Phonetic differences between adult men and women are pervasive, and are generally claimed to result from sexual dimorphism in the larynx and vocal tract (Fitch & Giedd, 1999; Titze, 1989). This dimorphism does not appear reliably until puberty (Barbier et al.., 2015; Vorperian et al., 2011) It is surprising, then, that naïve listeners provide different ratings for the content-neutral speech of prepubertal children assigned male at birth (AMAB) and assigned female at birth (AFAB) on scales that range from “definitely a male” to “definitely a female” (Barreda & Assmann, 2021; Fung et al., 2021; Munson, Koeppe, & Lackas, 2022; Perry et al., 2001). Acoustic analyses of children’s productions suggest that gendered speech is achieved not through global emulation of adult male and female ways of speaking, but by selective learning of salient gendered phonetic variants in the ambient language (Foulkes et al., 2005; Munson et al., 2015; Wong, Koeppe, Cychosz, & Munson, 2022). The nature and extent of this selective learning is a model for understanding how children’s emerging sense of self focuses their language acquisition, both in naturalist learning, and in clinical and educational settings. In this project, we are conducting a series of experiments, and analyses of naturalistic data, to understand how, why, and when children with and without speech and language disorders learn gendered ways of speaking.