Everyone has a history full of sweet memories and broken hearts. It's part of being a human being and there is no avoiding it, but what you can avoid is letting your past dictate your future. You can change the story you're living, but it really isn't as simple as making a choice. First, you have to uncover your deep, dark secrets and set them free.
The Expressive Writing method is one way to do that. The instructions are simple - write for 20 minutes each day for two weeks without being concerned about the content, the grammar or what anyone else thinks -just write. Doing this somehow brings up things that are buried deep inside you - under layers and layers of time and new memories, and these hidden pieces of you are controlling you without your consent.
You must find these puppet masters so you can take control of your life and become the person you really want to be.