want you back if you run into the same problems and drama again.

• You need to work on making big changes, whether it's controlling an aspect of your personality that led to the relationship falling apart, or thinking about how you can change the dynamics of the relationship if it starts again.

• If the problem was that you were jealous, you need to think about how you can be less jealous.

• If he thought you were too bossy or controlling, you need to tone down that aspect of your personality.

• If you fight all the time, you can think about how you can be less combative.

• If the problem had to do more with him, then you can think about how you can be together again without this problem - maybe he will be ready to change. But if he's not willing to change and you know it's going to be a long-term problem, then you should consider whether he's worth getting him back.

4. Work on yourself. Take time to resolve the issue that ended your relationship and just spend time enjoying your own business or hanging out with friends. Make a list of three flaws that you would like to change yourself and slowly start to fix them. It takes a lifetime to grow as a person, but even taking small steps towards becoming your ideal steps can help your relationship.

• If you have time for me, your ex will start wondering where you are. If you're busy focusing on yourself, it will make him think about yourself even more.

• Spend time with your friends, exercise, or pursue your favorite hobbies.

• Take the time to work on yourself, but not too much. If you spend months working through your issues and completely stray from the picture, your ex may have moved on.

1. Let your ex see you having a good time without him. Once enough time has passed and you both feel like you've taken a step back, you should start giving your ex the opportunity to see you having a good time.

Start going to the parties he goes to, or meet him with a friend at his favorite cafe or bar. Don't be too obvious about it, but let him see you with your other friends and remember how fun it is to hang out with you.

• If you know you'll see him, do your best without being too obvious that you're dressing for him.

• When you meet him, greet him with a smile and a surprising look - you were so busy enjoying yourself that you didn't even think of the possibility that he was there.

2. Make him jealous (optional). This doesn't work for everyone, but if you think having your ex seeing you with another guy, or just flirting with a group of guys, will make him want to be with you even more than going there.

That doesn't mean you should have another boyfriend just to make him jealous. Just let him see you flirting, tossing your hair back, or even getting on the dance floor with a guy or two.

• Don't go overboard with this one. If he thinks you're actually dating someone else, he may back off. Or who knows - it might make him want you even more.

3. Make him jealous on social media. Without being too obvious, post a few pictures of you having a good time with your friends, at the beach, or even hanging out with a few guys. This will make your ex remember how beautiful you are and feel sad that he's no longer hanging out with you. Don't post anything too often - just once or twice a week to remind him how amazing you are.

• Pick a time when you know he's likely to be online - if you know his schedule, you'll know when he's most likely to be looking at your photos.

4. Start hanging out with him for a bit. Start making your relationship a little friendlier. Go from the casual hello to a short chat, then even stick around and chat with him for ten or even twenty minutes.

Make sure you always say goodbye first and don't make him linger longer than he wants. It will make him even sadder to see you go. Then wait until he asks you for a coffee, or be bold and ask him for a drink.

• Don't give him any signs that you want to date him again. Just be really amazing and friendly, and he'll want to be with you again.

5. Show him how you've changed. When you start going out maybe once or twice a week, let him see that the quality he didn't like about you or your relationship is no longer there. If he thinks you never listened to him, give him a chance to talk more. If he thought you were too clingy, show him how independent you've become.

• Don't be too obvious about it. Don't say, "Can't you see how I don't get jealous anymore when you talk to other girls?" Instead, don't get jealous when he talks to other girls, and he'll figure out the rest.

6. Read the signs. If your ex wants to get back to you, you'll know it. How did you know he wanted you the first time? It's likely to send you similar signals. If he flirts with you, tells you that you look nice, touches you lightly, or just always asks you what you're doing or if you're seeing someone else, then yes, he probably wants you back.

• Watch his body language. Does he make eye contact, try to stand close to you, and does his face light up as you walk around the room? If so, he may want you to come back.

• If he just wants to keep you in the Friend Zone, then he won't act affectionate or loving towards you.

• Check his Facebook or try to find out if he sees someone from mutual friends without being too obvious about it. He may be seeing someone else and just talking to you to be nice or because he wants to be friends.

7. Restart slowly. If your ex starts flirting with you and realizes you want him back, he can just ask you again if he feels it too. Or if you think he likes dating you again, you can just be bold and tell him how you feel, then start dating him again if he feels the same way.

• This time, take it easy. Don't see him more than a few times a week. Work on building a solid base instead of jumping where you left off.

• Unless a problem in the relationship is your independence; you should be more independent than last time. Don't build your social schedule around your boyfriend's and spend more time with friends or just do whatever you want.

1. Don't make the same mistakes. Do you remember that period of reflection after your breakup? Well, that should be useful now. When you're with your boyfriend again, remember what went wrong and try to stop it from happening.

If the problem is that you fought too much, remember to calm down when you feel like fighting. If your problem was that you were mean to his friends, try being nicer this time - your man should be worth it.

• If your ex is the one making the mistakes, gently remind him that everything he did cause the same problem last time.

2. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Although you should avoid making the same mistakes, if you constantly obsess over not making them, you won't be able to enjoy the relationship.

Just have fun and try not to think about it too much unless you have a conflict. If you're so afraid of losing it again with every step you take, you won't be able to live in the moment.

• If you're not sure when the relationship will end, your ex may say so, which will also make him more uncertain.

3. New start. Don't think of this as part two of your relationship saga — think of it as two people starting over completely while being better equipped to deal with the challenges that come their way.

While you can't completely forget the past, there's no need to dwell on it or dwell on it. Of course, if a fond memory of the past comes back to you, you should talk about it, but think about everything like starting over.

• You do it again, and this time you go with more foresight.

4. Remember to be yourself. It's important to work on yourself to improve your relationship as long as both people are doing the work. But you shouldn't completely change yourself just to fit an image of what your ex wanted from you.

You should only change if you want to change, not just for him. Remember he loved you for a reason originally, so if you change too much he might not be able to recognize the girl he fell for.

• There's a difference between tackling your flaws and being a whole new person. Correcting your flaws is okay, but not completely transforming yourself for the sake of a relationship.

5. Know when it's not working. If you had been back with your ex for a while and something was wrong, then it might be true that you broke up for a good reason after all.

Some couples thrive on the drama of breaking up and getting back together, but there's usually a reason two people can't stay together, and that's because they're just not good for each other.

If the same problems reappear, or if you or your ex just aren't happy, it might be time to end the relationship.

• Be honest with yourself. If you've tried everything and it just isn't working, it might be time to let go for good.

• Be proud of yourself for working hard to get your ex back. At least now you know it wasn't worth it after all - better to know the truth than wondering what might have happened if you fought for her heart again.

• Always be authentic and true to yourself. If you feel like you have to fake it with your boyfriend, chances are he's not the one for you. Find someone who would love you just the way you are.

• Act only in a way that makes you feel comfortable with yourself. You don't have to do anything for him or with him if you don't really want to or don't feel ready to do it.